FRANCISTOWN:
d. Do not Beg, but be subtle with apology.

A king doesn't beg, I personally hate begging. The moment you beg a woman, you already sold your authority.

There is a clear difference between begging and apologizing. Begging shows desperation but apology shows repentance. You've heard that women are not logical beings, but it's a big lie, they pretend not to be logical, which is one of their deceptive ways. When you apologise to a woman, Do not say "I'm sorry , I know I don't have an excuse but I'm sorry" Damn it, you just set yourself up.

A woman wants to know why you did what you did. When you don't give an excuse, she can't really forgive you, she'll keep thinking why you had to do what you did, and the more she thinks about it. The more she gets angry . One of the most terrible things you can do to your woman is to see you on top of another woman. "Don't say, I'm sorry I don't know what came over me" . Even if she forgave you, she'll keep thinking why you did that, shey may be like "how is that girl better than me? is she finer, sexier or more appealing", and the more she thinks about that, the more she gets angry and she may look for ways to get even with you.

Now this is not recommended but as a descendant of Wisdom, you can go like "Babe I'm sincerely sorry, I know I don't have an excuse but I was under the influence of alcohol and I kept seeing your face on her face". Even if she doesn't buy it, just give her any silly excuse that passes a subtle compliment . Whether you give excuses or not, she'll forgive if she'll forgive you, however the excuse will save you both from mental projections.

Tunagee:


''A king doesn't beg, I personally hate begging. The moment you beg a woman, you already sold your authority''

Bros, you are full of wisdom. One silly mistake i made some years ago when my wife left. Really, the several begging did not bring her back until i also abandoned her for close to 11months b4 her brain come reset.

Wonderful post that made my day.
I also saw some areas where i erred in this your write up. Nice one

IyaebeTheGreat:
Trash

greenermodels:
your wife left you for 11 months and you still took her back?

Tunagee:


Yeah, there was a persistent verbal abuse on my part, so her parents decided i needed to work on my anger. Story in my posts of 2019.
I grew up with this 'i cant tolerate nonsense' mentality.

FRANCISTOWN:
I strongly believe the modern women do not deserve marriage, all of them, but for those who are already married. Let's check this together
Caution : Some may find the content of this post disturbing and uncomfortable, however I got one line for you; GET THE F**K OU'HERE. The internet is available unto everyone and there are countless information, sometimes when I surf, I come across pornographic contents but I simply avoid them and just scroll on since I'm not interested. If the contents of this thread does not sit well with you, just quietly avoid it just as you would avoid comments on porn sites. That is called maturing.

That being said , some people have tagged me a woman hater. Well, I'm just spiting some hard truth and I think men are wonderful creatures, whether women are or not, I can't be bothered. By the way, neither am I jobless nor heart broken.
Let's begin with this nonsense that people say around : "Treat your woman like a queen and she'll treat you like a king" . What kinna nonsense is this? Treat your woman like a queen, AS A WHAT? as her servant or slave?. Did you see the reverse order in that statement? Must you not first be a king before you make someone your queen? In relational database, when selecting a relationship; it is the reference key first, before the foreign key. The head first before the body, and we well know that the man is the head.

A woman who wants to be treated like a queen should first treat her man like a King. Any woman who doesn't treat you like a king doesn't deserve to be a queen. Treat your man like a KING and he will treat you like a queen.

FRANCISTOWN:
1. Kings are authoritative. How?
Before we go into the how, let's look at this. Know this and know peace, no matter who you are , where you are from, or what you are ; there are some ladies in this life that will never respect you and allow you exercise your authority(Have you not seen people who believe in God but still don't regard Him?)

That is the reason I always tell guys to consider marriage very circumspectiously. The kind of lady you marry determines the level of authority you can exercise. In those days, when parents did arrange marriages for their kids; they would visit a good family to pick a child , why do you think they did that? It's because there is something called pattern. Lemme tell you from my own experience.

By all sense of humility, my parents have spent about 50+ years in marriage. But since I could remember, momma(mom) would never go anywhere without informing Ma OG(pops) first about it. Though they both keep their relatives affairs at a reasonable level of decency. But you would never ask Ma OG about Mama and not know where she is. Mama would never serve him without kneeling, and my Ma never called him by his name unless they were joking, Ma always call him something interpreted to be "Father" . I remember one day my siblings asked Ma why she always called dad; "Father" and why she would always tell him her every move. They were like, this man does not restrict you from going anywhere you want to go, why would you always seek his permission to begin with? But she answered and said to them "Your father is a great grandson of a king, he grew up at his grandma's who was a princess. So he was raised a prince himself. My own grandfather was a king, my Dad was the crown prince if not that it's not.... . Whatever you see me do is how I was raised . In our palace, queens would never go anywhere without the king's approval and they dared not call him by his first name".

It was clear, momma was living as she was raised , she had no stress submitting herself to pops, and do you know what? She inculcated that into every of her daughters that no one would ever serve her husband without kneeling, and I stand to tell you that no lady (even the ones who were 6,7 years older than me) I ever courted addressed me plainly by my name, They either called me "pops", "uncle D", "sir" except ladies from foreign land who weren't familiar with those stuffs, I am not the kind of man who would tolerate disregard.

I know some of you may think my parents are very basic and not civilised, anyways my dad is an Emeritus Professor and momma's got 2 degrees. As a matter of fact, the importance of selecting a wife from a good family cannot be overemphasized, even medically there is something called hereditary, you don't wanna marry a lady who has an underlying disease running down her lineage likewise for those who believe in the "spiritual", you don't wanna marry from a family whom their husbands die before they clock a certain age.

Have you noticed this? A woman who prolly got separated, divorced, sent out of her matrimonial home or has multiple baby daddies, if such woman got girls; The odds are high(I'm not saying in all cases) that one or more out of her daughters will go thru exact same shit or worse, wait for it. There was a lady I met when I was in school, her mother has 3 children with 3 different men and wasn't living under the roof of any of them. She being the first child , also got pregnant, did wedding had her first child and her marriage went into null, at the moment she's dating a married man. There is a woman in my street , her daughters are living with her, they were once being married to, but for one reason or more they were sent back to their mother's house. However the woman herself had 5 husbanbs in her glory days. Have you guys seen? PATTERN! . But these days, people don't lay emphasis on these things, they just believe once we love each other, that's all.

Have you also noticed that many people who enjoyed marriage those days didn't marry for love? Love is not a requirement for marriage. Love is a feeling and feelings are temporal. Those married men who say their wives changed overnight. Your wife didn't just change. She stopped loving you. Love is temporal. The probability that a lady who is raised by a divorced mother will end up leaving her husband's house is reasonably high. She already has a role model; the mother. But note: There are reversals to this, even girls from good homes are bad as well and vice versa. So let's begin proper

Sacrosanct12:
One thing about all these anti-women thread is that it most times comes with a lot of general wisdom. Pick many important ones and get off with the unimportants. The beauty of reading is that most times you subconsciously begin to practice things you really paid attentions to.

Tunagee:


''A king doesn't beg, I personally hate begging. The moment you beg a woman, you already sold your authority''


Bros, you are full of wisdom. One silly mistake i made some years ago when my wife left. Really, the several begging did not bring her back until i also abandoned her for close to 11months b4 her brain come reset.
Wonderful post that made my day

greenermodels:
so you now tolerate nonsense and the potential that she only came back after been used,misused and abused sexually by other men and realising that those men have no interest in marrying her? Honestly, having a no nonsense mentality shouldn't make you abuse her verbally yet been away for eleven months? Wow.

Tunagee:

Yeah, there was a persistent verbal abuse on my part, so her parents decided i needed to work on my anger. Story in my posts of 2019.
I grew up with this 'i cant tolerate nonsense' mentality.

marlow1962:
I want marry, but I do dy for those nonsense games .
I want to marry for love, no cus I have money.

As for kids, as long as am able to take car of myself and others, am ready (got only one now tho.

FRANCISTOWN:

You can only know yourself and no other person, have you ever considered what if the person you loved doesn't love you back. Okay let's say the person loves you back and you go on to marry her. Love is an emotion just like people recover from sickness, they recover from love as well so, what if she stops loving you and she wants out, you can't force her, so you are back to being single with more hurt. Okay let's say she doesn't stop loving you. What if she started lusting another guy and she starts cheating on you? See! You can't be sure about anything in life, even about yourself.

FRANCISTOWN:


When I was in school in those days, I met 2 different men who never even knew each other. I stand by the oath of brotherhood, I lie to you not my brother. I'll only tell about one of the men.

I think it was my sophomore year back then. Some couple with 2 kids moved into the room opposite to mine's . I am this kinna guy who could stay up to 1year Inna the house without hearing my voice whatsoever (exaggerated though).

One day I didn't have lectures so I was reading a book in my room, I can still remember the name of the book, it was "The Djinn" by Graham Masterton.
My room was the first and also the landlord put a chair by my window where people could sit and gist most times. So on this "fateful" day, I heard someone talking by the window, I thought I was the only one at the apartment as everyone would have gone to their places of hustle, but I wasn't really bothered because the voice was familiar. I tried as much as possible to concentrate on the book. (my earphone got spoilt then so I couldn't just put it to good use and ignore) .

As I was trying to return focus to the book I was reading, I heard the woman say "You, you no dey always hear e don do, my husband sef no dey do me like this. You go just dey rough handle person anyhow, I tell you make you no release inside me, and you still do am". ......(some things here wey I miss, because I dey try mind my business) .... Then I heard again "Okay , if you promise say you no go touch me, I go come collect the money for your house tomorrow".
Bruv! When I heard that, I had to look thru my window, (my window was the kind you could see someone from inside but not from outside unless at night if the bulb was on).
Man! I was flabbergasted , when I saw her.

The following day, as I was washing my clothes outside. I saw the man and we started talking about how primary schools had changed compared to our days when you had to touch your ear with your other arm over your head to see if you were mature enough to begin school. Somehow he mentioned to me that he wouldn't be going to work early because he would be taking his kids to school because his wife went for a friend's party early enough to assist them in cooking and stuffs. Immediately I heard that, I heard the big bell of Florence rang in my heard. So we started talking about the wife and I heard that there was a time , the man went to work, came back home to find that the wife had packed and left with their last child who was 3months old then.

She went like that for 11 months until when she came back and the man gladly accepted her... You see it's a good thing your wife came back, but sir. It won't do you no harm to be on your guard. Just have it at the back of your mind that she can leave again. Even if she doesn't leave, you've got nothing to lose.