Many married people are daily regretting their marriages.
On the other end of the spectrum, many single people are afraid they’ll marry the wrong person.

Here are some reasons why people marry the wrong persons and end their marriages in bitter separations or live to endure it:

1. You focus more on chemistry than on character
Never marry someone because you’re in love. Falling in love is a state of temporary psychosis. It is the “delusion of fusion.” Identify the specific character traits you want in your spouse and know clearly how to assess them for each one.
Background checks are essential. Be especially careful to check out the family.
People from warm and loving homes will most likely be emotionally healthy people.

Chemistry means there is physical and sexual attraction.
Compatibility: Looking for sameness – same backgrounds, culture, language, interests, politics etc. Temperament types are important to know too.

2. You expect him or her to change after you’re married
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