This is a response to this thread:https://www.nairaland.com/7934513/been-meeting-wrong-ladies-it

My first response: https://www.nairaland.com/7934513/been-meeting-wrong-ladies-it/1#127376013

Surprise. Surprise: This thread has a bonus point.

All (Nigerian) men have experienced this phenomenon. Except those that are strictly introverted or haven't requested a date.

There are plenty of factors underlying the unresponsiveness of women. Factors can emanate from you or them.

1. Women are more open and emotional to men closer to them. Proximity is how you get the better side of women + become aware of their dark sides.

Before a woman can travel from point A to point B to see you through a long distance you must have first created that emotional attachment.

But why do women travel long distances to meet strangers?

This is based on economies. They do it because of money. A prostitute can't become emotionally attached to her client. If there exists any, it is a facade. By the way, prostitutes have men they love genuinely + freely fvck them.

The evolutionary background: women by nature are weak. They need strong men to provide for them and protect them. A stranger can't be trustworthy. Only men in their community will they submit to because they've known over time.

Sex to women is more of security than pleasure. Sex for men is more of pleasures and ego - the boast of a harem.

So prostitutes are because of the money. Because if there is an availability of men to pay their bills and fulfill all their sincere and nonsensical fantasies, prostitution will be non-existent.

Therefore, in rich and developed nations, women engaged in romance for the sake of romance, love, and emotional attachment.
While in poor and underdeveloped nations women leverage romance to upgrade their socio-economic status and creep out of poverty and deprivation.

2. She might be in a relationship.

3. She's in a tarrying bad mood. And can't willingly share with you because you are a stranger. With time she may. But as a man, you'll become impatient because by nature you're not programmed to wait and beg for sex. You just want to hit and move to the next.

4. She doesn't like you. Every woman has a man they like or fantasize about. If you are not up to that standard they will ignore you.

5. Appearance. Your looks may not be ranked as acceptable. Using that metric, they set you aside and wouldn't want you to bother them.

6. Absence of flamboyance at first meet.

Women are emotional. So they can easily be cajoled by the presence of flashiness. This again is due to their desire for security. That's why celebrities can score many women + have multiple baby mamas at will.

If you don't express or show flamboyance women won't take you seriously.

Only well-trained women who are self-conscious and disciplined follow a man due to his ambitions, character, and intelligence. These women are the outliers.

7. It's a mind game. Women don't want to appear cheap. So they'll play the delayed and boring game till they know if you are genuine or not. They don't want to feel cheap.

8. Other men are on the radar. Some of these men are 10 times better than you. Some of these men you are 10 times better than.

This trooping of men of all ages and categories is the pleasure of all women. Some of the men are making bidding you can't or haven't. They fill her with hopes and promises. Her DM and privacy are a cluster of men persuading her into a romantic relationship.

Don't expect her to leave them for you easily. You are not the first. And more are behind you.

9. They want a long stream of persuasions and promises before they accept your proposal. Until you do this they will continue to remain boring.

10. Even though the average woman is slightly more intelligent than the average man, one can observe that women don't bother themselves with meaningful topics or engage in mentally stimulating discourse.

Because women dwell on the material and emotional realm. Like the average person, gratification must be instant and easy.

These women are boring because they lack exposure. What they know comprises of media gossip and frivolous demands of men.

Women are more concerned about sexual and relationship talks because that's where their power resides.

From the above factors, the only one you have control over is your appearance. So, before you step out look good, smell nice, and talk well. Be happy and jovial. Be humorous and social. Whether they accept or reject you becomes none of your business. Just do your part.

Getting women is a game of numbers. The more you step out and interact, the more women you'll encounter and get hooked by a number of them.

Meanwhile, as a man, you must go for a woman who likes you genuinely. These women you don't need to cajole or convince. They just like you + want to be in love with you. They will make you wish and pray for an eternal romantic relationship.

Have you seen secondary and university lovers? That's what I'm talking about. Genuine love.

Thanks.

Trash trash as usual trash

Qatar2022:
Trash trash as usual trash

No mind d guy

Baba Cave

Blessing Boys with knowledge 🙏🙏🙏

Thank You Sir. We appreciate your writeups

And the title made it seem as if being 'boring' is an intrinsic/follow come/natural part of a woman.


So it is not that women are boring, but that they are boring to you or they find you boring or you you find women boring.


Reasons that are simply out of anyone's 'control'.



Anyway.

Magnoliaa:
And the title made it seem as if being 'boring' is an intrinsic/follow come/natural part of a woman.

So it is not that women are boring, but that they are boring to you or they find you boring or you you find women boring.

Reasons that are simply out of anyone's 'control'.

Anyway.

Women are boring.

And that doesn't mean that women are not expressive.

Because women deal more with people. Men deal more with things. It's nuanced.

It's trained women like therapists, nurses, doctors, psychologists, teachers, etc. that are very expressive. The average woman isn't.

Women are boring because they can't stimulate and sustain conversations and interactions.

Women are highly expressive in places where you find men. Examples: clubs, stadiums, etc.

Women are selective when it comes to people. Despite women's interest in people, they are less empathic or reserve their empathy for close allies. Unlike men who demonstrate empathy on a broader scale and are more sacrificial.

Being an interesting person has to do with a high level of empathy. Women are narcissistic; narcissistic people can't be empathic. Because they want attraction towards them. And those that seek attraction rather than give it tend to be boring.

Summarily: women are only interested in people who are interested in them. Men are interested in friends and strangers. Hence, hardly an average man steps out without whispering some romantic lyrics to a woman he hasn't seen in his life. For this to happen with women there must be an established form of familiarity.

Thanks.

CaveAdullam:
Women are boring.

Define 'boring.'

Because women deal more with people.

Women are boring because they can't stimulate and sustain conversations and interactions.

People who deal more with people somehow do not also know how to sustain conversations?

Women are boring because they can't stimulate and sustain conversations and interactions.

And, conversations are your yardstick for measuring "boringness?"


How do you judge what is a 'conversation,' too? A proper conversation. Because is it not generally observed that women are big talkers? That so many people have even come up with negative labels for that.


From family functions to girls' groups and all.

Magnoliaa:


Define 'boring.'

I don't know what made you think I could fall for this your back and forth.

Baby, today is Friday.

You owe yourself and your man some exciting engagements. Go start preparing.

"Like this, like this, I wan go find woman and catch fun".

Winks.

CaveAdullam:
I don't know what made you think I could fall for this your back and forth.

I am not ***** 'baby', please. Let's keep it civil and proper.


I have been arguing since morning, yunno, because here is NL, commenting on threads. I saw something I did not agree with, and I dropped my two cents. You just so happen to create this thread; I wasn't trying to get you to fall in any back and forth.


I would think you'd be more willing to engage in a good faith argument to show why you're truly right with your claims.


Anyway, bye or whatever...

What exactly made this OP think typing insanely long epistles makes him sound intelligent?

CaveAdullam:


I don't know what made you think I could fall for this your back and forth.

Baby, today is Friday.

You owe yourself and your man some exciting engagements. Go start preparing.

"Like this, like this, I wan go find woman and catch fun".

Winks.

@CaveAdullam long time....how is it going...Hope you're preparing for xmas.

Fountainofyouth:
What exactly made this OP think typing insanely long epistles makes him sound intelligent?

😭

Hedgefunds:


@CaveAdullam long time....how is it going...Hope you're preparing for xmas.

"Christmas ke".

Looool.

"Well. I'm fine. But babablu don tie rope for my neck".

Magnoliaa:


😭

No really, anytime I see his comments I usually "jump and pass" because the first time I tried to read it, he was incoherent, neither here nor there, always contradicting himself 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

CaveAdullam:


"Christmas ke".

Looool.

"Well. I'm fine. But babablu don tie rope for my neck".

It everywhere ooh...DM me before New year

Christmas is seventeen days to go.

Fountainofyouth:

No really, anytime I see his comments I usually "jump and pass" because the first time I tried to read it, he was incoherent, neither here nor there, always contradicting himself 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

That's an hallmark lol.

Hedgefunds:


It everywhere ooh...DM me before New year

No matter, chief.

Much appreciation.

CaveAdullam:


I don't know what made you think I could fall for this your back and forth.

Baby, today is Friday.

You owe yourself and your man some exciting engagements. Go start preparing.

"Like this, like this, I wan go find woman and catch fun".

Winks.

Why you dey reply that small chicken. The day I saw her picture was when I knew I was interacting with a toddler. NL sha.
She is not interested in what you have to say but to argue blindly. I think these girls need to get laid. Their aggression is off the charts these days.🙂

Fountainofyouth:
What exactly made this OP think typing insanely long epistles makes him sound intelligent?

You that refused to read it is not reeling of mental laziness abi?

No make me enter you oh!!! Leave Cave alone or else!!!

luminouz:


Why you dey reply that small chicken. The day I saw her picture was when I knew I was interacting with a toddler. NL sha.
She is not interested in what you have to say but to argue blindly. I think these girls need to get laid. Their aggression is off the charts these days.🙂

I saw her "mumu" game already.

They disagree with a post. Fine.

But where are their rebuttals? None.

The funny thing is that they don't understand the post. Not at all. But just feel like talking.

Someone who understands your post and disagrees will come up with good rebuttals to counter each point.

My reply was to add more points and clarification. Yet she couldn't get it.

Turn off was when she said, "I should define boring".

You can imagine.

They continually prove everything said about women daily in an attempt to prove themselves different.

"How far, Lumi?"

luminouz:


You that refused to read it is not reeling of mental laziness abi?

No make me enter you oh!!! Leave Cave alone or else!!!

Next time, asslick your fellow man in peace without mentioning me, if not I'll deal with your coconut head

luminouz:
Why you dey reply that small chicken. The day I saw her picture was when I knew I was interacting with a toddler. NL sha.
She is not interested in what you have to say but to argue blindly. I think these girls need to get laid. Their aggression is off the charts these days.🙂

Awwwnn.

Would you look at one my fans here. I bet the picture made you hard, huh? Now I can partly see the source of your obsession with me.

Another reason must be your jealousy at the fact that even at my toddler age, my intelligence is x5 of yours. 😂

Withering bachelor.

Fountainofyouth:



Next time, asslick your fellow man in peace without mentioning me, if not I'll deal with your coconut head

Lmaoooo....yen yen yen.... Egyptian parrot.


I will mention you as I see fit. Come and kill me na!!!

Magnoliaa:


Awwwnn.

Would you look at one my fans here. I bet the picture made you hard, huh? Now I can partly see the source of your obsession with me.

Another reason must be your jealousy at the fact that even at my toddler age, my intelligence is x5 of yours. 😂

Withering bachelor.

Lmaooo...I said it...you need to get laid. Who but YOU would allude hardness and erotic thoughts to an ordinary picture. Your mind is so dirty, Nyama!!!

Omokekere ara e, o tin ro irokuro, fowoboju e. Kunle ko kawo e soke, o deserve egba.

I love triggering you because you NEVER disappoint me as my best customer for ranting. I just sit back and chuckle when you lose it. The fact that you prowl NL from morning to night, finding threads to argue and rant showed me you are bored and needed release.

CaveAdullam:


I saw her "mumu" game already.

They disagree with a post. Fine.

But where are their rebuttals? None.

The funny thing is that they don't understand the post. Not at all. But just feel like talking.

Someone who understands your post and disagrees will come up with good rebuttals to counter each point.

My reply was to add more points and clarification. Yet she couldn't get it.

Turn off was when she said, "I should define boring".

You can imagine.

They continually prove everything said about women daily in an attempt to prove themselves different.

"How far, Lumi?"

Baba Cave, I dey gallant o.

Na you dey bother to reply them na. I don't bother to explain because they don't wanna learn but to just attack and rant. So I prod and goad them and BOOM, they yell and scream while I sit back and laugh my head off. It's entertaining really, you should try it.

luminouz:
Lmaooo...I said it...you need to get laid. Who but YOU would allude hardness and erotic thoughts to an ordinary picture. Your mind is so dirty, Nyama!!!

Omokekere ara e, o tin ro irokuro, fowoboju e. Kunle ko kawo e soke, o deserve egba.

I love triggering you because you NEVER disappoint me as my best customer for ranting. I just sit back and chuckle when you lose it. The fact that you prowl NL from morning to night, finding threads to argue and rant showed me you are bored and needed release.

You're such a peculiar clown. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

So you know I normally rant and argue, but you think responding to you of all people is what is triggering me? You think I don't love it? You think I don't get high on the mentions you and your likes give me? Osino, you will sit back and chuckle.

I am not losing anything because I am "loco" normally. As the seasoned stalker that you are, it doesn't marvel you at how much energy I have? To keep going on and going on and going on and never backing down? I don't care for whatever reasons you attribute that to; my energy is ever active and bubbling like a volcano.

So get that reverse psychology shxt off my front 😂. You ain't said shxt. And I'm not your kid sis. Go play that disciplinary role with her or your nephews.


No, na. If not that you have erotic fantasies about me, you will not chalk up what everyone else do, including you, to me needing to get laid.

Over-the-screen lover boy.

Magnoliaa:


You're such a peculiar clown. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

So you know I normally rant and argue, but you think responding to you of all people is what is triggering me? You think I don't love it? You think I don't get high on the mentions you and your likes give me? Osino, you will sit back and chuckle.

I am not losing anything because I am "loco" normally. As the seasoned stalker that you are, it doesn't marvel you at how much energy I have? To keep going on and going on and going on and never backing down? I don't care for whatever reasons you attribute that to; my energy is ever active and bubbling like a volcano.

So get that reverse psychology shxt off my front 😂. You ain't said shxt. And I'm not your kid sis. Go play that disciplinary role with her or your nephews.


No, na. If not that you have erotic fantasies about me, you will not chalk up what everyone else do, including you, to me needing to get laid.

Over-the-screen lover boy.

K

luminouz:
K

Ke, ko ko iranu lo. 😂