Zyxsc:


See how this one jumped into conclusion. You get comprehension problem ni

What's wrong with that? Is it your conclusion? Why do you believe we must both share the same perspective on this issue, our background and experience are different.
Las Las, the girl has moved, this guy should move. That's the reality.

Lifestone:

I engages with my son's regularly on how to be a responsible man, that's my job in Parenting. To spot evil women and how to deal with them. I will not expect my son to complain in this manner because he's trained enough to be the one calling the shot. That's what make a good man

Having read your previous responses, I think I understand your point clearer but the part I think you missed out was balancing your argument.

Of course, every parent would wish the best for their sons and daughters but how about morals and values? Would you wish to be a father of a son or daughter who gets his breakthrough by all and any means possible?

Let's flip the coin and look at it from the angle of being a father of a son who has invested his time and resources in upskilling his would-be wife, and just immediately after the girl succeded in landing her first well paying job, she ditched your son for someone with better financial standing and her reason for such action is that your son is not on the same level as her.

I believe if that was your son, your reaction and perception of the matter will be different (speaking from the angle of every parent wants the best for their children). On the other hand however, the father of the girl would feel it's an answered prayer if we go by the same line of thought as you saw it.

I just feel you didn't balance the argument but your points are valid.

Peace 🕊️

Ade3131:


Having read your previous responses, I think I understand your point clearer but the part I think you missed out was balancing your argument.

Of course, every parent would wish the best for their sons and daughters but how about morals and values? Would you wish to be a father of a son or daughter who gets his breakthrough by all and any means possible?

Let's flip the coin and look at it from the angle of being a father of a son who has invested his time and resources in upskilling his would-be wife, and just immediately after the girl succeded in landing her first well paying job, she ditched your son for someone with better financial standing and her reason for such action is that your son is not on the same level as her.

I believe if that was your son, your reaction and perception of the matter will be different (speaking from the angle of every parent wants the best for their children). On the other hand however, the father of the girl would feel it's an answered prayer if we go by the same line of thought as you saw it.

I just feel you didn't balance the argument but your points are valid.

Peace 🕊️

Thanks Bro for sharing your thoughts. Myself sponsored a lady for 6 years to become a Chartered Accountant, she no marry me. I moved because I had invested on myself (I was also a senior Chartered Accountant to her).
If I'm in that guy's position, I will immediately know I have lost that girl when her game went to another level. Rather feeling grumpy, I will move on before the girl act up, except I have a balancing act that can keep me in charge. But to imagine that she will not take that opportunity because of him is unrealistic.
On issue of moral, I think I'm just been realistic here as this is what happens most of the time. If we see as it is, we are all protected, if not, it will bring pains and frustration and can lead to crime of passion.

jaelz:
What I Just Discovered About Women

A woman loses respect for a man or her current boyfriend once she starts getting intimate with someone that is richer and more well to do than him

Hear my story out before you judge me:

So I lost my ex about 2 months back when she became a Personal Assistant to a serving senator, I just noticed that she stopped appreciating the little money and things that I usually gave her and did for her since she started working with the senator.

She was staying at her parents house in Abuja but recently rented a place for herself and furnished it to taste, I was shocked and I asked how a girl that just started a personal assistant job with a senator and a salary of just 120k per month is able to rent a self contained apartments of about 750k per year and even furnished it to taste, she got very angry and said I should be happy for her that if I can't do it atleast she did it herself.

She has also never allowed me to stay in the house 🏠🏡 for once not to talk of coming to visit her

Your God did it for you. Your ancestors are not sleeping wherever they are.

jaelz:
What I Just Discovered About Women

A woman loses respect for a man or her current boyfriend once she starts getting intimate with someone that is richer and more well to do than him

Hear my story out before you judge me:

So I lost my ex about 2 months back when she became a Personal Assistant to a serving senator, I just noticed that she stopped appreciating the little money and things that I usually gave her and did for her since she started working with the senator.

She was staying at her parents house in Abuja but recently rented a place for herself and furnished it to taste, I was shocked and I asked how a girl that just started a personal assistant job with a senator and a salary of just 120k per month is able to rent a self contained apartments of about 750k per year and even furnished it to taste, she got very angry and said I should be happy for her that if I can't do it atleast she did it herself.

She has also never allowed me to stay in the house 🏠🏡 for once not to talk of coming to visit her

She Upgraded Bro ...
Face the Realities & Go Upgrade Yourself & Find Better Match ....

She ain't Operating on Your Energies & Wavelengths No More ....

You can't work in Three Arm Zone(Abuja Central of Power) & Be The Same ...

You have to Understand Her ... & Understand Yourself

jaelz:
What I Just Discovered About Women

A woman loses respect for a man or her current boyfriend once she starts getting intimate with someone that is richer and more well to do than him

Hear my story out before you judge me:

So I lost my ex about 2 months back when she became a Personal Assistant to a serving senator, I just noticed that she stopped appreciating the little money and things that I usually gave her and did for her since she started working with the senator.

She was staying at her parents house in Abuja but recently rented a place for herself and furnished it to taste, I was shocked and I asked how a girl that just started a personal assistant job with a senator and a salary of just 120k per month is able to rent a self contained apartments of about 750k per year and even furnished it to taste, she got very angry and said I should be happy for her that if I can't do it atleast she did it herself.

She has also never allowed me to stay in the house 🏠🏡 for once not to talk of coming to visit her

Brother did you even ask how she got the job in the first place

Manigie:
Just count your blessings and move on, man,.
Obviously this one wouldn't have made a good wife.....

You can't Conclude that for now ... She might not make a good wife to him not to someone else ....

Also, They Might still be together & Live ever happy after ...

Wodu89:




You don't have sense. Not just as a man but as a human being. If everyone keeps dropping people like that would society not be in chaos. Oponu.

Isn't it a nice British Naija lady working in Met police, came for reality show, saw a man, got married to him and today there's bliss and peace all over her.


You think like a wretched poor person. This is your thought pattern. That of wretched poor people. Disloyalty, wretchedness and betrayal.


E go meet you for front

You are too Emotional ....

Life doesn't Favour Much Emotional People ...

Emotions is the reasons people get used & Trashed .....

As a Man Face Your Hustles ... & Quit Once You ain't Wanted .... Simple as That ... It might be difficult to handle ... But Reality is Reality!

richie240:

You're mixing up the age of marriage and d age of sexual maturity.

Yes, I can marry off my daughter off at the age of 6, it doesn't mean she's ready for sex at that age of 6. The husband can groom her till she would be ready for sex/child bearing i.e. 15/16 years. Even in Asian countries they do marriage for their children at infancy, so e nor be new thing.


You marrying early/late doesn't determine whether ur husband will turn u to 'trash later on in d future's or not. That one na another topic on its own

Na true you talk , you no lie

Dem dey keep goat and yam together

I no say na only mouth you get , you personally no go fit do am ..

Lifestone:

I'm a Nigeria Man too and Married. Anytime my partner is into anything progressive, I get involved without even been invited, I offer advise, share significantly in the advancement and most of the time, they end up thanking and appreciating me for making it happen. But the fact is that I know I have to be part of that success otherwise another person will play my role and I will be left behind. Even if she's going to the wrong direction, I will usually championed her into seeing that the direction she's heading is headless.
The other part is that Men should consistently grow themselves. I am also praying for my daughter to succeed and marry a responsible and successful husband. You can't wish less

You are a Man.
Amen to Your Prayers !

Depriest2020:

Guy you've lost her to the senator. The person that rented and furnished the room for her warned her not to bring another manchi there.

If am to advise, you don't have to be upset with her, she just upgraded her status. Just see her as a f**k mate and not a girlfriend, as long as you sabi knack her well, she will always come to you for good f**k and to the senator for the money. She can introduce you to the senator as her brother, through the senator you will get better job, meet more senators and more contacts + connections.

If you assure her you won't cause trouble for her and her man-friend, then she would be free to answer her calls in your presence. Am telling you from experience, I got most of my contacts & connection through that way.

This is for we OG !
Not for Simps nor Alpha Male's

Only for those who understand Streets !

Wodu89:
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That's why the entire world destroys the world with lack of love. She's demented and physchotic if he's account is accurate

Shut Up ... The world is a Jungle & Your Judgements can't fix nor unfixed the world...

It is What it is !

Lifestone:

Anyway I opened my eye before I marry. I also chop breakfast in the process, no pains no gain. I moved.
I trained one for about 6years, she no marry me, today I'm great full to God for the one I marry. Sometimes disappointments na packaged blessing.
I wish him well, he should move on, that girl is not meant for him.

One of my home boys once helped a girl secure a job at one of the very high paying organizations in Nigeria.

The offer was below his salary so, he thought to put his "future wife" instead, so this guy tried all his best.
He somehow used his connections to get the aptitude test's questions a day before it was to be written. He stayed up all night to solve the questions, provided the answers and sent them to the lady to memorize.

After the aptitude test, he helped the lady prepare for the interview, plus a few strings here and there. The lady got the Job.

2 months after the lady got the job, my guy lost his high paying job and was working a gig that paid him less than 10% of what he was previously earning.
First six months, she was still her normal self.
A year after she got the job, she started acting fancy. Mind you about this time, my guy was already in his broke state.

All of a sudden, this lady started posting a particular guy at her place of work. My guy complained and complained and rebuked, but she was complacent in her wrong doings.

To cut the long story short. One day she sent my guy a message that read "all of your mates are moving up in life. I don't even know what I'm still doing with you sef"
And that was the end of their relationship. Till date, my friend is still suffers the post traumatic.
If you were on WhatsApp, I'd love to share you some interesting true life stories.

You see, anyone who is interested in supporting their GF is free.
As long as the disappointment has nothing to do with me.

In this Gen_Z/ Gen_A . I'm saying it with full authority and realisation. Once a lady is richer than you, deep down her heart she feels like you no longer worth her. Forget this useless game people keep shouting up and down, I'm not talking about sex. I'm taking about a committed relationship (husband/wife, fiancé/fianceé). Once a woman is richer than you, forget it. In the space of one year, if you refused to level up. You can kiss your woman good-bye

cejaypriesty:

I don't know where you got this idea from but I have a sister and and a wife and both of them isn't what you wrote up there .Maybe you are speaking about your female relatives or girlfriends.If so then you need to change the kind of girls you relate with and for your female relatives,pray to God to intervene in their lives. I'm not trying to offend you only giving you an advice.

He's talking about Street.... Your folks ain't Street....

Life at home is full of emotions due to family n friends ties But Street is for Hustlers With least Emotions....

It is What it is!

jimcaddy:
Loool it is well. Dating in Nigeria don turn to battle of the richest. Richest takes all. Like it's so effed up. Dating is one of the hardest things to do in this Nigeria

It has always been like this From the Earliest Days of Niger-Area to Nigeria....

The Richer the Better !

FRANCISTOWN:

One of my home boys once helped a girl secure a job at one of the very high paying organizations in Nigeria.

The offer was below his salary so, he thought to put his "future wife" instead, so this guy tried all his best.
He somehow used his connections to get the aptitude test's questions a day before it was to be written. He stayed up all night to solve the questions, provided the answers and sent them to the lady to memorize.

After the aptitude test, he helped the lady prepare for the interview, plus a few strings here and there. The lady got the Job.

2 months after the lady got the job, my guy lost his high paying job and was working a gig that paid him less than 10% of what he was previously earning.
First six months, she was still her normal self.
A year after she got the job, she started acting fancy. Mind you about this time, my guy was already in his broke state.

All of a sudden, this lady started posting a particular guy at her place of work. My guy complained and complained and rebuked, but she was complacent in her wrong doings.

To cut the long story short. One day she sent my guy a message that read "all of your mates are moving up in life. I don't even know what I'm still doing with you sef"
And that was the end of their relationship. Till date, my friend is still suffers the post traumatic.
If you were on WhatsApp, I'd love to share you some interesting true life stories.

You see, anyone who is interested in supporting their GF is free.
As long as the disappointment has nothing to do with me.

In this Gen_Z/ Gen_A . I'm saying it with full authority and realisation. Once a lady is richer than you, deep down her heart she feels like you no longer worth her. Forget this useless game people keep shouting up and down, I'm not talking about sex. I'm taking about a committed relationship (husband/wife, fiancé/fianceé). Once a woman is richer than you, forget it. In the space of one year, if you refused to level up. You can kiss your woman good-bye

I hope you can see my point. Your friend should face the reality early, free this girl and move on, otherwise he will keep struggling with the whole issue.
I got a high paying job for a Church boy who promised to marry my Sister in law in the same larger organisation where I was working then. After getting the job and settling down, he told my Sister in law that he's not interested again and he moved on. I didn't tackle him despite the fact that I'm in a position to do that.
I told her to forget about him and move on, today she's married to another person with twins.
The more your friend dwells on it the more the pains lingers.

jaelz:
What I Just Discovered About Women

A woman loses respect for a man or her current boyfriend once she starts getting intimate with someone that is richer and more well to do than him

Hear my story out before you judge me:

So I lost my ex about 2 months back when she became a Personal Assistant to a serving senator, I just noticed that she stopped appreciating the little money and things that I usually gave her and did for her since she started working with the senator.

She was staying at her parents house in Abuja but recently rented a place for herself and furnished it to taste, I was shocked and I asked how a girl that just started a personal assistant job with a senator and a salary of just 120k per month is able to rent a self contained apartments of about 750k per year and even furnished it to taste, she got very angry and said I should be happy for her that if I can't do it atleast she did it herself.

She has also never allowed me to stay in the house 🏠🏡 for once not to talk of coming to visit her

Normal, She use you Climb.
Next, if She Sees Governor Connect, she Will Climb Again...

Get Used to it.

Lifestone:

I'm a Nigeria Man too and Married. Anytime my partner is into anything progressive, I get involved without even been invited, I offer advise, share significantly in the advancement and most of the time, they end up thanking and appreciating me for making it happen. But the fact is that I know I have to be part of that success otherwise another person will play my role and I will be left behind. Even if she's going to the wrong direction, I will usually championed her into seeing that the direction she's heading is headless.
The other part is that Men should consistently grow themselves. I am also praying for my daughter to succeed and marry a responsible and successful husband. You can't wish less

OGA,
what if she sees a More Successful man than you (They are Plenty out there) and she changes her attitude towards you and then you discover the hidden reason that it's a NEW More Successful Man.

Will you help her to Connect with the Better Man to achieve her Aspiration/Desire (As a Loving Partner that you are)

nnamdizen:
Now we are arriving somewhere, for the fact that you do all that for her makes you an indispensable asset in her life. Imagine for a minute you decide to withdraw that support, do you think your home will still remain thesame?
So moral of this whole conversation is, men should not prioritize any relationship with the opposite sex to the detriment of their self improvement, rather they should aspire to grow and put more effort in raising their current status, which in turn will provide all the necessary advantages they need to keep any relationship with the opposite sex.

Guy, Even with that Support, HE can Still Collect breakfast.
He could even be Gifted children that are not His...
Don't Think because you are Married, You have Reached 100% Woman_Managerial_Success.

lol

cc: Lifestone:

Depriest2020:

Guy you've lost her to the senator. The person that rented and furnished the room for her warned her not to bring another manchi there.

If am to advise, you don't have to be upset with her, she just upgraded her status. Just see her as a f**k mate and not a girlfriend, as long as you sabi knack her well, she will always come to you for good f**k and to the senator for the money. She can introduce you to the senator as her brother, through the senator you will get better job, meet more senators and more contacts + connections.

If you assure her you won't cause trouble for her and her man-friend, then she would be free to answer her calls in your presence. Am telling you from experience, I got most of my contacts & connection through that way.

NOW That's EPIC.
Blend In, and be TRANSACTIONAL TOO 100%

WatchYourSix:


Support?? Its not rocket science, His girl is already cheating on him..and u blaming him of no support.....

Being rich will always be relative....if u are sayin its okay for a woman to drop a man in the name of moving up becos the next rich man has showed up...then it wont matter what the sons u are training have.....because there will always be richer man....

Everyone expects a little bit of loyalty in their relationship men or women...

Na because e never happen to you.. make ur wife leave u because a rich man likes her and gave a house and a g-wagon....lets see if u will support her

I want to Like this a 1000 Times.
He Feels he is Married...So he has Cross the Finish Line

cc Lifestone:

OvertheTop:


Guy, Even with that Support, HE can Still Collect breakfast.
He could even be Gifted children that are not His...
Don't Think because you are Married, You have Reached 100% Woman_Managerial_Success.

lol

cc: Lifestone:

Shorts fired!!!

nnamdizen:
Shorts fired!!!

But I married the girl I can handle who at my level who respects me. My call out to the OP is to allow that girl go, she has moved. How is that difficult to accept for you guys.

That's the new reality, she's gone. Period.

OvertheTop:



I want to Like this a 1000 Times.
He Feels he is Married...So he has Cross the Finish Line

cc Lifestone:

Haaa. I chopped my own breakfast too. Check my comments, as a fact all of you in years to come will arrive at my position.
I sponsored education for 6 years, she no marry me. But I moved.

OvertheTop:


OGA,
what if she sees a More Successful man than you (They are Plenty out there) and she changes her attitude towards you and then you discover the hidden reason that it's a NEW More Successful Man.

Will you help her to Connect with the Better Man to achieve her Aspiration/Desire (As a Loving Partner that you are)

In the unlikely events that such happen, I will move and marry someone I can handle. At that point her level has changed forever, she can never be the same again, why should I still want to hang there? That's disrespectful.
Even if she comes back, she has tasted the forbidden fruit and can never be same again. So free her and find your level.
This looks straight to me, I don't know why you guys seems to be very emotional.
If am in the position of the OP, I will mostly know more than he does now and would have known what's ahead before she arrives. I will move even before she disrespected me. Fact is level has changed.

I do hope you guys pick one or two lessons from how I have been very successful with my Wife. I am a very happy married man and I can say that for my wife.

DonroxyII:
It has always been like this From the Earliest Days of Niger-Area to Nigeria....

The Richer the Better !

it's getting worse that one can no longer find true love anymore. It is annoying being liked or 'loved' just because of your ability to provide certain things. It means we are only using ourselves. Which makes no sense to me. That's why a lot of Nigerians are in unhappy marriages. They cannot find happiness in the spouses they got married to because we marry for different selfish reasons. And when those reasons aren't being met anymore, fight starts. Honestly Ive never seen any relationship or marriage that looked like that of my grandparents. Honestly a failed mariage is not a good thing oh. It's better one never marries than to have a failed marriage.

jimcaddy:
it's getting worse that one can no longer find true love anymore. It is annoying being liked or 'loved' just because of your ability to provide certain things. It means we are only using ourselves. Which makes no sense to me. That's why a lot of Nigerians are in unhappy marriages. They cannot find happiness in the spouses they got married to because we marry for different selfish reasons. And when those reasons aren't being met anymore, fight starts. Honestly Ive never seen any relationship or marriage that looked like that of my grandparents. Honestly a failed mariage is not a good thing oh. It's better one never marries than to have a failed marriage.

It Makes Sense Sha ... Human Are Always Shaped By Contemporary Realities Whomsoever that Fails to Be Shaped By Contemporary Realities is not Living in Realities But Living in their own Head.

Such Persons Shall Have themselves to Be Hurt & Damaged Beyond their Controls & Might Die Inside their own Pools of Emotions Looking for the Kinda Love that Happened in 19th Century When Romeo & Juliet Were in the Garden at UK ...

Welcome to Earth Version Gen Z, 2020s

DonroxyII:
It Makes Sense Sha ... Human Are Always Shaped By Contemporary Realities Whomsoever that Fails to Be Shaped By Contemporary Realities is not Living in Realities But Living in their own Head & Such Persons Shall Have themselves to Be Hurt & Damaged ...

Welcome to Earth Version Gen Z, 2020s

out parents failed us. Their generation failed us. Now we are also doing the same and failing the next generation. When does this want to end?

jimcaddy:
out parents failed us. Their generation failed us. Now we are also doing the same and failing the next generation. When does this want to end?

Lol ... You too get Emotions oo ... This is a Capitalist World Na Businesses Everybody dey do this Era. There is no Emotions in Businesses But Profits or Gains or Loss !

No Body Failed Anybody .... The World is Getting Globalised & Evolving into One Humanities this is the Generations Such is Happening Without Wars only Clash of Cultures & Civilisations thus Haphazard Changes Should be Expected across the Human Race & the World at Large ....

No Nation shall remain the same & When Everything Settles, We shall Have One Global Culture & The Race for Conquering the Universe & Everything Therein shall Begin ...

That's when Heaven Started Because No More Wars Nor Culture Clashes ....

Next World is World of Technologies Combing the Universes for Humanities......

Nothing Big Deal is Happening, You Don't Expect Me to Be Watching American Movies, Chinese News, Japanese Dances & Korean Cultures then Still Maintaining My Yoruba Original Cultures.... Nahhhhh ... something Must Change in me ...

Marriage is still sweet but the Maturities requires to steer marriages to Successes no be By Telemundo nor Korean Movies which is what our boys & girls dey watch dis days with Hook Up under low keys ...

DonroxyII:
Lol ... You too get Emotions oo ... This is a Capitalist World Na Businesses Everybody dey do this Era. There is no Emotions in Businesses But Profits or Gains or Loss !

No Body Failed Anybody .... The World is Getting Globalised & Evolving into One Humanities this is the Generations Such is Happening Without Wars only Clash of Cultures & Civilisations thus Haphazard Changes Should be Expected across the Human Race & the World at Large ....

No Nation shall remain the same & When Everything Settles, We shall Have One Global Culture & The Race for Conquering the Universe & Everything Therein shall Begin ...

That's when Heaven Started Because No More Wars Nor Culture Clashes ....

Next World is World of Technologies Combing the Universes for Humanities......

Nothing Big Deal is Happening, You Don't Expect Me to Be Watching American Movies, Chinese News, Japanese Dances & Korean Cultures then Still Maintaining My Yoruba Original Cultures.... Nahhhhh ... something Must Change in me ...

Marriage is still sweet but the Maturities requires to steer marriages to Successes no be By Telemundo nor Korean Movies which is what our boys & girls dey watch dis days with Hook Up under low keys ...

lool see I don tire sef

jimcaddy:
lool see I don tire sef

Omoh, Why Tire .. U be Man Now

A Man is Trained to Manned Earth Albeit The Universes, Til the Soils & Conquer Any Obstacles ....

Then After the Toils, Bring Wealths Home to Your Woman & Relax With Her to Wake Up the Following Morning & Continue Your Stewardship till the end of Your Watch(Time): ...

Train Your Future Generations On Same Procedures & They Train Your Next Generations Like That Till Eternity ....

What You Give is What You Get ....

You Can't Be Emotionally Tired ... You Must Step Up Your Games ... Street is Cruel & Most Home is also Cruel Nowadays ...

So, Step Up & Do Your Role as a Man ...

Women go teach Your lessons & Nature sef Go teach you lessons ... Use their lessons to Troubleshoot Yourself into a BigMan Nobody Dares to Fvck nor Messed With !

Lifestone:

Bro, he can't force this girl who has moved on to stay. So my point is that if at the end she moves, you've got to move on too and stop sulking. In my earlier post, I told you a girl I paid for her education refused to marry me, so what can I do, I have to move on. I believe the OP will move on.
To avoid what you painted above, I married at my level, a girl who loves me. That girl has moved, he should let her be

Why did you pay for a girls education without wifing her first?