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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Octopusssy(f): 6:45pm On May 03, 2023 |
beekind:What are the specific fertility tests he wants her to do? |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by GboyegaD(m): 7:09pm On May 03, 2023 |
I don't think you should marry the lady as it is obvious you are not yet ready to get married. Sooner than later, your father will need control your home and that will only bring more troubles and you will surely accuse the lady of not been submissive, has temper issues, etc. 3 Likes |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by oldienavie: 7:24pm On May 03, 2023 |
bukatyne:Typical Nigerian lacking in deductive reasoning. If virginity test discriminates against women does pregnancy test not encourage people to abort their babies ? Of what importance is a pregnancy test if the church will still wed a single mother/father ? Does pregnancy test not discriminate against the women considering a man may have impregnated multiple women and still be eligible for wedding in the church ? Lazy Nigerian youth who waits for half educated so called Men Of God to decide what directions their life will take. Yet the country is the most corrupt and sexually depraved, pretenders forming holy. 5 Likes |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Klass99(f): 7:24pm On May 03, 2023 |
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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by cococandy(f): 7:35pm On May 03, 2023 |
Klass99: I think you can be excused because a blood sample can be used to test so many things so of course unless you know what they are testing for, you many not realize it at the time. But male fertility test requires sperm sample. They have to ejaculate semen into a cup and hand the sample over to the lab to be inspected under a microscope for concentration, viability and motility etc. Which is why it makes no sense that he didn’t realize what test it was for at the time. Just wondering if it’s another NL story. That’s all. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Klass99(f): 7:45pm On May 03, 2023 |
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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by cococandy(f): 7:49pm On May 03, 2023 |
Klass99: What did oldie navy do? Lol 2 Likes |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Klass99(f): 7:51pm On May 03, 2023 |
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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by pocohantas(f): 7:52pm On May 03, 2023 |
Klass99: But na true na. Ednut wey run show for Lagos. If we investigate Ednut here ehn. I dey sure say e done break at least 43hearts in Lagos and Canada. Klass99: Nah. One usual trait is how they intensify the story. It is always the same theme, "abroad, my father say, wife, infidelity, my mother say" 4 Likes |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Klass99(f): 8:04pm On May 03, 2023 |
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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by pocohantas(f): 8:11pm On May 03, 2023 |
Klass99: I check these days because some are habitual trolls. I only responded to this one because of Ednut who I am quite familiar with. Well said, but they somehow think they are perfect. I have never seen a story that involved them and they at least accepted one fault. It is always the lady. We have also seen stories of the ones that claimed to be doctors only for the lady to reach there and see Uber driver. Many stories abound, but NO, it is the lady here that should be investigated. Leave them alone and you still won't have rest. ![]() ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by cococandy(f): 8:12pm On May 03, 2023 |
Klass99: Omg I’ve gone down a rabbit hole. For the amount of time I spend on this forum you’d think I’d know what’s going on but no. Late to the party as usual 3 Likes |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by cococandy(f): 8:15pm On May 03, 2023 |
Klass99: Me too. In this case I’m just guessing based on how male fertility tests are done . I could be wrong. We’ll see 2 Likes |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Klass99(f): 8:21pm On May 03, 2023 |
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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by cococandy(f): 8:22pm On May 03, 2023 |
Klass99: I’m sorry ![]() Okay I’ll delete my comment. It was just too funny. Walls of his DM Pocohantas won’t kill me 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Klass99(f): 8:25pm On May 03, 2023 |
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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by bukatyne(f): 8:29pm On May 03, 2023 |
oldienavie: Do you lack comprehension that the Church is not forcing you to marry with them or are you just in the mood to tell us what you think about Nigeria today because this your ranting ko yemi. Church is not forcing you to marry with them; their policies are also stated months before the wedding so you are not stranded if you can’t abide. They even give you the opportunity to clean your slate if you have been having sex prior to that. So what exactly is your problem? Bros, it is not everything you must have an opinion on. How can pregnancy test discriminate against a woman when the man & woman is penalised? How can a man pregnate multiple women and still be eligible for marriage when he would present himself as the partner for at least one of the women assuming he is so promiscuous that he has multiple sexual partners? You have stated your point that you do not want to abstain from sex or want to be allowed to marry with pregnancy. We hear you and I believe that our traditional & court wedding allows that. Do as you deem fit; the Church has decided to do as they deem fit and your opinion or lack of is inconsequential. Won ri tie ro rara. 4 Likes |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by oldienavie: 8:37pm On May 03, 2023 |
bukatyne:Since you lack comprehension, I will break it down for you. A man working in Abuja impregnates 3 women while engaged to a lady in Lagos. He comes to Lagos to marry the lady he is engaged to, how does pregnancy test address that. Also, a woman can get pregnant abort and still wed in the church and so does a single lady who has given birth previously. 4 Likes |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by bukatyne(f): 9:02pm On May 03, 2023 |
oldienavie: 1. That's your forte ![]() 2. What concerns the Church with the three side chics expect they are marrying another man which is then paternity fraud because an innocent man would not be wedded. 3. Is the lady he is marrying pregnant? Do you know the purpose of the pregnancy test ![]() 4. Is the woman doing the Church or herself? Would the Church grapple with the guilt of murder and complications (if any)? 5. I ask again: do you know why the Church does not wed pregnant women? 3 Likes |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by oldienavie: 9:06pm On May 03, 2023 |
bukatyne:You are missing the point, so Sade can get pregnant abort it and still have the church wed her but Ngozi that kept her pregnancy cannot be wedded in church ? Do you realise this policy promotes hypocrisy and encourages abortion ? This conversation reminds me of a church whoose Pastor told that a TV is a devils box for years, they even went to the extent of excommunicating members who had TV in their houses. Today that same church has a TV in all their branches for bible study. I am sure its people like you who refuse to reason and always agree with what they are told that full that church. 5 Likes |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by oldienavie: 9:08pm On May 03, 2023 |
@OP how come you have chosen to marry a lady in her mid 20s, we have plenty if women in nairaland in there 30s who are still single, who will marry such women ? |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by pocohantas(f): 9:08pm On May 03, 2023 |
oldienavie: Oldnavie stop biko. You are not supposed to be fornicating and aborting. The solution is not to abort. The solution is to close ya legs. Rather than be a hypocrite, you can choose not to wed in the church. It is not compulsory o!! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by oldienavie: 9:13pm On May 03, 2023 |
pocohantas:I didnt say you are, but making pregnancy a condition to deny wedding in the church is an ill thought decision. I just showed the dangers of such a policy, this is the reason why our churches are filled with hypocrites and pretenders. If the church wants to really discourage fornication then they would be demanding for virginity tests and not pregnancy tests. 3 Likes |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by pocohantas(f): 9:15pm On May 03, 2023 |
oldienavie: While you have a point, it is really as simple as not having a church marriage if you can't meet up with their "standard". Or maybe they don't do virginity test because they know some people have fallen short of His glory and repented. This doesn't include the pregnant ones obviously. |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Bossjakande: 9:44pm On May 03, 2023 |
cococandy:may God purnish u coco Hippocrates u are too fake for my liking a wicked person remember u born son and brother.why did u hate men so much. U are attacking dis guy but where d woman did bad I mention u but u neva talk but quiet as a coward but come here to start rubbish u see wat bad woman do u kept quiet |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by beekind: 10:28pm On May 03, 2023 |
Thanks everyone for your words of advise, I decide I will inform her albeit diplomatically rather than let my dad do it. That means it will have to wait till I arrive naija later this month. We'd both be doing another round of tests together, I won't tell her I did it already to prevent her feeling like this was planned. Will try to make it as spontaneous as possible and also sound like its standard procedure, just like people have suggested. Thanks all. 4 Likes |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Sirqt5(m): 10:39pm On May 03, 2023 |
Bossjakande:coco never born son na , na only daughters she get biko |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Octopusssy(f): 10:45pm On May 03, 2023 |
One minute we are in page one, the next e don jump to page 4. Una too like argument on these streets |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by PoliteActivist: 2:29am On May 04, 2023 |
beekind: Guy how u want me to address him?? Isn't papa same thing as dad? 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by frozen70(f): 2:41am On May 04, 2023 |
beekind: Assuming you are around with her then you can pregnant her and the issue of fertility test will end naturally Your dad have asked you to do the same test and you did, so inform her that your dad wants to do medical test for you and her If she refuses, then she is not willing to subject herself for the test Your dad wants to be medically sure of whom you are getting involved with in your relationship to avoid stories |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by ezimo777(m): 5:08am On May 04, 2023 |
beekind: Please never mind the unguided statements by others. The reality just as said by some, is that, your father wants your best interest. Here are my reasons for. him opting for a fertility test from you both. 1. Remember he asked for yours before the girls' hence, he's not being one sided. 2. The rate of quackery and non-medical abortion is on the rise in Naija, especially the big cites. 3. If any imbalance is noticed, it can be fixed timely. Remember, early detection gives good prognosis in most cases. 4. There are several things that can be avoided/amended without disturbing God in Heaven, if we do our own part. 5. I'm sure in additon to the fertility, he had also requested for blood typing/phenotyping, grouping, veneral diseases etc My resolution: follow his advice |
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by 1Sharon(f): 9:20am On May 04, 2023 |
Has to do fertility tests before he allows you to marry? You're a grown man. Put your foot down. |
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