Good evening nairalanders, owing to the advice given to me on my previous post concerning my cousin,we finally reach a decision for her to wait till December before coming to stay with us... normally I wouldn't even try bringing it online but I want it as an eye opener to ladies and even intending guys that want to get Married.

Earlier this past few days because of the nature of things affecting the economy,my cousin decided to engage in side hustle just to add up to the one she does,so she would have enough for her and the kids. Now like this her husband has said he would never buy gas again in the house and asked that she starts using firewood or sawdust to cook...not even thinking about her health condition,he now started insulting and asking her what kind of bad belle she has for giving birth to two female children and he even insulted her mother and father this is a person who has never sent a dime to her mum, making reference that she doesn't know what to do with money.

Now the problem started when she collected her salary and he asked her to give him 10k so he can transport himself to work and other things, although he never admits he has money but anytime it gets so tough he will bring something out after insults and pressure. She gave him the money and used the remaining one to sort out some pending debts and biscuits for her daughters school and there was nothing left with her anymore. Since she was looking up to the 10k so she can get noodles for feeding so the biscuits can last,he started saying the child doesn't need all those things he's wasting money on the child and she should have waited until the girl is 5 before she starts school. Now she would be left with 5k which goes to contribution.

Now it was time to pay up he never wanted to admit he has been paid,next thing he brought out 10k.and gave her that this is the daughter school fees,she asked about the money he borrowed and he said that the money,and she should use it on school fees and go and look for what to support with,how please 👀👀...that he would soon take her to a government school self this and that... this heart of some men towards their female children is so uncalled for like aren't they children... the house she would say is still been prepared and I am also trying to add plus her savings to help her out. she has soiled into debts and don't know how to even start now...even if I give it won't be enough because I would feel the impact during the month.

Out of that same 10k he even asked her to bring 2k for soup,I was furious and decided to visit unexpected no matter anything 😭😭😭 she was looking so tattered and unkempt I couldn't hold my tears, the bastard wasn't around so I just kept my cool and looked around. I finally gave her the 15k I saved which I collected from ohi Dara people and left.

Let's see how God will help us out but I know she is definitely leaving that house before January...I intended bringing in his family but i.can see that they feel they're doing us a favour by getting married to her. In this life before you marry your tribe please take your time some of them are there to suffocate life out of you in the name of marriage.

My dear....One thing you should learn not to chuk mouth into is husband n wife lacuna.

Make sure your cousin has made up her mind to leave her here horseband make she nor blame you tomorrow say na you scatter her marriage.

You see what you described up there,79% of Nigerian men are guilty of such acts that's the reason why most married women cheats.

3rdly a wise woman sees her future from the way the husband behaves at home reasons why women should birth lesser amount of kids and hustle mad and care for their kids.

Tell her to bear and cut down on her expenses and prepare for the isrealite journey ahead.most women are the ones taking care of their kids because if you hing your hope on your husband....e don be for you.

Jozilinn:
■ Out of that same 10k he even asked her to bring 2k for soup,I was furious and decided to visit unexpected no matter anything 😭😭😭 she was looking so tattered and unkempt I couldn't hold my tears, the bastard wasn't around so I just kept my cool and looked around. I finally gave her the 15k I saved which I collected from ohi Dara people and left.
■ Let's see how God will help us out but I know she is definitely leaving that house before January...I intended bringing in his family but i.can see that they feel they're doing us a favour by getting married to her. In this life before you marry your tribe please take your time some of them are there to suffocate life out of you in the name of marriage.

All I can get from this is that your cousin enjoys suffering well well. She is probably convinced she is somehow purified in all of that foolishness and the suffering that follows it. Make she continue!

2. January cha? Come again before the end of the month to regale us with more stories of the tribulations of your married cousin since the drama is set to continue until January.

She might even take in again for the husband.

Kobojunkie:
All I can get from this is that your cousin enjoys suffering well well. She is probably convinced she is somehow purified in all of that foolishness and the suffering that follows it. Make she continue!

2. January cha? Come again before the end of the month to regale us with more stories of the tribulations of your married cousin since the drama is set to continue until January.

ahnie:
She might even take in again for the husband.

Oi vey!

Kobojunkie:
Oi vey!

she has already done that, you know there are some savings where you can't get your money till December that's what she did...so that at least she can start up something from there and won't go round begging.

For now she just have to bear with what's going on,he probably has another woman outside so why would she be bordering herself like that.

Jozilinn:
she has already done that, you know there are some savings where you can't get your money till December that's what she did...so that at least she can start up something from there and won't go round begging. For now she just have to bear with what's going on,he probably has another woman outside so why would she be bordering herself like that.

She ought to bear it by giving him money that is meant for the welfare of her kids. She knows she is on her way out yet she continues to play the role of dutiful wife to him. Make she continue...

Kobojunkie:
She ought to bear it by giving him money that is meant for the welfare of her kids. She knows she is on her way out yet she continues to play the role of dutiful wife to him. Make she continue...

U are right though that's just the mistake she did, now she doesn't care if she is left hungry because even if she buys the noodles he would still finish it, imagine a father asking why a child of 3 should eat in school, infact it's not his business...he got paid gave her 12k for 2 rubber of rice and other things like gas and soap for one month... because he knows she is doing side hustle he's trying to put everything on her, yesterday own was worst he went and removed the change in her purse without telling her, thank God that she didn't put all her money there, and to think she has been enduring since because of fear, when she spoke up I thought she was just trying to defend herself but as it escalate I had to get involved.

Jozilinn:
■ U are right though that's just the mistake she did, now she doesn't care if she is left hungry because even if she buys the noodles he would still finish it, imagine a father asking why a child of 3 should eat in school, infact it's not his business...he got paid gave her 12k for 2 rubber of rice and other things like gas and soap for one month... because he knows she is doing side hustle he's trying to put everything on her, yesterday own was worst he went and removed the change in her purse without telling her, thank God that she didn't put all her money there, and to think she has been enduring since because of fear, when she spoke up I thought she was just trying to defend herself but as it escalate I had to get involved.

I am sorry but I have little to no pity for women who expose themselves to such situations in the name of marriage. My concern is primarily for the children who are subjected to living under such situations by their mother who is supposed to protect them from all that every way she can. This woman you are talking about is a grown-up with a fully functional brain much like yours and that of her husband so there is no need to pity her or pretend the entire fault here lies with her husband when the fact is that it doesn't. He didn't place a gun to her head to force her to marry him, so I don't understand why she pretends she is some sort of hostage in a loveless marriage when she can carry her life and move out to better herself without this man.