This thread was inspired from My neighbor's current predicament with his 6 months old marriage.

Sincerely speaking, the main reason why this generation keep failing in marriages is due to negative impact of civilization!.
Once upon a time, people had successful (50 yrs +) marriages, without even courting or knowing themselves at all but these days of years in courting and relationships, we still can't even get it right.

The major problem with this generation is inability for people to accept corrections and work on their weaknesses.
No single person on earth is best not to talk of being perfect.
So, knowing your weakness and working on them and that of your partner is THE BEDROCK OF ANY SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE.
Its only a FOOL and A VERY ILL MANNERED PERSON that says;
TAKE ME FOR WHO I AM.
Which reasonable person says that; when EVERYONE on Earth has one bad behaviour or the other. EVERYONE MUST BE READY TO LEARN AND IMPROVE RAPIDLY, SO WHEN UR PARTNER SEES U ARE WORKING ON UR BAD; HE / SHE MUST ALSO SEE REASONS TO ADAPT AND WORK ON THEMSELVES TOO.

×××2 MAJOR IMPORTANT THINGS PEOPLE JUMPING INTO MARRIAGES DON'T CARE TO LOOK OUT FOR××××

1. Family Background:
I laugh at people saying provided we love ourselves.
When a mango tree starts bearing paw paw fruits, then it calls for questioning.
The family (mostly parents and siblings) has a lot of clue to know who your spouse would turn out to be.
* My neighbor's wife came from a background of stubborn family (mostly the mother) I have complained severally to My neighbor's mother -in-law about the stubborness of my neighbor's wife's immediate younger sister but the funniest thing is; She doesn't even care or took me seriously, "birds of feathers!
The major problem Nigga is experiencing in the marriage is; Stubborness and inability to take or be corrected

2.Compatability:
As no one is perfect, no one is also bad totally, we MUST choose our poison when bonding with anybody.

Some can stay for 3 months without sex, a lot can't, same with men.
Some people don't care about character or being modest, provided their partners are CUTE, they are ok while a lot look at character over beauty.
Some can stay in a poor or manageable state, some guys don't care if a girl is educated or local while a lot are chasing educated and flashy ones.

The truth is ; we all have som1 that is made to suite our lifestyles and character but LUCK, CHASING SHADOWS, GREED and OVER SELECTION makes a lot lose the opportunity to end up with the right one.
For instance; I don't have any problem with my wife taking alcohol moderately but a lot won't want such a woman (Individual differences)
I prefer female children to male males but majority don't. (Individual differences)

××Getting to know the person you are marrying very well, zeal to work on weaknesses and bonding with your preferences wud go a long way to end this modern day madness in marriages××