I have discovered this site for almost a decade now and I have come to the conclusion that this site if full of damaged people which has made their view about this world screwed.

What I'm about to say will touch nerves but in all sincerity, it is what is it only if you come to realize and try make peace with yourself and heal from all trama of the past...

First, if you are looking for a serious advice, my advice to you is never to bring it here. Take it offline or with people of your inner inner circle.

Obviously, this is how this site get traffics and make their earnings but, for the young one who would be surfing this site, have it at the back of your mind that, not everything you read you believe.

So back to the matter on ground... Someone table their predicaments, and people rush to the comments section for commenting sake... In few minutes, they move on to the next thread forgetting the previous ones in few days. The cycle continues...

It would have be ideal if such comments are very palatable but NO! They are usually veey sentimental and in such cases only just about 2 % are very realistic and truthful but such comments are in-between lines and with few likes....

In all honesty, categories of comments here are biased to trabslism, alpha & feminist, broken homes archers... So for Young One here seeing comments in relation to topic or advice relating to any of the above categories.... Beware of what you consume because majority are here to voice out their faustrations in advice. On a normal day they are voiceless once they logout... Life is not a Black and white screen but sadly, this site has made it so.

The scenerio of a group picture come to my mind.... Anyone that look into a group pix and says it isn't fine, actually, not that the picture isn't, but he's not satisfy with the way he come out.....

I have seen a situation here of an underaged helpless boy homeless and couldn't be accommodated by his step-father/ mother (wife of new husband) , nor any extended family members... Such comments that follow are simply gender biased.... Broken homes... I don't expect a primary school boy to start hustling like someone that fell from heaven....

Realistically, that boy was the victim of circumstances but no one view and put their self in the boys shoe, just another reason to verge out their faustrations and let the world know how toxic they are.

Another instant is saying know one (families) own you nothing.. meaning you don't need any sort of help/assistance....

As much as knowing the right context say this... It has been abused in lots of way.... When you were born, someone helped you bath, likewise when you die, someone who helped dig your grave.... So if you ever grow up in hatred and without care pls... Let that end with you... You are breading the next generation and if you don't stop this thinking process, I'm so sorry your blood might suffer the same fate you have been avoiding all your life and believe me, they might not be so lucky to survive it. Be the change you want

Trabslism is a tools to break people with nothing and is a great asset for those that have a lot to loose.... People that have things going well for them in the real world doesn't dwell on trabslism... It could cost them everything they have worked for all their life...

So for Young generation... Filty every info you see on this site and remember life isn't black and white... In-between the grey colours is where majority and opinions stands. Thanks

as long as you're right, those looking for advice are wise enough to take the one that works best for them, no one is forcing opinions on anyone here... although there might be some tribalistic comments on this thread but you have to learn to separate the wheats from the chaff... this forum is not meant to spoon-feed anyone...

secondly, the advice people detests most times are the truth but because they come in a harsh or condescending tone, they are dismissed... the truth is very bitter, if you don't want to hear it, you'll only have yourself to blame in the end...

There is nothing you can do about this.Nairaland is obviously built this way

Do what is right & fair and ignore what is wrong & unfair ... attached this to the advice you receive here and you're good to go ... -Shekina