Talabioye:
Ladies earning more than a guy sef go still expect make him dey give am ooo

safarilove:
Better work on your attitudes too so you can see better man marry..
^{The man dey plan him life small small and you want dey start unnecessary billings
so he rather see you as a sex slaves and I am glad you saw that coming}..

occfx:


You wan go bill am na for this Tinubu regime? No, he is wise but he is a wise jew man. Me i go collect one round for that scattered hair, then show you my empty pocket. You are supposed to be wife material after all, you no suppose vex, na so country dey. Later, we go UN for peace talk

Octopusssy:
I cannot understand this article. Someone should please explain what she said happened between her and the Deeper Life dude

achimendy:




"A love without giving is lust ", but why do you ladies think a man should be the only one giving , while you ladies sit down and do the receiving, where are you people learning this nonsense from for God sake?


This is one of the reasons why majority of matured ladies are not getting married today, because of their poverty-driven instinct and mentality.

Persephone1:
Sigh!

Midehi3:
Don't date a guy who pays but don't give

pansophist:
While I have no issue with the topic, will breakup of the relationship/marriage be the automatic consequence if the man looses his source of income and can't afford to spend on her anymore?

Funkybabee:
Good morning to my beautiful ladies here and our fellow brothers though una can wail like you normally did before. This post is not for you but for ladies to share their opinion 👎👎

I saw a post on instablog where a ladies share her opinion on why you shouldn't marry a man who cannot afford the thing you can do for yourself.

Back to my own view, I think it's not about how much he earn but how much he can give, a man can be rich and be stingy at the same time while a man can be rich, give and still not care about cheating thereby disrespecting your feeling.

I met a guy this year, got to his apartment saw there are no things there when I asked he said he just moved to this state with a new job but still setting up small by small, I said that's good to me for the fact that he's going to one of the old disciplined church while also he has completed is Master unless he has no ambition that he will be definitely good to go.

Later I discovered something about him, he don't used to call unless you chat don't know how it look somehow to me because I don't like calls too but I feel somehow, if you ain't online, he will wait till you come online to chat whether two or more days, he's after sexual thing though he said he's a believer, our house is not far to his place I normally trekked that's why I don't care about tfare at all so one day, I loosed my hair, went to his place to greet him omo he doesn't even look my way but after his satisfaction and later on he began one filmsy excuse of waiting for his brother to come that I should prepare to leave now. it didn't bother me too much until I got home and call my brain to order that am I for real with this guy, I later left him but he keep begging me it's not what I think, but I told him to come and see outside for him to spend assurance while herefused to that

Omo ladies come and share your experience concerning this una guys are welcome with your bashing

A love without giving is a lust. It's not about be material or how much he can give but the willing in his heart and to love someone without caring about his materialistic is not an offence

onadana:



You don't want to spend but shamelessly you want free punanny... bro e no dey work like that again.Love is a doing word with reciprocating.

Funkybabee:
Good morning to my beautiful ladies here and our fellow brothers though una can wail like you normally did before. This post is not for you but for ladies to share their opinion 👎👎

I saw a post on instablog where a ladies share her opinion on why you shouldn't marry a man who cannot afford the thing you can do for yourself.

Back to my own view, I think it's not about how much he earn but how much he can give, a man can be rich and be stingy at the same time while a man can be rich, give and still not care about cheating thereby disrespecting your feeling.

I met a guy this year, got to his apartment saw there are no things there when I asked he said he just moved to this state with a new job but still setting up small by small, I said that's good to me for the fact that he's going to one of the old disciplined church while also he has completed is Master unless he has no ambition that he will be definitely good to go.

Later I discovered something about him, he don't used to call unless you chat don't know how it look somehow to me because I don't like calls too but I feel somehow, if you ain't online, he will wait till you come online to chat whether two or more days, he's after sexual thing though he said he's a believer, our house is not far to his place I normally trekked that's why I don't care about tfare at all so one day, I loosed my hair, went to his place to greet him omo he doesn't even look my way but after his satisfaction and later on he began one filmsy excuse of waiting for his brother to come that I should prepare to leave now. it didn't bother me too much until I got home and call my brain to order that am I for real with this guy, I later left him but he keep begging me it's not what I think, but I told him to come and see outside for him to spend assurance while herefused to that

Omo ladies come and share your experience concerning this una guys are welcome with your bashing

A love without giving is a lust. It's not about be material or how much he can give but the willing in his heart and to love someone without caring about his materialistic is not an offence

Little21:
The lady in question here doesn't know what she want. Maybe she thinks the guy has money that's why she went for a visit, and only ended up being used to the guys satisfaction. I don't know why ladies nowadays don't give values to themselves. Even if you guys are dating you shouldn't just give access to your body that easily,unless they see you as a LovePeddler, slut or those kind of shit. It's because nowadays because of materia things girls are willing to open there leg for whatever. But that's wrong, that makes guys think we have nothing to offer than s*x.Tf*..?? Hell no. As long as you owe him nothing, he also owe you nothing. Just because you are dating doesn't mean he have to take care of all your needs..? You have your parents to do that for you and you also have yourself. Why must he carry your burden you are not married and even if you are married, you still got to take care of yourself not waiting for another person to do that for you.
And back to the question. Is not about marrying a man who can't afford what you can for yourself. Are you expecting him to do miracles.? Even when you can't afford something for yourself, why must he be the one too..? You must be doing okay yourself before looking for a man that's as okay as you.. that's the only way the equation can balance. What if he can afford it but he doesn't love you.? What if everything you do irritate him? Is not all about money. Loves comes first , then you can talk about money. Not the other way around.

Nwaotu10:


I'm a guyman and I'm stingy with my hard earned money!
Say what you know, mate

ExudeLoveToAll:


Reciprocity is the guy satisfying her and vice versa. Reciprocity isn't the guy giving her money, compare apples to apples and mangoes to mangoes.

Relationship should be reciprocal in money, sex, love, attention and otherwise. The moment one party withheld any, the relationship may hit the rock sooner than later.

Olachase:
the thing is ur msg is not clear self

jamesversion:


Pls expatiate on that part.

ExudeLoveToAll:


1. Brother had sex with her

2. She was expecting something in return from brother

3. Brother did not bulge to her request

4. Sister got angry and started ranting everywhere


This rant will always continue when a girl sees relationship as a means of employment and then she sees the reverse happening.

She has no case as a result of lack of merit, case dismissed.

Persephone1:
The question here isn't about spreading legs at least Op has done that and for free if I may add.

The question is what is the usefulness of Op's boyfriend and other men like him if they can't provide for their women? What do you offer if the only thing you know how to do as a Nigerian man is off the table?

PeachtreeReside:
That is why when a Nigerian guy goes abroad and finds out that the ladies over there do no need to be kept to be their GF, they begin to curse Nigerian Ladies.


That mentality of a man must do 80% of what I should be doing for myself is bad.


I low-key agree that most Nigerian ladies do not know what love is. They equate love with how much a man gives to them.

frankson1:



You ladies keep confirming on daily basis that ladies only have their body to give in a relationship and nothing more.

Op never stated how she bought a foot mat in her 'boyfriend's house or add anything to the empty house.

It was obvious from the very first day she met the guy, she was after his money and the guy saw through her.

She had to sleep with him just to get money for her hair and when she didn't, she embarrassingly came online to write story.

Anyway, I've learnt alot from Nairaland and no more doing good and being responsible because I'm changing the game too.

Persephone1:
If this is all your brain could process then you are excused.

You mistake me for one who cares.

frankson1:



She said "after his satisfaction" as if she didn't get satisfied too. She's only angry because the guy didn't give her money and I'm guessing that she didn't inform the guy that she was into transactional sex.