ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

let her go....this relationship will never always lack fulfilment.

My first question is, do you have money or stable means of livelihood? Hmmmmm.

You are toying with fire. They can't help going back to them if the need arises.

We settled one last year taya!!!!
Similar story.
Sorry. No advice.

Foodqueen:
Break up with her if u want to and stop using past.

Were you not having sex with the girls you were with in your past.

I don't know what's wrong with these baby boys aswear

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

You are an hypocrite. Your own past with other females is fine but her own past is giving you headache?

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

You don't know what you want. You simply don't deserve her.

How many girls will tell you about their past without hiding key points?

I would go ahead if that's the only thing.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

ebijimi7...you need to grow up!

You are insecure and you don't love that girl. You call yourself a brostitute from your own reckless lifestyle which you think is ok but holding the past of a lady who truly loves you against her.

My advice to you: leave her so that a man who truly deserves her will locate her.

Latty88:
OP be sincere, you too have had something to do with a lot of girls!

Just like the way some of those girls in your past used you likewise some of thee guys in her past used her too. Therefore you have no right to judge or condemn her.

If you cannot deal with her past free her quickly.

I wonder where all diz una responses dey emanate from.

D guy acknowledged he's ain't innocent wen it comes to promiscuity in his past. He also shared such info with d gal just as she shared hers with him.

But den, according to d guy, at slightest occurrence, d gal would start crying, saying d guys is acting up on her past.

The guy never judges her based on her past.

I think d gal is rather trying to manipulate him emotionally. It's not something new.

Wen a widow is admonished for doing sth wrong, u see her lamenting, saying, because my husband is no more .

DarkJeddi:
Leave that equity aside,this not a court of law..
A man having 30 body counts and a woman having 20 body counts,are not the same..
That is the difference between polygamous and promiscuity..

A brostitute have no right to call another a prostitute, simple.

if we tell this man the truth now, he will say we just want to scatter his relationship...anyways yoruba will say "abo oro lan so fun omoluwabi" ..... Ire o

Abeg free the lady
Someone who truly appreciates and love her will surely come her way

Make sure you go find true vaargin as you fit forget your own past but can’t forget her own.

Settling down with woman no be by force.

elmagnifico411:
you have a past, and she does have too.. u decided not to talk about yours cos u don't want us to see u as 'brostitute' like u mentioned, which means u were a bad boy in the past. U must have impregnated girls and paid for their abortion, but u want us to judge your girlfriend, reasons u went on and on about her past. Bros, you're a hypocrite! She's the one I'll blame sha for opening that much to u not knowing u wouldn't be able to handle it. If u cannot continue since u think you're better than her, leave the lady alone! U are not a good person, and u don't deserve a good girlfriend cos that lady came clean to u, which makes her now a good person. Abeg shift.

Don't mind the hypocrite!... He said they've been friends for years, can he boast of no sex with her? When one is in relationship, you give your "all" believing for the best in that relationship until one thing or the other breaks it. So you keep going till you get to the right person. Some don't get the opportunity for intimacy, while some do. These intimacies happens with "men" so how the women turns useless while the men are upheld still drives me insane.... That's not Fair. You intentionally covered your sins and you are here opening all that the lady confided in you with to the world.... You are wicked. Let her go. You will definitely find the one wey go put pepper for your eyes. Nonsense

Op, run for your dear life! Don't let anyone guittrip you into marrying a public toilet in the name of wife. You can't satisfy a lady who has had sex with 10 different guys!

Beware!

Tenrack:
LoL you're really delusional if you think it won't affect you if you marry her. brace yourself.

Only a "boy" reasons this way.... Wait till you get matured, you will know what you want in a woman.

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

Everybody has one past or the other. Just look at it this way, supposing she did not tell you about her past, wouldn't you have gone ahead and marry her? For a woman to open up to you her very dirty past, that means she not only loves you, but also trusts you. I salute her sincerity to open up to you, many girls out there will never do such a thing for fear of losing you. She is a good woman whose vulnerability was a abused, and taken advantage of. I've seen women who were tagged prostitutes when not married, but immediately they get married, they turned a new leave. If you love, go for her, and train your heart to let the past stay with the past.

omooba969:


Even if she did abortions, what's the big deal?

if she did abortion, it is a very big deal. you think abortion is something you can do without having a repercussion? no wonder we have a lot of barren women in marriages today cos they believe abortion is ok

Jman06:
Op, run for your dear life! Don't let anyone guittrip you into marrying a public toilet in the name of wife. You can't satisfy a lady who has had sex with 10 different guys!

Beware!

But he that hid his past from us and even confirmed that we would judge him..is a saint right? You described her with such derogatory word cz she opened up to him.... You are a mean human, very uncalled for. I believe you would get married tomorrow and have female children

charlesdinho:

if she did abortion, it is a very big deal. you think abortion is something you can do without having a repercussion? no wonder we have a lot of barren women in marriages today cos they believe abortion is ok

You know that infertility in marriages are mostly from the male partners, but the women still bears the brunt, be whining your mouth till you marry.

OdefaGirl:


But he that hid his past from us and even confirmed that we would judge him..is a saint right? You described her with such derogatory word cz she opened up to him.... You are a mean human, very uncalled for. I believe you would get married tomorrow and have female children

My female children can never be that promiscuous. Never!

Jman06:
My female children can never be that promiscuous. Never!

Time will tell.... Don't make noise yet. You call that promiscuous?

This life!

A lady you describe with such beautiful qualities?

Why can't she use your past against you too?

Don't be too smart to judge base on her past if the present and future is more rewarding because you may later end your story with had I know.

A lady who keeps her past away from you may be more dangerous than this soft hearted one.

You have your past too!

Jman06:
My female children can never be that promiscuous. Never!

The parent of those promiscuous also said this before.

Is the guy not guilty too?

Oga no go use wife do girlfriend ooo.
U go regret am ooo...

Dexy4yah:
Please leave her alone, because you will never stop using her past against her...that's the truth.

Damn straight bro, it's like kettle calling pot black, for sleeping with at most 10 dudes baba day get cold feet, the guy is not telling us the main matter, e get watin him day hide, probably the lady abort for some of the dudes and himself. Who knows, I'm just thinking of a scenario that will make someone have cold feet like this.

OdefaGirl:


Only a "boy" reasons this way.... Wait till you get matured, you will know what you want in a woman.

sorry if I struck a chord. I'm just stating the bitter truth. You and your ilk cannot escape it.

dontrulee:
Marry her, you cannot change the Past.
The past matters but what matters most is your present and your future

You're a hypocrite and I detest HYPOCRITES with passion.
You never want to take accountability for anything
You dish what you won't like others to serve to you.
THE MOST IMPORTANT RED FLAG IN A LADY IS HER PAST.
A GIRL THAT HAS DONE HOOKUPS,
THAT HAS DOUBLE DATED
THAT HAS CHEATED ON SOME OF HER EX
THAT HAS MULTIPLE BODYCOUNT
THAT HAS DONE ABORTIONS ETC CAN NEVER BE A GOOD WIFE OR MOTHER.
NOT ALL THOSE IN ONE PERSON BUT JUST TWO IS ENOUGH.

OUR PAST IS OUR IDENTITY

EVEN GOD WILL JUDGE US BY OUR PAST ON THE LAST DAY ...

FuckTheMod:

You're a hypocrite and I detest HYPOCRITES with passion.
You never want to accountability
You dish what you won't like others to serve to you.
THE MOST IMPORTANT RED FLAG IN A LADY IS HER PAST.
A GIRL THAT HAS DONE HOOKUPS,
THAT HAS DOUBLE DATED
THAT HAS CHEATED ON SOME OF HER EX
THAT HAS MULTIPLE BODYCOUNT
THAT HAS DONE ABORTIONS ETC CAN NEVER BE A GOOD WIFE OR MOTHER.
NOT ALL THOSE IN ONE PERSON BUT JUST TWO IS ENOUGH.

OUR PAST IS OUR IDENTITY

EVEN GOD WILL JUDGE US BY OUR PAST ON THE LAST DAY ...

Lol, you're right. Clap for yourself

iamtardey:
O lor far inside life… waa lo beh ni abi bawo kilo think

Ó má lọ bẹ ni ọmọ iyami

OdefaGirl:


Time will tell.... Don't make noise yet. You call that promiscuous?

Somebody who has had ten body counts is promiscuous! The ten are just those she told op about, there may still be many more she didn't disclose to op.

rolams:



The parent of those promiscuous also said this before.

Is the guy not guilty too?

I know my bloodline and I can assure you that promiscuity is not part of us.

Bayaar02:


Ó má lọ bẹ ni ọmọ iyami

abi bawo

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

I'm salt of words. I know how it feels and I can relate very well but I think you should just give her a chance because of the advantages having her.

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

Op, you said the girl is generous and had helped you...

How many girls have you dated that are generous?


It is not easy to find a Nigerian girl that is giving in a relationship.

Forget her past, you sef get past wey dey bleeped up.

Focus on her mental health....
how stable is she ?

Is she prone to violence when you people argue?

What are the issues with her family regarding mental health, religion, reputation?

Is she focused on same financial goals as you?

Answer all these questions and you'll know whether to continue with the relationship or not.