Baba bomboy, I am so so interested in your own age? It does look like you have some basic learning to do yourself.

Anything we tell you here is just to help feed your momentary anger, when she shows up again and you see bobbi, otilo.

The young boy is not behind academically anything. Provide whatever support you wish to support but don't condemn the efforts of your in-laws. There definitely must have been a reason for them to have their daughter and your son under their care.

Exmilitant:
4503k and you dey brag say you dey financially well of? Dey play..
Oboy, stop being emotional. You dullard no Sabi book. Q.E.D

na English Dem dey chop? You wen get money send am money na na to come talk rubbish and brag una Sabi.

LyfeJennings:


lmao
walahi, baba nla OLORIBURUKU NI E
AJE!!!!!!
As far as this forum is concerned, nobody craze pass U

Haba you don mean am before

A boy of 5 yrs is suppose to be in nursery 2or 3 to start with so taking him back to nursery is not a bad idea , i wonder how he got to basic at 5 yrs anyways let him go back to nursery so he can learn how to write cos he can not cope in basic if he does not learn how to write cos basic class is more of coping of note no teacher will have the time for that in basic class

edoncast:
Good evenning nairalanders ,

I once created tgis topic
https://www.nairaland.com/7654416/ex-came-2-days-ago

While the love of my son made me to pay lot of visits to my ex dad house in Ajegunle alongide Sango road ,i find out my son stayed 2 months at home before registering him into 1 mushroom school and his mum never allowed me to know what class he was .He spent just 1st term of his Nursery 2 with me and was doing fine before his mum decided to shock me .The visits made us to had things together again.


Before the kids holiday started ,she came around once and we did stuff together and immeaditely the school break started ,she brought my son and in all,i would say we have stayed almost 3 weeks together.(She went back to her place at Ajegunle on friday , .She never returned any of the items she packed. I find out her siblings and dad got a room for her .So,she got the room filled with all my belongings .If i ask her about it ,she tells me to forget about it and i didnt even complain.To say the truth ,the love i have for her have diminished a lot and it is up to the level that i dont feel anything for her if i dont see her .I only develop feeling for her if i see her with my son .

Now,my son have been with my younger sister since 15 days ago
and i find out that boy cant even write or read but could only fit for Nursery 2 instead of Basic 1 he was supposed to be promoted to if his mum didnt take him away .My sister is a teacher and she is good at teaching very well.From the lesson she enrolled him and her sons ,i was made to know that boy cant even cope in Basic 1 .Even ,he will only manage to be in Nursery 2.

I had to shed some tears on hearing this .I called my elder sister and told her i will not allow him to go back to Ajegunle.I plan to create time for him when school resumes .I am enrolling him into Nursery 2 and also get a teacher for him .I will make sure i close early from work to do my own part .

About his mum,i am not interested any longer .She have really done a lot of damages to my life mentally,financially and emotionally .The worst of it is my son eduaction .She have messed me up so much .I was supposed to get a new accommodation before she packed away my stuffs but i spent all the money i saved to get new items .I started over again and thank God ,i am moving out of this house latest september ending .

I am so devastated and i pray God give me the strength to teach my son the way i want and may God bless his brain too .I have decided to live alone woth him so i can train him the way i want and in God way .He is 5 years and 3 months old

Relax, he might turnout to be a genius. My son is 6+ n just learning to read and talk clearly but you need to listen to his reasoning n logic, very brilliant!

NoToPile:
That age is still okay for Nursey 2.
He is still groom able.

Let your sis enroll him in Nursey 2 by next year he will move to Basic 1 at 6 years.

If your sister who is a teacher has assessed him and his suggesting Nursey 2, let him stay there, within 1 year he's going to do all this writing and reading stuff. Don't move him to Basic 1.

The foundation is important, if he can't get simple addition and few letter words right, he has no business going to primary 1.

By next September you would be impressed if he's well handled in a good school.

He is even good in mathematics .We have been on this matter till today and my ex made an excuse that the problem was his former school cos they dont teach them phonetics and all that shits in English .

The boy is sound in mathematics because i had myself put him to test and he did well but the deficiency is in English .

He can write and pronounce 2 letter words perfectly and also he is trying with 3 letter words but he cant read long sentence like my younger sister son who is just 3 months older than him who is already in Basic 2

sisisioge:
It is well, I'm sure he will catch up well if you're prepare to really help his education. My only worry is giving him stability. Biko enough of staying with grandpa,mommy, aunty, cousin, etc....be steadfast with your resolve to keep him with you. May God bless you both.

Amen .i love ur response sir .

Thanks

maticar:

you go dey quote small pikin dem for nairaland

most of these clowns here are teenagers

just try and take things easy bro

Thanks sir

Collins4u1:
I'm sure Love has called you face to face and said "edoncast, I will kill you".

keep behaving like utara ede, until they pack your life too.

What do u mean sir ?pls explain sir

shiwex:
Check to see if he ha a medical condition. He might be autistic.

Lols


My son Autistic.


That boy is not Autistic anything .It is her mother bad decision that is affecting him.

Xkale1996:
don't allow ur son to go back
To ajegule

That area no sexy at all

Find
Original honey and original garlic powder

Mix it together
Early in the morning
Give him one spoon
By the will of God
His brain will Sharpen
He will be intelligent in school

Thanks

ChiefOkporghe:
OP, in your previous thread you stated you had a girlfriend who was around when your ex came and looted your things.

Now, in this thread, you're saying your ex did visit you and you guys did some stuffs together. Like she spent about 3 weeks or so together with you and your son.

Where was your current girlfriend when your ex came around and stayed for a while?
Are you still with your post-ex girlfriend or you've broken up?

Also, you managed to squeeze in love for your ex into your post.
Like you don't love her again except only when she's with your son.

To me, you shouldn't even be talking about love for your ex at this stage.

From what you've written, you seem to be someone who is disorganized and cannot make his mind about something. You can easily look back when you put your hand on the plow.

I wonder how you will be able to raise your son though.

Meanwhile for your son, reinforce his learning with animated learning videos that can teach him counting and basic maths, spellings and pronunciation/iddentification of words and things.

I wish you and your son the best. Plus your ex.

Broke up with post ex 3 months or 2 months ago when my ex was signalling to come back

phemmyfour:
Relax, he's still young. He ll eventually catch up. Children develop at different pace

Ok .tnx

placeofallure:


His spelling and Grammar?? That was the first thing I checked out when he said he will teach him by himself.

OP, I understand your concern for your boy, but let me tell you, he's not the first 5 year old that cannot read. This IQ of a thing, cognitive abilities, are hereditary, take it or leave it. Even your sister that's offering to help, I doubt she's good enough for the boy though she has good intentions. She's also not very sound.

Then talking from experience, let the boy retake nursery 2, don't think about the money, God will provide for you. You'll be glad you did.

I don't like women who are careless with parenting. Your estranged wife or baby mama is one such woman. I won't advise you let her take the boy, she'd destroy him. You are a man who will go to work everyday, how do you deal with the additional task of raising a child that young? Please think carefully before you make a drastic or irrational choice. Your boy must turn out well, that's your priority.

Some schools or establishments do after school runs, you may want to consider that.

We are both brilliant.I mean me and my younger sister .We have been an orphan for over 20 years but d 3 of us pushed till we were educated ?we are good and i rate our brilliance 7.5 over 10.

His mum is just below average

Ayoade19:


With due respect sir, stop having sex with your baby mama whenever she comes around.
For your son's education sake, I'll admonish you adhere to your sister's advice.

Also, our brain differs, I knew how to read and write when I got to basic three, in basic 6 i took 1st position for that session.

The boy will catch up. Getting him a personal teacher too will help shape his academic prowess.

What about your girlfriend in the previous post that was at home when your baby mama came to pack your stuffs?

It seems you love engaging in coitus?

I broke up with her when she mistakingly read my chats with my sister that i should leave her .She even slapped me and said i have been using her .After the slap ,she begged and gave me a very HOT sex to apologise and that was the last time i saw her .I stopped all communications with her and it was then i know tgat the devil u know is better than the angel u have not seen as the proverb says .

edoncast:



We are both brilliant.I mean me and my younger sister .We have been an orphan for over 20 years but d 3 of us pushed till we were educated ?we are good and i rate our brilliance 7.5 over 10.

His mum is just below average

If your sister doesn't mind, leave the boy with her. You can visit him on weekdays if you return early from work, then he can be with you all through the weekend. It's the boy I'm really concerned about. He must turn out well. He shouldn't suffer based on the poor choices you and your (what do I call her?) made as adults.

Exmilitant:
4503k and you dey brag say you dey financially well of? Dey play..
Oboy, stop being emotional. You dullard no Sabi book. Q.E.D

Stop talking and acting like an exmilitant.

edoncast:


Let me burst your brain,

I am doing well financially i am sure .If i am not doing well financially,i will not put together 450k in 3 months .Just rest

And again,i typed those messages under emotional pain .Stop acting like a slowpoke if you cant advise me

From your narration, your baby mama may be careless in some ways. But things can still be amended. If you can't sort your babymama issue now with intervention of family members, how do you know the next woman you d meet ll be better?
Girls of nowadays are like kids and patience is required to deal with them. In fact, I bin wan ask where you met her cos you should be able to read a girl's character after few weeks of dating. My advise to you is to give life a chance one more time, sort things and set targets with her. If only she's not reasonable is the time you should move on. About packing your items to her own rented house, that's laughable. Na una know where una dey see girls like this. Just try on more time cos it's not good to be having children with different women. If she can change, not be a waster or be draining you financially, fine.

man i feel this your write up you need to open a thread for it people needs to learn, same with me mine is not even academically but being serious minded, focused hustling when my friends use money to buy lands, cars and some kind things I see unnecessary at that moment me i keep doing business to make more money so I can aquire more of those things in future my brother today this guys hv more of those things while I keep struggling to aquire one......anyway that is life

franchasofficia:
Academic success is not a guarantee that someone will be successful later in life as adult.


I happen to be one of the brightest pupils during my growing up; starting from nursery to tertiary, I always came out in flying colors and I find it easy to understand anything I read even if people are shouting while I am reading, I will still understand everything. I can be gisting with you and be reading and still comprehend everything I read without much stress. I was so academically gifted to the extent that even though I attended ill equipped government Primary and secondary schools, I still excelled better than those that attended good schools.


Guess what?

I struggled for too long before making headway in life when compared to my mates who weren't academically bright.


It took me several effort, dedication, relearning, rediscovering myself and praying to God for me to finally see light in my life.



I am in my late 30s now and some of the most successful mates and friends I have today who are doing excellently well in different careers, business, etc are the olodos during our school years. Some are now big company owners. Some are getting closer to becoming Billionaires legitimately not through fraud or criminalities. These were guys that barely know what ABCD is during school days yet they are huge success in life today.



I am like the poorest among my friends who use to depend on me academically in school. I finally succeeded in life by the special grace of God almighty and through self development, hardwork and consistency and not even through my academic performance or excellence.


My point, appreciate your son because it is not his fault that he is not as bright as his mates, these things are gifts from God and mostly not learned from attending best schools even though they help.


One thing you must try now to inculcate in him is the habit of being disciplined. Let him learn to be disciplined and not end up wayward and arrogant through keeping bad companies.


Do the best you can for him to catch up, pray fervently for him daily and always bless him and leave the rest for God and his destiny.


Destiny matters most not academic excellence.


Our destiny and God's mercy is the only surest way to being successful in life, not by our academic excellence or hardwork or wisdom.

libertyfather:
man i feel this your write up you need to open a thread for it people needs to learn, same with me mine is not even academically but being serious minded, focused hustling when my friends use money to buy lands, cars and some kind things I see unnecessary at that moment me i keep doing business to make more money so I can aquire more of those things in future my brother today this guys hv more of those things while I keep struggling to aquire one......anyway that is life

It is well, just don't give up, learn from your past mistakes and pickup yourself again and fight on.

Exmilitant:
op focus on improving yourself financially, educationally and, spiritually.
The Male Child is naturally attached to his mother. Even if you sacrifice your life for him, mama always has a spot in his heart.

And how in heaven do you plan to teach that boy when your spelling and grammar sucks.

which kain stupid post be this?

Trust me there's something your boy is good at. Discover his talent. He'll be fine .

edoncast:


He is even good in mathematics .We have been on this matter till today and my ex made an excuse that the problem was his former school cos they dont teach them phonetics and all that shits in English .

The boy is sound in mathematics because i had myself put him to test and he did well but the deficiency is in English .

He can write and pronounce 2 letter words perfectly and also he is trying with 3 letter words but he cant read long sentence like my younger sister son who is just 3 months older than him who is already in Basic 2

The bolded is the reason why he should go back, some schools even have nursery 3/ pre-primary/ reception (depending on what they want to call it) after Nursey 2. Since that school is moving to Basic 1 directly from nursery 2, I suspect they are incorporating some of the preprimary stuff in the children's curriculum.

The foundation of education is very important, you said he's trying with 3 letter words, I think a child should be able to do that effortlessly and read basic sentences before moving to primary 1. It's very important he gets it right once it's wrong the child will struggle with reading and comprehension.


I am not a teacher oo, just a parent that have children that have passed and still passing through the process.

Also don't compare your son with your sisters son, she is a teacher and has likely drilled the boy, he mostlikely has been with his mother not moved up and down you stated your boy was been moved from one place to another do you think those things don't affect children.

Get a stable home for him, enroll him with a good school, your sister can also help brush him up and see your child perform wonders. You can correct that anomaly now, your son will thank you for it.

He will still enter secondary school by 10, the foundation is the most important.

edoncast:
Good evenning nairalanders ,

I once created tgis topic
https://www.nairaland.com/7654416/ex-came-2-days-ago

While the love of my son made me to pay lot of visits to my ex dad house in Ajegunle alongide Sango road ,i find out my son stayed 2 months at home before registering him into 1 mushroom school and his mum never allowed me to know what class he was .He spent just 1st term of his Nursery 2 with me and was doing fine before his mum decided to shock me .The visits made us to had things together again.


Before the kids holiday started ,she came around once and we did stuff together and immeaditely the school break started ,she brought my son and in all,i would say we have stayed almost 3 weeks together.(She went back to her place at Ajegunle on friday , .She never returned any of the items she packed. I find out her siblings and dad got a room for her .So,she got the room filled with all my belongings .If i ask her about it ,she tells me to forget about it and i didnt even complain.To say the truth ,the love i have for her have diminished a lot and it is up to the level that i dont feel anything for her if i dont see her .I only develop feeling for her if i see her with my son .

Now,my son have been with my younger sister since 15 days ago
and i find out that boy cant even write or read but could only fit for Nursery 2 instead of Basic 1 he was supposed to be promoted to if his mum didnt take him away .My sister is a teacher and she is good at teaching very well.From the lesson she enrolled him and her sons ,i was made to know that boy cant even cope in Basic 1 .Even ,he will only manage to be in Nursery 2.

I had to shed some tears on hearing this .I called my elder sister and told her i will not allow him to go back to Ajegunle.I plan to create time for him when school resumes .I am enrolling him into Nursery 2 and also get a teacher for him .I will make sure i close early from work to do my own part .

About his mum,i am not interested any longer .She have really done a lot of damages to my life mentally,financially and emotionally .The worst of it is my son eduaction .She have messed me up so much .I was supposed to get a new accommodation before she packed away my stuffs but i spent all the money i saved to get new items .I started over again and thank God ,i am moving out of this house latest september ending .

I am so devastated and i pray God give me the strength to teach my son the way i want and may God bless his brain too .I have decided to live alone woth him so i can train him the way i want and in God way .He is 5 years and 3 months old

Have you done DNA analysis to even verify that the child is even yours in the first place?
Because all this things you're mentioning aren't normal. Sha do the test and tag me when you write a followup post.

Exceed15:
Trust me there's something your boy is good at. Discover his talent. He'll be fine .

Drawing he is good in maths too

Exmilitant:
Cry baby cry. Accountant you come dey make mistakes with figures. na your kind dey crash economy.
leave dat boy with him mama o, make you no carry your busybody spoil things.

Let the op breath!

edoncast:



Broke up with post ex 3 months or 2 months ago when my ex was signalling to come back

But why would you do that for someone who you claimed was toxic and lots of things in your previous thread.

You've to be intentional and let go what you have to let go. Cos, you being with the mother of your child today and another woman tomorrow and then the mother of your child again and then another woman tomorrow may give your son an unstable childhood which can affect his mental and academic developmental growth.

edoncast:




Drawing he is good in maths too

U see nah.. your boy is a genius in making and You didn't know. Supply him a lot of drawing materials. Most great men are known for their talents.

Exceed15:


U see nah.. your boy is a genius in making and You didn't know. Supply him a lot of drawing materials. Most great men are known for their talents.

Ok cool.will provide

Are you talking about your baby mama now or your erstwhile girlfriend

edoncast:


I broke up with her when she mistakingly read my chats with my sister that i should leave her .She even slapped me and said i have been using her .After the slap ,she begged and gave me a very HOT sex to apologise and that was the last time i saw her .I stopped all communications with her and it was then i know tgat the devil u know is better than the angel u have not seen as the proverb says .

Ayoade19:
Are you talking about your baby mama now or your erstwhile girlfriend

Gf