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Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by djon78(m): 11:24am On Jun 13, 2023
Rayban25:


Christ is a good factor...but he wouldn't do the work for the husband and wife..they have their parts to play in keeping the marriage..there are some families both husband and wife are pastors and they gave up on the marriage tells you that marriage is no walk in the park...there are a lot of sacrifices and compromises to be made

Exactly
Like Christian couples aren't divorcing

Many Christian marriages are crashing

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Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by talented321: 11:26am On Jun 13, 2023
Up to you for marrying a man with mental head, because their is always red flags in beginning.
omooba969:


Some of these heads don't a functional brain you know. grin
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by sonofthunder: 11:27am On Jun 13, 2023
Media145:



Also studies confirm that higher number of relationships/sexual-partners before marriage increases the chances of divorce


But what do I know

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Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by frankson1(m): 11:31am On Jun 13, 2023
Media145:




And one 'yeye' mod after reading this, moved it to front page undecided undecided

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Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by gudugudumeje: 11:32am On Jun 13, 2023
What you advanced is not true.... What many churches and mosques cause is another. Environment matters too...
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by omooba969(m): 11:40am On Jun 13, 2023
sonofthunder:



Also studies confirm that higher number of relationships/sexual-partners before marriage increases the chances of divorce


But what do I know

Do you agree with such study?
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Banbanna(m): 11:40am On Jun 13, 2023
Na too much exposure to western lifestyle/pornography cause am na. When there wasn't much western media & cultural influences in Africa,
way back in the day, things like this was unknown to us. The sexual acts of most youths of our generation are being done solely to impress the opposite sex. It's like a marathon to them. The physical performance is far more paramount than any emotional catering.
taylor89:
Your parents living together till death isn’t a yardstick for good marriage

The reason for divorce and bad marriages of today na material things

You used your C300 Benz of 12million to snatch a hustling guys babe and tomorrow you’ll expect her to be faithful when a man who divers 2022 Lexus LX600 of 80 million

Another reason is too much of sexual expectations in marriages

Man would dump his organic wife at the sight of a big ass BBL lady

Woman will dump her organic man looking for a billionaire with 6 packs that has cucumber penis that can last 80hrs

The other day I overheard a woman defending her promiscuous act shouting on top of her voice that she cheated because her husband doesn’t give her head

I shock. Bcuz since them born me till today I never hear my mom telling my dad to give him head

Who invented this head giving sef

You can’t even use the word head in public again unless you have to be specific like head of charger head of fish head of family

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Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by strongman07(m): 11:43am On Jun 13, 2023
You guys need to understand that in the past women used to be ashamed of divorce because it was a big embarrassment, but today women aren't shame about being divorce... The see divorce as freedom instead of being patient for things to work out. I'm not saying you should stay in an abusive marriage/relationship but to tolerate and remember to stay committed if you guys are serious in what you agreed on

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Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Brushstrokes20: 11:44am On Jun 13, 2023
Hmmmm!....❤️ Love is indeed a scary mystery sometimes....
Imagine from being STRANGERS to LOVERS and back to STRANGERS 😳. #scary as Fvck!
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Emeka71(m): 11:45am On Jun 13, 2023
taylor89:
Your parents living together till death isn’t a yardstick for good marriage

The reason for divorce and bad marriages of today na material things

You used your C300 Benz of 12million to snatch a hustling guys babe and tomorrow you’ll expect her to be faithful when a man who divers 2022 Lexus LX600 of 80 million

Another reason is too much of sexual expectations in marriages

Man would dump his organic wife at the sight of a big ass BBL lady

Woman will dump her organic man looking for a billionaire with 6 packs that has cucumber penis that can last 80hrs

The other day I overheard a woman defending her promiscuous act shouting on top of her voice that she cheated because her husband doesn’t give her head
I shock. Bcuz since them born me till today I never hear my mom telling my dad to give him head

Who invented this head giving sef

You can’t even use the word head in public again unless you have to be specific like head of charger head of fish head of family
So right.
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by SeriouslySense(m): 11:45am On Jun 13, 2023
sometimes people reason upside down and don't even have the ability to think properly or soundly.

This itself is a problem.

Get the ability to think properly, then i will reply smiley smiley
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by ehay(f): 11:49am On Jun 13, 2023
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MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT NONSENSE!!!!!

there are more divorces today simply because...
A) its easy to get divorced today, compared to back in the days. in the past most of these women were jobless and couldnt divorce their husbands, but today, most women are gainfully employed and can manage to be on their own.
B) people marry for the wrong reasons, thanks to African culture/society....aka marriage because of [color=#990000]RELIGIOUS/SOCIAL/FAMILY/PEER PRESSURE!
C) because lots of people have NO CLUE how hard it is to stay happily married. marriage aint a game and sadly, many only figure that out when its too late
D) because people are lazy!!!! so many were pretending to be who they were not (before marriage), in order to catch the right partner....and now that they are married, they dont need to pretend any longer,thats when their partner will discover the real character of their spouse. and sometimes it aint that great
E) what do you expect when you have so many women out there that are so FAKE (fake hair, fake foundation, fake eyelashes, fake nails, fake push up bras, fake padded underwear, fake accent, fake education, fake background etc)? some men only discover the true face of their partner after marriage, and it aint that great
F) so many women enter marriage as slim sexy princesses, and within 2/3 years (or kids) they end up looking like a baby whale version of shrek, and you wonder why so many men aint repulse by their wives?!
G) many people today marry SOLELY for money, and when a man with MORE money comes along and/or their spouse loses their money, then the marriage will rightfully be over.

Okayyooo, nothing about men cheating on their wife's and topping the act with an STI/STD ? It's alright.

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Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by omooba969(m): 11:59am On Jun 13, 2023
Brushstrokes20:
Hmmmm!....❤️ Love is indeed a scary mystery sometimes....
Imagine from being STRANGERS to LOVERS and back to STRANGERS 😳. #scary as Fvck!

This is one of the reasons aliens 👽👽👽 find us fascinating and visit us uninvited. grin
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by ednut1(m): 12:01pm On Jun 13, 2023
False and bogus. Most of those divorcing today came from two parent homes
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Nobody: 12:01pm On Jun 13, 2023
ehay:
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Okayyooo, nothing about men cheating on their wife's and topping the act with an STI/STD ? It's alright.

Nobody said that it dosent occur. But more often than not women are the major causes of divorce because they all want to be woke
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Adgraced: 12:03pm On Jun 13, 2023
Marriage requires work, patience and tolerance. If 2 people value their union and what is created out of it, they will practice these 3 things. Without which marriage cannot survive the test of time. Don't let anyone deceive you that love sustains marriage. Love only does about 5% of the work. White folks love like crazy but their marriages do not last. Reason is; they nor get time for these 3 attributes!
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by InvertedHammer: 12:10pm On Jun 13, 2023
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Divorce is only high in countries with impressionable adult population who swallow all the toxicity emanating from the West. A copy culture like Nigeria gravitate towards Western ideologies to the detriment of their culture, customs and traditions. Divorce, feminism, transgender are getting pushback from many countries around the world but will get strong foothold in Nigeria because Nigerians are quick to embrace anything shoved down their throat by Oyibo (eg religion) and will defend it with the last drop of their blood.

Why is divorce not high among Asians and Middle-Eastners who only copy Western technology but retain their tradition? More researches should be focused on these areas.

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Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Edusouls(m): 12:13pm On Jun 13, 2023
talented321:
'If your parent are divorced, you are also likely to get divorced in your marriage'. Oga this your write up is very wrong, first the world has changed compared to those days of our forefathes, imagine a guy paying a woman 200k or more for one night, it will be very hard for that woman to last with a man especially when thing go sour in the marriage, all because she have another alternative, i don't want to type much but just accept it that the world has changed and nothing is going to stop it, but it will get worsen day by day. Social media is one of the problem.
exactly bro ur on point
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Dada4me: 12:16pm On Jun 13, 2023
Rayban25:


Christ is a good factor...but he wouldn't do the work for the husband and wife..they have their parts to play in keeping the marriage..there are some families both husband and wife are pastors and they gave up on the marriage tells you that marriage is no walk in the park...there are a lot of sacrifices and compromises to be made

That they are pastors doesn't make them Christians. Christians are led and controlled by the teachings and lifestyle of Christ. One who is truely endmeshed in Christ will not descend so low in his/her relationship with the spouse to the point of getting divorce.

I have seen couples go through what should be an excuse for them to go their separate ways, everyone around them gave up on them but still stuck together and weathered through.

If your marriage is going through tough times, surrender your heart to the Lord genuinely and see Christ mending every broken or cracked wall in your marriage.
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by paltielx: 12:18pm On Jun 13, 2023
For me it's abundance of sex outside matrimonial home, feminism, intolerance and breakdown of character in the society
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by sonofthunder: 12:21pm On Jun 13, 2023
omooba969:


Do you agree with such study?



Yes.... I believe their claims are valid and it makes sense psychologically due to how we garner up human expectations and make comparisons in terms of finances, looks, taste, complexion, sexual prowess, etc.




It also emphasises a core lack of discipline and a likelihood to "runaway"..... Else why didn't "you" settle with one of your previous partners until their growing numbers became a list?
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Dada4me: 12:24pm On Jun 13, 2023
djon78:


Exactly
Like Christian couples aren't divorcing

Many Christian marriages are crashing

Not everyone parading themselves as Christians are really Christians.

The word Christianity is being redefined to suit our lifestyle rather than make our lifestyle suit Christianity.
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Brushstrokes20: 12:26pm On Jun 13, 2023
omooba969:


This is one of the reasons aliens 👽👽👽 find us fascinating and visit us uninvited. grin
😄😄
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Chinny024(f): 12:26pm On Jun 13, 2023
Media145:
Two people who loved each other so much in the past now turned against themselves and have now become bitter enemies after some years. So do you think this is ordinary?

Cc: RoyalRoy
Mynd44
Dominque
Seun
AOM4J

It's ordinary na...Abi what do you suspect?
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Chinny024(f): 12:28pm On Jun 13, 2023
Brushstrokes20:
Hmmmm!....❤️ Love is indeed a scary mystery sometimes....
Imagine from being STRANGERS to LOVERS and back to STRANGERS 😳. #scary as Fvck!

Exactly 💯...

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Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by terabyte002: 12:28pm On Jun 13, 2023
Topic of this nature should be reserve for divorced couples who feels their experience is worth sharing for others to learn. In my own simple opinion, i believe marriage will survive any trial if there is no form of cheating involves, especially by the wife. No real man will forgive a cheating wife no matter what, even if there are other reasons to forgive and forget, it always hard on the part of a cheating wife to let go of their secret lover which is always the major reason for absolute hatred which only divorce could be solution.
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Tayorshd87: 12:29pm On Jun 13, 2023
MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT NONSENSE!!!!!

there are more divorces today simply because...
A) its easy to get divorced today, compared to back in the days. in the past most of these women were jobless and couldnt divorce their husbands, but today, most women are gainfully employed and can manage to be on their own.
B) people marry for the wrong reasons, thanks to African culture/society....aka marriage because of RELIGIOUS/SOCIAL/FAMILY/PEER PRESSURE!
C) because lots of people have NO CLUE how hard it is to stay happily married. marriage aint a game and sadly, many only figure that out when its too late
D) because people are lazy!!!! so many were pretending to be who they were not (before marriage), in order to catch the right partner....and now that they are married, they dont need to pretend any longer,thats when their partner will discover the real character of their spouse. and sometimes it aint that great
E) what do you expect when you have so many women out there that are so FAKE (fake hair, fake foundation, fake eyelashes, fake nails, fake push up bras, fake padded underwear, fake accent, fake education, fake background etc)? some men only discover the true face of their partner after marriage, and it aint that great
F) so many women enter marriage as slim sexy princesses, and within 2/3 years (or kids) they end up looking like a baby whale version of shrek, and you wonder why so many men aint repulse by their wives?!
G) many people today marry SOLELY for money, and when a man with MORE money comes along and/or their spouse loses their money, then the marriage will rightfully be over.

You are w love and marriage counselor.

God bless you for this point ❤️

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Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Nobody: 12:29pm On Jun 13, 2023
Dada4me:


That they are pastors doesn't make them Christians. Christians are led and controlled by the teachings and lifestyle of Christ. One who is truely endmeshed in Christ will not descend so low in his/her relationship with the spouse to the point of getting divorce.

I have seen couples go through what should be an excuse for them to go their separate ways, everyone around them gave up on them but still stuck together and weathered through.

If your marriage is going through tough times, surrender your heart to the Lord genuinely and see Christ mending every broken or cracked wall in your marriage.

I meant genuine pastors.

Dont try and derail my point.

You've only been married 10 years..which is still very small you're a newbie to marriage..some have broken up after 36 years you think they didnt say what you were saying earlier? I'm not wishing you bad luck.. I'm just telling you the realities of marriage even when you're christ that you still have work to do.

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Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by kkins25(m): 12:29pm On Jun 13, 2023
The reason for increase rate in divorce in today's society is the increased proximity between numerous people.

In the past, one man will not meet up to 1000 girls throughout his lifetime. Today, by 30, you've probably seen more than 100,000 through social media, education, etc.

The consequences of this is the lingering feeling that there's someone out there that is better than your current spouse.

Another important reason to consider is the change in societal norms. Women are being reprogrammed to contribute to the development of society in the same capacity as Men. In the past, women contributed in their capacity as women. They were primarily responsible for raising the children until the children could venture out with their fathers (male children), producing textile, in some societies, as healers, and preparing meals.

Today, there's conflict between the lifetime duty of motherhood and employee phase of life in women. Given biological roles, women would prefer to be in close proximate with their babies, but work won't allow that. Furthermore, the males aren't helping matter because, there are adapting slowly to the change. Some males consciously fight the said change too.

If men could orchestrate a society where the professional life of women would be immediately rebooted after about a year after childbirth, then women will not resist settling down as we see today. All it takes is to set up, collectively, a kind of, day care facility but huge. More so, married women looking to marry soon shouldn't be discriminated against during job interviews. I know, once they feel she will be giving birth soon, they opt for another female with no such plans or a male.

Another Factor is HipHop and Hollywood. The current trend of HipHop and Hollywood is creating a false sense of being for women.

Boss bitch, as they call it, is an idealistic alter-ego that many women have drifted towards. It stimulates the female instinctive nature of "polygamy," which is absolutely detrimental to the woman.

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Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by pacificom: 12:37pm On Jun 13, 2023
Money matter !
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Dada4me: 12:38pm On Jun 13, 2023
Rayban25:


I meant genuine pastors.

Dont try and derail my point.

You've only been married 10 years..which is still very small you're a newbie to marriage..some have broken up after 36 years you think they didnt say what you were saying earlier? I'm not wishing you bad luck.. I'm just telling you the realities of marriage even when you're christ that you still have work to do.

That is how far their work could carry them, if they allowed Christ in with their work they could have gone farther.
Re: Why The Rate Of Divorce Is High & Why Families Break Up by Excellentmind: 12:40pm On Jun 13, 2023
The challenges of marriage these days are numerous, and therefore, no list can be said to be exhaustive. But below are few of them:

1. When both go into marriage with conflicting purposes. One wants a successful marriage and prepares to make any form of sacrifices while the other who wants to make gain will stubbornly refuse responsibility and choose to make no sacrifices.
2. Insincerity of both or one of the parties. Playing games with the affairs of the marriage not considering the consequences of such gimmicks.
3. Many don't understand the primary purpose of marriage and so end up coping and applying what they see others do.
4. Most women want to take decision over the affairs of their marriages, but unwilling to back up these decisions financially even though the capacity exits.
5. Most want their presence to be felt and often times take unreasonable decision. Knowing that these decisions are unreasonable, they are prepared to destroy anything to see their implementations.
6. Third party advice from dumb individuals who do not know better.
7. Competition between the parties out of envy because the purpose of marriage is unknown to them.
I can go on and on, but for the sake of time!

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