Wotoporiously speaking

Sometimes parents can be extra in ways they relate with em kids, had issues with my dad too years ago but that fatherly and son love for each other never stopped despite our differences, don't let any issue between you and your father stop y'all from having that father and son relationship, from what I understand you've to be the bigger person here....Have it in mind that Nigerian parents especially father's don't apologize even if their life depends on it.

So you've got to do it physically chief, best of luck 🤞

IkeIgboNile:
This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

You are in order

IkeIgboNile:
This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

go and pay visit, everything will be settled. make sure you drop envelope when leaving , he will open it in your absence and smile.

IkeIgboNile:
This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

Complete your story nah,what kind of argument did you have with your father?
Let people know so they know where to start from

schoolboymatt:


tears, not of pain or sadness rolled down my eyes after reading this.

Even if it's tears of sorrow, that isn't my problem.

When I read the title of this post, I concluded in my mind that the writer must be a son-child. Alas, I was right! It is only a son that will be constable losing contact with his father for 5 months. Let this boy continue with the seed is sowing.

IkeIgboNile:
AsomStructures
It's important to check up on ur aged parents as it's expected of u. When you were little they did their bit in taking care of you and checking up on u. So reciprocating same gesture isn't bad especially now you're a grown man. I'll advise you find peace with him and create an enabling environment whereby you both can sit and settle ur differences..

Thank you for the advise. The truth is that he has been extending an olive branch to me in his own way but i have been too much in my feelings to accept it. I'll try to meet with him and settle our differences before it's too late for neither of us.
Thanks again for your input. I appreciate.

U r rubbing shoulders with ur father. Ur father is everything to u after God. Don't use ur hand n place curse upon urself. If ur father isn't happy with u, find a way n apologize to him. Ur father is always right, he's not d one 2 come apologize to u. Send a txt of apologies to him and b truly sorry, go to his house(ur house) go on ur kneels, hold his legs and apologize to him, he's ur father. If u allow ur father 2 b angry 2 d extend of placing a curse on u, my dear, u r doomed. I don't know what most of u kids of now a days think, honestly. Humility and respect not only 2 ur parents but ur elders should b ur guiding principle. People die too young nowadays because they have no respect 4 their parents and indeed their elders. May God help u.

Obiedun:
Many kids are on Nairaland.

u also belongs 2 someone

Karleb:


Even if it's tears of sorrow, that isn't my problem.

not of sorrow, believe me.

dawnomike:
Go and see him and apologize if you have to. Not because you are wrong, but because he is your father and he will not be worth you forever.
When you become a father, you'll understand better

the best advice you can get on the issue at hand right now

From my experience children that looks and act like the father hardly get alone with each other due to age gap.

You will get to appreciate him as a son when you get to his age and start see things differently

Please send him an sms and apologize to him even if you think you were right. When you have your own children, I'm sure you won't like any of them walk away on you. Make peace with him and listen to his counsel. no matter what you are or who you are at the moment, he sure knows more than you and wants the best for you.

He's not taking your calls probably he was disappointed you left the house. Please take it easy and sort things out.

IkeIgboNile:
This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

No shit ... It's your choice ...

Dey play u hear when u hear say e don die nobody go tell u ..

U better run like prodigal son for bible go meet ur papa prostrate or sitdown for him leg and apologise..



Na incident like dis make me no talk to my mama ..when I come ready to travel go visit am na I'm I hear say she don die ..

Mum I still miss u

Ur daughter in-law miss u

Ur grand kids miss u

Forgive me ..

I love u .

IkeIgboNile:
This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

When he dies , you ll regret not calling him enough now. Fix your ways with your Father. Learn not to speak back even if you don't agree with his opinion. No father appreciate such character in his children

Best Advice.

dawnomike:
Go and see him and apologize if you have to. Not because you are wrong, but because he is your father and he will not be worth you forever.
When you become a father, you'll understand better

I don't Even know who my father is. You're lucky you have one

IkeIgboNile:
This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

Every Man gets to this point, where He needs to assert Himself as His own Man in the eyes of His Father. It is not always frictionless.

You have made your point. Good thing you said you are not angry. Now you need to Go and see Him face to face. Find out why He is angry without having any agenda of His own. Whatever the issue is , let him know you feel sorry that He feels that way. And take responsibility for any thing that you May have done or not done.

You and your Father must not see eye to eye on everything , in order for you to be at peace him.

The longer you wait, the harder it will become. Don't let it get to six months. Don't let it become too late.

How Sons manage to pick a quarrel with their father baffles me.

How some use their father for money rituals is unthinkable.

Wow....seeing my first ever thread on front page is so cool, it's only a shame that my account got blocked before i couldn't respond or reply but thank you all for your advice and insults. I really needed them and i appreciate your inputs.
Personally i have decided to make peace with him no matter the cost.For all those saying i should go back home but forget that i maybe many miles away from home right now.

My brother, have good lasting times with your parents as they won't be with you forever.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Go home small boy, you left home so that you'll have freedom to be sleeping with girls anyhow you like. Go home and let them train you well

Are you a prophetess?

Listen first Borns should be very careful not to upset their parents. As a first born myself, I've come to realise that parents don't joke with the first born. There are somethings other children will do and get away with it and the first born must not dear to try same.

Please go see your dad in person, prostrate and beg him. He expects a lot from you and you are failing him.

Obiedun:
Many kids are on Nairaland.

Including teenagers like you.

I haven't spoke to my too since 2003,

Reason, cos his late

IkeIgboNile:
This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

Guy go home and settle with him o. Make it urgent bro. E get reason o. No think say him go dey alive forever. I never get the death of my mum out of my head. I invited her to spend Christmas and new years with me. She left in January and died in Feb,got buried in march. I still cant believe she is gone.
2 days ago,in the dream I was crying that I lost mum even after a month of burial.

How can you be his spitting image and behaving like someone else. The poor man is confused

IkeIgboNile:
This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

he is your father, he can't come begging, rather you should go to him for peace and settle whatever differences you have with him.
You must make that first step, whether you are wrong or right still kneel to him and apologize before it's too late for you.

Because, the more you keep staying away from him, the harder it becomes for him to see you as a worthy son to hand over his home,family, properties to, if any, and everything before he leaves this world.

This might force him to tilt to your other brothers leaving you behind.

Go to your father and settle your difference. You are an adult now, learn to respect your parents no matter the provocation. That's where your blessings hang.

Go meet him and be very respectful, take it all in and ensure you settle the differences.

It’s not that serious, what’s serious is that your proud azz refused to speak to your dad for months and feel you can pick up your phone and call just anytime you want.

Go and read about Narcissistic Parents.

These are the ones Africans call witches and wizards.

Nothing good can ever come out of you as a child if you dont distance yourself from such parents. They are 100% pure evil.

BeardedmeatR:
Including teenagers like you.

Dey play.