1.Start with pre-intimacy
Allow your partner focus on pleasuring your body by stimulating your erogenous zones. Take your time. Clitoral stimulation is likely to increase the feeling of arousal, thereby increasing blood flow to the entire genital area.

2. Locating the center of gravity
When you are highly aroused, have your partner insert a well lubricated finger or two into your vagina and curl it upward along the front wall of the vagina.The gspot feels like a small ridged bump along the front wall of the vagina. It becomes more prominent when a woman is highly aroused.

3. Stimulating the center of gravity
Using his finger or a curved Vibrator, have your man softly and slowly stimulate your gspot. As the center of gravity is stimulated and arousal increases, some women will experience squirting. For others, stimulation of this area may not elicit any feeling of pleasure.

4. Will I pee myself?
As the center of gravity area is stimulated, you may feel like you want to pee. If you tense up and hold back, you’ll interrupt the experience. So relax and let go. To ease any anxiety around peeing, empty your bladder beforehand , that way you get to relax and enjoy the experience.

5. Will every woman squirt?
There is no one proven method to make a woman squirt. Some women squirt when fingers are used, others squirt with a toy or a penis. Also, not all women will squirt. So by all means explore your body to see if this happens for you. And if it doesn’t, don’t feel bad. Sex should be about your pleasure, not about pressure.

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