Earlier today, I read a story about a young man whose dad sold his gallons of palm oil to solve some problems in the family. I was sort of smiling within me because his story reminded me about how my dad reacted when my eldest sister spent the money he saved with her for my school fees.

On the thread, I could read some comments attacking the guy because to them he's a bad son. Meanwhile, if the table should turn, I don't think same dad would be a good dad. The fact is that poverty is a very big enemy. One that every young man should defeat before building a family. It has nothing to do with same blood or outsiders. It'll make enemies out of you guys.

Once poverty establishes itself in the family, everyone is on their own; every member of the family fights to deliver themselves first. And for the guy whose story hits the front page, I don't really blame him about the way he felt with his people selling his palm oil. Poverty kills bond, regardless of how the other person relates to you. Sometimes, you can even choose to bond more with outsiders because you feel they can help you or you can work out something meaningful with them.

Now, back to my story and why I said I don't really blame that guy. I was a teenager then and staying with my sister who had brought me to the city. Probably, my father had abandoned me to her and wasn't ready to contribute to my school fees or upkeep again. So, my sister was paying my fees in the university but it was tough for her that year. She was also giving me transport to&fro school everyday, paying course registrations, buying textbooks, etc., but she wasn't doing too well either. Meanwhile, my dad had given her money to save for him. He had sold his palm oil which he stored in drums. Earlier, my sister had talked to him about my fees and he said there was no money. Every weekend, I'd go to the village to help him but the man wasn't considering that. Even the palm oil that he claimed was all his,' I entered the bush with him to harvest them. I worked with him to processed and take them to faraway mill even while I wasn't there with him again.

Finally, my sister took 40k from his money without telling him and gave to me to settle my fees. Later, she told him about it and the man was mad at my sister. For a long time, he was very angry, but my sister wasn't having his time or planning to refund him. She only told him, "I took your money to pay your son's school fees and you can ask him how much I gave to him." Man was angry but we all ignored him, afterall, he' wasn't even staying with us in the city. Probably, he moved on from the grudge after a long time.

Looking back today, I can say my sister did far more than my parents to raise me. She would complain when I ask for money, but eventually she'll help me to sort myself. In my 300L, I got a job and left her. Since I've been on my own. God bless her for me.

Why am telling my story? It's easy to blame that guy for being a bad son, but do you think his dad would sell his stuff to help him? I doubt.

Don't mind these African fathers, especially when poverty sets in. They don't fu*kin' care. Sometimes, they try to sell the little asset of the family and tell you it's their own. Only the moms try to help but many times, they can't because they don't have, but they show concern better than the man.

To end my story, I'll advise every young man to perish the idea of raising a family until they have defeated poverty. Even if you have to hit 40 before settling down, bear with yourself. I keep telling people that I don't see anything wrong with a dad being 70 and the child is 30. Even a 20 yo can comfortably take care of themselves with the right parenting. On the flip side, I don't know what's wrong with girls of these days. They just believe in a man foolishly thinking that one day a certain miracle will happen and they'll be rich. If I were a woman, I won't marry any struggling man, especially the type that's not ambitious. Girls, please, learn to insist on contraceptive during sex. No be only una lovemaking or fu*k dey sweet. Stop swelling the poverty index of Nigeria. You'll be shocked that 80% family problems is because of poverty.

A poor girl + a poor man is a very deadly combo. Your guys life would be a waste after marriage. Your poverty status will swell up. Even your children may turn out to be a waste. Poverty would scatter the family and make everyone to stay on their own.

Beware!

samuelson06:
Earlier today, I read a story about a young man whose dad sold his gallons of palm oil to solve some problems in the family. I was sort of smiling within me because his story reminded me about how my dad reacted when my eldest sister spent the money he saved with her for my school fees.

On the thread, I could read some comments attacking the guy because to them he's a bad son. Meanwhile, if the table should turn, I don't think same dad would be a good dad. The fact is that poverty is a very big enemy. One that every young man should defeat before building a family. It has nothing to do with same blood or outsiders. It'll make enemies out of you guys.

Once poverty establishes itself in the family, everyone is on their own; every member of the family fights to deliver themselves first. And for the guy whose story hits the front page, I don't really blame him about the way he felt with his people selling his palm oil. Poverty kills bond, regardless of how the other person relates to you. Sometimes, you can even choose to bond more with outsiders because you feel they can help you or you can work out something meaningful with them.

Now, back to my story and why I said I don't really blame that guy. I was a teenager then and staying with my sister who had brought me to the city. Probably, my father had abandoned me to her and wasn't ready to contribute to my school fees or upkeep again. So, my sister was paying my fees in the university but it was tough for her that year. She was also giving me transport to&fro school everyday, paying course registrations, buying textbooks, etc., but she wasn't doing too well either. Meanwhile, my dad had given her money to save for him. He had sold his palm oil which he stored in drums. Earlier, my sister had talked to him about my fees and he said there was no money. Every weekend, I'd go to the village to help him but the man wasn't considering that. Even the palm oil that he claimed was all his,' I entered the bush with him to harvest them. I worked with him to processed and take them to faraway mill even while I wasn't there with him again.

Finally, my sister took 40k from his money without telling him and gave to me to settle my fees. Later, she told him about it and the man was mad at my sister. For a long time, he was very angry, but my sister wasn't having his time or planning to refund him. She only told him, "I took your money to pay your son's school fees and you can ask him how much I gave to him." Man was angry but we all ignored him, afterall, he' wasn't even staying with us in the city. Probably, he moved on from the grudge after a long time.

Looking back today, I can say my sister did far more than my parents to raise me. She would complain when I ask for money, but eventually she'll help me to sort myself. In my 300L, I got a job and left her. Since I've been on my own. God bless her for me.

Why am telling my story? It's easy to blame that guy for being a bad son, but do you think his dad would sell his stuff to help him? I doubt.

Don't mind these African fathers, especially when poverty sets in. They don't fu*kin' care. Sometimes, they try to sell the little asset of the family and tell you it's their own. Only the moms try to help but many times, they can't because they don't have, but they show concern better than the man.

To end my story, I'll advise every young man to perish the idea of raising a family until they have defeated poverty. Even if you have to hit 40 before settling down, bear with yourself. I keep telling people that I don't see anything wrong with a dad being 70 and the child is 30. Even a 20 yo can comfortably take care of themselves with the right parenting. On the flip side, I don't know what's wrong with girls of these days. They just believe in a man foolishly thinking that one day a certain miracle will happen and they'll be rich. If I were a woman, I won't marry any struggling man, especially the type that's not ambitious. Girls, please, learn to insist on contraceptive during sex. No be only una lovemaking or fu*k dey sweet. Stop swelling the poverty index of Nigeria. You'll be shocked that 80% family problems is because of poverty.

A poor girl + a poor man is a very deadly combo. Your guys life would be a waste after marriage. Your poverty status will swell up. Even your children may turn out to be a waste. Poverty would scatter the family and make everyone to stay on their own.

Beware!

y not summarize your epistle

U dey practice how to write project ?

Sharpsharp00123:
y not summarize your epistle

U dey practice how to write project ?

I'm a writer. When I want to write, I can't squeeze it. E pele!

Nice write up.. Really agree with you with most of your submission especially the part you said young guys and men should avoid having children if they are not financially stable..

On the other hand next time you typing a post or a story/article please pay key point in summarizing it... 80 percent of people on social media don't have the patience of reading.......

Blackmoran:
Nice write up.. Really agree with you with most of your submission especially the part you said young guys and men should avoid having children if they are not financially stable..

On the other hand next time you typing a post or a story/article please pay key point in summarizing it... 80 percent of people on social media don't have the patience of reading.......

Lol. I'll try sha.

Seriously, I don't know why our people are always in a haste and don't like reading.

Fun fact: Did you know that if you begin to read and write well, you can't be poor?

samuelson06:


Lol. I'll try sha.

Seriously, I don't know why our people are always in a haste and don't like reading.

Fun fact: Did you know that if you begin to read and write well, you can't be poor?

Hahahahahaha
Mostly due to impatience.

Do you know that it's easier to get most people to read by writing several short pieces, than one long piece?

I like when a story is complete.

I didn't comment on the guys post so as not to be seen as the ODD one here but thank you for sharing your own experience here, i do say something using my family as a case study MOST NIGERIANS ARE HYPOCRITES AND THEY ALWAYS VALIDATE IT,Imagine it was the other way round the man will definitely call the elders and bash the innocent man thoroughly for selling his fathers properties without his approval but people are blinded by the fact that FATHER FATHER nonsense.
Let me share my story briefly here last year i was caught in the web of this baby mama shit and i paid dearly and i'm still paying sef, the lady is staying with me and she dey demand more than i can deliver and i even dey pay loan back sef,i told my mom this and she was angry that why is the lady inconsiderate fast forward to when she wanted to move to her new apartment that cost her 500k she requested i fund half even knowing fully well i'm BROKE i raised 100k but gave my brother to just give her ever since then my mum has been keeping malice with me now if it were to be the other way she will say she has given birth to me and i need to fend for myself by myself

mariahAngel:


Hahahahahaha
Mostly due to impatience.

Do you know that it's easier to get most people to read by writing several short pieces, than one long piece?

I like when a story is complete.

Very true @bolded. They like you drag them around instead of just dropping everything at once.

How sure are you that the comfortable position you aspire to have before raising a family, which you finally achieved at a much older age is going to be permanent in the course of the marriage? Real life situation don't work like that. What is good for Tom maybe bad for Harry.

Not that I am religious but I read Bible a lot. And the part I like most is Ecclesiastics. I made practical applications with some of the chapters I read and it worked for me.

Though by nature I don't run away from responsibilities,maybe that's why verses I read worked for me. Most importantly,I did not marry lazy women

Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: if either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?

tommy589:
How sure are you that the comfortable position you aspire to have before raising a family, which you finally achieved at a much older age is going to be permanent in the course of the marriage? Real life situation don't work like that. What is good for Tom maybe bad for Harry.

Not that I am religious but I read Bible a lot. And the part I like most is Ecclesiastics. I made practical steps with some of the chapters I read and it worked for me.

Though by nature I don't run away from responsibilities,maybe that's why verses I read worked for me. Most importantly,I did not marry lazy women

Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: if either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?

The ending part of your comment makes me to laugh

By the way, I've used the word "ambition" in my writeup. If two of you are ambitious and working hard, fine. However, it's still a big risk and I won't advise anyone to take it.

I understand that some young people rush into marriage to have legal sex and not necessarily because they are fit for it. Sadly, the moment kids start coming without adequate preparation, the whole thing becomes a rat race; hand to mouth, and working to feed and pay children school fees. That's not life.

The Bible isn't encouraging irresponsibility so don't quote it wrongly. There must be a right time for everything. Besides, that scripture has always been there. So, why didn't you marry as a child? You see what I mean?

Sharpsharp00123:
y not summarize your epistle

U dey practice how to write project ?

Where's the epistle?
I finished reading that so-called epistle in just less than 2mins

If you lazy folks can't read, just get out of the internet, and help yourselves with pictures and videos on facebook and tik tok.

Awwwwww

Nice write up.

samuelson06:
Earlier today, I read a story about a young man whose dad sold his gallons of palm oil to solve some problems in the family. I was sort of smiling within me because his story reminded me about how my dad reacted when my eldest sister spent the money he saved with her for my school fees.

On the thread, I could read some comments attacking the guy because to them he's a bad son. Meanwhile, if the table should turn, I don't think same dad would be a good dad. The fact is that poverty is a very big enemy. One that every young man should defeat before building a family. It has nothing to do with same blood or outsiders. It'll make enemies out of you guys.

Once poverty establishes itself in the family, everyone is on their own; every member of the family fights to deliver themselves first. And for the guy whose story hits the front page, I don't really blame him about the way he felt with his people selling his palm oil. Poverty kills bond, regardless of how the other person relates to you. Sometimes, you can even choose to bond more with outsiders because you feel they can help you or you can work out something meaningful with them.

Now, back to my story and why I said I don't really blame that guy. I was a teenager then and staying with my sister who had brought me to the city. Probably, my father had abandoned me to her and wasn't ready to contribute to my school fees or upkeep again. So, my sister was paying my fees in the university but it was tough for her that year. She was also giving me transport to&fro school everyday, paying course registrations, buying textbooks, etc., but she wasn't doing too well either. Meanwhile, my dad had given her money to save for him. He had sold his palm oil which he stored in drums. Earlier, my sister had talked to him about my fees and he said there was no money. Every weekend, I'd go to the village to help him but the man wasn't considering that. Even the palm oil that he claimed was all his,' I entered the bush with him to harvest them. I worked with him to processed and take them to faraway mill even while I wasn't there with him again.

Finally, my sister took 40k from his money without telling him and gave to me to settle my fees. Later, she told him about it and the man was mad at my sister. For a long time, he was very angry, but my sister wasn't having his time or planning to refund him. She only told him, "I took your money to pay your son's school fees and you can ask him how much I gave to him." Man was angry but we all ignored him, afterall, he' wasn't even staying with us in the city. Probably, he moved on from the grudge after a long time.

Looking back today, I can say my sister did far more than my parents to raise me. She would complain when I ask for money, but eventually she'll help me to sort myself. In my 300L, I got a job and left her. Since I've been on my own. God bless her for me.

Why am telling my story? It's easy to blame that guy for being a bad son, but do you think his dad would sell his stuff to help him? I doubt.

Don't mind these African fathers, especially when poverty sets in. They don't fu*kin' care. Sometimes, they try to sell the little asset of the family and tell you it's their own. Only the moms try to help but many times, they can't because they don't have, but they show concern better than the man.

To end my story, I'll advise every young man to perish the idea of raising a family until they have defeated poverty. Even if you have to hit 40 before settling down, bear with yourself. I keep telling people that I don't see anything wrong with a dad being 70 and the child is 30. Even a 20 yo can comfortably take care of themselves with the right parenting. On the flip side, I don't know what's wrong with girls of these days. They just believe in a man foolishly thinking that one day a certain miracle will happen and they'll be rich. If I were a woman, I won't marry any struggling man, especially the type that's not ambitious. Girls, please, learn to insist on contraceptive during sex. No be only una lovemaking or fu*k dey sweet. Stop swelling the poverty index of Nigeria. You'll be shocked that 80% family problems is because of poverty.

A poor girl + a poor man is a very deadly combo. Your guys life would be a waste after marriage. Your poverty status will swell up. Even your children may turn out to be a waste. Poverty would scatter the family and make everyone to stay on their own.

Beware!

How much should a man have to be free from poverty?

Just give me ur own fair judgement?

ibechris:




How much should a man have to be free from poverty?

Just give me ur own fair judgement?

Here are helpful tips.

- Start from at least 150k. This means 40k can go for food, 20k saving for emergencies, while investing 90k on poverty eradication projects.

- None or one child. Usually, poverty start setting in with the arrival of a child because your wife isn't working (except she had an online business), while you spend more taking care of mother and child. What if you are also paying for house rent? Remember, a self-contain maybe a big no for a nursing mother. Soon, child is about to start school. That means, more spending. Ultimately, more strain on income, less savings, postponing the date for your deliverance from poverty.

- If married, both of you must be productive. Get to know how your wife spends her money. Both of you must be intentional about investing in the family you are building together. You guys must take your eyes off family problems. Remember, family problems doesn't finish. Don't allow any child to stay with you in the name of helping in the house. You don't have the resources for that yet. Let every child stay with their parents.

- Work both day and night; online and offline. Reduce sleep to 4-5 hours for the next 6 months. You won't die.

- If you have a family house, stay there even with your 150k so you can save money to build your own.

- Reduce spending on food. Feeding consumes a lot. Try to buy foodstuff in packs/bulk and from the village, especially garri, beans, yam, or rice. Tea with bread and akara in the morning, solid food in the evening. No lunch. Have fridge to store cooked food.

- Think about having a house - personal or commercial. I prefer commercial.

- Start building. Throw your savings there instead of keeping it in the bank.

- Decorate your hard work with prayers. It's not all up to you, and it's not all up to God or anything you worship.

- Be kind. Not necessarily about giving money but simple acts of kindness like helping a child cross the road, or paying 100 naira transport for someone who genuinely needs the help. Look out for people who genuinely needs the help you can give.

- Don't gamble or spend on frivolities, e.g., drinking, womanizing, etc.

So, if you have all these in place, sooner or later, you'll bury poverty.