What is your ethnic group? If you don't mind me asking.

Farfalla:


I can relate. I do not fit into the stereotypical look associated with my ethnic group, nor my country people.

mizzhathaway:
I asked myself this question again this evening.. here's why;
I didn't want to bring this here because of nairaland and it's wahala but anyways this is my own space 🌝.
Now sincerely, why do people act surprised if they see you are you are Yoruba Lady and look pretty according to them ( I think beauty is subjective)
The reason for this is, not once not twice have people asked me if I'm really Yoruba.. Like?? It's a little flustering and they don't even realize it 😂 I don't get it .
I remember when I was working during the strike at a secondary school in Lag, the kids will greet me cheerfully in the morning while smiling saying mistress, you look beautiful today. I'll smile and say thank you o my darlings..it was adorable to hear lol then one day, I overheard some of them arguing that I was ibo, I have an English first name so they couldn't tell. When I entered the class they asked me again, that's when I told them noo I'm not ibo o😂 kids my goodness.. and this have been a pattern, sort of. So this evening again my friends and I were coming from church o someone stopped us to invite us for a program somehow in the middle of convincing..one of us wasn't having it, we were delayed and hungry so he faced her and was like you this geh you are ibo abi.. that's how we faced him and what does he mean and could he tell people's tribe from their face he said yes he could, so we asked him to guess..of course he was wrong my two friends were actually esan and etsako when I told him I'm Yoruba not esan he was like "really but you don't look like one, your smile is so beautiful" thank God he couldn't read my thoughts that moment 😅
I really didn't find it flattering, another stereotypical being. I'm full blooded Yoruba and pretty decent looking, not exceptional I don't get why people, not all though, expect to see something else... I have very beautiful friends, and siblings back at home, and even the little ones I meet here all look good. So why that reaction all the time? I'm not a stereotypical person and I love adventure, learning new things, new languages and cultures that's why I find it is really off putting when I meet narrow minded people.
Besides our mostly dark skin, I don't think there's any truth in the belief that if you are a Yoruba lady you are not supposed to look pretty😤..it's wrong guys, dark skin is not a bad thing,I actually love it, I love being a dark skinned girl, fair skin is also pretty but it's should not be the standard for beauty.
PS; I know a lot of fair skinned Yorubas too.
We move.

I am a Northerner and I can easily tell that you are not Yoruba.

All I will tell you is to grow up

Samantha124:
What is your ethnic group? If you don't mind me asking.

A Bantu tribe from East Africa.

So we have East Africans in here? Wow!!! This is so refreshing..

I'm not gonna lie, I don't know anything about about East Africans, but it's so refreshing to finally chat with one.

Don't you guys have a forum similar to nairaland in your country? I'd like to join it to I can learn about you guys because I really don't know anything about you East Africans.

Farfalla:


A Bantu tribe from East Africa.

stuffs2002:


I am a Northerner and I can easily tell that you are not Yoruba.

All I will tell you is to grow up

Unbelievable.
😂😂

stuffs2002:


I am a Northerner and I can easily tell that you are not Yoruba.

All I will tell you is to grow up

Excuse me mallam I can't and will never lie about my tribe. I love my tribe that much
If you don't believe, that's your headache
Not everyone on nairaland cares about the tribal banter, I was only sharing my own personal experience on my favorite social media space.
Goodnight or whatever it's called in Hausa

mizzhathaway:

Excuse me mallam I can't and will never lie about my tribe. I love my tribe that much
If you don't believe, that's your headache
Not everyone on nairaland cares about the tribal banter, I was only sharing my own personal experience on my favorite social media space.
Goodnight or whatever it's called in Hausa

Even here in the north, there are loads of beautiful Yoruba and Igbo ladies everywhere.

I was born,bred and educated in the north and I would not visit Yoruba Land until I was posted for NYSC in Ogun state. I met several beautiful Yoruba ladies in Ogun state.

It is obvious you are not Yoruba. It is also very obvious that you have never travelled out of the region you grew up in. I have worked in Lagos and Ibadan and there are so many beautiful ladies in all of the Yoruba cities I have been.

Your mannerism probably gives you off more as an Igbo lady.

Samantha124:
So we have East Africans in here? Wow!!! This is so refreshing..

I'm not gonna lie, I don't know anything about about East Africans, but it's so refreshing to finally chat with one.

Don't you guys have a forum similar to nairaland in your country? I'd like to join it to I can learn about you guys because I really don't know anything about you East Africans.

Yes, there a few of us are around here, but we sort of just blend in without making a big deal about our identities, and I prefer it that way.

I have not bothered with our forums for a long time (long story) and I wouldn't advise you to join any of them (long story).

I really do not want to hijack the OP's thread, so maybe we can continue this discussion elsewhere? I'll mention you on another (more relevant) thread to discuss this.

Have a good evening.

stuffs2002:



Even here in the north, there are loads of beautiful Yoruba and Igbo ladies everywhere.

I was born,bred and educated in the north and I would not visit Yoruba Land until I was posted for NYSC in Ogun state. I met several beautiful Yoruba ladies in Ogun state.

It is obvious you are not Yoruba. It is also very obvious that you have never travelled out of the region you grew up in. I have worked in Lagos and Ibadan and there are so many beautiful ladies in all of the Yoruba cities I have been.

Your mannerism probably gives you off more as an Igbo lady.

Now this is getting interesting
So you are actually serious right now?
😅😅 What a joke.
I've never travelled out of where I grew up.?
If not for uniben, I won't have ever had any reason to step out of the west bro. If not for anonymity I'd have told you my native name sef. oh but then of course, you won't believe lolz
Keep being defensive and presumptuous there.

mizzhathaway:

Now this is getting interesting
So you are actually serious right now?
😅😅 What a joke.
I've never travelled out of where I grew up.?
If not for uniben, I won't have ever had any reason to step out of the west bro. If not for anonymity I'd have told you my native name sef. oh but then of course, you won't believe lolz
Keep being defensive and presumptuous there.

I really don't know what gave you the impression that there are no Yorubas outside Yorubaland.

Here in the north, I have always had Yorubas as classmates from primary school up to masters level. What I'm telling you in plain and simple English is that, you don't even have to travel down south before meeting beautiful Yoruba ladies.


I thought these SE people who have been masquerading as people of other regions supporting Peter Obi will stop at politics.

Your true identity would be revealed if I asked for your account number.

stuffs2002:



I really don't know what gave you the impression that there are no Yorubas outside Yorubaland.

Here in the north, I have always had Yorubas as classmates from primary school up to masters level. What I'm telling you in plain and simple English is that, you don't even have to travel down south before meeting beautiful Yoruba ladies.


I thought these SE people who have been masquerading as people of other regions supporting Peter Obi will stop at politics.

Your true identity would be revealed if I asked for your account number.

Iru wahala wo mo wa kusi bayii

You have money to send na, thank God exams are approaching I won't turn down money from a Samaritan lol.
Lemme just take it that u r pulling my legs Sha cos I don't even know what to say again. I didn't even understand half what you wrote up there

youngsahito:
lolz, alot of people always believe that the Ibos are always best looking than the oda tribes.

it is not a matter of believe but facts,I am from imo state and I live there,I have been to many Yoruba states,communities and interior villages due to the nature of my work,it is from my observation a matter of genetics that will make a very high percentage of girls in ondo state to look average while in my state you will effortlessly see exotic and beautiful woman at every nook and cranny,even the small one still going to primary and secondary schools are sights to behold,to a man that has spent many years in ondo state,it will be a shock if he finds himself in imo state,our girls and women are simply beautiful.

okoroemeka:
it is not a matter of believe but facts,I am from imo state and I live there,I have been to many Yoruba states,communities and interior villages due to the nature of my work,it is from my observation a matter of genetics that will make a very high percentage of girls in ondo state to look average while in my state you will effortlessly see exotic and beautiful woman at every nook and cranny,even the small one still going to primary and secondary schools are sights to behold,to a man that has spent many years in ondo state,it will be a shock if he finds himself in imo state,our girls and women are simply beautiful.

so you are telling me that you never see any lady in Ondo state that caught your attention. Only fair ibo ladies are always beautiful and I disagree that all ibo ladies are beautiful.

okoroemeka:
it is not a matter of believe but facts,I am from imo state and I live there,I have been to many Yoruba states,communities and interior villages due to the nature of my work,it is from my observation a matter of genetics that will make a very high percentage of girls in ondo state to look average while in my state you will effortlessly see exotic and beautiful woman at every nook and cranny,even the small one still going to primary and secondary schools are sights to behold,to a man that has spent many years in ondo state,it will be a shock if he finds himself in imo state,our girls and women are simply beautiful.

And "Ondo girls" are not sheyy 🌝
Anyways as I said before sha,beauty is subjective.

I was born and bred in this same Ondo.
Even if you think they are not... it's still very slighting when people indirectly tell others they are not supposed to look pretty cos they are from the place you thought people don't look good that's just the point I've been trying to make.. I'm not measuring who's assumed "prettier".
It's getting more annoying each time someone says it.

This is called the law of averages.
The average fulani has a look
The average Igbo has a look
The average Yoruba has a look
Even the average Cross river/ Akwa person has a look.
I'm not going to say much as this is a sensitive issue. If lots of people tell you that you look like a particular tribe, it is because people have eyes to see and they also perceive what the average person in each tribe looks like.
There is no point for OP to be concerned. If you are perceived to look like someone from a tribe that most of your country people perceive as good -looking accept it with grace and go about your business.

youngsahito:
so you are telling me that you never see any lady in Ondo state that caught your attention. Only fair ibo ladies are always beautiful and I disagree that all ibo ladies are beautiful.

lolz don't mind... ondo that is my home. After Ekiti...
I can't count how many fine ladies I know.
You don't have to be yellow to be fine.

Shokoloko:
This is called the law of averages.
The average fulani has a look
The average Igbo has a look
The average Yoruba has a look
Even the average Cross river/ Akwa person has a look.
I'm not going to say much as this is a sensitive issue. If lots of people tell you that you look like a particular tribe, it is because people have eyes to see and they also perceive what the average person in each tribe looks like.
There is no point for OP to be concerned. If you are perceived to look like someone from a tribe that most of your country people perceive as good -looking accept it with grace and go about your business.

Alright, I understand.

mizzhathaway:

lolz don't mind... ondo that is my home. After Ekiti...
I can't count how many fine ladies I know.
You don't have to be yellow to be fine.

You have a good opinion, however the majority of the world believes that the lighter person is the finer person.
And in Africa, the yellow people take preference. There is a reason why the team foreign women is growing, there is a reason why northern men will marry a Shuwa Arab woman after amassing a lot of money.
There is a reason why most Nigerian men go for fairer ladies and you know the highest proof that yellow is perceived as fine is right here in this link https://tribuneonlineng.com/nigeria-ranked-1st-in-cases-of-bleaching-in-africa-nafdac/