Any advice on setting clearer boundaries brothers?


This happened today:

I called a friend of mine so we can go for an all night together at a church we were invited in, he was already in the vicinity so I asked where are you he said said at his pastors house and I'm like where is the pastors house then he started complaining... "abeg I nor wan go that church now before oo" then he cut call, I called this boy and he didn't pick again



I had to go to the church myself but that thing pissed me off but I couldn't call again because he's not my girlfriend that I'll start quarrelling over the phone. He came to church later but it was toll after church close I saw him, he couldn't even talk to me and I as well didn't give a damn so I left and came home



I honestly did not want to bring up something from 7 hours ago and start vexing this early morning. Already I'm very mentality stressed because I'm trying to make good use of this 4 months remaining to make my life better and get money.



We usually do these church things like sing in churches and all that but I lost interest in them, it is not want I want to do with my life at all. I want big things and going to churches everyday is not what I want for now or for my future so I stopped hanging out with them. All they do is church and girls then don't even hustle that much, they aren't bothered about making money as much as I am



This is not the first time this friend has disrespected me and my time like this but the first few times I let it slide but recently it's becoming a pattern and I'm cutting him off and this recent one he did is one obvious reason why I need to complete excommunicate him from my life because I get really annoyed when I'm disrespected but the times he does it is when I'm not close to him so I can't carry issues like I'm a girl.



What do you guys think, cutting him off is best? Because I'm already no longer hanging out with them too

How do I set clearer boundaries without getting angry? Mostly because I don't have a very good way of expressing anger it's destructive but I'm an introverted person so I do well with managing my emotions

Oga do anything wet dey your mind..if I tell you wetin dey my mind una go call am bad advice...

See as this one is cruising in bitterness cause you were left behind. They never leave you, now they have left you behind.

OKUCHI11:
Iga do anything wet dey your mind..if I tell you wetin dey my mind una go call am bad advice...

good advice. Then they come hold u when the advice backfires

Oga find cold water.
Why do you need extra advice when you have a brain?

You just spoke in a way that supports girlfriends in a Christian's life.
You said that you're not that interested in Church, you need money.
Now you're really angry with this guy for a very small reason and you're this free to broadcast it.

Fix the dots. Do you think our advice changes anything?

preciousee17:
Oga find cold water.
Why do you need extra advice when you have a brain?

You just spoke in a way that supports girlfriends in a Christian's life.
You said that you're not that interested in Church, you need money.
Now you're really angry with this guy for a very small reason and you're this free to broadcast it.

Fix the dots. Do you think our advice changes anything?

You're honestly saying rubbish

MatrixReloaded:
See as this one is cruising in bitterness cause you were left behind. They never leave you, now they have left you behind.

That was not my problem, who cares if I'm left behind. Read again

DamianDd:


You're honestly saying rubbish

I just repeated the contents of your post, you said I'm saying rubbish.

Fix the dots, who's the original sayer of the rubbish?

preciousee17:


I just repeated the contents of your post, you said I'm saying rubbish.

Fix the dots, who's the original sayer of the rubbish?

Complete rubbish. The advice I asked and what you're saying are two different things, if I was angry I would've confronted him. I just don't want to be happen again