superintendents:
madam nothing like he can't let go, tell him the bitter truth,the earlier the better,stop wasting his time and his spendings

tell him the bitter truth

That his face makes her angry, abi? 😄😄😄

😆😆😆😆😆😆😆 Make una leave me o. Abeg run away from your community for peace of mind. 😆😆😆. Better escape. She even said she's lucky the man doesn't know her parents. Chai. Nwoke ibem.

marsup:
It's important to note that she is collecting these gifts even when she has decided not to commit to a relationship. It's more damning to play games with an insecure/ emotionally twisted person. When they choose to react, it will be devastating and it comes with collateral damage.
This particular op is just being a petty thief, and it's quite irritating. When a girl doesn't want to have anything to do with a guy, she knows how to handle the situation.

Exactly. You have said it all.

jumokeadele:
but you were collecting his money , and now you want to run away because saying NO at this stage contradicts the amount you've collected from him

Exactly

Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

If am okey for you Mami..let's make it work in 2024❤️

The day we fix this country, we'd inadvertently be throwing conventionally unattractive men under the bus.
This already happens in richer countries. If you got the genetic short end of the stick, you're invisible.

I can empathize with the man.
He sees himself in the mirror and does not want to pass that misery on to their progeny.
If you no fine, try knock up who fine, mk your pikin no resemble masquerade.

I'm pretty certain this is not the man's first rodeo.
He is defo accustomed to being treated horribly by women and needing lots of money to get a foot in the door.
That isn't ever going to change.
At least in Nigeria, sink enough money and you'd likely get the cooch. Overseas, even some prostitutes will turn him down.
Sucks to be him I guess, but he should chin up and keep trying. The supernatural power that did it for Oshiomole will do it for him.

The lady is beyond reproach in this situation.
I am picky. So I can't begrudge a woman who's literally fending off propositions for having minimum phenotypical standards.
In fact, I sympathize with her.

-Lord

Fahvvy:
A man possesses the qualities of a good husband and you disqualified him all because of his looks? ...

He provides for your wants...
He treats you well...
He puts up with your excesses...

And yet his only issue is that he's not tall enough or fine enough?

When have you ever heard anyone saying that it's a man's height that makes the marriage work? Or it's his fine face that makes the marriage work? ...

This is how y'all women will pass on, on men that truly care for you for irresponsible men, simply because these men don't meet some ridiculous physical standards that you have in your heads ...

Truth is that the things that make marriages work are not physically based, they're majorly character-based ...

But it's your call ....
Since this is a deal breaker for you, then tell him off ...
My most sincere prayer for you is that you know what you're doing ...
If you're a believer, you should seek the face of God on this matter ...

So bleeping what? Is all you wrote what keeps a marriage together? Attraction is very important, that’s a no brainer
He’s attracted to her, that’s why he’s doing that
She’s not attracted to him so she won’t reciprocate the care and attention
Leaving him to find who loves him like he loves her is the best thing she can do for him, she is literally disgusted with him and you want her to pretend and reap the benefits his real life partner is supposed to

I don’t pray for any male in my family to meet a person with this kind of mentality, no offense but you sound like a user, Abeg advise her to let him go so he can find the love of his life

akube34:
I don’t understand. Should she marry who she is not attracted to? See the first is attraction. Others comes second

Don’t mind her

Whatisurproblem:
she say she no love him, You be wintch? 🪄🧹

Better witch

jumokeadele:
but you were collecting his money , and now you want to run away because saying NO at this stage contradicts the amount you've collected from him

No one refuses free money, even you

Vinnie2000:


What I see in this Thread is Men who FORCEFULLY married their Wives without any love/feelings beforehand
Trying to Bully or Intimidate the OP with their View points.

I Repeat, No Lady should never marry a Man out of Pity!

You dey mind them.
Trying to guilt-trip her about the money spent.
Yet some of them have a sugar momma they wouldn't commit to even with a gun pressed to their temples.

Or maybe they missed the part where she noted that he's still sticking around after she has been rude to him.
I get that people will paint themselves in a good light when narrating, but when a woman says she's been rude, best believe she's already pulled several esteem-destroying moves to get him to untangle with some of his dignity intact. But Chairman no 1 gree. Dude is like, "Is that all you've got?"

I really hope she can get him to loosen his grip without cranking up the humiliation dial to 11.
Women are not renowned for their tact.

-Lord

Love is misinterpreted, its quite universal, what most describe as love is infatuation and attraction to fulfill sexual and social pride. It's better to marry a good man with good heart and a bit of intelligence and you are settled

Giftedhand47:


You're a fool
I guess you're still in your early twenties
You don't know what you want in life
Good looks fade
Even the so called tall people always bend at the end of their lives

Girl... The only thing that makes a man attractive is the ability to fend for his immediate family without hassle or stress
If he's not failing in this then no problem
But the thing is all girls want a tall dark bla blah.... As if this is what will make the marriage to last

Stopliving in delusion and look for a man that can fend for his family and at least responsible

If you're 40years now I know you won't be picky.. Cus by then age won't be on your side again by then you will almost have been an evening newspaper. I hope you know evening newspaper does not have value

You better be wise

A fool? I thought Nigerian men were tired of women who only wanted them for their money and what they can provide? Gold diggers looking for ready made men?

Now she’s looking for who she’s genuinely attracted to and you are calling her a fool?

Nigerian men are the most confused beings on Earth.

Olayinka8793:
she made it clear she didn't love him bla bla bla. Did she made it clear to us here or to the mugu man?
She coulda made it clear to the man and cut him off rather than wasting his time and money and finally deciding that she don chop the mugu enough and it is time to finally get rid of him. Nonsense greedy thief

You sound like someone stole your money?

Several comments insulting the poster badly because of your bad experience with Nigerian girls? Do you realize some chicks will close mouth, finish the man and get married to another dude while still siphoning him?

What the hell is you people’s problem on this site? Like Wetin dey worry Una, even if the girl is wrong, does it mean you’ll exhibit this level of bitterness for a stranger that you know nothing about, just a few short words?

This site is just filled with terrible people

Depriest2020:
That's what good/nice men gets, women never likes them except their generosity. Ladies prefer naughty and randy men or bad boys or men with bad boys vibes. They see such men as people who knows whats up and exciting to be with and see nice and good men as unexciting and boring to be with. But after being used and dumped, destroyed with series of abortion, making them baby mamas, then they will have a rethink and start looking for a good man who they would dump their baggages on.

You see ladies that make statements like:

"All men are the same"
"Who love help"
"That's what you'all always says"

Avoid them, they've been uselessed and heartbroken by the bad boys they rejected good guys for.

Flesh and blood did not reveal this to you. You be boss for the streets

They end up losing at the end.

Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

Op, your predicament is well understood

Some girls are like that too towards male counterparts and eventually the guys may start dating them

That's how fine boys marry ugly girls normally

As for the solution, if you don't like the man, stop accepting his gifts and plead with him to leave you alone

If that doesn't work, rent one of your cousins to act as your boyfriend when he is around

After 2-3 times of seeing you guys together, he'll understand the situation.

Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

Ah... Annabelle!
You have seen me finish!

Why not just tell it to my face that I'm short and ugly? Now, you carry me shame for Nairaland.

Physical attraction is also important in relationship talk more of a marriage. It’s not a yardstick for measuring a successful relationship or marriage but it’s a refreshing therapy when you think about how attractive your partner is to you in which ever way they posses this extrinsic quality, the intrinsic qualities are the next to consider.

If there’s no physical attraction it’s a dead end.

Some men are mumu, someone is giving you sign of rejection or dislike and you are still pushing thinking she will change her mind even to the extent of spending extravagantly on her. Well God knows I can never make such mistakes that's why I like myself, the first day I noticed you are not into me I commot hand if you like fine and get ass pass Nicky minaj

Olayinka8793:
if play boy wey no use money but chooses to use sweet mouth jam her, fvck weyrey comot her body and later dump her, hope you will maintain same energy. Girl chop mugu money and playboy chop innocent girl. Make everybody dey use everybody, abi no be so?

Lol u still be learner. Money or no money girl when go fvck u go fvck u. No be by ur money too much or ur mouth too sweet. Of course there are easy girls who can be fvcked by those things but girls still dey that aren't easily moved by them. U go spend tire or turn to modern day Shakespeare yet u nor go ever know her pant color. Except u wan rape her and u know the consequences of that. You're getting me wrong. I no encourage her to chop mugu money. From her write up i could see she was probably considering and contemplating dating the guy or not and na the process the guy see opportunity to use money try win her over hence if na her mugu she wouldn't even bring it here but keep on milking the cash cow. Say the truth and be free and stop making everything gender war. She's trying to do what's right and that i encourage 💯...

Usmanovic95:


Your advise is quite a mature one and I agree with it to some certain degree.But what I feel is that if OP doesn't find the man physically appealing don't you feel she will cheat on him with people with her desired sex appeal. And
her Marriage could be affected if she gets caught in the act.

Na so problems dey start oo but my people nor wan gree. She must marry him by fire by force. Money can do a lot of good YES but it doesn't guarantee a happy and fulfilled home. Most girls today will jump at the opportunity and try to kill two birds with one stone later on in the marriage only for the matter to cast anyhow then we hear married woman found with her ex lover or DNA wahala. And people will start blaming her because she's well taken care of by the husband. Even if eventually she doesn't even cheat on him everyone deserves to be happy na... No be her fault say the guy fall for her but it will be her fault if she frustrates the guy in future because of pent up frustration and sadness over the course of time. No one deserves to live like that abeg. Life short oo

You no get feelings for am and you d accept things and Money from am na wa madam tell am the bitter truth even though una duh go far but u for duh tell am since and stop to accept things from am o

Too much anime movie is developing your brain to fish brain

Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

na girls wey never reach 30yrs dey select man. Make u reach 35 40, u go know hwfa.

Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

Some men be mumu sha, but let's hope you won't marry him for material reasons and then poison or kill him. Thousands of men have died needlessly by failing to run until it's too late.

Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

This is super annoying. You can't summon love for him but his money is good enough to collect? Keep deceiving yourself. He will know you're serious when you stop accepting gifts from him but until then, stop stringing him along!

Some of you young ladies are a problem unto yourselves

Giftedhand47:


What of Regina Daniel's
Is her husband not old
But money runs the marriage bro

Atleast she gets anything she wants effortlessly
That's happiness and that will make her love the husband the more

It's not supposed to be, friend. I can't marry someone who loves money, cos she will surely disappear if money disappears. What happens to for better for worse...

Nicepoker:
He spends on you generously and you want to pay him back by running away from the community. Mannerless witch

lol i'm yet to see a witch with manners

wis3:
Refund everything he has ever spent on you

this is what is wrong with this generation.

Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

I agree with a comments ahead . Stop spending his money and accepting gifts from him. I would even go as far as asking you to return any jewelry and items that he has purchased for you .

I applaud you seeking advice on this Issue. That said, I feel you are in your mid 20’s with options cuz I know women who are in their late 30’s seeking a man. Infact any man’s hand in marriage.

At a certain time in life height & facial appearance will not be a criterial for marriage but inward appearance. Is he kind , is he fair, does he love me, what do we have in common , is he faithful .

So be careful before you discard your benefactor just due to outward attributes.

LOVEGINO:
na girls wey never reach 30yrs dey select man. Make u reach 35 40, u go know hwfa.

I agreed

Fahvvy:
A man possesses the qualities of a good husband and you disqualified him all because of his looks? ...

He provides for your wants...
He treats you well...
He puts up with your excesses...

And yet his only issue is that he's not tall enough or fine enough?

When have you ever heard anyone saying that it's a man's height that makes the marriage work? Or it's his fine face that makes the marriage work? ...

This is how y'all women will pass on, on men that truly care for you for irresponsible men, simply because these men don't meet some ridiculous physical standards that you have in your heads ...

Truth is that the things that make marriages work are not physically based, they're majorly character-based ...

But it's your call ....
Since this is a deal breaker for you, then tell him off ...
My most sincere prayer for you is that you know what you're doing ...
If you're a believer, you should seek the face of God on this matter ...

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