"Haven’t you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So, they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate." (NIV translation)
- Matthew 19: 4-6


DIVORCE can have various negative consequences on individuals and families. As christians it is important for us to explore the biblical perspective on divorce and understand how it can impact our lives and the lives of our loved ones. Little wonder JESUS highlights the will of GOD in the 19th Chapter of the book of Matthew (when the Pharisees came to test Him on the matter), here we are able to further come to terms with the sanctity of the marriage institute.

"....‘Why then,’ they asked, ‘did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?’
Jesus replied, ‘Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.’"
- Matthew 19: 7-8


Adultery. As seen through the eye of the scriptures is a breech of the sanctity of the marriage institution and also is a spiritual sacrilege as our accuser will rightly point out as a legal right to afflict our soul and also diminish the Spirit of God that identifies us as children. This (spiritual) defilement can only be averted when we walk steadfastly with God by constant fellowship through reading the word of God consistently. This enhances a spiritual power (of discipline and sound mind) on the other hand the wages of every unrepented sin is death.

In 1 Peter 5:8, it is written, "Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour."
This verse suggests that Satan seeks to exploit our spiritual (hence emotional) weaknesses and lead us astray. Although most victims justify divorce (like every sin man has had the liberty to indulge in) as a right to exercise universal liberty, the Bible however warns that "there is a way that seems right but it eventually leads to death" (Proverbs 14: 13).
A Christian needs to constantly seek wisdom and discernment from God rather than relying solely on our own understanding. There are so many dangers in following our own paths or the ways of the world, although it seem right or appealing but it ultimately leads to long lasting negative consequences on our lives and on our family and also spiritual death through a severed relationship with our Maker as a result of living in disobedience.
There is great gain trusting in the Lord and following His teachings for true guidance and fulfillment in marriage. GOD also equips us in being able to fulfill all our filial and social responsibilities through the Holy Spirit (John 14: 26) in Whom we are able to grow in (Galatians 5: 22-23)



Disadvantages of Divorce:

1. Emotional Turmoil:
Divorce often brings immense emotional distress. It brings pain, sorrow, and a sense of loss to both the spouses and their children. The Bible fortifies the Christian against such affliction. In the place of pain there is rejoicing, in the place of sorrow there's joy and no sense of loss, just forgiveness and testimonies on the things God has done. As we grow in faith by the word we become prone to Satan's antics and become alive in doing the will of God. We become pleasant to associate and to be reconciled with. The very nature of a loving God.
The book of Malachi illustrates God's abhorrence of divorce, stating that "He hates divorce" (Malachi 2: 16). It never was God's design for the marriage institution as it is a norm in our society today.

2. Breakdown of Lineage Blessings:
Divorce leads to the fragmentation of family units. Instead of having a strong foundation built on the foundation of God's purpose what we have is the seed of unfulfillment as a pattern in the lives of every divided home.
A great Judge appointed by God once (in the book of Joshua 24: 15) proclaimed that regardless of whatever circumstance his lineage starting from him will forever serve the Lord. With such proclaimations and a sound relationship with the Spirit of God lineage curses and their evil authority wielders are known to have been pulverized.
In Ephesians 5:22-25, it is emphasized that husbands and wives should love and submit to each other as Christ loves the church, such instruction are the bedrock for a long lasting union. “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.” (1 Peter 4:.
Love swallows a lot of inadequacies and shortcoming with a far reaching foresight that only the Spirit of God can provide.
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-7.

3. Impact on Children:
Divorce can have a profound impact on children's lives, as they often face confusion, insecurity, and emotional trauma. Children from broken families often experience instability and struggle to cope with life. Rejection is a camouflaged vermin in the mind of children that have experienced divorce. A lot of destinies have been destroyed through rejection. Most of juveniles we have as delinquents, addicts and social misfits have been known to be products of a broken marriage, except in situations where God has been allowed to intervene in the situation before the devil and his agents destroy the union and God's purpose for their offspring.
In Malachi 2:16, God encourages spouses to consider the welfare of their children and strive to keep the marital bond.

4. Financial Challenges:
Divorce often results in financial hardships. Such repercussions can affect the overall well-being of both spouses and children. Proverbs 21:5 reminds us of the importance of wise financial planning and responsible decision-making which is a major source of misery in our world. It has never been easier for a single parent, even in places where their system supports divorce conveniently.



The Bible no doubt consistently upholds the sanctity of marriage, discouraging divorce except in cases of unfaithfulness (Matthew 19:9). It encourages couples to work through their difficulties and seek reconciliation instead of resorting to divorce. By understanding and adhering to the biblical teachings on marriage, we can strive to create stable and nurturing environments not only for ourselves but also for our children, reflecting the divine plan for family unity and love (Ephesians 6:1-4). Let us honor our commitment to God, ensuring that divorce does not become the solution to our marital challenges, but rather a last resort considering the destructive and long lasting effects of this monster (divorce) and allow a sound relationship with God help preserve the sanctity of marriage and the future of our homes.

Divorce is undoubtedly a complex and sensitive issue, especially when viewed through the lens of biblical teachings.

I've actually been through a divorce myself, so I can relate to the challenges and emotions that come with it. During that time, I found solace in exploring the biblical reasons for divorce, seeking guidance in the scriptures. It's clear from your perspective that the Bible emphasizes the sanctity of marriage and encourages couples to work through their difficulties. It's a reminder that preserving the unity of the family is crucial. I appreciate your insights into the disadvantages of divorce, particularly the impact it has on children and lineage blessings. It's a sobering reminder of the ripple effects that divorce can have.

The Bible God HATES divorce {Malachi 2:16} that is why His only begotten Son told the Jews that whoever divorces his wife apart from the fact that she slept with another man should be stoned to death! Matthew 19:9

So as followers of Christ we need to be careful regarding such a case Jesus said:

"What God has yoked together let no man put asunder" Matthew 19:6

Once two persons have had a blood covenant (sex) God has registered them as one any of the two who deliberately decide to break such a covenant is asking for the wrath of God!

Nardeant:
Divorce is undoubtedly a complex and sensitive issue, especially when viewed through the lens of biblical teachings.

Divorce isn't complicated at all. All of the teachings and commandments as stated by Jesus Christ for those in the Kingdom of God are pretty straightforward and easy to grasp.

---

In the Gospels, Jesus Christ does not teach that divorce is a sin. Instead, He speaks instead of remarriage being a potential sin for those already divorced, and even those about to marry for the first time.
■ Matthew 5 vs 31 - 32

31 “It was also said, ‘Any man who divorces his wife must give her a written notice of divorce.’
32 But I tell you that any man who divorces his wife, except for the problem of sexual sin, is causing his wife to be guilty of adultery. And whoever marries a divorced woman is guilty of adultery. - Matthew 5 vs 31 - 32

■ Matthew 19 vs 7 - 9

7 The Pharisees asked, “Then why did Moses give a command allowing a man to divorce his wife by writing a certificate of divorce?”
8 Jesus answered, “Moses allowed you to divorce your wives because you refused to accept God’s teaching. But divorce was not allowed in the beginning.
9 I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for the problem of sexual sin, and marries another woman is guilty of adultery.” - Matthew 19 vs 7 - 9

■Mark 10 vs 10- 12

10 Later, when the followers and Jesus were in the house, they asked him again about the question of divorce. 
11 He said, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another woman has sinned against his wife. He is guilty of adultery. 
12  And the woman who divorces her husband and marries another man is also guilty of adultery.” - Mark 10 vs 10- 12

■ Luke 16 vs 18

18 “Any man who divorces his wife and marries another woman is guilty of adultery. And the man who marries a divorced woman is also guilty of adultery.” - Luke 16 vs 18

■ Matthew 19 vs 12

11 He answered, “This statement is true for some, but not for everyone—only for those who have been given this gift.
12 There are different reasons why some men don’t marry. Some were born without the ability to produce children. Others were made that way later in life. And others have given up marriage because of God’s kingdom. This is for anyone who is able to accept it.” - Matthew 19 vs 11 - 12

Divorce in and of itself is not a sin, so says Jesus Christ.