I chose the family thread to create this topic because I feel I can get matured advice here.

I think the society needs to have a redefinition about the roles of men and women in marriage.

So, I've been thinking lately why there seems to be many toxic relationships and marriages.

From my findings, women only want to bring prayers, advice, and fertility to the marital table. I think this is wrong. How do married men even cope with this idea?

1. If prayer works like the women themselves opined, then, every woman on earth should be rich. Isn't that what they have chosen as their purpose?

Why look for a readymade man when it's your prayers that will make your husband rich? Why not marry a random man and let your prayers make him rich?

2. If a man became wealthy as a bachelor; let's assume our bachelor has a networth of 80 million naira before meeting a lady with less than 300k naira as her total networth.

This lady believes the guy should marry her so that she can give him pieces of advice as her only contribution to his life?
I'm kind of lost here.

This guy made his money without getting any piece of advice from you.

Why would you believe this is what you are bringing into marriage?

2b. When a woman meets a rich man, she expects him to marry her even with a court wedding. She expects them to automatically become joint owners of his properties merely because she wedded him. I'll leave this at this.

3. It takes a fertile man and a fertile woman to make a baby. Even if you go to sperm bank, or you are using artificial means of insemination, you still need a fertile sperm.

So, why should a woman bring only fertility when the man is also bringing his own fertility?

So, I believe the idea of marriage should be redefined. Women should at least know how important it is to earn an income and support their families.

Making money is hard. If not so, everyone on earth should be using either a Ferrari or a Rolls-Royce.

This is entirely my opinion anyways, but this is why I think marriage needs to be redefined by the society.

Married folks in the house, please how do you deal with these?

I agree with your points entirely.

All the women you know are jobless?

Hathor5:
All the women you know are jobless?

The fact that a woman is working means a man should assume that she will support him?

Most times, women tend to avoid discussions on the topic of finances before marriage. Once a man starts talking about finances and responsibilities, they assume he wants to push his responsibilities to them.