I have an uncle that passed on early last year. My daddy told me he's my "uncle" but a distant relation because I don't know him in the village. We only met in lagos here so I think we are related but not close relation. Before he died, I use to send money to him especially during covid. At times he will ask and atimes I will send without him asking me. So when he passed on early last year, I was still sending the little amount I can afford to his wife. Its been 4 months I gave birth and she did not even come to see me. Her house to my house is about 500 transport fare to and fro. She knows there's no how she will come to my house and I won't give her cash even if at all she don't have transport fare.

She called me 2 days ago asking of Christmas money. I told her I will send it but inside me I am not happy honestly. People came from very far distance to visit me when I gave birth but this woman didn't even show concern. Anytime she call me will always be to ask of money. She said all her husband relative has abandoned her.
It is not like I don't have money to give her but her attitude is bad. She has only one daughter which she claimed she's in university. I don't know how true is that
Do you think I should overlook her character and give her the money

Kindly overlook her character and give her the money.
Meanwhile, Congratulations on your beautiful bundle of joy.

Ememmmi:


She called me 2 days ago asking of Christmas money. I told her I will send it but inside me I am not happy honestly. People came from very far distance to visit me when I gave birth but this woman didn't even show concern. Anytime she call me will always be to ask of money. She said all her husband relative has abandoned her.
It is not like I don't have money to give her but her attitude is bad. She has only one daughter which she claimed she's in university. I don't know how true is that
Do you think I should overlook her character and give her the money

At the bolded, are you owing her any money?
Your response was even economical, I would have asked her if she gave me any money to keep for her.
I don't tolerate selfish and self centered people.
There is this girl that always chats me up when she needs money. As a matter of fact, any time I see her chat, I automatically know that she needs something.
I've never given her a dime for once because such attitude makes me sick.
This goes to show you that people only remember you when they need you.

Voice out your frustrations on the said woman, spill it out and look out for her reactions.
How sober or guilty she is will determine the next step you take.

Relate with her the way she wants to relate with you. That is from afar! Infact, it is to your favor because if she comes too close, the more she becomes a burden to you.

The more the relating from afar, the better for you. So, give her what ever you propose in your heart.

Wetin concern nairalanders now

Do it for God

Hi Ememmmi,

Tell her in a serious and playful way that you are not happy she had not called you about your bundle of joy. Forgive her. Give her the money.

Thanks,

Oblongata.

Givers never lack


And, you will never lack 🙏

...... please forgive her for God sake

Stay wicked and stop pitying ungrateful people. The world doesn’t value nice people.

Righteousness2:
You can give her the cash but tell her that you are not happy that she could not come to visit you after your birth. Make sure you tell her your grievance.

Op take this advice

There is no issue here na

Just tell her that you are not happy with for not visiting or showing any concern when you gave birth and send her money shekina

If she isn't returning your vibe then make the giving a freelance thing, that is any time wey you get

Entitlement Mentality of Africans sha.

One of the reasons why I sometimes AVOID meeting some poor Pple.

Once your Shirt Fine and your Shoe shine, they start Expecting money from you.

Kindly help her if you have the means..

SirLakes:
Givers never lack


And, you will never lack 🙏

A wise giver never lack while a foolish giver will never have.....You better avoid the person that will drain you and the day you don't have, you will regret all the money you've been giving.... once you notice the ingrate attitude... please don't hesitate to move on

If you tell her your grievances she may take it as offence or an act of arrogance. If I were you, I'll stop giving her money directly, any financial assistance I make will only be for her daughter.

Don't give her anything.

She should work too.

She's not a good person...even if you will give her, let her know you are upset at her and why

Ememmmi:

Do you think I should overlook her character and give her the money

You are a good person and God has given you a kind heart like his, don't let the actions of others deter you in your benevolence, your reward is not from them, even if they wanted to, they couldn't reward you enough.

Go ahead and send the money with a free heart and God will reward you. 1Pet.3.9 - says not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary blessing, knowing that you were called to this, that you may inherit a blessing.

In sending the money, you are returning blessing for "evil" and in so doing obeying the word of God.







I am still a proud Nigerian preaching the gospel of Jesus Christ to all. Stay away from sin and read your bible today to know God more. It is good also tell her what she did, so she can correct herself.

SirLakes:
Givers never lack


And, you will never lack 🙏

Na format b that
Omo givers dey lack now

People sha

That's how people who doesn't care if I existed this year suddenly remembered me this Xmas asking me to do Xmas for them as if it's something I owe them

People of the world don't care everyone is selfish

Ememmmi:
I have an uncle that passed on early last year. My daddy told me he's my "uncle" but a distant relation because I don't know him in the village. We only met in lagos here so I think we are related but not close relation. Before he died, I use to send money to him especially during covid. At times he will ask and atimes I will send without him asking me. So when he passed on early last year, I was still sending the little amount I can afford to his wife. Its been 4 months I gave birth and she did not even come to see me. Her house to my house is about 500 transport fare to and fro. She knows there's no how she will come to my house and I won't give her cash even if at all she don't have transport fare.

She called me 2 days ago asking of Christmas money. I told her I will send it but inside me I am not happy honestly. People came from very far distance to visit me when I gave birth but this woman didn't even show concern. Anytime she call me will always be to ask of money. She said all her husband relative has abandoned her.
It is not like I don't have money to give her but her attitude is bad. She has only one daughter which she claimed she's in university. I don't know how true is that
Do you think I should overlook her character and give her the money

Please just overlook her character and bless her with the funds.

Please, na beg I beg you. Anything you do for her, you do it for the Almighty

Tell her ur mind. Then give her d money if u feel like it. I like telling ppl wen dey annoy me,no need pretending like all is well. Tell how how u feel abt her attitude pls. Cos tomorrow ,she'll come asking again n ur hrt is not ok with her, my dear,no blessing for that kind of giving...giving with heavy hrt.

Ememmmi:
I have an uncle that passed on early last year. My daddy told me he's my "uncle" but a distant relation because I don't know him in the village. We only met in lagos here so I think we are related but not close relation. Before he died, I use to send money to him especially during covid. At times he will ask and atimes I will send without him asking me. So when he passed on early last year, I was still sending the little amount I can afford to his wife. Its been 4 months I gave birth and she did not even come to see me. Her house to my house is about 500 transport fare to and fro. She knows there's no how she will come to my house and I won't give her cash even if at all she don't have transport fare.

She called me 2 days ago asking of Christmas money. I told her I will send it but inside me I am not happy honestly. People came from very far distance to visit me when I gave birth but this woman didn't even show concern. Anytime she call me will always be to ask of money. She said all her husband relative has abandoned her.
It is not like I don't have money to give her but her attitude is bad. She has only one daughter which she claimed she's in university. I don't know how true is that
Do you think I should overlook her character and give her the money

If its me I won't give her a dime again
Give people money or valuable who appreciate u
Its better you give people who don't know u but value ur kindness.
U see this life many people don't love or valve u, just ur pocket.
Some one only calls you when he or she needs money
Haha
Even God won't be happy with such fellow
Madam many people will value ur good works
Ignore ingrates
God bless you as you look within ur environment and see who genuinely needs assistance.

Be honest with her. Let her know how disappointed you are, no need to sugarcoat your words

Give her and tell her things are rough....

Invest on yourself and baby and family...

Ememmmi:
I have an uncle that passed on early last year. My daddy told me he's my "uncle" but a distant relation because I don't know him in the village. We only met in lagos here so I think we are related but not close relation. Before he died, I use to send money to him especially during covid. At times he will ask and atimes I will send without him asking me. So when he passed on early last year, I was still sending the little amount I can afford to his wife. Its been 4 months I gave birth and she did not even come to see me. Her house to my house is about 500 transport fare to and fro. She knows there's no how she will come to my house and I won't give her cash even if at all she don't have transport fare.

She called me 2 days ago asking of Christmas money. I told her I will send it but inside me I am not happy honestly. People came from very far distance to visit me when I gave birth but this woman didn't even show concern. Anytime she call me will always be to ask of money. She said all her husband relative has abandoned her.
It is not like I don't have money to give her but her attitude is bad. She has only one daughter which she claimed she's in university. I don't know how true is that
Do you think I should overlook her character and give her the money

Truth is, when the chips are down for you, she is one of the first that will abandon you.

As you grow older, you learn how you deal with people but most importantly how to separate your friends from your fiends.

SirLakes:
Givers never lack


And, you will never lack 🙏

You never hear say giver lack, receiver begin gossip say giver no plan him life well 😅

Pathfinder2090:


Na format b that
Omo givers dey lack now

2special:
A wise giver never lack while a foolish giver will never have.....You better avoid the person that will drain you and the day you don't have, you will regret all the money you've been giving.... once you notice the ingrate attitude... please don't hesitate to move on

Kingosytex:


You never hear say giver lack, receiver begin gossip say giver no plan him life well 😅

To each their own (suum cuique)