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https://www.nairaland.com/7833825/want-divorce-live-alone/22

My brothers and sisters good morning, yes is me again Omoluabi aka "Adura to gba"

I want to appreciate every member of this platform, both those that commented and those who read through my previous post, your suggestion, advice and most importantly your prayers saved my marriage. I will address a few lines from my previous post.
1. My wife is a wonderful woman but what happened why our relationship took a different turn was my fault, I ignored her emotional part....I hardly call her when I am out of town, I see her WhatsApp messages in the morning and replied her in the evening, what break the camel back is that, you can guess...she saw a ladies n*de video on my phone that same period and that is it, yes i remembered that video in 2017 from a female senior colleague, but Because of that , there was no way I could prove my innocence to her to her, I took my time to explain to her what lead to that and how I reported this case of harassment in the office and an email evidence of how the case ended. I equally was not happy with her for seeing something and keeping quite.

2. Yes she was struggling to cope with 100k considering the economic realities now, she never complained, she was afraid I had lots on my head, she couldn't tell me, things became very expensive, you cannot compare prices of items in Gwarinpa to that of zuba or nyanya, this woman is a God gift, at that moment I realized that she is not communicating well with me, coz this is not an issue, there and then i made a transfer of another 100k to her and I told her from September ending her her upkeep will be 200k using the current inflation rate of 200%.

Let me address some misconception here.
1. If I want to cheat must I come to NL to seek for permission? Over 80% of comments on my previous thread advise I cheat and keep my marriage, OMG is that how cheating has been normalize in our society? Side chicks are now becoming more popular than wives? Is really sad.

2. In this NL people can lie, where is the education you are using to earn 700k? My brothers and sisters, forget education my daughter school teacher is a B.sc holder and she earns 90k, I told her to sharpen her skills, if na by education guys leave that one for our politicians, those once can use NEPA bill to rule over those with B.sc, M.sc and all..my side hustle pays me more than my salary most times.

3. I am not Daddy's boy, my dad is a responsible 95 year old man who knows only my mum before her demis in 2020 may Allah S.w.t grant her aljanat firdaus, His advice is base on hates for cheating and how it can brings evil to a lovely family, but I can see that this Gen Z I normalizing this cheating.

4. Sex the main reason, we finally agreed to have it three times a week of two rounds each...she doesn't have problems giving me her body it is because I don't appreciate the body, infact na start the car this night she drive am reach airport junction, I collect the car drive am to the final destination where the ministry is located

Conclusion, I never invited any family members, my action was taken from only 10 members here who are responsible married females NL members and how some of them is in the same condition with Thier husband or have been through same what they did and now they are doing fine...I truly appreciate these people...I am sure many families must have benefited from the post.

God bless you all...
Seun, Mandy and co...God go bless una.

ADURA123:
Previous thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7833825/want-divorce-live-alone/22

My brothers and sisters good morning, yes is me again Omoluabi aka "Adura to gba"

I want to appreciate every member of this platform, both those that commented and those who read through my previous post, your suggestion, advice and most importantly your prayers saved my marriage. I will address a few lines from my previous post.
1. My wife is a wonderful woman but what happened why our relationship took a different turn was my fault, I ignored her emotional part....I hardly call her when I am out of town, I see her WhatsApp messages in the morning and replied her in the evening, what break the camel back is that, you can guess...she saw a ladies n*de video on my phone that same period and that is it, yes i remembered that video in 2017 from a female senior colleague, but Because of that , there was no way I could prove my innocence to her to her, I took my time to explain to her what lead to that and how I reported this case of harassment in the office and an email evidence of how the case ended. I equally was not happy with her for seeing something and keeping quite.

2. Yes she was struggling to cope with 100k considering the economic realities now, she never complained, she was afraid I had lots on my head, she couldn't tell me, things became very expensive, you cannot compare prices of items in Gwarinpa to that of zuba or nyanya, this woman is a God gift, at that moment I realized that she is not communicating well with me, coz this is not an issue, there and then i made a transfer of another 100k to her and I told her from September ending her her upkeep will be 200k using the current inflation rate of 200%.

Let me address some misconception here.
1. If I want to cheat must I come to NL to seek for permission? Over 80% of comments on my previous thread advise I cheat and keep my marriage, OMG is that how cheating has been normalize in our society? Side chicks are now becoming more popular than wives? Is really sad.

2. In this NL people can lie, where is the education you are using to earn 700k? My brothers and sisters, forget education my daughter school teacher is a B.sc holder and she earns 90k, I told her to sharpen her skills, if na by education guys leave that one for our politicians, those once can use NEPA bill to rule over those with B.sc, M.sc and all..my side hustle pays me more than my salary most times.

3. I am not Daddy's boy, my dad is a responsible 95 year old man who knows only my mum before her demis in 2020 may Allah S.w.t grant her aljanat firdaus, His advice is base on hates for cheating and how it can brings evil to a lovely family, but I can see that this Gen Z I normalizing this cheating.

4. Sex the main reason, we finally agreed to have it three times a week of two rounds each...she doesn't have problems giving me her body it is because I don't appreciate the body, infact na start the car this night she drive am reach airport junction, I collect the car drive am to the final destination where the ministry is located

Conclusion, I never invited any family members, my action was taken from only 10 members here who are responsible married females NL members and how some of them is in the same condition with Thier husband or have been through same what they did and now they are doing fine...I truly appreciate these people...I am sure many families must have benefited from the post.

God bless you all...
Seun, Mandy and co...God go bless una.

I am glad things worked out between you and your wife.

The tempo at which you are typing, I can sense madam just took you to the celestial city.

E ku ise!

Skyview01:


I am glad things worked out between you and your wife.

The tempo at which you are typing, I can sense madam just took you to the celestial city.

E ku ise!

No be only celestial city, na cherubim city.

Communication in relationship and marriages is key and the best is the communication that end in reconciliation.

But on the other hand, you brought your problem to a public forum, what do you expect? Just one voice? It's not possible now. Everybody is entitled to his or her opinion and what works for mr A might not work for mr B and vice versa. It's only left for you to pick the advices your mind go with and try it out.

So don't criticise people's opinion. You might still come here for another advice. Problem no de finish for this life. It's constant. But we pray for the ones that is not a burden.

Skyview01:


I am glad things worked out between you and your wife.

The tempo at which you are typing, I can sense madam just took you to the celestial city.

E ku ise!

Thank you so much

fyzaila:
Communication in relationship and marriages is key and the best is the communication that end in reconciliation.

But on the other hand, you brought your problem to a public forum, what do you expect? Just one voice? It's not possible now. Everybody is entitled to his or her opinion and what works for mr A might not work for mr B and vice versa. It's only left for you to pick the advices your mind go with and try it out.

So don't criticise people's opinion. You might still come here for another advice. Problem no de finish for this life. It's constant. But we pray for the ones that is not a burden.

Most people derail from the main subject and they were just arguing what will never bring anything to their pocket, na me get problem I know, but then speak on the issue I raised than bringing Nigeria into my mata , what's my business with Nigeria? All the same thank you so much

Doking your wife is allowed