I met this beautiful lady last year... Although i have know her over 10years ago but we just walk pass each other. We stay in the same area.

So last year wen we met and started dating. I told her that i love her and would like 2 marry her. Ever since then our relationship hve since been going on smoothly.

But just yesterday i was explaining something 2 her, because we always talk about relationship especially after watching movies that involves it..i told her that i am not assuring that our relationship will be 100% perfect but i will try my best fix any issue that might arise because we re humans n no one is perfect. We talked at length sha before she left.

Few minutes later she sent me a message this " why are you telling me that you are not assuring me of anything, that's not what we talked about when we started"

Immediately i told her y she would make this knid of comment.. I have to explain 2 her that i never said that am not assuring her of anything.. I only said that am not assuring her that our relationship will be 100%perfect..

Am getting worried because its seems she accepts to start a relationship with me because i said i will like have a future(marry) with her.. No because she loves me.

Please advice me..i truly love this girl.. Also am over 30 n she is around 30..

Tnk u

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Ur above 30 ad She. Is Around 30 and u expect her to waste her time with somebody that openly said He is not assuring Her of 100% perfect relationship... Yes Nobody is Perfect... Bt Must u tell Her not to Expect perfect relationship? .. Is as wel as telling her you don't love her.. After starting the relationship with Marriage assurance and love....

Honestfrend:
I met this beautiful lady last year... Although i have know her over 10years ago but we just walk pass each other. We stay in the same area.

So last year wen we met and started dating. I told her that i love her and would like 2 marry her. Ever since then our relationship hve since been going on smoothly.

But just yesterday i was explaining something 2 her, because we always talk about relationship especially after watching movies that involves it..i told her that i am not assuring that our relationship will be 100% perfect but i will try my best fix any issue that might arise because we re humans n no one is perfect. We talked at length sha before she left.

Few minutes later she sent me a message this " why are you telling me that you are not assuring me of anything, that's not what we talked about when we started"

Immediately i told her y she would make this knid of comment.. I have to explain 2 her that i never said that am not assuring her of anything.. I only said that am not assuring her that our relationship will be 100%perfect..

Am getting worried because its seems she accepts to start a relationship with me because i said i will like have a future(marry) with her.. No because she loves me.

Please advice me..i truly love this girl.. Also am over 30 n she is around 30..

Tnk u

You guys problem is that you do not have a problem... What you are seeing as issues is still a child's play

Your problem is that you talk too much. Learn to choose your words carefully and limit the way you talk whenever you're with her, especially about your future. So you don't entangle yourself unnecessarily with your own words and start looking for how to explain what you actually meant...

I don't understand your question. Why else should she be in a relationship with you? You think love is enough? So myopic!
You should be asking her why she's in a relationship with you, not us.

Honestfrend:
I met this beautiful lady last year...
Am getting worried because its seems she accepts to start a relationship with me because i said i will like have a future(marry) with her.. No because she loves me.

Please advice me..i truly love this girl.. Also am over 30 n she is around 30..

Tnk u

Nazgul:
Your problem is that you talk too much. Learn to choose your words carefully and limit the way you talk whenever you're with her, especially about your future. So you don't entangle yourself unnecessarily with your own words and start looking for how to explain what you actually meant...

This is so on point...
No be everything man dey cap ontop
Hsd

Honestfrend:
I met this beautiful lady last year... Although i have know her over 10years ago but we just walk pass each other. We stay in the same area.

So last year wen we met and started dating. I told her that i love her and would like 2 marry her. Ever since then our relationship hve since been going on smoothly.

But just yesterday i was explaining something 2 her, because we always talk about relationship especially after watching movies that involves it..i told her that i am not assuring that our relationship will be 100% perfect but i will try my best fix any issue that might arise because we re humans n no one is perfect. We talked at length sha before she left.

Few minutes later she sent me a message this " why are you telling me that you are not assuring me of anything, that's not what we talked about when we started"

Immediately i told her y she would make this knid of comment.. I have to explain 2 her that i never said that am not assuring her of anything.. I only said that am not assuring her that our relationship will be 100%perfect..

Am getting worried because its seems she accepts to start a relationship with me because i said i will like have a future(marry) with her.. No because she loves me.

Please advice me..i truly love this girl.. Also am over 30 n she is around 30..

Tnk u

Aha!

The bold answers your question.

She expects marriage from you and your comment suggests she might get something short of that.

Modified: you already said it sef.

Body don go catch op ,he come dey lick for mouth. Now you don go talk mumu thing,make ur babe vexpa. So you thought she loved you unconditionally before? Just dey play.. Na only man dey love unconditionally.That babe dey form to love you cux of marriage, and nothing more.. Try get sense abeg,no go be F at 4ty .. You sef reduce your mumu love,so that you go fit dey think well.. I know say next thing now,you go run go her place go kneel dey beg. I know your type.. Guy no try that nonesense o.. No even try explain yourself more than you have already done,before you give her your power in the relationship finish o.. She stand to gain more in the relationship, so she go come back.. She just wan use this your licking mouth,carry power from your hand.. If you allow her,she will now start controlling you like mumu.. Act like nothing happened, and watch as the game of manipulation goes.. Meanwhile, woo other ladies,so that you no go dey simp for her...

Honestfrend:
■ Am getting worried because its seems she accepts to start a relationship with me because i said i will like have a future(marry) with her.. No because she loves me.
■ Please advice me..i truly love this girl.. Also am over 30 n she is around 30..Tnk u

1. Well, not all marriages are based on "love" as a foundation. Now that you believe she does not love you, you have a decision to make as to whether you will move on to find yourself another who loves you or whether you will continue to drag this with her.

2. Your age means nothing.

This is a clear case of "what I said" vs "what they heard I said" ...

There's ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong in what you said OP, that's the truth!! There are no perfect relationship out there ...

The issue however is what she heard or thought you said...

You see the thing with women is that, they ALWAYS read meaning to EVERYTHING...

Lemme give an instance...
A guy comes back from work exhausted and his woman tries to get all touchy with him, and he tells her "babe I'm tired okay, lemme just take a shower and rest"...

In her mind ...
"This guy must be cheating on me" ...
"What did he do at work that he is tired?" ...
"Abi is it that he doesn't want me again because another woman is giving him better?"

But the fact is that, oga is tired, period!! ...

In summary...
Women live in a fantasy land and ANYTHING that reminds them of reality is seen as a threat ...

That in addition to their very "unique" ability to read meaning in every situation prolly made her think that you're not serious with her ...

My advice?
Let her go...
That woman is clearly desperate to settle down ...

And desperation + the above "unique" traits of women = DISASTER!!

And besides...
If she can misunderstand something as little as this, imagine what will happen if your long time female friend hugs you and stains your white shirt with brown powder ...

Also am over 30 n she is around 30..

Summary of the whole epistle.

Guy, I don't know you and you don't know me, but, please in whatever you do in this life, avoid Nigerian evening newspapers... please, for your sanity.


Jesus loves you.

Honestfrend:


Please advice me..i truly love this girl.. Also am over 30 n she is around 30..

Tnk u

If you waste her time quit it now. Ladies around that age are every selective and careful of who they date. So that she accepted you in the first place means she saw a future with you.

You just have to truly show her you love her. Care for her and the likes and watch her love you most. Otherwise stay off the ladies life let her true man locate her.

My 2 kobo

She’s emotionally immature. Run as fast away from her as possible.

Well, I don't think anything is wrong with what you said. No relationship is perfect. We're human beings after all, we're imperfect and we all have flaws.

You talk too much, now she is thinking you want to dump her with that statement.

Honestfrend:
I met this beautiful lady last year... Although i have know her over 10years ago but we just walk pass each other. We stay in the same area.

So last year wen we met and started dating. I told her that i love her and would like 2 marry her. Ever since then our relationship hve since been going on smoothly.

But just yesterday i was explaining something 2 her, because we always talk about relationship especially after watching movies that involves it..i told her that i am not assuring that our relationship will be 100% perfect but i will try my best fix any issue that might arise because we re humans n no one is perfect. We talked at length sha before she left.

Few minutes later she sent me a message this " why are you telling me that you are not assuring me of anything, that's not what we talked about when we started"

Immediately i told her y she would make this knid of comment.. I have to explain 2 her that i never said that am not assuring her of anything.. I only said that am not assuring her that our relationship will be 100%perfect..

Am getting worried because its seems she accepts to start a relationship with me because i said i will like have a future(marry) with her.. No because she loves me.

Please advice me..i truly love this girl.. Also am over 30 n she is around 30..

Tnk u

ask her what does she want from you exactly.... and then when she gives you reasons, ask her WHY

Nazgul:
Your problem is that you talk too much. Learn to choose your words carefully and limit the way you talk whenever you're with her, especially about your future. So you don't entangle yourself unnecessarily with your own words and start looking for how to explain what you actually meant...

Wetin make I serve you like this.....for this your comment....couldn't have been more apt

You like pizza

Honestfrend:
I met this beautiful lady last year... Although i have know her over 10years ago but we just walk pass each other. We stay in the same area.

So last year wen we met and started dating. I told her that i love her and would like 2 marry her. Ever since then our relationship hve since been going on smoothly.

But just yesterday i was explaining something 2 her, because we always talk about relationship especially after watching movies that involves it..i told her that i am not assuring that our relationship will be 100% perfect but i will try my best fix any issue that might arise because we re humans n no one is perfect. We talked at length sha before she left.

Few minutes later she sent me a message this " why are you telling me that you are not assuring me of anything, that's not what we talked about when we started"

Immediately i told her y she would make this knid of comment.. I have to explain 2 her that i never said that am not assuring her of anything.. I only said that am not assuring her that our relationship will be 100%perfect..

Am getting worried because its seems she accepts to start a relationship with me because i said i will like have a future(marry) with her.. No because she loves me.

Please advice me..i truly love this girl.. Also am over 30 n she is around 30..

Tnk u

na knack u wan knack joor

Honestfrend:
I met this beautiful lady last year... Although i have know her over 10years ago but we just walk pass each other. We stay in the same area.

So last year wen we met and started dating. I told her that i love her and would like 2 marry her. Ever since then our relationship hve since been going on smoothly.

But just yesterday i was explaining something 2 her, because we always talk about relationship especially after watching movies that involves it..i told her that i am not assuring that our relationship will be 100% perfect but i will try my best fix any issue that might arise because we re humans n no one is perfect. We talked at length sha before she left.

Few minutes later she sent me a message this " why are you telling me that you are not assuring me of anything, that's not what we talked about when we started"

Immediately i told her y she would make this knid of comment.. I have to explain 2 her that i never said that am not assuring her of anything.. I only said that am not assuring her that our relationship will be 100%perfect..

Am getting worried because its seems she accepts to start a relationship with me because i said i will like have a future(marry) with her.. No because she loves me.

Please advice me..i truly love this girl.. Also am over 30 n she is around 30..

Tnk u

Ur relationship is too peaceful.. and u are too gentle...u dey do lover boy....tony umez...dey do cho cho cho every five mins.....and u are dealing with an emotionally unstable person.

she dey try test her hold on you to see how ur mumu and beggy beggy buttons works.
hope u no start dey beg and over explain....?? If u did....U will soon lose the levarage of ir relationship cos she will be starting fight for no reason just so u can beg.


.e dey sweet when u have somebody's mumu button