I had to discuss this here. Why do I feel like living around poor people especially Nigerians is mad exhausting. It is not like I am super rich. I am just you know a bit comfortable with my business which I am trying to expand further.

My credit ratings is good with the banks as I take care of the finances I get from my business and repay the banks on time so whenever my business needs more finances. I can get it promptly fron the banks so to these people around me. My business is booming but they don't know the huge amount of millions I pay out to the banks so most times. I am left with nothing. I am working on reducing the banks that give me credit facility.

I delay sexual gratification practicing sexual absentee for many years so I do not waste finances on vices. My problem is these poor people around think all these money are all mine and you see them bringing all sorts of their personal problems to me to give them money or loan them money. In the past I used to be so kindhearted to a foolish extent that I lended out money that none of them have paid back till date. Even the ones I "dashed" money. You hear all sorts of evil rumors that they carry about me behind my back. With some saying I gave him small money. I later got to know the person in question is owing LAPO and wanted to manipulate me into paying his debt at LAPO.


I have been called all sorts of derogatory names behind my back from stingy man to wicked man to "him get money but e no dey help person" after I learnt my lessons in the past of how these people even many of them are far better asset wise than me but due to mismanagement and lack of contentment are always messing up their finances.

How can you go about impregnating a girl and run this morning to get 500,000 from me with sob stories?!! You didn't save one Naira all the while you earned money knowing you got a girl pregnant and that there will be Hospital bills?!!

Why are some of these people heartless?! They desire to wreck one financially and when you tell them you do not have the money. They start looking at you like you are wicked and start plotting evil against one. The other one had land and a family and was still asking a single guy like me for food and money to take care of his family.

One wakes up everyday thinking of how to dodge these people at my store because they never understand that despite the car, office, house. I am in debt to the bank than them but I don't complain to no one. I suffer in silence and handle my business myself. Funny thing is these set of poor people will never bring a business to you but immediately. One makes some money. They come with their entitled mentality to take what's not theirs.

How do one avoid these financial wreakers that present themselves as poor people when the truth is lot are richer than one but are mis-managers of their own money and lack contentment?!!

Simple: get rid of of the fancy car and other ostentatious stuffs and make it clear to everyone that you owe banks money and after your monthly payments to them and bills you have almost nothing left. They'd leave you alone.
And always remember, it is YOUR responsibility to manage other people's envy of you. If people you deal with are jealous of you, IT IS YOUR FAULT!!

That environment is not conducive for your mental health


There is a reason why rich people stay in a different environment from these people

Their mindset can kill you if you don't act fast

How do you feel after "dashing" them the money? Do you feel good about it? If yes continue doing it. If not then politely tell them no. You alone know what is good for you and can decide what to do and what to not do. Lastly, nothing in the world is wasted, it's just a natural cycle. Whatever you give out will surely come back to you!

TradingGod:
That environment is not conducive for your mental health


There is a reason why rich people stay in a different environment from these people

Their mindset can kill you if you don't act fast

100%%

If you can, switch location. That's the remedy. Don't sell your car because of anyone. Just switch location.

TradingGod:
That environment is not conducive for your mental health


There is a reason why rich people stay in a different environment from these people

Their mindset can kill you if you don't act fast

Westerhoffe:
If you can, switch location.
That's the remedy.
Don't sell your car because of anyone.
Just switch location.

Most times this is neither possible nor practical. Could be you make your money selling to those poor people, could be various attachments tie you to the location.
Best advice - don't be outwardly too richer than those you deal with daily - it is also best way to avoid kidnappers and robbers!

RussellRutherfo:
I delay sexual gratification practicing sexual absentee for many years so I do not waste finances on vices.

He who has ears let him hear.

If they tally what a lot of men (myself included) has spent and continue to spend on frivolities be that women, bars and so called fair weather friends, we could easily have paid off a substantial part of a mortgage. Yes, we have to live a little and all work and no play makes jack a dull boy BUT but we all have to learn that delayed gratification is a sign of maturity.

Just as we speak, I just finished battling against going to a restaurant / bar where I know that with the stinginess / craftiness of the friends acquaintances there, I will most probably end up spending around £200 buying food / drink for myself and people who suddenly forget how to put their hands in their pockets once they see you because they know that your generosity will come up trumps in the end. Some of them will even order drinks for people and put it on your bill when you are not looking. Bunch of piss takers.

And if you are a bachelor working from home in London since the first lockdown, you just have to leave the house to de-stress after a long week of working and if you are someone like me that does not drink alone or at home, then occasionally you MUST leave the house for your own recreation.

RussellRutherfo:
How do one avoid these financial wreakers.

Although it is easier said than done, the best thing to tell piss taking workers or neighbors is the word NO.

Like I live in a block of 8 flats in London with about 3 of the flats occupied by Nigerians and 1 by a Ghanaian and since lock down in 2020 march that they saw that I was working from home, the Nigerians and Ghanaian will order parcels online and then tell the courier to knock on my door to deliver their parcel to me. The Oyinbo's have never done this in my 7 years at the flat. I just had to tell the courier that I don't take parcels for anyone.

Even yesterday, a courier (a Nigerian) who happens to be Yoruba just like me pressed my buzzer when I was busy doing some brain work and he begged me in Yoruba language to collect a parcel for a Nigerian (Yoruba) Bros who lives 1 floor above me and I just bluntly told the courier in Yoruba Language that I don't take parcels for anyone. I could se that he almost cried but that's not a reason why I should break my own rules.

The fact that we are both Nigerians living in London and speak the same language does not mean I should break my own rules or have no boundaries.

He came back today to deliver the same parcel to the owner.

Na so the Bros who owned the parcel knocked on my door some years ago asking me to come and help him lift a fridge or washing machine from the ground floor to his flat upstairs and i told him point blank that I don't lift heavy things in order to protect my back. he was not happy and has been grumpy ever since but thats not my own business.

If I was living on a floor that requires stairs to reach and I was buying a fridge or something heavy, i would pay for a man and van to deliver it up the stairs but Naija no dey wan pay for services and choose instead to inconvenience fellow Nigerians just because they think you will not say no.

Oyinbos have moved in and out of the same building several times and none of them have ever asked me to help them carry any thing up the stairs even when i walk past them.

We Nigerians are a bunch of piss takers and you will not have genuine Nigerian friends if you are good at saying No when you mean to say No. But if you keep saying Yes to Nigerians when you really mean to say No, then you will be loved by Nigerians. But at what cost to yourself

So, Nigerians only understand tough love. If you are too soft, Nigerians will take you to the cleaners and still mock you behind your back.

My strategy to tackle my generosity to acquaintances at beer parlous would have been to find a level headed Naija girl in London to spend time with instead but the Naija babes in London don craze for head finish. All of them have one or more screws loose in their heads.

If you don't protect yourself you'll expose yourself to harm.

You need to let people see some of your pain sometime.

Let them know few times. I'm not better than you lot.

What happens at times is I'm fortunate to be supplied goods on advance pay supply. That's why you people think I have. When they become more sympathetic, a desire to hurt you won't be in their hearts


Apply tact's, poor people are wicked