Asides food or mirroring what he loves, another way to a man's heart is loving his mom. Take it or leave it , else you are not fit to take up the role as steward of his home and resources.

As a lady, the final litmus test you must pass is the vetting of his mom(if she's alife) and sisters , or someone he loves and respects so much , who fits in perfectly to that role in his life, unless the aforementioned have terrible social traits .

As a man, no matter how terrible your mom is with people, she knows good and evil and can discern both.

Ladies, don't expect his mom to accept you at first glance. You must work for that validation. Show her love and respect. If his mom will truly grow to like you or speak well of you, then she must have seen through the pureness, meekness and goodness of your soul, tho we all have dark sides that can be triggered, but occasionally.

All moms want daughter inlaws that are better than them for their sons, because most mothers can discern their kind , and they don't want any of that drama for their sons because they love their sons, except for the narcissistic mothers .

As a man, you need little or no validation from the woman or her parents if you're fit mentally, physically and financially . You are the prize, the provider and alpha . That means you don't have to impress her or her parents.

I'm not negating being good and nice especially to her father and brothers, but you're not obligated to be, tho you must be courteous in dealing with them. You're the one with the status . She's the enigma your mom has to crack and vet .

You’re correct. But at the same time pray she don’t get jealous. Because when the jealousy in her starts to burn, then she start acting like you’re taking her precious son away from her, it’d later look like a competition. if she feels her son is giving too much attention in his new family, the love she once had for you would start changing to hate.. I Love mother-in-laws who understand the place of a mother is different from the place of a wife

Eyinju112:
You’re correct. But at the same time pray she don’t get jealous. Because when the jealousy in her starts to burn, then she start acting like you’re taking her precious son away from her, it’d later look like a competition. if she feels her son is giving too much attention in his new family, the love she once had for you would start changing to hate.

True. Emotional intelligence comes into consideration and check . This is where the mother has to put herself in the shoes of the woman/wife in order not to breed any feeling of jealousy. The man's duty is first towards his family before anyone else , and his woman becomes his immediate and nuclear family once they have been joined .

Mom has little or no power whatsoever over the union or her son once they have cosummated to become one. She needs to understand this. The vetting is done before the two will be consummated .

It's true

As long as I pray for a good man, I also pray for a Good mother in law. It’s crazy how mother-in-laws and wives end up been enemies.

ErnestNc:



True. Emotional intelligence comes into consideration and check . This is where the mother has to put herself in the shoes of the woman/wife in order not to breed any feeling of jealousy. The man's duty is first towards his family before anyone else , and his woman becomes his immediate and nuclear family once they have been joined .

Mom has little or no power whatsoever over the union or her son once they have cosummated to become one. She needs to understand this. The vetting is done before the two will be consummated .