tuzle:
I have a different opinion to this. I don't see why one will accept a gift if they don't eat things like that. For example, if I don't like something and u give me as a gift, I will respectful reject it and tell u the reason why in a polite way. I don't like when I am gifted something and I end up giving someone else, except I am giving my close family members.

Someone who offered Biscuit to an older individual is rejecting Bread both made of flour and Sugar from that same individual...

No problem,

PuZZyNegro:


It's not about it being local or little. The Bread was gotten from Market Square super market. I just find it awkward giving bread to your son-in-law to be on the first meeting.

Gifts are symbolic you know.

You see collecting bread as awkward, yet you went with biscuits and juice to meet your future inlaws, clown.

You should have applied emotional intelligence and accepted the gift.

You did wrong. Just apologize and move on to better things.

You are either a male gold digger or you are looking for ways not to marry her after chop and clean mouth.

OP, all I see in you is pride, nothing more

Mindlog:


You, who on a first time visit went visiting your intending in-laws with shortcake biscuits and juice and they returned the energy with loaves of bread, yet you regard it as awkward?

If na me be the family, na dat biscuit and juice una bring come na im I go serve una since na from your village farm u harvest am.

Applying social intelligence is very key when dealing with such.

Lol...abeg must person bring gift to their prospective in law on the first day...?.....we too get wahala for africa......im bring biscuit and im dem give am bread in return e dey complain..lol

Women have suffered in the name of LOVE!.

Tufiakwa.

The painful part is that the girl might have given her body and life to this idiot.

When I visited my inlaw for the first time. I went with nothing except money. Gave her 80K

Ishilove:

You are contradicting yourself. Gifts are symbolic, so the bread is a symbol of their goodwill towards you. You shouldn't have rejected the gift of your prospective in-laws no matter how strange it appeared.

It is even your own gift that is awkward. Imagine giving my future in-laws diabetes causing biscuits on the first visit

A bottle of Ogogoro hot drink would have been better than the diabetes gift he gave to them >

I can't wait to accept huge gifts from my in-law family.
After all, we are becoming one soon.
If they like they should offer me a car as a gift. I will drive it home peacefully.

emmyt2:
Since you stand to be corrected. I will correct you.
He travelled all the way from Lagos to PH to visit his potential inlaws. From the narration. I think he travelled by road which is a long journey. So, the bread would serve a purpose.

Another point is. Probably, both of them are from different tribes. So giving him the bread serves as him being welcome into the family. That is a sign of being loved by the gf family members.

No. I disagree with you because every tribe in Nigeria has its own local delicacy that are peculiar to that region ,they should have gotten something of such in readiness for the would be inlaw and not Bread that is very common in the town no matter how expensive the bread is .Even if it is something of #100 once it is local it is most appreciated by me.
Bread is a NO NO AS far as I am concern .

The Food they offered Him is not okay, but the Biscuit and juice he took is okay what are you even saying.... they offered him food and still gave him bread as a parting gift... Oga when want wife traveled all the way from Lagos to PH with just biscuit and Juice but bread is the issue. u and the OP "over normal"

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

Tell me this was all a joke
But if it was real you re the biggest mumu and u re going to get into trouble with those folks moving forward.
You did something very wrong ,imaging if it girl/ fiancee did that to your mother ?

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

NO STORIES. YOU ARE WRONG FOR NOT COLLECTING THE BREAD, CULTURE IS IMPORTANT THAT THIS EXPLANATION THET YOU ARE GIVING. I UNDERSTAND YOUR OWN VIEW BUT CULTURE DID NOT. JUST APOLOGIZE

Your prospective in-laws are well cultured and are rich in wisdom.

You were supposed to visit them with bread and not biscuits. African parents cherish bread a lot.
They didn't like the biscuits you brought, and there's no way they would tell you that to your face. So, they decided to pass the message to you indirectly by offering you bread.

The awkward feeling you had in accepting the bread was because it is supposed to be the reverse.

Don't kill yourself. The deed has been done. J
ust do the right thing next time you visit.

Buy them bread and wine.

You 4K up you stil de proud to admit. Even if na boiled egg dem give you, you must collect it. You can dispose it on your way out if you don’t want sha

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

You rejected hard earned gift from your inlaw. Anyways, you could have collected it and even if you no eat it.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

You don't reject a mother inlaw gift. No matter how useless it is to you.

Did you grow abroad, are you not african?. You collect that bread and thank them. Not because you need it, but because thats what was offered

PuZZyNegro:


They stay in Port Harcourt city and not any village. This is not a social class issue.

You didn’t see a bottle of Ogogoro hot drink to give your potential in-laws, na diabetes inducing gift of biscuits you took them, maybe by your next visit they would have amputated one of their legs and when they offered you a better gift you rejected it

LordReed:


And receiving gift is symbolic. Dude just accept that you goofed and call your future in-laws to apologise.

Many people have deep mental Illness without realising it
After reading that statement form his own mouth, "gifts are Symbolic", I was sort of confused, had to check if it's the same person that Posted that commented.

My mind travelled far, and I see that this one is twisted, a functioning Psycho...


His own comment underscored the point he was against,

You sound arrogant. Accepting them does not meant that you must consume them. Accepting them shows respect

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

Learn to accept gifts oga.

Accept it first.

What you do with it is now your wahalla, and no more theirs.

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PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

You did what? Reject an in-law's gift? Mine gave me pawpaw when i went there. I accepted it with my whole heart and told her that i was a fruity too, even though, at that time, i was not! Married now for almost a decade. Mother in law still sends me fruits till date. It's called decorum, it was a damn test, damn it...

NEVER LOOK A GIFT HORSE IN THE MOUTH

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

My brother you no try

yoniehuin:


Na man you be

You know your worth and i like your courage

Giving a visitor 2 slice of bread is an insult and not a good thing

Two loaves aunty! Two loaves!! Education indeed isn't scam after all.

DeBiafran:
Pls jettison the idea of getting married soon. You have a lot of growing up to do. You aren't yet mature for marriage.

No wonder common sense didn't tell u that as an African man, u MUST NOT visit ur inlaws without at least a BOTTLE OF WINE. Even if ur money no reach another thing, wine is compulsory.

Pls how old are you?

Says who?.....y must u visit your prospective inlaw wit a bottle of wine?
Do they take wine?

PuZZyNegro:


It's not about it being local or little. The Bread was gotten from Market Square super market. I just find it awkward giving bread to your son-in-law to be on the first meeting.

Gifts are symbolic you know.

Stop the argument already...you err by rejecting a gift from your-would-be inlaws
Besides, it's the ill mannered and uncultured that rejects gift. Even if the gift doesn't agree with your standard, courtesy demands you accepts it.

You were not properly educated in our ways as Africans.

oluwaseyi0:


It's 2 loaf and not 2 slice

He is traveling a long distance (pH back to Lagos) so it not out of place for the prospective mother in law to give him something that might come in handy in the journey

She definitely will have given her daughter same if her daughter is going on long journey too

No dey reply children that have no clue what marriage is about...

They think everything is about them.. there is no single angle that you will turn the issue to that will make it right. OP match better line.. that is the mother of your wife to be, by extension she is soon to be your mother. If you no trust them no kuku marry the daughter it's that simple

Small pikin dey do you. You better grow up before you begin chop wetin married couples dey chop

PuZZyNegro:


It's not about it being local or little. The Bread was gotten from Market Square super market. I just find it awkward giving bread to your son-in-law to be on the first meeting.

Gifts are symbolic you know.

You don't judge them. Your act is disrespectful and deameaning. Collect it first, and whatever you do with it is ur own business