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Is This A Red Flag? by Happychild101: 2:16pm On Jun 12, 2023
I have been dating this girl for 2 years now. Although we're both young but it's a serious something.
I have a bsc and presently doing some small small online writing to put body and soul together while she learnt tailoring and she has her own shop with apprentice.
The issue is anything she comes to my place and she cooks she always dish the best part of the food for herself. Even tho it's my money and food and gas. Even if it's indomie and we cook 4 she go serve her own more than mine. If it's soup she'll take the biggest meat and give me anyhow meat ......I do overlook all this but it's getting too much and I do correct her everytime yet no changes.
What do you guys think?
What she did yesterday that triggered me reevaluating myself was that since fuel subsidy has gone...to work is very expensive I can't buy fuel for 500 and no regular light in our area so I went to my elder bros place for a week in another state to complete some jobs with me. She Na called me that someone invited her to one church in another place I told her no problem go. Later in the afternoon she called me that she wants to go out oh. I said shebi Na church u wan go and you've told me yesterday I gave you the permission....she Na said ehn it's one guy she wants to follow out that he wants to take her out. Wetin I go talk ? I allowed. Waking up this morning I see my babe status she don upload video of her chilling and taking shot of Smirnoff vodka with the guy.
The thing pain me sha I say make I carry am come here make una help me contribute or give advise.

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Re: Is This A Red Flag? by Manna4Gurls: 2:28pm On Jun 12, 2023
I no one say anything for this but I later did cos na man u bi.

As you have a woman no bad. The Koko bi say na pretender you have .

As I'd eye try gather myself I no need anybody to put body.

People sha get energy to invest on women.

Make e no pain u my brother.wetin u expect b4 from this generation? To remain faithful while she knows another man that is able?

Leave woman build ursef. Avoid relationship invest in ursef
Re: Is This A Red Flag? by Michaelspresh(f): 2:32pm On Jun 12, 2023
So you people don't eat together?

That flag has a very Deep red color...

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Re: Is This A Red Flag? by slawomir: 2:32pm On Jun 12, 2023
Damnnn niggar

Ogbeni relax

If you don't bother yourself about who your baby girl talks to, chat with, hangout around with and whereabout that is when a she will love you the more

But if you monitor her too much and always concerned about her whereabout she will see you as a weak man

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Re: Is This A Red Flag? by Happychild101: 3:09pm On Jun 12, 2023
slawomir:
Damnnn niggar

Ogbeni relax

If you don't bother yourself about who your baby girl talks to, chat with, hangout around with and whereabout that is when a she will love you the more

But if you monitor her too much and always concerned about her whereabout she will see you as a weak man
It's not like I monitor her or anything....it's just how going to a church she was invited to turned to outing with another guy overnight.
The food part has been there from scratch
Re: Is This A Red Flag? by Happychild101: 3:09pm On Jun 12, 2023
Michaelspresh:
So you people don't eat together?

That flag has a very Deep red color...
No we don't.....maybe I should adopt that for a change
Re: Is This A Red Flag? by Pierohandsome: 3:19pm On Jun 12, 2023
I don't really get this part of a woman in a relationship, and yet going out on a date with another man, and the man will still be asking questions about things like this.


Any woman still hanging out on a date with another man even while in a serious relationship is already cheating, or planning to cheat once her right partner comes, you are just a place holder

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Re: Is This A Red Flag? by Michaelspresh(f): 3:36pm On Jun 12, 2023
Happychild101:

No we don't.....maybe I should adopt that for a change
if she kicks against it

Leave the relationship..
Eating together creates another kind of bond
Re: Is This A Red Flag? by Oluromantic: 3:38pm On Jun 12, 2023
It's a black flag. The relationship won't last. Take that from me
Re: Is This A Red Flag? by Ogechi98: 4:37pm On Jun 12, 2023
Bro I for like advice you but I doubt if you go take my advice serious, but incase you change your mind just know this, as long as you are in a relationship with a Nigerian girl don't expect her to be faithful, loyal or honest it's really not their thing though so just focus more on yourself, chase the bag and be happy.
Happychild101:
I have been dating this girl for 2 years now. Although we're both young but it's a serious something.
I have a bsc and presently doing some small small online writing to put body and soul together while she learnt tailoring and she has her own shop with apprentice.
The issue is anything she comes to my place and she cooks she always dish the best part of the food for herself. Even tho it's my money and food and gas. Even if it's indomie and we cook 4 she go serve her own more than mine. If it's soup she'll take the biggest meat and give me anyhow meat ......I do overlook all this but it's getting too much and I do correct her everytime yet no changes.
What do you guys think?
What she did yesterday that triggered me reevaluating myself was that since fuel subsidy has gone...to work is very expensive I can't buy fuel for 500 and no regular light in our area so I went to my elder bros place for a week in another state to complete some jobs with me. She Na called me that someone invited her to one church in another place I told her no problem go. Later in the afternoon she called me that she wants to go out oh. I said shebi Na church u wan go and you've told me yesterday I gave you the permission....she Na said ehn it's one guy she wants to follow out that he wants to take her out. Wetin I go talk ? I allowed. Waking up this morning I see my babe status she don upload video of her chilling and taking shot of Smirnoff vodka with the guy.
The thing pain me sha I say make I carry am come here make una help me contribute or give advise.

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Re: Is This A Red Flag? by Psady(m): 4:38pm On Jun 12, 2023
Your babe seem to be a spoilt and immature type,and I could sense u love her so much than she love u.She's somehow taking u for granted for being cool headed. Talk some sense into her ,if she doesn't change,you are in for a whole lot more discoveries.
Re: Is This A Red Flag? by machote: 6:19pm On Jun 12, 2023
While the Lioness hunts, the Lion has the first share and serves himself first.

Are you seeing the problem now?
Re: Is This A Red Flag? by Happychild101: 6:28pm On Jun 12, 2023
machote:
While the Lioness hunts, the Lion has the first share and serves himself first.

Are you seeing the problem now?
But I'm the lion and I'm the one hunting
Re: Is This A Red Flag? by Happychild101: 6:28pm On Jun 12, 2023
Psady:
Your babe seem to be a spoilt and immature type,and I could sense u love her so much than she love u.She's somehow taking u for granted for being cool headed. Talk some sense into her ,if she doesn't change,you are in for a whole lot more discoveries.
Thanks for the input
Re: Is This A Red Flag? by machote: 6:29pm On Jun 12, 2023
Happychild101:

But I'm the lion and I'm the one hunting
Na u dey get the small meat. Think again grin
Re: Is This A Red Flag? by Happychild101: 6:32pm On Jun 12, 2023
machote:

Na u dey get the small meat. Think again grin
tongue cry
This is another angle.
Re: Is This A Red Flag? by austine4real(m): 7:06pm On Jun 12, 2023
grin grin

Please leave our girlfriend alone


U can chop her alone na

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