My name is Pelumi. I am 26 years old and I reside somewhere around Ogun State. As a single mother of one, I met my boyfriend three years ago. He is 35 years old. After dating for a year, we had a child and we started living together as a couple even without being legally married.

I was happy when we met because I thought God had finally sent me a helper who would care for me and my child. Little did I know that reverse would be the case as this man has not been carrying out his responsibilities as the father of the kids. Most of the time, I sort the bills with little or no contribution from him.

At the end of the month, all he gives us is either N8000 or N9000 and he doesn't care if it is enough or not. I pay the children's school fees, and now that our house rent is due, he simply said he doesn't have money. I have no choice than to actively look for the money to pay the house rent, so that my kids and I don't end up on the street.

I told my family about my plans to leave him but they asked me to endure so that people won't start counting for me. I have two kids and I don't really know what to do anymore.

What can I do to save myself from this? Please advise me.

I don't see any escape route for her here

Our ladies should be careful the kind of life they live to avoid having too much problems

Like my father always say to us--"That a one day mistake can bring agony and pains of 100 years to you"

Na so this op case just be like so....And the truth is that many young bannies of these days will definitely end up like this op.....

Well,op,na you wear the shoe..So na only you fit determine where dey pinch you for the shoe...... But one question I'd really love to ask you is that,was he like this when you first met him? Don't you think the nigha could be passing through some sort of financial problem?

Listen to your family,they know you more than we do

Sonnobax15:

Like my father always say to us--"That one day mistake can bring agony and pains of 100 years to you"

Na so this op case just be like so....And the truth is that many young bannies of these days will definitely end up like this op.....

Well,op,na you wear the shoe..So na only you fit determine where dey pinch you for the shoe...... But one question I'd really love to ask you is that,was he like this when you first met him? Don't you think the nigha could be passing through some sort of financial problem?

it's always good to plan your life well

Fineman2:
it's always good to plan your life well

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tommy589:
Listen to your family,they know you more than we do

her family don't want to bear her burden if she comes back to them

Fineman2:
My name is Pelumi. I am 26 years old and I reside somewhere around Ogun State. As a single mother of one, I met my boyfriend three years ago. He is 35 years old. After dating for a year, we had a child and we started living together as a couple even without being legally married.

I was happy when we met because I thought God had finally sent me a helper who would care for me and my child. Little did I know that reverse would be the case as this man has not been carrying out his responsibilities as the father of the kids. Most of the time, I sort the bills with little or no contribution from him.

At the end of the month, all he gives us is either N8000 or N9000 and he doesn't care if it is enough or not. I pay the children's school fees, and now that our house rent is due, he simply said he doesn't have money. I have no choice than to actively look for the money to pay the house rent, so that my kids and I don't end up on the street.

I told my family about my plans to leave him but they asked me to endure so that people won't start counting for me. I have two kids and I don't really know what to do anymore.

What can I do to save myself from this? Please advise me.

The more children you will have for him the more sufferings are loading for you

He doesn't have regards for you because you followed him without any marriage rights and not even a drink to your family

So he sees you as a cheap stuff

Now you have to braze up with yourself and get something doing

If the rent is becoming to expensive then advice him that you guys need to get just a room so that you can pay the rent with ease

So far you can endure what you are passing through and he doesn't beat you or abuse you
You can still remain there

Once it becomes toxic, move out to save your life

frozen70:


The more children you will have for him the more sufferings are loading for you

He doesn't have regards for you because you followed him without any marriage rights and not even a drink to your family

So he sees you as a cheap stuff

Now you have to braze up with yourself and get something doing

If the rent is becoming to expensive then advice him that you guys need to get just a room so that you can pay the rent with ease

So far you can endure what you are passing through and he doesn't beat you or abuse you
You can still remain there

Once it becomes toxic, move out to save your life

Excellent series of advice.

onumadu:


Excellent series of advice.

Thanks dear

Fineman2:
her family don't want to bear her burden if she comes back to them

This may be right . I guess the family understand money problem is the issue not that the man is a terrible partner

frozen70:


The more children you will have for him the more sufferings are loading for you

He doesn't have regards for you because you followed him without any marriage rights and not even a drink to your family

So he sees you as a cheap stuff

Now you have to braze up with yourself and get something doing

If the rent is becoming to expensive then advice him that you guys need to get just a room so that you can pay the rent with ease

So far you can endure what you are passing through and he doesn't beat you or abuse you
You can still remain there

Once it becomes toxic, move out to save your life

I agree with you

Fineman2:
My name is Pelumi. I am 26 years old and I reside somewhere around Ogun State. As a single mother of one, I met my boyfriend three years ago. He is 35 years old. After dating for a year, we had a child and we started living together as a couple even without being legally married.

I was happy when we met because I thought God had finally sent me a helper who would care for me and my child. Little did I know that reverse would be the case as this man has not been carrying out his responsibilities as the father of the kids. Most of the time, I sort the bills with little or no contribution from him.

At the end of the month, all he gives us is either N8000 or N9000 and he doesn't care if it is enough or not. I pay the children's school fees, and now that our house rent is due, he simply said he doesn't have money. I have no choice than to actively look for the money to pay the house rent, so that my kids and I don't end up on the street.

I told my family about my plans to leave him but they asked me to endure so that people won't start counting for me. I have two kids and I don't really know what to do anymore.

What can I do to save myself from this? Please advise me.

Firstly, what are you doing to earn a living?

What's your husband Job?

Where around Ogun do you reside?


Women are the source of life... I pray for the best among them as wife and as daughters.

People counting for you? How? By the way are you leaving him for another man? If you are, then you haven't learnt anything.
If you stay , carry your cross and pray he will change for the better.
If you leave, carry your cross and care for your kids and yourself.
Whatever cross you decide on, work hard, pray harder...take care of yourself, stop living in the past, stay away from men, bring up your kids. Many women are taking care of business without a man's help.

lol

Fineman2:
My name is Pelumi. I am 26 years old and I reside somewhere around Ogun State. As a single mother of one, I met my boyfriend three years ago. He is 35 years old. After dating for a year, we had a child and we started living together as a couple even without being legally married.

I was happy when we met because I thought God had finally sent me a helper who would care for me and my child. Little did I know that reverse would be the case as this man has not been carrying out his responsibilities as the father of the kids. Most of the time, I sort the bills with little or no contribution from him.

At the end of the month, all he gives us is either N8000 or N9000 and he doesn't care if it is enough or not. I pay the children's school fees, and now that our house rent is due, he simply said he doesn't have money. I have no choice than to actively look for the money to pay the house rent, so that my kids and I don't end up on the street.

I told my family about my plans to leave him but they asked me to endure so that people won't start counting for me. I have two kids and I don't really know what to do anymore.

What can I do to save myself from this? Please advise me.

This guy is consistently giving 8k or 9k, deduce from your post, this show that he might be earning less but still committed in giving you the amount.

If u are doing better, that guy is struggling... Don't think he doesn't feel pain about the situation.

I know about a similarly issue I don't want to disclose but, but just pray things is better with both of u.

Outside rough o , things u see on social is smile in disguise.

You married an irresponsible man, and you didn't test him to know if he is capable of such responsibility.

Stop complaining.

Get a job.

Cut down on your expenses.

Save up, and start a business.

If you have a degree, good. If not, waitressing is a good place to start.

It is a pity you had to live your life this way.

Kindly find something tangible to do and don't let him impregnate u again o.

Wow... Pray for him. If he has, I'm sure he will share

You were already single mother when you met him. Why have another child for another man you're married to?