What if she's your sister? Would you have wanted her to be treated same way.
The persons concerned may see this story but it's none of my business anymore.
True story.
We all met in year one, Medical Student (my friend, a guy, we did pre degree together) Pharmacy student (me, a dude), a nursing student (my friend's girlfriend).
I was reading at our usual reading joint when my friend came with this beautiful girl and introduced her as his girlfriend, she's really beautiful, my friend was more handsome than I was in school and girls flock naturally towards him so I wasn't surprised when he got this beautiful year one girl. The girl and I are from same tribe while my friend is from a different tribe, before they started dating my friend and I used to have this fierce argument over tribes and it was obvious that he doesn't see women from my tribe as the marriageable type but that didn't stop him from getting one as a serious girlfriend. On my own I was so broke in school that I wasn't even having erection, my life was classes, laboratory and rigorous reading. I had girls that liked me and I also liked them but my financial condition was so bad that I just maintained my lane, when I graduated and became a little comfortable I called one to start a relationship and she told me point blank that I had the opportunity to impress her while I was in school but was busy "counting time".
Back to the story, my friend and his girl dated till we were in final year (5th year is final year for Pharmacy and nursing).
Along the line they had a little fracas and the girl wanted to break up with him while he was writing a professional exam, my friend nearly ran mad, I tried to intervene, I asked the girl what the problem was and she told me that she's not sure that my friend would end up marrying her, that it's better for both of them to split then that she still had suitors, I saw sense in what she was saying, I knew that my friend wasn't going to marry this girl, I was 100% sure, I told him it was better to let this girl go knowing fully well the he wouldn't marry her, that we're no longer boys but men and it wouldn't be nice to mess this girl up and abandon her, knowing fully well that she had always been loyal, asked him to stop throwing childish tantrums because she wanted to break up with him but my friend refused, he started bombarding this girl with insults and threatening calls, told her that if he failed his upcoming exams that it was the girl's fault, I told them peace out, that they're both adults and that they should handle themselves, along the line they reconciled and was a thing again.
Most times when we're together, this girl would be asking me in our common tongue whether this my guy would end up marrying her, I will just wave the question without a serious answer and even told her on several occasions that she shouldn't be speaking our dialect with me when the three of us are together, that my loyalty was with my guy and not her, that if my guy hadn't introduced us, that I wouldn't have had any business with her (bro code). But this girl was a very hardworking, sweet and beautiful girl any man would dream of having as a wife.
My friend had this fixation with girls that has hour shaped figures, models and lawyers, his 'type' of women while the girlfriend was chubby and a nurse to be, so she doesn't fit his fantasies.
In all these, gradually the girl started telling me some things that is shouldn't know, confiding in me and we became quite close. I tried so much to remain on my guy's side with this belief that "bitches come and go" (I grew up in the era of DMX) I always believed that my guy would always be my guy forever but my friend later proved to be an @sshole.
The girl and I graduated while the guy was doing his finals, the girl got a job prior to NYSC (nurses were yet to start internship then) within the same city as our school while I left for Lagos. The girl rented the apartment they were staying as at that time while the boy was trying to tidy up his academics.
The girl later got another job in Lagos because NYSC was delaying and moved to Lagos, immediately the girl left for Lagos, this guy brought in another girl to live with him in the house that his other girl rented and that was where the whole problem started. I was called to intervene and heaven knows I didn't know what to say again and by that time I was fed up with the whole bro code stuff, because how would I have felt if the girl was my sister, I refused to call my guy because I was angry, I tried to console the girl but it wasn't easy on her part, she was just thinking of her wasted efforts, resources and time in the relationship, after a while they made up again but I knew that it was a disaster waiting to happen I plainly told the girl that if she saw another ma she should marry and forget this guy.
The girl later left the country for , her plan was to come back and they get married and relocate with "her guy", as soon as she got there, my guy broke up with her and told her it's final, the girl's world was shattered.
This girl would call me in the middle of the night crying her eyes out and I didn't know how to console her, I decided to call my guy and plead on her behalf, only for the person I called my guy to shout at me that he's the man in the relationship and he has said it's over and that's his final decision and that I was being meddlesome. I hung my phone and for over 6 years now since that I call, we have never spoken again. It was later I got to know that he thought I was bunking his girl while both of us were in Lagos, meanwhile I only saw this girl once in Lagos and that was by a mere chance, we never planned to see, just a coincidence that we met on the road and she never visited me.
To cut the whole story short, the girl and I became closer while I was trying to comfort her and to be frank I regret not marrying while I had the opportunity, because I was following bro code.
She later married someone else, but that wasn't her dream, I know because she told me.