I was shocked recently when I heard a professing Christian telling other single Christians that God doesn’t care if they marry unbelievers! Such “mixed marriages” are just as blessed as Christian marriages according to him. When asked how a true disciple of Jesus could possibly want to spend the rest of his life yoked to an unbeliever, he flippantly replied that “love” made it possible, and that he intended to marry an unbeliever and “live happily ever after.”

The worst part was that several professing Christians agreed with him despite the warnings from people who had lived the nightmare of an unequally yoked marriage. For this reason, I write the following post. If you are a young Christian person hoping to marry one day, let nobody convince you that God doesn’t care if you marry an unbeliever, and let nobody convince you that there won’t be negative consequences if you do.

A Christian by definition is devoted to Christ before all else. All his dreams, desires, doings, and even his thoughts must be obedient to Christ. And Christ has given this command to those who follow Him:

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. (Matt. 6:33)

The focus of our lives is to be advancing the kingdom of God and His righteousness on the earth. We are ambassadors of the Kingdom (2 Cor. 5:20), and we seek to fill our spiritual homeland with as many souls as possible to the joy of our Father. Every decision we make, especially the most important decisions like marriage, should be made with this focus in mind. When looking at a potential spouse, we must ask the question, “Is this person going to assist me in furthering the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, or is he/she going to hinder me from doing so?”

Can two walk together, except they be agreed? (Amos 3:3)

If we don’t agree with God, we cannot walk with Him. It must also be considered whether a believer who wants to serve Jesus, and an unbeliever who serves himself and/or idols, can walk together. Can they together advance the kingdom of God and His righteousness? The obvious answer is no. They can buy a home together. They can have physical relations and bring forth beautiful children. They can pay bills together. But they can neither worship the Lord together, nor unanimously teach the children to worship the Lord. They may enjoy some temporary satisfactions, and they may even get along so long as one of them compromises, but they will always be on different pages.

Oh, but I won’t compromise…

Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits.” (I Cor. 15:33)

Oh, but I am going to save my spouse. Really? Do you know how many times this daydream has come to nothing?

For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife? (I Cor. 7:16)

Remember:

He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will be destroyed. (Prov. 13:20)

Therefore:

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty. (2 Cor. 6:14-18)

While all of these verses can be applied to mere friendships, they are even more relevant to marriage–the most intimate of all friendships! It is very clear that our Father wants us to be yoked to Christ, but not yoked to unbelievers. Now, we all have to have dealings with unbelievers in everyday life, especially to be effective salt and light in this world. But to be yoked to someone is to try to walk together and work together toward a common goal, as we are yoked with Christ to labor in His kingdom. Being yoked is keeping in step with someone and implies some intimacy. The record emphatically says there is NO unity between Christ and the devil, and the temple of God (you, dear Christian) has no business communing intimately with idols and their worshipers.

There are two groups of people: children of God and children of the devil (light and darkness). If, as children of the light, we must “hate” father and mother and even our own lives to be Jesus’ disciples (Lk. 14:26), what makes us think we can seek intimate relationships with the children of the devil and still remain His disciples? John wrote that a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God (James 4:4).

Please believe, if you disregard the warnings of Scripture, you will pay the consequences. Many men and women have done so to their lifelong regret. Had Samson not found rest in the lap of Delilah, he might not have perished in such a pathetic and ignoble way, having accomplished much less in his life than he might have otherwise. Had Solomon obeyed the voice of the Lord regarding his marriages to pagan women, he might not have strayed from the Lord at the end of his life. He became the companion of fools and was destroyed! There is no record in the Scriptures that Solomon–the man once gifted with the most extraordinary wisdom–ever returned to the Lord! In these two cases, we have the strongest and the wisest–both destroyed or almost destroyed by unbelieving love-interests. BEWARE!

A little leaven leavens the whole lump. The leaven introduced by the unbeliever wreaks untold havoc in the home. It is argued that Paul said the unbelieving spouse is sanctified by the believer (I Cor 7:14). This is true, but was written to encourage those who come to Christ after being married to an unbeliever. Paul encourages such a one to remain in the marriage so long as the unbeliever is content to remain, for the unbelieving spouse and the children can best be influenced through the believer’s witness and service if the marriage remains intact. This is mercy to the believer and his family, but does not give Christians license to seek out unbelieving spouses on purpose!

What about Hosea? Didn’t God tell him to marry a prostitute who would cheat on him? Yes, He did, and by this God demonstrated to His whorish people how they had broken His heart and repaid Him evil for good. Unless we are 100% sure that God has commanded us to do the same as a demonstration to our own nation, it would be very foolish indeed for us to run off and do as Hosea did. Hosea’s reason for marrying this prostitute was completely spiritual. He did not marry her because he enjoyed her company or was sexually frustrated and tired of waiting for a godly wife, but because he was willing to suffer to manifest God’s heart to His backslidden people. Did you get that?–I said he was willing to suffer. An unequally-yoked marriage brings suffering.

When you love the Lord Jesus and your spouse does not, it hurts. When you share His precious Words, and your spouse’s eyes glaze over, it hurts. When you teach your children to love the Lord, but their other parent introduces them to idols, it hurts. When your children see you as the mean parent because you try to protect them from evil, it hurts. When you long to labor for the kingdom, but you are hindered by the vain pursuits of your spouse, it hurts. And if your spouse finds your light offensive and seeks the pleasure of darker company, it hurts.

Christians are spiritual people, called to be spiritually minded rather than carnally minded, which is death. We understand that God has made two people into one flesh for a spiritual reason–that He might have a godly seed in the earth (Mal. 2:15). This is best accomplished in the marriage of two godly people who are committed to passing on their convictions to their children together.

Some carnal reasons have been offered for why it is supposedly ok for believers to marry unbelievers, but none of them are any good.

To purposely marry an unbeliever because you enjoy his/her company suggests that the light that is in you may actually be darkness, for there is no fellowship between light and darkness. If you are enjoying the prolonged company of an unbeliever, you need to examine yourself to see if you are in the faith.

To purposely marry an unbeliever because you have a sexual desire that you think trumps the command to seek first the kingdom of God, is to put your sexuality above and before the kingdom of God. That is idolatry. Ask the Lord to help you bring your body under subjection, and do not be led away into sin by your own lusts–you must crucify your flesh with its affections and lusts (Gal. 5:24). It is true that it is better to marry than to burn, but you must not settle for an unbeliever. Paul told widows they could remarry, but only in the Lord (I Cor. 7:39), and said that “the brethren of the Lord” were permitted to have “a sister, a wife” (I Cor. 9:5 KJV; or “a believing wife” in the NKJV).

To purposely marry an unbeliever because you are lonely is to put your emotional need before the kingdom of God. If a man does not deny himself, take up his cross daily and follow Jesus, he cannot be His disciple (Lk. 9:23).

So what is one to do?! The truth is that life can be lonely and marriage is desirable. And sometimes it seems the godly gals and guys are all taken or hiding in a cave somewhere. Commit your way to the Lord, single Christian, and wait patiently for Him. Serve Him as a single person to the utmost of your ability, and see if He doesn’t bring some like-minded (Christ-minded) person your way. But even if He doesn’t–even if things don’t go as you would like–choose to seek first the Kingdom and His righteousness in all your decisions, even if it means being alone for the time being. If you do this, you will be blessed.

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But the bible does not condems it, some cases when a couple may be married and later one became born again, he/she cannot divorce because the other is unbeliever. There are so many case out there, we cannot condem it, when one is born again before marriage is true that that person will be strict to marry only a born again. But when one is not yet born again, he/she just get married to who he/she love. Paul didn't conderm this.

To “the rest” Paul (as an inspired apostle whom the Lord counted trust worthy and who had the Spirit of God, applies Matthew 19:6, 9 and explains that marriage between a Christian and an unbeliever is indeed a legitimate marriage. At no time in this passage does the inspired apostle urge the Christian who is married to an unbeliever to depart (divorce) because his or her mate is an unbeliever. Indeed, the Lord's will is that they remain together as Matthew 19:5-6 instructs.

If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. (1 Corinthians 7:12-14

http://www.familybuilders.net/marriage_articles/unbeliever.htm

This link is interesting.

That's the problem with you religious people, you're quick to propagate separatism. Can't two people just get along without whipping up some religious sentiments? Isn't it time we stop all these backwardness? You think if you're married to someone of the same faith, your life will necessarily be a bed of roses? Love conquers all, people!

Frosbel
I'm now a christian. Let's get married.

Na wa oh with this divisionist frosbel i am sure u are d type dat jinxed a girl i knew for 12 years wanted to marry her but suddenly came up with two agreeing concept. Now she is 32 yrs counting me i do go b dat oh!

plappville:

But the bible does not condems it, some cases when a couple may be married and later one became born again, he/she cannot divorce because the other is unbeliever. There are so many case out there, we cannot condem it, when one is born again before marriage is true that that person will be strict to marry only a born again. But when one is not yet born again, he/she just get married to who he/she love. Paul didn't conderm this.

To “the rest” Paul (as an inspired apostle whom the Lord counted trust worthy and who had the Spirit of God, applies Matthew 19:6, 9 and explains that marriage between a Christian and an unbeliever is indeed a legitimate marriage. At no time in this passage does the inspired apostle urge the Christian who is married to an unbeliever to depart (divorce) because his or her mate is an unbeliever. Indeed, the Lord's will is that they remain together as Matthew 19:5-6 instructs.

If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. (1 Corinthians 7:12-14

Absolutely and you are right.

But this is in reference to those who are already believers not unbelievers or those who converted after marriage.

For example a sister who loves GOD will be ill advised to marry a man who does not love GOD. From my experiences over the years the result can be disastrous.

ATLgal:

Frosbel
I'm now a christian. Let's get married.

Too late, I am already married with beautiful kids to show for it

Try your atheist friends, you might convert them too and get married ASAP.

tuniski:

Na wa oh with this divisionist frosbel i am sure u are d type dat jinxed a girl i knew for 12 years wanted to marry her but suddenly came up with two agreeing concept. Now she is 32 yrs counting me i do go b dat oh!

A true child of GOD who is single has no business marrying an unbeliever.

frosbel:

Absolutely and you are right.

But this is in reference to those who are already believers not unbelievers or those who converted after marriage.

For example a sister who loves GOD will be ill advised to marry a man who does not love GOD. From my experiences over the years the result can be disastrous. Its true because, both may not work together, but in other cases there is absolutely no problem. It all depense on the couple.

we should ask why are there many single sisters in the church, are there no brodas to ask them for marriage? Yes there are broda, so whats the problem?

I know many single christian sisters at their early 30, still finding it difficult to get married,when u aske them why brodas in church don't come for marrige? they will reply u, they come, but they want sex first.
The bible is against this act. Itsnt this shocking?

It may not be all the church brodas that do this, but i think majority of them wants to sleep with the sister before engaging, and some of them will just sleep and not even engage.

A friend told me, how she slaped a broda, who invited her to his house thinking it was for a serious relationship, getting there he said, He want to know her. She was shocked, broda told her, if we dont meet how can we be sure of ourselves. wht an excuse to go in her.

So tell me why will a christian find an unbeleiver that love her/him and will not go. The church has a great role to play in the lives of thoses single brethren. The brodas should erase sex out.

I ve a niece that got married to a pastor, she was not fully born again before she met the pastor, but during courtship, she gave up her past, and became born again. They both are happily married. At least, The pastor was able to win her soul for God. Christian who are married to unbelievers should be able work in faith by bringing his partner to God, its not very easy but its possible by his grace.

frosbel:

A true child of GOD who is single has no business marrying an unbeliever.

Na true u talk, but whts the difference between a believer who want sex first and the unbeliever?

It will be the best, to be a believer and do just as a believer, no pretends.

may be someone should run dis WHO IS AN UNBELIEVER? Cos when xtians and moslem as well as jews begin to refer to one another as unbeliever u can now understand why so much crisis in d world. A simple logic jews reject xtianity that comes after judaism and xtians reject islam that comes after xtianity but in all those after always recognise the one before. That is how God does his review but man continue to live in distortion. Like i always say, divisionists and separatists are on thier own cos they deny d very attribute of God TOLERANCE. Y didnt God just perish d world because we are not all practising one faith for which only HIM knows? On dat day many will be disappointed.

@topic

2 Corinthians 6:14
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

99.999999999% of believers are worse than unbelievers. Just be very wise before you marry.

Being 'unequally yoked' with an unbeliever will have serious consequences on a true Xtian's life! Ask those who married unbelievers when they had 'backslidden' only to come back into the faith! There will be no partner to 'join hands and faith' with to pray for your marriage and life matters. There will be no 'one' to lift you up when you fall. Your spiritual concerns will not be his/her concerns. An unbelieveing spouse will not be able to encourage you when you need that spiritual encouragement.  It is a very very difficult life. You will be carrying a burden meant to be eased by two alone. Remember how Solomon's strange wives turned his heart from God? It's a real risk when you marry an unbeliever. You may find in the end that your heart will be turned from God.

Marry someone who you will grow togther in the Lord, not someone who will keep stagnate your journey or even turn you back from God. Marry someone who revers God and wants to walk with him! If you knowingly yoke yourself with an unbeliever, you will PAY for it! As Xtians, we should know that everything God tells us not to do is for our own benefit! When we trespass, we get to understand WHY he said not to do it in the first place . . . . and finding ourselves in such situations are far from enjoyable!

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From personal experience there are so many brodas and sistas of all faith for anyone to go to where he/she will b refer to as unbeliever abegi make xtian marry xtian moslem moslem, pagan-pagan in dis era of xtian ladies having night sorry s**x vigil for husband hunting let d men marry dem. And for d moslem show yourself so it wont be difficult to know u single no body should go to bad market of d so called unbelievers period ther is enough for every one.

Of course every born again would want to get married to born again. No one in Christ will love to marry outside Christ. I am quite agreed with Frosbel. But do we know how many people out there that got married unbelieved and then when they believe, will God now judge them because their partener does not believe? There is no condermenation for a believer to marry un unbeliever, but its best if a believer marries a believer. The both will think and do things together as they both understanding Gods words.

Being 'unequally yoked' with an unbeliever will have serious consequences on a true Xtian's life! Ask those who married unbelievers when they had 'backslidden' only to come back into the faith! There will be no partner to 'join hands and faith' with to pray for your marriage and life matters. There will be no 'one' to lift you up when you fall. [b]Your spiritual concerns will not be his/her concerns. An unbelieveing spouse will not be able to encourage you when you need that spiritual encouragement. It is a very very difficult life. You will be carrying a burden meant to be eased by two alone. [/b]Remember how Solomon's strange wives turned his heart from God? It's a real risk when you marry an unbeliever. You may find in the end that your heart will be turned from God.

Marry someone who you will grow togther in the Lord, not someone who will keep stagnate your journey or even turn you back from God. Marry someone who revers God and wants to walk with him! If you knowingly yoke yourself with an unbeliever, you will PAY for it! As Xtians, we should know that everything God tells us not to do is for our own benefit! When we trespass, we get to understand WHY he said not to do it in the first place . . . . and finding ourselves in

U are right, But it does not generally work that way u puts it. I will use myself as an example, my hubby is not a christian but he recongnised that Jesus existed and he has not same feelings for this God as i do why because he not a believer.

He doesn't practice things God asked us to practice. But at same time, he has alot of respect for my belief, That is, when i ve to pray, read my bible, Wait on the lord etc, he has no problem with my schedules, I mean, both church and family schedule go well without stress.

I believe God has a purpose to accomplish in his life because, he has some faith in the Christian upbringing of children. He admires my life because of my faith in God, but he still finds it difficult to Go to church.

Sometime when i don't feel like driving expecially when there is much snow and i ve to go to church, he drop me and will say kids:!! pray for dady ok.

I ve no problem with him as an unbeliever, there is no jealous of u are giving much time to ur God than me.
This is becos as a child of God, i know that in whatever i am doing or into, God is always first, so i know how i handle my marital and christian race. God gets angry when a spouse try to use him as an excuse to the other spouse.
and also God wouldn't want to use our marriage as excuses as well.
We need His grace and things always will go well.

An unbelieveing spouse will not be able to encourage you when you need that spiritual encouragement. It is a very very difficult life. You will be carrying a burden meant to be eased by two alone

How do widows/widowers manage their Christian life? One is never alone when doing the will of God.
He is with the widows/widowers as well as a christian married to a un unbeliever.
On earth husband/wife may be beside each other, pray together or not, On the judgement day when God will judged us, it will be seperately, If i relate God with my hubby and he refused to welcome him, God will not condem me for that. ROMANS 2:7-16 "Everyone Will Be Judged By God.

All religion is in its purest form is a quest for one to try and achieve a higher state of being, a better state of existence or consciousness. We are all one/united. Whether people choose to believe it or not. Something that happens in nigeria can impact those living in other countries etc. We are a collective consciouness, a universal energy/mind, some choose to call it God. So, yes, a believer of the bible and Jesus Christ can marry a person who has chosen not to follow this spiritual path, if they are both truly operating in love and acceptance and allowing one another to freely express their own spirituality. Alot of spiritual growth and understanding can occur in these dynamics. Often times moreso than among two "believers." Many men and women are happy to marry a person who they consider a "believer" because it is easier to control such an individual with the dogma and beliefs of the Christian tradition. However, just because two people who claim to believe the same thing exist in the same household does not mean the end result is positive, look at the Christian divorce rate. The real determinant will be true authentic love, which allows each spouse to be free to explore who they are, and not strict dogma which confines and controls.

.  However, just because two people who claim to believe the same thing exist in the same household does not mean the end result is positive, look at the Christian divorce rate.  The real determinant will be true authentic love, which allows each spouse to be free to explore who they are, and not strict dogma which confines and controls. 

U re hiting the point, Why do christian couple still go against the will of God and face divorce? Are we not aware that God hates it and yet ignore this fact? Do we just get married to the one we truely love or just because he/she is a believer? A christian marriage should show good example on divorce matters instead today, its sad to say. A couple are deeply in a divorce isue and do not want to even listen to the pastor telling them its against the will of God. Their purpose for divorce is even not worth it but yet are two believers.

Believer marrying a believer is good, but i think if there is no true/authentic love, this marriage wont work. A Marriage in general work with Love, and by the grace of God. Ur spouse does not criticise u and ur God. He does not evil that u know.
Does this verse refares to the marriage? (2 Corinthians 6:14
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?))
If yes, how do we do about this verse ??((If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband.  (1 Corinthians 7:12-14)) we should not miss interpret when we are not spiritually convinced.

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Again this is not to put a burden on anyone.

If God marks iniquity who shall stand.

It is our guide for a healthy and fulfilled life.

Many People get converted after marriage in an unbelieving state , in which case you are not to divorce your spouse.

Secondly a believer who disobeys God and marries a believer may eventually totally forsake GOD , but for those who still follow GOD it is a battle , except the wife and husband converts.

Tell me, how will you feel if while you are praying to Yahweh, your husband is bowing to Buddha in the living room , surely this will grieve your heart !!!


I leave you with this unfortunate example :

"King Solomon, however, loved many foreign women besides Pharaoh's daughter--Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians and Hittites.They were from nations about which the LORD had told the Israelites, "You must not intermarry with them, because they will surely turn your hearts after their gods." Nevertheless, Solomon held fast to them in love.He had seven hundred wives of royal birth and three hundred concubines, and his wives led him astray.As Solomon grew old, his wives turned his heart after other gods, and his heart was not fully devoted to the LORD his God, as the heart of David his father had been, "


Read the whole story in 1 Kings 11.

[quote][/quote]Tell me, how will you feel if while you are praying to Yahweh, your husband is bowing to Buddha in the living room , surely this will grieve your heart !!!

Why is this a bad thing? If the two are mature and enlightened this can be a better spiritual pairing than two people who are just blindly following dogma without even thinking. The two here in your example can learn from one another! It may grieve your heart, because your thinking is narrow and rigid. But would not grieve everyone's heart, some would find great pleasure in this, because they love the person, not his or her spiritual practice. Which really are all leading to the same place.

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Of course you are right in that scenario !! But no true Christian who loves God will intentionally marry a woman or man from another faith with the expectation that they will change.

However I am coming from a Christian perspective, so this may not be applicable to your notion which is  from a carnal understanding.

A Christian who does not take his Christ seriously ( and there are many today ) can marry whoever and whatever.

This is not an arrogant statement, it is a mechanism for spiritual protection and salvation to seek a partner with the same Christian inclination.

Again for all those who are already married with someone of a different belief, what can they do but keep following God and praying for their partner. No one ever said they should divorce. But the believing partner must LOVE the unbelieiving one , care, nuture them while patiently enduring with any negative outcomes. The later aspect can be a challenge.

@Frosbel

Define the term "unbeliever".

Its like the only job of a Protestant Christian is to bother and DISCRIMINATE. Hit out on atheists, muslims, eastern asian religion adherents, agnostics, homosexuals, Catholics, Mormons, Satanists, Jews, in general anyone in this diverse world that does follow your narrow view of life.
U ppl actually preach on hatred, and how to eliminate diversity. Which i thought was more of the handiwork of the devil.
Whoever is breed with this filthy and dangerous dogma is easily lend to racism.

mabell:

@topic

2 Corinthians 6:14
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

You got the scripture right point on

I think some people are still living in cloud cuckoo land! So, some actually believe marrying a so called 'unbeliever' is going to make them look bad in church? Na wa o! I think the more religiously intoxicated we get in Nigeria, the worse we've become. Our parents and grandparents have had inter faith marriages that has worked very well. Why do we like to complicate things? If you love someone of a different or no faith and you understand the person very well, there's nothing stopping you from settling down together. It's easy to pick and choose when you live abroad but in Naija it's not that easy. Besides, a Yoruba Muslim doesn't operate in the same manner as an Hausa Muslim. That's the reason why we see more inter faith marriages in SW Nigeria than anywhere else in the country. We can't keep lying to ourselves that religion will solve all of our problems. The lack of a simple common sense in the way we handle our affairs has been the reason why we haven't progress as a people and as a nation. We wont be having this discussion if it was simple for a christian or muslim or even a traditional religion practitioner to call their 'Most High', to deliver the perfect husband or wife to their front door.

@ Frosbel,

Who exactly is a Believer? Catholics, Shango Worshippers, Muslims, Atheist?

Are Christ Embassy members believers? Can CE and RCCG members marry since they don't believe same things?

omobadan:

I think some people are still living in cloud cuckoo land! So, some actually believe marrying a so called 'unbeliever' is going to make them look bad in church? Na wa o! I think the more religiously intoxicated we get in Nigeria, the worse we've become. Our parents and grandparents have had inter faith marriages that has worked very well. Why do we like to complicate things? If you love someone of a different or no faith and you understand the person very well, there's nothing stopping you from settling down together. It's easy to pick and choose when you live abroad but in Naija it's not that easy. Besides, a Yoruba Muslim doesn't operate in the same manner as an Hausa Muslim. That's the reason why we see more inter faith marriages in SW Nigeria than anywhere else in the country. We can't keep lying to ourselves that religion will solve all of our problems. The lack of a simple common sense in the way we handle our affairs has been the reason why we haven't progress as a people and as a nation. We wont be having this discussion if it was simple for a christian or muslim or even a traditional religion practitioner to call their 'Most High', to deliver the perfect husband or wife to their front door.

Well said. . .

People fail to understand that religion has NOTHING to do with morality. If it did, we won't be hearing stories of Reverend fathers desecrating little boys,Pastors impregnating the wife of a brother in church,Islamic extremists snuffing out the lives of others, etc. Nigeria is currently the most religious country in the world. How has the helped our cause? We are not known for being honest and straight forward people rather the name "Nigeria" is synonymous with dishonesty (both by foreigners and fellow Nigerians). We call god,god,god all the time but that doesn't deter us from committing evil deeds on a daily basis. People just prefer to delude themselves. That's all.

mrmayor:

@ Frosbel,

Who exactly is a Believer? Catholics, Shango Worshippers, Muslims, Atheist?

Are Christ Embassy members believers? Can CE and RCCG members marry since they don't believe same things?

I've asked him this question earlier.

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A believer is one who believes in an ideology or concept and abides by the rules and principles of such.

In the context of this article therefore, a believer is one who believes in Christ Jesus as the saviour of the world.

frosbel:

A true child of GOD who is single has no business marrying an unbeliever.

Who is a true child of god? Who is an unbeliever?