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Advice To My Fellow Men. by Gbadugbakun(m): 2:59pm On Oct 19, 2023
Don't replace her, teach her how to be that lady you want🌹U can never find a perfect woman,U can only teach her to be perfect✨❤️

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Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by superCleanworks(m): 3:14pm On Oct 19, 2023
clap for yourself. Mr Teacher of women. Time plenty for your hand.

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Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Mindlog: 3:19pm On Oct 19, 2023
Gbadugbakun:
Don't replace her, teach her how to be that lady you want🌹U can never find a perfect woman,U can only teach her to be perfect✨❤️

No one can teach another how to be perfect.

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Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Gbadugbakun(m): 3:21pm On Oct 19, 2023
Mindlog:


No one can teach another how to be perfect.
If you love her you would teach her.
Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Gbadugbakun(m): 3:22pm On Oct 19, 2023
superCleanworks:
clap for yourself. Mr Teacher of women. Time plenty for your hand.
That is now marriage is supposed to be.
Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by superCleanworks(m): 3:37pm On Oct 19, 2023
Gbadugbakun:

That is now marriage is supposed to be.

you are now trying to be specific so as to seem right. it is too late, you should have done that earlier.

And if you are talking about a relationship that has crossed into marriage, then you can not totally wipe out all the elements, personal attributes and characteristics that should be checked on the road to marriage to know if the man or woman can absorb teaching without frustrating the other party. Values such as TEACHABILITY, HUMILITY, GRATITUDE, STUBBORNNESS, GENTILITY.

You just conveniently jumped into talking about marriage stage.
Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Mindlog: 3:48pm On Oct 19, 2023
Gbadugbakun:

If you love her you would teach her.

It is not about love or hate but capacity. The man is not perfect, how can he teach a woman how to be perfect?

By the way, perfection is relative and perfectionism is a waving red flag in mental health.
Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Kelechi009: 4:05pm On Oct 19, 2023
Mindlog:


It is not about love or hate but capacity. The man is not perfect, how can he teach a woman how to be perfect?

By the way, perfection is relative and perfectionism is a waving red flag in mental health.

The mental health chair lady has spoken smiley

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Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Dogalmighty17: 10:17pm On Oct 19, 2023
Even hell fire has given up on you. Like you actually sat down, carried your phone and typed this rubbish? Please when last did you test for malaria? I think you need help.

However, let me try curing you of the severe case of stupidity currently afflicting you.
1. It is not in your place to change anyone. You will fail. The element and desire for change has to come from within and personal. A woman or a man cannot change for you. They have to change because they desire to. If you coerce them to change, someone else can also coerce them.

2. Relationships are meant for 2 WHOLE people. You have to be whole in mentality, character, behavior, financial intelligence, affection and emotional intelligence and maybe a strong spiritual leaning before you can become an asset to anyone else. If it is not in you, no one force it out of you.

3. If someone changes because they want to keep you, they'll revert to who they were when they don't want you in their lives anymore. And then you become frustrated.

4. A woman who doesn't want to be kept, can't be kept. Do all you can. You will labor in vain. Your best will never be enough so long as a human being in involved. Even God sent his son to die on the cross for us. But knowing that it won't still be enough for some people, he allowed the penalty of hell.

5. Anyone who thinks you are worth it, will change to be worthy of you. If it is imperative that they meet up with your standards. That has to be a conscious decision they make for themselves.

6. If you have voiced out certain issues within parameters of reason, and your partner won't change, ignore(in marriage) or simply walk away. Do not run the risk of having the worst part of you drawn out because you want to stay with a person.

You can't change anyone. You as a person, even struggles with the concept of change. So why embark on a fruitless journey?

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Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by ERCROSS(m): 11:07pm On Oct 19, 2023
This one wan dey teach gender wey get short memory. You get time

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Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by talented321: 12:16am On Oct 20, 2023
It's possible with some..
Mindlog:

No one can teach another how to be perfect.
Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by socialmediaman: 12:27am On Oct 20, 2023
lol. The same thing you spend years trying to teach a woman, watch her do them for someone else willingly from day 1 without being told.

Focus on making money rather than fight relationship battles.

Teach yourself how to make money and she'll teach herself how to be the perfect woman for you.

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Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Kobojunkie: 1:08am On Oct 20, 2023
Gbadugbakun:
Don't replace her, teach her how to be that lady you want🌹U can never find a perfect woman,U can only teach her to be perfect✨❤️
You people are born sufferheads... no wonder dem dey use your heads see shege for out there even for inside marriage these days. Una no dey learn... that na una problem. grin

But the advice OP has up there is unfortunately is the kind of advice "elders" used to give to married folks and folks in relationships, very terrible format that led to the chaos that is relationships-sphere among Nigerians today. lipsrsealed

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Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Aaaaarghmed(m): 1:46am On Oct 20, 2023
Mumu don open thread.who get time to dey teach a grown ass person.anybody wey no wan improve his or herself.kick the person to the gutters.no time to dey waste on any human being.una too dey worry unaself about women.i dont give a Bleep.treat me well,I will treat you well, treat me bad,omo..I will blend you like blender.

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Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Lance008(m): 5:40am On Oct 20, 2023
No teach ur sister how to be a better person
Dey teach Delilah how to kill u

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Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Mindlog: 6:04am On Oct 20, 2023
talented321:
It's possible with some..

A husband teaching his wife how to be perfect?

Why should a man or woman want his wife or her husband to be perfect?

Anyone who deeply desire that, has issues that is psychiatric in nature.

It is just like parents wanting a baby that rarely cries, even as a one year old baby, the baby stays quietly wherever he/she is put as there is no crawling all over the place to "mess up" the place.... the parents are in for a very long journey because that quiet baby"no well".
Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by talented321: 6:13am On Oct 20, 2023
All i know is, sometimes it's possible to educate our love ones to live the kind of life we want with them..
Please nobody is perfect..
Mindlog:


A husband teaching his wife how to be perfect?

Why should a man or woman want his wife or her husband to be perfect?

Anyone who deeply desire that, has issues that is psychiatric in nature.

It is just like parents wanting a baby that rarely cries, even as a one year old baby, the baby stays quietly wherever he/she is put as there is no crawling all over the place to "mess up" the place.... the parents are in for a very long journey because that quiet baby"no well".

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Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Mindlog: 6:21am On Oct 20, 2023
talented321:
All i know is, sometimes it's possible to educate our love ones to live the kind of life we want with them..
Please nobody is perfect..

Of course you can educate your loved ones on that as you daily live out that example while not expecting everyone of them to follow that example because personality differs as we have siblings who we grew up with together but formed differently dispite growing up under the same directions of our parents.

No one is perfect and can't make others, perfect.
Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by talented321: 6:27am On Oct 20, 2023
Where the op get it wrong is the perfect statement.
Mindlog:


Of course you can educate your loved ones on that as you daily live out that example while not expecting everyone of them to follow that example because personality differs as we have siblings who we grew up with together but formed differently dispite growing up under the same directions of our parents.

No one is perfect and can't make others, perfect.
Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Mindlog: 6:55am On Oct 20, 2023
talented321:
Where the op get it wrong is the perfect statement.

Sadly, that is his personal conviction as he would want to make his wife perfect.

On a lighter note, there was a patient admitted in a psychiatric facility I worked in and this man was so obsessed that whenever the wife came for visitations, he would angrily demand to know what time she came back from work daily, even other patients would be laughing at his obsession. cheesy cheesy cheesy grin

I had to get the wife not to visit him for 4 weeks as she needed the break from such a toxic person, while I work on her husband's fu..ckups.grin cheesy cheesy

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Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Stevenbright(m): 8:33am On Oct 20, 2023
Gbadugbakun:

If you love her you would teach her.

And if she doesn't want to learn or thinks she doesn't need to learn anything, I guess you will force it on her!
Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Skindiveaa7: 8:33am On Oct 20, 2023
Word
socialmediaman:
lol. The same thing you spend years trying to teach a woman, watch her do them for someone else willingly from day 1 without being told.

Focus on making money rather than fight relationship battles.

Teach yourself how to make money and she'll teach herself how to be the perfect woman for you.
Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Fahvvy: 10:25am On Oct 20, 2023
OP undecided...

If this is the "awesomeness" of the advice you give out, may I advice that you stop giving out advice grin...
Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Theama(m): 11:40am On Oct 20, 2023
undecided

Re: Advice To My Fellow Men. by Kobojunkie: 12:58pm On Oct 20, 2023
Mindlog:
A husband teaching his wife how to be perfect?
Why should a man or woman want his wife or her husband to be perfect?
Anyone who deeply desire that, has issues that is psychiatric in nature.
It is just like parents wanting a baby that rarely cries, even as a one year old baby, the baby stays quietly wherever he/she is put as there is no crawling all over the place to "mess up" the place.... the parents are in for a very long journey because that quiet baby"no well".
You didn't even ask if the man doing the teaching is himself first a perfect man and husband? grin

Women dey marry things.... undecided

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