Pukkalolo:
Right now, I want to ask you all this million dollar question:

What does a MAN actually benefit from marriage?


*cricket sounds*


No response I thought as much...

Well, let me help you answer it:

A man benefits literally NOTHING from marriage.

In reality, he actually 'lose' more.

Now, you may argue that he gain kids and affection from marrying....Duh!

Well, dickhead, he can as well get that from a baby mama or something.


It turns out that many kids prefers their mother than their father. The man provide for the kids and pay their school fees and sort the bills.... Despite that, the kids still love their mum than their dad.

Even you as a guy reading this now; Yes, YOU. I'm talking to you. I'm sure you love your mother more than your father.

If there's a conflict between your mother and father, chances are that you will stand with your mum. But guess what, Karma is real. Your kids will also stand with their mum when you have a conflict with your wife despite all your effort in training the kids and giving them good life.

So as we were saying: for men, there's no benefits from committing to a woman and getting married to her.

I saw a comic in a newspaper... The man who was about to get married was telling his buddies, "I'm so happy because once I get married, I can have sex whenever I want."

And the woman who was to marry the man was telling her females friends, "I'm so happy because once I get married, I'll never have to have sex again."

It was intended for comic relief, but they were indirectly expressing the sad reality of many marriages... Many men are in a sexless marriage, and it's not even funny at all.

Men and women love need sex...but women need sex in a different way than men do.


The biggest problem is the unrealistic view women have about marriage. They view marriage as the final bustop. Once they finally wear the wedding rings, the Job is done. She feels she can now misbehave.

Her misbehavior won't start immediately. After you marry her, in the first few months or years, the sex is always fantastic: she'll seemed very willing and receptive towards the sex.

But sooner than you think, she'd start turning down the man sexual attempt for flimsy excuses like “i am tired” or “i dont have the mood now” or other very humiliating bullshit excuses.


Here's the bitter truth most men won't want to swallow:

Women don't respect a male commitment "after" she has gotten it.

You can argue with me, get agitated and gnash your teeth over it...but that's just the bitter truth.

Look, she gets bored with male commitment 'after' she has gotten it. She no longer feel the need to be at her best behavior because she has already gotten what she want most in the man--wedding ring.


Basically, the moment you marry her is the very moment her attraction and desire for you begins to drop.

The very thing makes the man appealing to a woman is the fact that she's working hard to get him to commit.

It's the "uncertainty" and the not being sure if the man will put the ring on her finger is what makes him desirable to her.

When the man finally marry her, he's no longer a challenge for her to keep working hard to impress....so she starts to lose desire for him.

In her mind she's like, "Why should I keep working hard to impress him when the job is already done?"

As a result, the woman's interest in sex gradual deline with time. She starts to feel bored with the sex.

Women will NEVER admit this but that's the truth. Infact, don't listen to women on this subject.

Men should stop being weak and sentimental. Marriage is the best gift a woman can get from you. You're doing her a BIG favor by marrying her, so getting sex from her is non-negotiable. If she refuse to give you sex for flimsy reasons, then withdraw your commitment immedately.

Marriage has always been for women. Getting married to her is a huge sacrifice you are making for her... So If she get bored with giving you sex, you should also get bored with giving her your commitment.

Stay blessed brothers.

LikeAking:


Oga , you are very correct..

Marriage on the other hand is for raising kids..

Not to make your wife perfect or even enjoy the marriage..

It's an institution humans created to make a better world..

Men too need to do some things that will make their women give them pussy steadily.

1. Aviod returning home very early always. Some days you have to be somewhere else.

2. Have other females, or act so.. Chat with those ya street girls very well, give them a lift, etc.. Make e pain ya wife.

3. Use a very good perfume, they love it..

4. Go out steadily, it makes them suspecious.

yetmao:
Just as its happening to me right now. She locked up, me sef locked up. Nothing she can benefit from me again, I order foodstuff myself and its the best decision I made.

We are just there for the kids.

skj1377:
Make her jealous. Dress like your going to a party with nice perfume 3 times a week and come home by 10pm. Watch her reaction.they hate competition

Kevineleven:
Just find love and marry the love of your life, she is out there believe me, you must learn to smoke out and cut off fake lovers in your journey.
Oh blessed is the man that finds his missing rib, for he alone will know that marriage is the best thing that can happen to a man.

MrBrownJay1:
all what you wrote is the result of anyone being in a long term r/ship...whether married or not. it is completely normal for people to be lazy after they said "i do" (or after dating for a few yrs)... after marriage, many feel that they dont need to woo nor do anything to conquer their partner any longer, as they are already married, so after marriage, they stop going on dates, they stop doing fun things etc. THIS IS A MEN AND WOMEN issue, and certainly not solely a women issue... get real! many men get tired of their wife/gf after a few yrs and the sex/attraction/Affection aint the same. this is called LIFE!!!! and someone who values more than just the sexual part of their union, will work through it to find ways to spice their union, spice their bedroom activities, spice their life with fun things again....while the lazy disrespectful ones will just go and look for other people to satisfy their needs.

BTW in Nigeria, i can find many benefit to marriage (for some men):
- your parents wont give you headaches no more and whine everytime you visit about "when yu gonna get married and give them grandchildren"
- your pastor wont look at you as a wasted seed
- your friends and acquaintances wont be looking at you as a failure because you aint married.... yes in Nigeria, anyone who aint married with kids, is seen as a failure.

as much as i dont believe in marriage, i understand that it makes sense to a lot of people out there... and to each their own!

Nigerfine3:
I salute your write up, straight up. Young men learn, let's save our future

starpower:
when one loss out they have all this funny rules. Expectations damages things. If my wife doesn't want sex I don't imagine she is weaponising it. I try understanding the problem. Most of us are traumatized and also living with traumatized fellows. Can't try damaging yourself because of someone. If she is misbehaving, I wash everything washable and try to sleep. We all have alternatives. Who should spoil my wife if not me and I should be treated special too. Give without expecting.

Pukkalolo:
Right now, I want to ask you all this million dollar question:

What does a MAN actually benefit from marriage?


*cricket sounds*


No response I thought as much...

Well, let me help you answer it:

This is very true... specially for the species we have in nigeria

A man benefits literally NOTHING from marriage.

In reality, he actually 'lose' more.

Now, you may argue that he gain kids and affection from marrying....Duh!

Well, dickhead, he can as well get that from a baby mama or something.


It turns out that many kids prefers their mother than their father. The man provide for the kids and pay their school fees and sort the bills.... Despite that, the kids still love their mum than their dad.

Even you as a guy reading this now; Yes, YOU. I'm talking to you. I'm sure you love your mother more than your father.

If there's a conflict between your mother and father, chances are that you will stand with your mum. But guess what, Karma is real. Your kids will also stand with their mum when you have a conflict with your wife despite all your effort in training the kids and giving them good life.

So as we were saying: for men, there's no benefits from committing to a woman and getting married to her.

I saw a comic in a newspaper... The man who was about to get married was telling his buddies, "I'm so happy because once I get married, I can have sex whenever I want."

And the woman who was to marry the man was telling her females friends, "I'm so happy because once I get married, I'll never have to have sex again."

It was intended for comic relief, but they were indirectly expressing the sad reality of many marriages... Many men are in a sexless marriage, and it's not even funny at all.

Men and women love need sex...but women need sex in a different way than men do.


The biggest problem is the unrealistic view women have about marriage. They view marriage as the final bustop. Once they finally wear the wedding rings, the Job is done. She feels she can now misbehave.

Her misbehavior won't start immediately. After you marry her, in the first few months or years, the sex is always fantastic: she'll seemed very willing and receptive towards the sex.

But sooner than you think, she'd start turning down the man sexual attempt for flimsy excuses like “i am tired” or “i dont have the mood now” or other very humiliating bullshit excuses.


Here's the bitter truth most men won't want to swallow:

Women don't respect a male commitment "after" she has gotten it.

You can argue with me, get agitated and gnash your teeth over it...but that's just the bitter truth.

Look, she gets bored with male commitment 'after' she has gotten it. She no longer feel the need to be at her best behavior because she has already gotten what she want most in the man--wedding ring.


Basically, the moment you marry her is the very moment her attraction and desire for you begins to drop.

The very thing makes the man appealing to a woman is the fact that she's working hard to get him to commit.

It's the "uncertainty" and the not being sure if the man will put the ring on her finger is what makes him desirable to her.

When the man finally marry her, he's no longer a challenge for her to keep working hard to impress....so she starts to lose desire for him.

In her mind she's like, "Why should I keep working hard to impress him when the job is already done?"

As a result, the woman's interest in sex gradual deline with time. She starts to feel bored with the sex.

Women will NEVER admit this but that's the truth. Infact, don't listen to women on this subject.

Men should stop being weak and sentimental. Marriage is the best gift a woman can get from you. You're doing her a BIG favor by marrying her, so getting sex from her is non-negotiable. If she refuse to give you sex for flimsy reasons, then withdraw your commitment immedately.

Marriage has always been for women. Getting married to her is a huge sacrifice you are making for her... So If she get bored with giving you sex, you should also get bored with giving her your commitment.

Stay blessed brothers.