Nairalanders, please I need your help.

Let me make it brief. I have a younger brother who just started his life, he just rented his first apartment last year, and immediately he got the apartment, the first thing was a girl who we don't know her family started staying with him.

I told him if you want to marry pls make it legal and not living with someone you dont know her parent.

Fast forward, the lady became pregnant and I told him since it has happened and I don't encourage abortion, pls find a way to at least go and collect the list of what is needed, up till now that did not happen.

December last year he went to bail the lady in police station because she stabbed a neighbor. Well I went to their place and talked to the lady, she promised not to do that again. February this year she delivered a girl and because my younger brother was broke then, I and one of my other younger brother rallied round to assist him and his wife. We took care of the hospital bill and we thought since they were having their first baby, there would be a need for someone who is experience to help them out for one or two weeks.

We I sent money to my mother to come and help them, the old woman came with all the food stuff she could arrange from village. The next day the lady started misbehaving, and mama didn't disclose all that was happening to me, she just wanted peace to reign.

A day to the day of naming, myself and one of my brother went to market to arrange all that is needed for the naming, before we came back my other sisters had arrived so they did the cooking. On the day of naming, it took thy kindom come before they could plead with her to bring the baby for naming. Her grievance was that why should we cook for her baby naming without informing her. Honestly all this was made known to me after the party.

We man aged her and let things go. I was thinking that we will have at least one of her relative during the naming and nobody came. A day after the naming she started starving our mother and mama called that I should come and pick her, so I was shocked. Getting there mama narrated all that has been happening withing her 4 days stay at my younger brother place, and the lady did not say anything after mama talked, so I took the old woman to my place, neither my younger brother or his wife apologize.

The old woman left back to village.

Now the lady's mother is threatening that she did not give us her daughter for marriage and if anything happen she will not take it likely, our elders also said they will not follow my brother to go for the lady. And my brother is the only one in the marriage. No family concent.

How or where can I report this so that in case so that the parent of the lady and a representative of my family can have an undertaking that we don't have a marriage in between us.

Pls expert in the house I need help

This is real complicated. We await the elders for input

motif8:
Nairalanders, please I need your help.

Let me make it brief. I have a younger brother who just started his life, he just rented his first apartment last year, and immediately he got the apartment, the first thing was a girl who we don't know her family started staying with him.

I told him if you want to marry pls make it legal and not living with someone you dont know her parent.

Fast forward, the lady became pregnant and I told him since it has happened and I don't encourage abortion, pls find a way to at least go and collect the list of what is needed, up till now that did not happen.

December last year he went to bail the lady in police station because she stabbed a neighbor. Well I went to their place and talked to the lady, she promised not to do that again. February this year she delivered a girl and because my younger brother was broke then, I and one of my other younger brother rallied round to assist him and his wife. We took care of the hospital bill and we thought since they were having their first baby, there would be a need for someone who is experience to help them out for one or two weeks.

We I sent money to my mother to come and help them, the old woman came with all the food stuff she could arrange from village. The next day the lady started misbehaving, and mama didn't disclose all that was happening to me, she just wanted peace to reign.

A day to the day of naming, myself and one of my brother went to market to arrange all that is needed for the naming, before we came back my other sisters had arrived so they did the cooking. On the day of naming, it took thy kindom come before they could plead with her to bring the baby for naming. Her grievance was that why should we cook for her baby naming without informing her. Honestly all this was made known to me after the party.

We man aged her and let things go. I was thinking that we will have at least one of her relative during the naming and nobody came. A day after the naming she started starving our mother and mama called that I should come and pick her, so I was shocked. Getting there mama narrated all that has been happening withing her 4 days stay at my younger brother place, and the lady did not say anything after mama talked, so I took the old woman to my place, neither my younger brother or his wife apologize.

The old woman left back to village.

Now the lady's mother is threatening that she did not give us her daughter for marriage and if anything happen she will not take it likely, our elders also said they will not follow my brother to go for the lady. And my brother is the only one in the marriage. No family concent.

How or where can I report this so that in case so that the parent of the lady and a representative of my family can have an undertaking that we don't have a marriage in between us.

Pls expert in the house I need help

waiting to read comments. expert in the house for woman matter make una choke hand for this matter.

Since people dey que.. lemme sef que for comments first

Call your siblings for a family meeting including your said brother. Ask him what he wants and see a possible way you guys can resolved everything including going to see the family of the girl.

If your relatives says that they're not going please do well to count them out. Your brother is family and family first. Don't feel relaxed if this issues are not resolved.

And when everything is okay please do well to give your brother some space but just keep a close eyes, enough space that he should be the one coming to look for you guys. He messed up.

Your brother want to turn a girl with baby mama vibe to a wife.

The only advise i can give you right now is for your brother to ask her to take him to her parent and if she refuses, he should go to the nearest police station to make statement, after the statement , he should leave the house for her until she's ready to take him to her parents.

motif8:
■ Now the lady's mother is threatening that she did not give us her daughter for marriage and if anything happen she will not take it likely, our elders also said they will not follow my brother to go for the lady. And my brother is the only one in the marriage. No family concent.

How or where can I report this so that in case so that the parent of the lady and a representative of my family can have an undertaking that we don't have a marriage in between us. Pls expert in the house I need help

I no understand your request at all? Your brother's babymama does not want to marry your brother or at least the babymama's mother objects to your brother marrying her daughter. So what exactly do you want achieved?

If your brother and the girl truly wish to wed each other, nothing stops them both walking into the local registry office and signing the marriage registry to seal their marriage. All this family drama ---- nonsense back and forth--- is meaningless attempt by third parties to inject themselves in between a man and woman really .I.e aproko service.

motif8:
Nairalanders, please I need your help.

Let me make it brief. I have a younger brother who just started his life, he just rented his first apartment last year, and immediately he got the apartment, the first thing was a girl who we don't know her family started staying with him.

I told him if you want to marry pls make it legal and not living with someone you dont know her parent.

Fast forward, the lady became pregnant and I told him since it has happened and I don't encourage abortion, pls find a way to at least go and collect the list of what is needed, up till now that did not happen.

December last year he went to bail the lady in police station because she stabbed a neighbor. Well I went to their place and talked to the lady, she promised not to do that again. February this year she delivered a girl and because my younger brother was broke then, I and one of my other younger brother rallied round to assist him and his wife. We took care of the hospital bill and we thought since they were having their first baby, there would be a need for someone who is experience to help them out for one or two weeks.

We I sent money to my mother to come and help them, the old woman came with all the food stuff she could arrange from village. The next day the lady started misbehaving, and mama didn't disclose all that was happening to me, she just wanted peace to reign.

A day to the day of naming, myself and one of my brother went to market to arrange all that is needed for the naming, before we came back my other sisters had arrived so they did the cooking. On the day of naming, it took thy kindom come before they could plead with her to bring the baby for naming. Her grievance was that why should we cook for her baby naming without informing her. Honestly all this was made known to me after the party.

We man aged her and let things go. I was thinking that we will have at least one of her relative during the naming and nobody came. A day after the naming she started starving our mother and mama called that I should come and pick her, so I was shocked. Getting there mama narrated all that has been happening withing her 4 days stay at my younger brother place, and the lady did not say anything after mama talked, so I took the old woman to my place, neither my younger brother or his wife apologize.

The old woman left back to village.

Now the lady's mother is threatening that she did not give us her daughter for marriage and if anything happen she will not take it likely, our elders also said they will not follow my brother to go for the lady. And my brother is the only one in the marriage. No family concent.

How or where can I report this so that in case so that the parent of the lady and a representative of my family can have an undertaking that we don't have a marriage in between us.

Pls expert in the house I need help

The first thing is to send the lady back to her parents.
If your brother is interested in marrying her, the two family can decide on that.
You need to give your brother a stern warning because nothing bad must happen to the lady or she will smell himself.
Make sure you get the consent of her parents before she can come back. Don't be too emotional...

If I were you I will wash my hands off the matter!

Your brother is an adult, let him deal with his shit himself

MORIERA:
Since people dey que.. lemme sef que for comments first

You wey register your Nairaland account since 2008 don qualify to be elder...talk make we hear joor

Hmmmm