How to never suffer heartbreak as a woman

1. Don't make assumptions to justify his behavior, such as assuming he is testing you, unable to express himself, or carrying emotional baggage from past heartbreaks. If he is not showcasing his love, he simply doesn't love you. A true lover will find it difficult to conceal his love. Love is like light—it is crystal clear and cannot be hidden. If you notice red flags, it's best to dump him.

2. If you have been in a relationship with a guy for six months and his true intentions remain unclear, it is best to end the relationship.

3. Avoid long-term relationships if you have been dating a guy for two years and he has not discussed the topic of marriage with you. If marriage is an important goal for you, it is better to dump him and move on.

4. Love is expressed through actions, not just words. If he doesn't demonstrate his love through his actions, this indicates that he doesn't truly love you. "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son." Each guys has their own unique way of expressing love and commitment, which may include acts of service, emotional support, financial support, and spending quality time together. However, it's important to look for obvious signs that indicate their love.

i. Gifts, even if they are not expensive, can be meaningful expressions of love and care. When your partner remembers you and shows that they care by offering gestures of gifts or financial support, it can be a positive sign. While the value of the gift itself is not the most important aspect, the thought and effort behind it can reflect their feelings for you. Ultimately, it is your decision whether to accept or decline a gift, but at least it was offered.

ii. Men often spend money on women they have strong feelings for or desire to marry. Financial investment can be an indicator of genuine feelings and a vision for a future together. When a person offers to deeply invest in you financially, it suggests that they have a true commitment to the relationship. Ultimately, it is your decision whether to accept or decline financial offers, but at least they were offered.

5. If he doesn't remember significant things about you, such as your birthday, and only shares sexual memories with you, it is a clear sign that he doesn't genuinely love you. He simply considers you his intimacy gadget. Dump him before he dumps you.

6. It is not necessary for you to be a virgin or to be celibate until marriage, but don't allow yourself to be treated as a mere intimacy gadget. Respect yourself, set boundaries, and establish limits. If he truly desires you so badly, he should marry you.

7. See him for who he truly is; don't sugarcoat his flaws. Take the time to study him and understand his actual character and traits.

8. Don't be afraid of losing him. What is meant for you will be yours. Speak your mind, let him know your thoughts and feelings, and make your standards clear to him.

9. Avoid jeopardizing your future out of pity for him or making choices that may ultimately harm or scar you. Keep in mind that he has not yet put a ring on your finger. Consider this: What if he doesn't eventually marry you? Remember, the commandment is to love your neighbor as yourself—emphasis on 'as yourself,' which implies that you should already love yourself. Self-love comes first.

10. Avoid getting pregnant. Having a baby with him can make it more difficult for you to move on if the relationship doesn't work out.

By following these instructions, you can save yourself from unnecessary stress. Your past relationship experiences should serve to make you a better woman, not a bitter woman. If you happen to encounter your ex at a party, you should feel comfortable enough to say hi to him.

my 5 Kobos....

Merry100:
How to never suffer heartbreak as a woman

I BEG TO DIFFER...
there is NOTHING a woman can do to stop her from having a heartbreak, women are so emotional that even talking to her the wrong way can cause a heartbreak.

2. If you have been in a relationship with a guy for six months and his true intentions remain unclear, it is best to end the relationship.
3. Avoid long-term relationships if you have been dating a guy for two years and he has not discussed the topic of marriage with you. If marriage is an important goal for you, it is better to dump him and move on.

I BEG TO DIFFER...
not everyone are open minded/forward about their intentions. some may not have the strength/guts to let you know, some may believe they havent got the right foundations to make their intentions known. just because some women may be desperate and foolish in such instance, doesnt me we (men) should equally be. simply have a mature discussion with him and ask him to tell you what his intentions are.

4. Love is expressed through actions, not just words. If he doesn't demonstrate his love through his actions, this indicates that he doesn't truly love you. "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son." Each guys has their own unique way of expressing love and commitment, which may include acts of service, emotional support, financial support, and spending quality time together. However, it's important to look for obvious signs that indicate their love.

I BEG TO DIFFER...
every men are different and not all men show their love the same way... some may be reserved, many dont even know how to show love, while others may be shy to show love. just because a man may be unable to show you how much he loves you, does NOT mean he doesnt love you.

i. Gifts, even if they are not expensive, can be meaningful expressions of love and care. When your partner remembers you and shows that they care by offering gestures of gifts or financial support, it can be a positive sign. While the value of the gift itself is not the most important aspect, the thought and effort behind it can reflect their feelings for you. Ultimately, it is your decision whether to accept or decline a gift, but at least it was offered.

I BEG TO DIFFER...
A) there are many ways to show love, care and affection to someone, than to give them gifs
B) each and every man has the right to decide whether someone deserve a gift or not. just because a man believe a woman does NOT deserve a gift, doesnt mean that their r/ship will be a failure.
C) many women out there foolishly attach giving gift with love, while it is SO FAR from reality. if a man spent all his money taking care of his life responsibilities (and has no money left for gifts) then that does not mean that he is not a right future husband for a woman.

ii. Men often spend money on women they have strong feelings for or desire to marry. Financial investment can be an indicator of genuine feelings and a vision for a future together. When a person offers to deeply invest in you financially, it suggests that they have a true commitment to the relationship. Ultimately, it is your decision whether to accept or decline financial offers, but at least they were offered.

I BEG TO DIFFER...
deeply investing in someone that isnt your wife yet, is by far on e of the MOST FOOLISH THING A MAN CAN DO. never ever invest deeply in someone unless they have signed on the dotted line and said "i do" to be your wife for better or worse.

5. If he doesn't remember significant things about you, such as your birthday, and only shares sexual memories with you, it is a clear sign that he doesn't genuinely love you. He simply considers you his intimacy gadget. Dump him before he dumps you.

I BEG TO DIFFER...
what does remembering someone's bday got to do with genuinely loving someone? some people out there dont remember these things and are still genuinely in love with their woman. if a person forgets EVERYONE'S bday then this would be a sign that they are just forgetful and nothing more.

6. It is not necessary for you to be a virgin or to be celibate until marriage, but don't allow yourself to be treated as a mere intimacy gadget. Respect yourself, set boundaries, and establish limits. If he truly desires you so badly, he should marry you.

I BEG TO DIFFER...
IMHO, unless you are a virgin, a woman who has already given her body to other men, has no reason to stop you from sampling her too. if she was ok to let other men sample her, then she should be ok with her future husband to sample her too. what did these men have that she was ok with "them" to sample her but would have the audacity to stop her future husband from sampling her too? what an insult! the above would be a SERIOUS RED FLAG in my world.

8. Don't be afraid of losing him. What is meant for you will be yours. Speak your mind, let him know your thoughts and feelings, and make your standards clear to him.

I BEG TO DIFFER...
if you believe the above you just wrote, then why did you write all the other above nonsense? .if "what is meant for you will be yours" then that could well be any of the type of men you are looking down upon....aka a cheating man, a man who forgets her bdays, a man who dont buy gifts etc

9. Avoid jeopardizing your future out of pity for him or making choices that may ultimately harm or scar you. Keep in mind that he has not yet put a ring on your finger. Consider this: What if he doesn't eventually marry you? Remember, the commandment is to love your neighbor as yourself—emphasis on 'as yourself,' which implies that you should already love yourself. Self-love comes first.

I BEG TO DIFFER...
as much as self love is important, in order to find the right partner you have to be able to open up and accept people for who they are. NOBODY IS PERFECT in this world therefore, we understand that having standards is important but being stuck in your own narrow mided ways ways not understanding that life is not a computer that you can program to give you exactly what you desire (while foolishly waiting for the perfect man) is the reason why so many women end up single, lonely and bitter.

10. Avoid getting pregnant. Having a baby with him can make it more difficult for you to move on if the relationship doesn't work out.

I BEG TO DIFFER...
many men out there will rather that their woman prove that her womb is still "functional" before they can commit. too many women out there who have played Russian roulette with their womb and/or had so many abortions that now they cant conceive. i guess to each their own.

By following these instructions, you can save yourself from unnecessary stress. Your past relationship experiences should serve to make you a better woman, not a bitter woman. If you happen to encounter your ex at a party, you should feel comfortable enough to say hi to him.

I BEG TO DIFFER...
you can have the perfect man, in the perfect r/ship and still get dumped or heartbroken... everyone is different and instead of thinking that life/love is mathematics, just be the best version of yourself and just take it one day at a time tryng to find the right partner "for you".

MrBrownJay1:
my 5 Kobos....



I BEG TO DIFFER...
there is NOTHING a woman can do to stop her from having a heartbreak, women are so emotional that even talking to her the wrong way can cause a heartbreak.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
not everyone are open minded/forward about their intentions. some may not have the strength/guts to let you know, some may believe they havent got the right foundations to make their intentions known. just because some women may be desperate and foolish in such instance, doesnt me we (men) should equally be. simply have a mature discussion with him and ask him to tell you what his intentions are.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
every men are different and not all men show their love the same way... some may be reserved, many dont even know how to show love, while others may be shy to show love. just because a man may be unable to show you how much he loves you, does NOT mean he doesnt love you.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
A) there are many ways to show love, care and affection to someone, than to give them gifs
B) each and every man has the right to decide whether someone deserve a gift or not. just because a man believe a woman does NOT deserve a gift, doesnt mean that their r/ship will be a failure.
C) many women out there foolishly attach giving gift with love, while it is SO FAR from reality. if a man spent all his money taking care of his life responsibilities (and has no money left for gifts) then that does not mean that he is not a right future husband for a woman.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
deeply investing in someone that isnt your wife yet, is by far on e of the MOST FOOLISH THING A MAN CAN DO. never ever invest deeply in someone unless they have signed on the dotted line and said "i do" to be your wife for better or worse.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
what does remembering someone's bday got to do with genuinely loving someone? some people out there dont remember these things and are still genuinely in love with their woman. if a person forgets EVERYONE'S bday then this would be a sign that they are just forgetful and nothing more.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
IMHO, unless you are a virgin, a woman who has already given her body to other men, has no reason to stop you from sampling her too. if she was ok to let other men sample her, then she should be ok with her future husband to sample her too. what did these men have that she was ok with "them" to sample her but would have the audacity to stop her future husband from sampling her too? what an insult! the above would be a SERIOUS RED FLAG in my world.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
if you believe the above you just wrote, then why did you write all the other above nonsense? .if "what is meant for you will be yours" then that could well be any of the type of men you are looking down upon....aka a cheating man, a man who forgets her bdays, a man who dont buy gifts etc



I BEG TO DIFFER...
as much as self love is important, in order to find the right partner you have to be able to open up and accept people for who they are. NOBODY IS PERFECT in this world therefore, we understand that having standards is important but being stuck in your own narrow mided ways ways not understanding that life is not a computer that you can program to give you exactly what you desire (while foolishly waiting for the perfect man) is the reason why so many women end up single, lonely and bitter.


I BEG TO DIFFER...
many men out there will rather that their woman prove that her womb is still "functional" before they can commit. too many women out there who have played Russian roulette with their womb and/or had so many abortions that now they cant conceive. i guess to each their own.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
you can have the perfect man, in the perfect r/ship and still get dumped or heartbroken... everyone is different and instead of thinking that life/love is mathematics, just be the best version of yourself and just take it one day at a time tryng to find the right partner "for you".

Thanks for sharing your opinion on what guys wants and how a lady can patiently help a guy discover his feelings! 🤣 I cannot help but commend your intelligence, but take a closer look at the topic: it is how to never suffer a heartbreak as a woman.

The bottom line is all 9ja girls are ashawo both the ones forming GF or church girl. They are all the same.

The fact that you have never caught your babe doing ashawo, doesn't mean she is not an ashawo

Savedday2:
The bottom line is all 9ja girls are ashawo both the ones forming GF or church girl. They are all the same.

The fact that you have never caught your babe doing ashawo, doesn't mean she is not an ashawo

Community dick, I totally understand your point; you have properly conducted a personal research and experimented every woman in your community. However, it is important to recognize that each community is unique and differs in its characteristics.

Merry100:
Thanks for sharing your opinion on what guys wants and how a lady can patiently help a guy discover his feelings! 🤣 I cannot help but commend your intelligence, but take a closer look at the topic: it is how to never suffer a heartbreak as a woman.

thanks, focus again on the two below points i made:

MrBrownJay1:
my 5 Kobos....
I BEG TO DIFFER...
there is NOTHING a woman can do to stop her from having a heartbreak, women are so emotional that even talking to her the wrong way can cause a heartbreak.

I BEG TO DIFFER...
you can have the perfect man, in the perfect r/ship and still get dumped or heartbroken... everyone is different and instead of thinking that life/love is mathematics, just be the best version of yourself and just take it one day at a time tryng to find the right partner "for you".

Hmm

MrBrownJay1:


thanks, focus again on the two below points i made:

The topic is how to never suffer a heartbreak as a woman, not a woman must suffer heartbreak.

If a single woman properly distinguishes between a boyfriend and a potential husband, she will never suffer heartbreak. All she needs are clear signs, not assumptions or trial and error.