This week makes it two months that I have stopped indiscriminate sex, masturbation or do porn. And yet, I feel no urge or that sinful compulsion to get down with any lady. Although masturbation/porn only came occasional to me during my addiction days, I have now completely stopped it.
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Yes it's possible, if someone like me can do it by the grace of God, then with him all things are possible. The Bible says our righteousness come by grace through Faith in God...not by works. I thank God for the grace
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The reason I quoted that verse, is cos it would not have been possible without God. Please don't bother yourself sef trying to stop sexual immorality if u feel worried about your sexual recklessness but unwilling to go closer to God as a way of saving yourself. You will never win it. It took me over a decade to realise this and take a bold step to save my life.
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HOW GOD HELPED ME:
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I was so addicted to sex that I wasted my money on it everyweek. Picking babes from bars, Tinders, etc I was hooked on short term pleasure . My sexual recklessness is a long story. I have hit big money on three different occasions, sex, smoking and risky life usually take me back.
I'm also good at seducing babe and make them have sex with me in no distant time. But then, I was never happy. My spirit was dead. My dream state was in chaos that various ladies will come to seduce me in my dream. I ones had sex with two different ladies in one night and in my dream I saw some spirit creatures coming to lay with me..they looked like those Avatar being in that Avatar movie.

I was losing my money, time, purpose, concentration and productivity. Smoking and drinking addiction was also eating me badly that I was advised by doctor to stop. All those vices was just an escape mechanism to run away from myself and reality of God.
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My journey : Some strange thing happened to me, and I called a pastor whose number I got from Nairaland about 2 yrs ago, which I never contacted. I called him on that issue, not about my sexual addiction. Though I knew my addiction was one of my major problem. So he advised me to start with fasting
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I started with 9 days fasting. 6pm till 6pm Daniel fasting. I ate only plant based meal and fruit. No oil, pepper, seasoning, salt, meat or egg.
Somehow the Pastor told me I could eat garri and smoked fish. Though, I doubted it.....But since my faith isn't fixed on the nature of the fast, just a gesture to tell God I'm remorseful.

So I end up eating garri and smoked fish every evening to break the fast. Sometimes I added Ground nut. But along the way, stopped the fish and cooked plain beans. Beans without salt, pepper or oil...just cooked beans with onions plus garri.

HOW TEMPTATION STARTED JUST BEFORE AND DURING THE FAST:
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Immediately I decided I was to fast, and also remove myself from social media, dating app .etc...The Temptation started. The day before the fast, My neighbours, a pretty lady, came banging on my door to come and say hi to her friend who came visiting. Of course I knew the game. Cos my neighbour is a coded Olosho. She sometimes hook me up with her friends in the name of flexing and neighbour things .
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My spirit began to war. I told her I would come later. So I delayed. When it was time to fetch water. I used the avenue to open my door, and say hi to both of them in a very jiffy manner.
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By evening she called me to come and meet them at the bar that one of her babes, that gal, wants to meet me, It was Easter Friday I guess..they were three. Of course. If I went, we wud smoke, drink, talk rubbish and I will definitely end up with one of the ladies in my bed. It was easy sex for me. They disturbed my phone for long, until they got tired and realised I would not come.
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The following day, I started the fast.
One way that helped me in my fast is cutting out all distractions, empty shatters and phone screen time. But focus more on scriptures, listening to my favorites pastor on YouTube and praying.
By day 4, my spirit was already feeling light and aloof. I was already refusing the urge to look at ladies amorously or turning my head to check out their behind. It wasnt easy. But possible.
My neighbours and some ladies kept disturbing my phone...I tweaked my phone to stop seeing any WhatsApp status. I stopped chatting gals random gals altogether. I deleted all porn on my phone and Laptop. Delete all porn group on Telegram....

To be contd

How The Fast Became Potent
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I have fasted in the past but the level of discipline I infused into this fast was different. I also regulated my activities, interractions, idle talks was completely shut out. Listening to words of knowledge and scriptures from my favorites Pastor really helped to shift my mentality and renew my mind. I think that was the icing. So praying with knowledge now makes prayer easier to do. And somehow, my urge to research the scriptures became all time high.
Infact my spirit was humbled and had to behave like I was a day zero Christian. So Bible reading became more powerful and interesting. I could see how God's word was there all along to help us in times of trouble.
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3 days to the end of my Fast: I atended a programme with a club I'm a member
Ladies were everywhere, food, drinks, and flirtations. But I kept my heart and refused to be moved. Unlike me, I would have been strategizing immoral thoughts and sinful plans. Even the varieties of the food dint move me. The program was concluded around 3pm at Millenium park Abuja. I stayed back at the park, founded a secluded area to meditate and pray, and listen to a program on my phone.

REALITY AFTER THE FAST
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I experienced God's help during and after the fast. But I quickly realised that the fast alone won't carry me far if I don't continually immerse myself in God's word, prayers and meditating on his works.
After about a week post fast, I relapsed, or let me say I almost relapsed.....

To be contd

As I type this, rain is falling. My old me would have been craving Cigarette, Alcohol, Weed, and women. But I have peace at the moment and God truly cares. Even my health has improved. And God has Controlled my roving eyes and immoral spirit in me

How I Relapsed To My Former Habit And How God Saved Me
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You see, the devil and immoral spirit is very real, and our mind is its workshop. Once our mind is conquered, we are gone.
One week after my fasting, I was still living intentionally but one day, my inability to say NO started a chain of events that led me astray
No wonder the Bible told us to shun bad companies and to also flee from immorality.
So there's this lady, about 40, but still chopping things and doing coded ashewo. She's pretty and looked like a married woman cos she dresses well...
She knew me from one of our bars back then when I usually visited and one night that I had an issue with a cultist guy at the bar.
The lady also visits this neighbours of mine whom I say also does coded Olosho. One funny thing about Abuja is that, It's very easy to fall into sexual sin, again and again. Sex is everywhere in Abuja. It's so terrible, and the people sexually free and casual. This I notice

This lady called me, said bla bla bla, come to so so place, let's flex..etc...I knew what would end it ...I told her I was not around that by 6pm I would let her know. Note that I was not fasting this time. It's over a week after my fast. An hour later my neighbour also called me and said" let's go so so place, so so people are coming don't worry it will be fun". The truth is for close to 3 weeks I hadn't taken alcohol, or smoked or gone to a bar. So I was not really interested, even though that first lady is one of those gals I usually have dirty thing with
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They began to chat me as if it was planned. So around 5 pm I met my neighbour and she started telling about this idle gist , alcohol..etc that we should go...My spirit was not ready, but a part of me was saying go...u don't have to engage Ur mind. Or just go and order for malt, or just take one bottle..lol....At last the first lady came and also encourage us...so we went together. Anyway, they knew I was always fun to be with and would spend too...I guess that also was the reason they wanted me to come along even though I wasn't interested. You know ladies .
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We got there, there were guys, Men, ladies, drinks, gist..pepper soup.
At some point my spirit told me to leave...I didn't, then after taking 3 bottles, I ordered for Origin bitters. I was gone. At that point I was left to my devices. And all I wanted was to smoke, like others ...chaiiiii! Bad companies will corrupt you.
By my side, One man was already chyking and negotiating codedly with my neighbour..I acted as if nothing was happening. Then rain began to fall and I began to smoke, smoke smoke. That was it. The next was to awake that spirit of lust. I struggled with my spirit. The lady that followed us realised I wasn't going towards that direction, unknowing I was fighting the urge..she ported to another guy in the crowded bar.....
To be contd.

Thank God to this extent. I pray that He who began this good work in you shall perfect it.

That said, I think it's too early to start celebrating and think you're completely free from personal experience.

Perhaps you should wait till at least a year or 2 to confirm this, so try and be more sober about it til then when your victory would be more established and hard to undo.

God bless.

Those ladies probably felt they caught a big fish two men had invited them to a table by the side after some of the guys on our table had left. I was just drinking, smoking and kicking myself for doing what I'm doing. But I couldn't stop.
After some gisting and drinking with the men, which the men ordered, those ladies came back to our table and started telling me how those men was so lustful and yet couldn't spend enough...Tor. What's my own?
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Alas I finally defeated the spirit that told me to look for a lady to sleep with that night, After wasting my cash on drinks, smoke and pepepsoup....so I told the ladies we should head home. The other lady was confused I didn't do anything like cajole her to come with me.
But by the time I got home, I was now restless with sexual urge that come with drunkenness.
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One thing I learnt and can now say is that, if we truly are sincere about serving God and yielding ourselves to him, then drinking and smoking must naturally go. Otherwise, they will lead us into lust and temptation, cos it's a fact that Smoke and Alcohol lowers our inhibitions and can easily yield us to sin of the flesh.

Since I was home, after the drinking and smoking, I started calling my plug for emergency sex. I was gone totally and possessed, now craving sex. She told me to come, I got there, shortly after a man came in, it was around 10 or so, I think the man is her secret fling. So argument ensued, I insulted the gal and the man, and I left angrily.

..Since then I have never called Her, and she never called me. I'm not even bothered cos she's already in my sinful past. Because despite all my disobedience that night, God still found a way to destroy my plan to have sex, I guess just to teach me a lesson and remind me of my vow for him.
So I went home, shattered and disappointed in myself cos it took me so long to listen to God.
So I slept the night ruminating my missteps.
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MORE TEMPTATION, GODS GRACE AND LESSONS:

to be contd

jesusjnr2020:
Thank God to this extent. I pray that He who began this good work in you shall perfect it.

That said, I think it's too early to start celebrating and think you're completely free from personal experience.

Perhaps you should wait till at least a year or 2 to confirm this, so try and be more sober about it til then when your victory would be more established and hard to undo.

God bless.

Yes you are right, but within those two months, I have learned many great lessons and God have been faithful.
I'm putting it out to encourage someone and to say if we truly wanted to shun sexual immorality, it's doable and one of the proven method is to deaden ourselves through fast, constant fasting, and deep understanding of God's word and shunning bad companies

After The Bar Incident I learnt The Following LESSONS
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1. To yield ourselves to God means that we will no longer do what we used to to. And this comes with difficult choices we must make

A. There are certain places we must not go
B. There are certain people we should not move with or keep deep company with
C. Long discussion with certain people should be stopped especially those who can inflict us negatively
D. Constant listening to God's word, attending church programs, reading your Bible is a must if you want to maintain your stand...because the devil is always prowling using different bait, looking to see us fall into his net.

So I made those adjustments, and keep examining myself and my heart.....

PeterObi4Presid:

Yes you are right, but within those two months, I have learned many great lessons and God have been faithful.
I'm putting it out to encourage someone and to say if we truly wanted to shun sexual immorality, it's doable and one of the proven method is to deaden ourselves through fast, constant fasting, and deep understanding of God's word and shunning bad companies

Congrats OP its something to be proud of....those of us that have been deep into immortality know what that it's not a good feeling...some people think sexual freedom is liberating but it's actually not.

We are proud of you and please guard your heart at all cost because demons will surely want to bring other demons to subdue you...so you have a huge fight ahead and make sure you're prepared👍👍

After that bar Incident, another thing happened. About 3 ladies, who I have never laid with started chatting me looking for those sinful attention I used to give. This time, I cut the conversation very short and blunt. Infact, ever since, I have reduced my time on WhatsApp drastically to my surprise. And I have peace and better management of my time, money and plans. Me that I used to run away from church, I now plan days ahead to attend my new found church. Any strange girls that call me usually meet with cold intent unlike before when I will start planning for sex days ahead ...chaii

While continuing to delve into the scriptures, I noticed how the Bible is powerfully loaded for our help and how little we really know about it because the norms of the society has crowded out the word of God from our spirit and has replaced it with the lust for money, women pride and evil ambition.

As I continue to get conscious of God's presence that I carry, I began to see ladies, beautiful gals that I will usually want to lay or seduce, I began to see them as needing help even spiritually, because many of them are being used by the devil because they've yielded themselves to him
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So it's easy to see them in churches rolling and manifesting during deliverance. Unfortunately these ladies with different spirit are the ones we are always lusting after, even paying them huge money to sleep with them. Is that not madness? Paying devil to have access to our soul and contaminate our lives. May God give us understanding.

LIFESTYLE OF FASTING IS POSSIBLE AND IMPORTANT FOR DOMINION

Something I also note is that, my spirit now occasionally tell me to fast for no reason, other than to get closer to him. Listening to God's word or reading the scriptures is more like waiting to discover some hidden gem.
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That bar incident polluted my mind and I had to go on 7 days fasting 6pm to 6pm Daniel fast. This time, I only break with fruit, plain beans or garri. And God has been good really.
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I also made another decision to leave that area, though it had been in my plan prior to time of repentance.

So I relocated from that area with a new understanding and realisation of how and whyvI had succumbed to the machinations of the devil and how I allowed the powers of the territorial spirit of lust to hold me down. Now I'm free, cos I have knowledge of the word.
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I'm now more dedicated to God but then I discovered something in my new area and compound.

To be contd

MY CHURCH, MY NEW APARTMENT AND WHAT I NOTICED

Now it's very apt to admit that by the time I was looking to relocate, one most important reason in my choice of area was the nearness to my church.
Notice that I I rarely go to church prior to now, not that I hate church, far from it, but I find it hard to connect to what our generation Pastors and churches stand for. Even in my sin, on few occasions I'm pressed to go to church, I get easily repulsed right in the church by the self centred doctrines of the sermon

And about 3 years ago after a life changing and NDE, I stopped being an agnostic, but I was still a skeptic confused non challant Christain who love worldly pleasures and unable to resist them.
It was very funny how that moment I decided to let go and follow God coincided with when I stumbled on a couple of Pastors on Youtube whom my heart resonate with their preaching. Until then, no preaching gets at me, until I started listening to them. I would say it was the turning point of my life.
So I started to look for their address in Abuja and plan to attend.
So at the time when I started my fasting, coincidentally, I decided I would end the fast on a Sunday in this new church. I went there, and the atmosphere was a testament of God's presence. And decidedly, as I've been listening to the sermon on YouTube, my presence on the church even confirmed to me that I belong in that church. No body invited me, nobody gave me first timer pastors shake and They didn't ask me what I do, or those meaningless protocol most churches follow just to know how well they should treat you
So, I usually go to this church at Gwarinpa. And I spend about 2K going there. Imagine me spending 2k to attend church..lol...Me that they will beg to go to church next to my house

See ehn, if God arrest you, you will go far to hear his word and commune with him.
So my priority for new apartment was to get it close to church cos I was genuinely interested in forming a relationship with God and I believe that gathering will be of help based on their sermon, kingdom objectives and congregation goal.
So this was how I got my new apartment not too far but then, Tinubu came with Subsidy, and Transport fare is now costlier than I had envisaged.
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GIRLS EVERYWHERE IN MY NEW HOUSE

To be contd...

When I was still neck deep in scouting for immoral women for my bed, I have always heard Gwarinpa is a notorious place for hook up and immorality. Until I started going to my church in Gwarinpa, I had only been there few occasions for visit. Though I usually entertain the idea of going there to mess up ..but my spirit never directed me there.. I have plenty other areas I frequent those days.
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Now that I worship around there and stay close, it can only be God who have temperered my spirit to not notice or take as priority the idea of scouting for their bars and clubs or women for my pleasure.
The area I now stay is even more open and busy than my previous place with more avenue to succumb ....but hey, seems my focus and mentality has shifted.
It is now I realised the idea that being born again is a change in spirit, it's a transformation and renewal of mind. Your priority will shift.
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When I got to my new place, before packing in, It has always been a quiet place until a Sunday that I packed in. Surprisingly I met about 5 beautiful ladies of different size colour and figure gisting in idleness . I was shocked. I never envisage to find myself in such place. But then they aren't the problem. It's my mind.
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Ordinarily , when I go to a new place, my eyes start roving and turning looking and savouring the shape of beautiful ladies in lust and hoping to start counting sexual scores. Thank God that idea has left me. It can only be God.

Sexual thought with ladies no longer cross my mind. I've never been this sober for so long...this is about two months. I'm grateful to God. I pray he hears my prayer and take care of other cares of mine that Robs me of my peace occasionally.
While I was packing in, I notice that those ladies were friendly, playful and all, and one even tried to assist me when I was struggling with a load. Another made some jokes. Then I noticed almost all of them had chain on their legs. Omoh. Could they all be lesbians? Or Olosho? They have the vibe though.
And this morning I saw another one I never saw. Shes average height, plum, dark, and well dressed. She was going to work and was friendly when she asked if I was a new occupant.....(she appeared the most modest, aside from one whose prayer wakes me in the night)
One testimony I have is this, if it was my former self, I would have been thinking, how I will endear myself and lay wwith one or two of them..... The truth is being in this sexually charged area and being able to stay sober minding my business is a shift I never experienced cos I was so addicted to women.

Stories I can't share. I think this moment and my new environment is a test of my faith and courage to eschew immorality. Test truly comes when we decide to follow God. But we receive power and grace the more test we pass.
My urge for alcohol has almost totally gone. I used to drink almost everyday until now.
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Then Something almost made cry:

To be continued

I've got my own story too.

My brother continue persisting in your times of trial and God will give you victory.

There are a group of people the devil is afraid of even when he has a strong grip on them.

These are people that know what they are doing is wrong and have a persistent spirit.

No matter how many time a man fails while trying, if he decides not to try anymore that will be the ultimate failure.

Keep fighting. Jesus loves you

fijiuba:
I've got my own story too.

My brother continue persisting in your times of trial and God will give you victory.

There are a group of people the devil is afraid of even when he has a strong grip on them.

These are people that know what they are doing is wrong and have a persistent spirit.

No matter how many time a man fails while trying, if he decides not to try anymore that will be the ultimate failure.

Keep fighting. Jesus loves you

Thanks for the encouragement

More grace

fijiuba:
I've got my own story too.

My brother continue persisting in your times of trial and God will give you victory.

There are a group of people the devil is afraid of even when he has a strong grip on them.

These are people that know what they are doing is wrong and have a persistent spirit.

No matter how many time a man fails while trying, if he decides not to try anymore that will be the ultimate failure.

Keep fighting. Jesus loves you

We will love to your hear own battles

The love of God for us


John 3:16
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.


When Adam sinned, he lost the direct access he initially had with God. (Genesis 3) God decided to send his only begotten son (Jesus) to pay the price for our sins on the cross of calvary because of his love for us. When Christ resurrected, he restored all privileges that we once had and brought redemption to us all. All we need is to believe that he died for our sin and has once again granted us direct access with God. No longer through an intermediary! (Mathew 27:50-53).

Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.

If our earthly parents care so much for us, how much more our father in heaven! (Luke 11:11-13). God’s love for us is infinite. He has promised to supply all our needs according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. (Philipians 4:19).


Prayer of Salvation

Lord Jesus, I accept and acknowledge you as my personal lord and savior. I sincerely ask that you forgive my sins. Come into my life and pour out your spirit on me. By faith, I receive the promise of the father, which is the holy spirit. (John 14:16) I thank you for the price that you paid for me on the cross of calvary. Thank you for my redemption. I pray that your power, grace and favor will abide with me now and forever more. Amen.

Benfaco:
The love of God for us


John 3:16
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.


When Adam sinned, he lost the direct access he initially had with God. (Genesis 3) God decided to send his only begotten son (Jesus) to pay the price for our sins on the cross of calvary because of his love for us. When Christ resurrected, he restored all privileges that we once had and brought redemption to us all. All we need is to believe that he died for our sin and has once again granted us direct access with God. No longer through an intermediary! (Mathew 27:50-53).

Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.

If our earthly parents care so much for us, how much more our father in heaven! (Luke 11:11-13). God’s love for us is infinite. He has promised to supply all our needs according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. (Philipians 4:19).


Prayer of Salvation

Lord Jesus, I accept and acknowledge you as my personal lord and savior. I sincerely ask that you forgive my sins. Come into my life and pour out your spirit on me. By faith, I receive the promise of the father, which is the holy spirit. (John 14:16) I thank you for the price that you paid for me on the cross of calvary. Thank you for my redemption. I pray that your power, grace and favor will abide with me now and forever more. Amen.

This is a complete sermon. I thought u wanted to contribute in relation to the topic? cool anyway

PeterObi4Presid:

We will love to your hear own battles

That will not be today . It's a long story. And I don't know if it should be on this thread.

While still being fresh in the area and in the compound, I try to live humbly and true to the calling of purity that God has called me.
One day, I went about my normal hustle and I I lost a huge amount of money, even as I tried, I lost more, so I got frustrated angry and was moved to get out of the house; and I began to stroll around to familiarise myself with the street and let out some steam. It was in the evening around 7pm inching into darkness
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If it was those days, that anger and strolling mood would have wound me in a beer parlour drinking, smoking and trying to take home a new babe from the new environment. I walked around and saw some bars, and I had no urge to enter any. After strolling up and down, I was headed home.
Two street before my house I saw a bar that escaped my notice when I was going, so I decided to see what's going on there, with no aim to drink. Immediately I strolled in, I saw snooker board at one corner of the bar and a bunch of guys playing, taking their turns, gisting and hailing, while I intentionally condemn other people around to my blindspot.
Ordinarily, I don't know how to play snooker and I hardly ever stay where it is played even when I was still outgoing. But now I guess the boredom, and frustration of losing money made me like want to relieve stress by hanging or looking around.
I sat by the edge watching them play, but my mind wasnt particularly there and i couldn't really see the fun in the snooker, but I was there killing time. I didn't survey the beer parlour as I would have done in those days with roving eyes trying to scan for idle strategically placed ladies of the night. I pretend to focus on the Snooker. But within minutes I noticed a lady just at the opposite end of me, on the other side of the Snooker board sat resting on the wall pretending to be pressing her phone and listening to music. Her appearance made her look like someone who doesn't want to be bothered, who was probably killing time like me, cos I noticed no guys for over 20 mins talked to her even though we were all in same corner of the bar.
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Then she lifted up her face and began to stare at me, gaze intently, and in the end it became obvious her primary reason for being at the bar. This time she was now leering at me, licking her lips seductively and pouting her tongues whenever our eyes locks. I knew this was the moment, the antics. But within me, I was unmoved. Devil is really strategic, he comes gently with harmless subtle suggestions but later intensifies his scheming to get us if we don't discern. In those days I have 95% chance she will end in my bed especially being a new area.
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So I tried as much as possible to avoid looking straight at her. I did intentionally cos obviously she has the seductive spirit I'm very used to in the past. After a while she realises I wasn't focusing on her but the snooker, she stood up... and tried to stroll past my vision so I could savour all her package, in a secs I saw her package...which was seductive, but my mind still wasn't moved. She paced around multiple times every time trying to lock eyes with me while I try to look away.
Then she walked away, I never followed her with my gaze as I would have done in the past. But then she came back with cigarette, blowing it intermittently, seductively staring, now intensifying her schemes. I'm aware of the whole game. I ignored her. More guys began to smoke with that big boy vibe, I ignored their foolishness. When she was done, she disappeared. I got a call from my landlord, I disappeared too. it was already late though close to my house.
When I was home, I was thankful not even the cigarette nor the lady moved me....I felt the anointing of the transformation being real.
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I was even most thankful for the victory against smoking, and I appreciate my new serene environment. But I was still feeling frustrated for the money I lost. I made for my bed trying to get some rest, and the smoke of cigarettes filtered in. I'm beginning to hate the smell of smoke around me, and even more strongly where I stay unlike before when I would smoke all days even in my room. That smell of cigarettes in my room jolted some memories in the past i mow hated. And I became angry the more in my spirit.

Alas I discovered it is actually my care-taker/agent who smokes in the compound every evening and morning. I was unhappy that despite trying to wiggle myself away from such influence, the thought that I woupd have to endure the smell for at least one year, made me even angry that why did God allow me get into this new house when he knew I really wanted to avoid smokers and smoking.
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The final lesson for me is that. When we resolve to live in purity, we should be ready for various tests and temptation. And if we continue to pass these test, We will grow stronger.