THE LENGTH OF MARRIAGE COUNSELING:

Somethings are better left unsaid. But I will say this one. It is my opinion that, few weeks of marriage counselling is not enough for couples anymore. Marriage counseling should be a matter of years now, similar to the numbers required to acquire a degree from a reputable institution. If there isn't before now, I employ government and religious organisations to constitute institutions of marriage, where from the basics to the brimbricks of marriage will be taught. Where model examples of marriages both present and centuries long past, can be sited as examples for better understanding of the union. Many venture into marriage unqualified, unaware, ignorant and sometimes deluded with a different notion of what the union is or should be.

Hear me, if you give an inexperience person a task, it is expected that the person will carry out that task base(d) on his/her level of experience and competence. Similarly, if you have an experience person handle same task, he go clear for your eyes say na person wey sabi the matter na im handle am. Sabi no de hide, I believe say na so marriage sef be. People should be well taught about what they are going into, not just told about it. Telling is one thing, teaching is another. If you tell me that 1+1 =2, I will appreciate you for telling me. But if you show me how 1+1 arrived there as two, I will reverence you.

It is my opinion that, marriage counseling units in our churches only tell couples what they are going into, they don't really teach the two involved the whole concept of marriage. This must be because there isn't enough time. Couples are in a hurry to marry, so they quickly jump into a 2weeks or 3weeks marriage counseling programs and end up married. It is when issues begins to emanate in their marriages that they will start learning practically what they ought to have learnt theoretically during counselling/courtship.

I chose to write about this because of the increasing number(s) of divorce cases in society now adays. In many cases; members of the counseling committees in our churches are people with failed marriages or those in turbulent ones. Come to think of it, wetin person with failed marriage get to teach; 'to be husband and wife' about a successful marriage? I am yet to see a failed footballer who later turned up with a successful coaching career. I am yet to see a terrible lawyer make it to become a senior advocate.

If marriage na exam, you go enjoy am more if you study well before you approach the exam all. Read all night learning about marriage like someone that wants to write an exam. Because that is what it truly is.