Hello good afternoon. I'm sorry but this would quite be a long read.
I don't mean to be vain and all but my personal experiences made me create this thread. I'm in my 20s, tall, dark and have my mother's face (I look like her very much) and I've been mostly told when when I go out I'm good looking or called fine boy which I hate hearing since I was 14. I get different kind of stares when I look at the side of my peripheral eye or catch ladies looking at me before they shift their gaze or even few men atimes. I wanted to post pics before realizing my family or people that know me offline might see it and start disturbing me with questions this coming days. But that's not the main reason I created this thread. It's the sexual harassment I get sometimes from even ladies who are old enough to be my elder sisters or even mothers depending on the age. I've been rubbed on the chest, toasted, caressed with some of their sensitive body parts eg I was ushering at the church one day when this tall voluptuous lady from the choir came close to me, started pressing her hip against mine, looking at my face from time to time despite the fact she would obviously saw I was visibly displeased as I was trying to suppress a boner in church. I've also had occasions where by mistake while rushing or in close proximity I've hit the ass of some ladies while they behave as if nothing happened despite me apologizing.

What of some in relationships that clearly drag or hold me back to talk to them despite the fact their significant other or boyfriend is in the same building? This is one of the reasons why I have very few male friends of my own gender because they just seem to hate me for some reason. If we're in a group and discussing there must always be one or two lowlifes in that vicinity trying to abuse, highlight my flaws they know of or talk me down especially when there are females in that environment. I've been threatened and even almost beat up for no reason which made me avoid interacting with most ladies except my family members for over a year. Then I tend to gain some favours with the opposite gender sometimes even when I do something stupid that would make them abuse or look for a way to deal with another person who probably didn't catch their fancy. Then if some of them keep on shooting their greenlight with me either turning it down or not reciprocating, I turn to their public enemy No. 1. I've even heard some close whispers in my quarters while growing up as a teenager of two girls discussing whether I was gay or not man enough. There are a lot of other episodes to buttress my point but these are the ones I think I can share now.

Growing up, I've heard and read both offline and on nairaland that the average Nigerian lady has time and affection whether fake or not for men who have heavy pockets (which is true anyways) So why I am still having this kind of small issues with several members of the opposite sex despite me not being that buoyant? (I'm still a salary earner juggling the job with school) I've heard several guys say to me that if they were me, they would have being a terror to women or I get several disturbing questions of how many girls I have slept with that week. Though I have been in relationships which didn't last due to sometimes trust issues on the part of my girlfriends, I'm mostly an introvert who really doesn't like attention except for mostly staying indoors, getting some good music in my ears, reading books and logging in to sites like Google, X, nairaland to get more information about my country and the world. I'm also trying to work harder and learn more critical skills so I can be very rich, have a family and take care of parents, siblings and my immediate one well.

I'm not a woman where I should be judged on looks, even that has gradually stopped becoming the case as women are now being hailed for their industry and exploits in their career. Tobi amusan is hailed for her sprinting prowess, Hilda back was lauded for her record breaking feat in cooking by Guinness world records. I'm a man, we are firstly judged by feats, achievements and wealth. I don't want ti be fawned over like a toy or judged, liked or hated by my looks which has mostly looked like the case so far.
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