Hi guys, happy new year, i have heard numerously that the biggest mistake a man can make is bringing your wife girlfriend to abroad if the woman have some certain traits.Oh well I took the risk, but the risk was taken because of my children.
My own wife had plenty issues from disloyalty, disrespect and so many other, but the major was being unfaithful. Trust me when I say that the most mentally draining situation is when you know ur woman is not loyal, but you can only have 43% clue to that effect and she keeps upgrading her carefulness every time she senses I almost caught her. Ok for good 10 years of my life, thats what I had to put up with in Lagos, now we here in the UK and same is happening.
She worked at first in an environment where it was only white people, she complained bitterly about not being able to mingle because of their culture. Eventually she got another job at a care home where numerous Nigerians where located. At first I noticed how she started being sensitive about her looks, doing make up to work and all that, selective of wigs that she wears in which she was not that type. I openly asked her one day why suddenly she started wearing make up everyday. She claimed the oyinbos there always does, and she wanted to follow suit. Not until she started coming bk home to gist about how the oyinbos there were friendly than where she previously worked, and started sighting examples on how a particular Nigerian guy is really loved by the oyinbo girls, said the oyinbos are ashawo though, that most of them tend to like the guy, some will carry his head and lay on their chest, or take the guys hand and start strolling with him, that she does not know why they like the guy so much maybe because of his height or something els and all that. Me being STREET 4 long, i quickly decoded that the gist was not about the oyinbos but the guy in question. At a point in time she stopped wearing make up, and i noticed she and the dude started talking consistently and uncontrollably after working hours.

To cut the story short, I noticed that the guy started sending my wife odds to bet, something she has never done b4, spending pounds that we are spose to use to collabo survival into betting. That was when i stepped in and questioned her that what kind of friendship are you having with someone that has initiated you into gambling. She said its not a big deal that why am i monitoring her doings, or is it that i have a problem being close to the guy, that the dude is just a nice guy that every1 wants to be friends with. Guys pay attention to your instinct if you feel something aint right with your woman. All of a sudden I noticed the dude stopped calling her at odd hours, and their convo suddenly stopped, then some days ago she told me she was going out to the movies with her friends which is her best female co worker, and that dude making 3 of them. She drove my car to go pick them both not knowing I had already spied on the car. Cut long story short, from what I heard in the spy while my madam was driving to the cinemas, the guy said he wanted to pee, my madam said pee na, he replied, inside your mouth, madam said for where, he said sebi na u sey make i pee, madam threw empty bottled water to the back for him to pee, he said 'make i pee inside this one leave am inside car mk ur husband go drink am,madam said how u sef go leave am inside car. then he continued by saying he's pee will not even be able to contain the plastic, then he started narrating how he gott stuck in the car driving one day and he was so pressed, that he had to pee in a bottle, that his penis could not even fit into the head of the bottle, that he messed his car up and had to go to the car wash to clean his car, that was where I paused the spy and could not continue, because if I listen to more and find out that this dude have been banging my woman then mayb i will buy market i can not afford. Should I muster up and continue listening? Because 4 a dude to conveniently be talking about his private part between two married women and to disrespect me in a manner from what he said about me is beyond my imagination, or maybe na me dey over-reason things.

author=edimina post=127817995]Hi guys, happy new year, i have heard numerously that the biggest mistake a man can make is bringing your wife girlfriend to abroad if the woman have some certain traits.Oh well I took the risk, but the risk was taken because of my children.
My own wife had plenty issues from disloyalty, disrespect and so many other, but the major was being unfaithful. Trust me when I say that the most mentally draining situation is when you know ur woman is not loyal, but you can only have 43% clue to that effect and she keeps upgrading her carefulness every time she senses I almost caught her. Ok for good 10 years of my life, thats what I had to put up with in Lagos, now we here in the UK and same is happening.

Boom Dig_It!!!

I'm not here to make you feel good I'm gonna spell it out to you well, some of you guys think Nairaland is a correction fluid you saw the whole boldened and went on with a bold step to marry the woman, bro you go weep taya but that is the least, so many red flags... for being disloyal your wife is gone at this stage only a severe incident can bring her back something like she falling back to depend on you for support which the height of it could be financial support which you and I know will hardly happen as she has a means to it. Bro focus on those your kids whom you said are your reason for bringing her over, if you add high bp to your weeping na there you done finally killed yourself.

Anyone has some spare advice for this man? Mine finished last year

Hmmn,am sorry. You committed an abomination by taking a Naija woman abroad.

Very dirty behavior.... ewwww

Some guys ..una dey try oooo.. how do u put up with women like this....?

How have u managed to remain in marriage with this woman?? because u said she has always been sneaking around and upping her hiding game

Aaaaarghmed:
Hmmn,am sorry. You committed an abomination by taking a Naija woman abroad.

Her fellow dirty supporters will soon come and claim the guy has offended her in Nigeria.... Or that something is missing the husband does not have... Awon wèrèy..

You know your wife to be an unfaithful person.
You had a golden opportunity to leave her in Nigeria, maybe just be sending her money for her and the children's upkeep, but you missed it and instead relocated her abroad.

op were you raised by a single mother? Na people like that de tolerate and enable nonsense behaviour from women wey no send them. You carry woman like this travel abroad, she will show you pepper there, you no de hear word

advanceDNA:


Her fellow dirty supporters will soon come and claim the guy has offended her in Nigeria.... Or that something is missing the husband does not have... Awon wèrèy..

yes,we are waiting for the nairaland roaches to land for this thread.maybe dem never still wake up

Advice for simps like this finished last year,please what do u think about the upcoming Afcon?

"subscription to yearly marriage advice has expired".

The guy said he wan piss for ya Madam mouth...Inside ya own car for that matter......he will soon want ya madam to give him BJ, that is if he never start to lash her yet ba!!!

Op, better thread carefully since you both are in the UK. If not, she fit just raise one false alarm ontop ya head and you would see yasef deported back home in Naija square one.

Try run a DNA test on your kids.....

edimina:
Hi guys, happy new year, i have heard numerously that the biggest mistake a man can make is bringing your wife girlfriend to abroad if the woman have some certain traits.Oh well I took the risk, but the risk was taken because of my children.
My own wife had plenty issues from disloyalty, disrespect and so many other, but the major was being unfaithful. Trust me when I say that the most mentally draining situation is when you know ur woman is not loyal, but you can only have 43% clue to that effect and she keeps upgrading her carefulness every time she senses I almost caught her. Ok for good 10 years of my life, thats what I had to put up with in Lagos, now we here in the UK and same is happening.
She worked at first in an environment where it was only white people, she complained bitterly about not being able to mingle because of their culture. Eventually she got another job at a care home where numerous Nigerians where located. At first I noticed how she started being sensitive about her looks, doing make up to work and all that, selective of wigs that she wears in which she was not that type. I openly asked her one day why suddenly she started wearing make up everyday. She claimed the oyinbos there always does, and she wanted to follow suit. Not until she started coming bk home to gist about how the oyinbos there were friendly than where she previously worked, and started sighting examples on how a particular Nigerian guy is really loved by the oyinbo girls, said the oyinbos are ashawo though, that most of them tend to like the guy, some will carry his head and lay on their chest, or take the guys hand and start strolling with him, that she does not know why they like the guy so much maybe because of his height or something els and all that. Me being STREET 4 long, i quickly decoded that the gist was not about the oyinbos but the guy in question. At a point in time she stopped wearing make up, and i noticed she and the dude started talking consistently and uncontrollably after working hours.

To cut the story short, I noticed that the guy started sending my wife odds to bet, something she has never done b4, spending pounds that we are spose to use to collabo survival into betting. That was when i stepped in and questioned her that what kind of friendship are you having with someone that has initiated you into gambling. She said its not a big deal that why am i monitoring her doings, or is it that i have a problem being close to the guy, that the dude is just a nice guy that every1 wants to be friends with. Guys pay attention to your instinct if you feel something aint right with your woman. All of a sudden I noticed the dude stopped calling her at odd hours, and their convo suddenly stopped, then some days ago she told me she was going out to the movies with her friends which is her best female co worker, and that dude making 3 of them. She drove my car to go pick them both not knowing I had already spied on the car. Cut long story short, from what I heard in the spy while my madam was driving to the cinemas, the guy said he wanted to pee, my madam said pee na, he replied, inside your mouth, madam said for where, he said sebi na u sey make i pee, madam threw empty bottled water to the back for him to pee, he said 'make i pee inside this one leave am inside car mk ur husband go drink am,madam said how u sef go leave am inside car. then he continued by saying he's pee will not even be able to contain the plastic, then he started narrating how he gott stuck in the car driving one day and he was so pressed, that he had to pee in a bottle, that his penis could not even fit into the head of the bottle, that he messed his car up and had to go to the car wash to clean his car, that was where I paused the spy and could not continue, because if I listen to more and find out that this dude have been banging my woman then mayb i will buy market i can not afford. Should I muster up and continue listening? Because 4 a dude to conveniently be talking about his private part between two married women and to disrespect me in a manner from what he said about me is beyond my imagination, or maybe na me dey over-reason things.

I don Exhaust my advice for matters such as this one.

Reduce your expectations and be ready for anything when you import your wife from Nigeria to overseas, otherwise you will just die of hypertension because most Nigerian ladies from 1990 till date are disloyal and disrespectful. Whatever you see, you take

Nawaa o. The only thing I can advise for now is that you should gather plenty evidence. When I mean plenty, I mean PLENTYY. In case of tomorrow. It's obvious that she's still kinda scared. She doesn't want you to find out.

Hope you have a job and everything is set for you as per you are not her dependant or anything?
But, when she gets to the stage of I don't care, wahala don enter.

Hope you have a job and everything is set for you as per you are not her dependant or anything?

Avoid anything they can use to tag you for domestic violence. If na serious quarrel, mind your words and RECORD it.

Make them no throw you out tomorrow.

Just carry your cross .....

Just rollerblading by...

Ok

What are you lacking that makes your wife get entangled with other men? She is working and earning money, so this is not about her golddigging. You must do something about your personality and general appearance.


There are people who had poor upbringing and they are used to talking dirty. You should not conclude that your wife is unfaithful, till you catch her red handed. The way she is flirting with the guy is totally wrong, and it's only a matter of time before she falls into temptation. When she comes back, tell her you want her to end her friendship with the guy. Don't let her know you heard the discussion in the car. Tell her you feel jealous that she went out with the guy .

LilMissFavvy:
What are you lacking that makes your wife get entangled with other men? She is working and earning money, so this is not about her golddigging. You must do something about your personality and general appearance.


There are people who had poor upbringing and they are used to talking dirty. You should not conclude that your wife is unfaithful, till you catch her red handed. The way she is flirting with the guy is totally wrong, and it's only a matter of time before she falls into temptation. When she comes back, tell her you want her to end her friendship with the guy. Don't let her know you heard the discussion in the car. Tell her you feel jealous that she went out with the guy .

So, to you now a lady is prone to go outside because her man is lacking in one or some ways? Why are you talking like this? Why?

Pls, is your man a perfect human being?

I only type this just not to insult or speak ill of you. You no try at all

Did you run DNA test on those kids?

Oga it rains everywhere ohh. So hold your wife close.
There are no wife materials in the abroad thats why our men come home to marry.

Also remember that there are also no wife material in the 9ja again sef.
Imagine you divorce this one and then remarry and leave the new one in 9ja? What the new iyawo might be upto in your absence??

It rains everywhere is all i am saying. Marriage is love, patience and continuous forgiveness. Forgive your wife and hold onto your vows. Remember its for better for worse?

Pay more attention to her (like your rival). See as men de pursue her even after how many children she dropped for you.

Watch war room whilst at it. Many marriages are been attacked oh. Stand in the gap for your home as the head of your family and pray the devil away. Shower her with more love, attention and money and watch her fall in love with you over again

Op abeg finish listening to the recording and update ur post before I can give my advice

Give evidence against your wife, use it to flee from the marriage

Your wife has gone deep in having affairs with that guy.

Na u dey waste time seriously.

She is deeply infatuated by the guy.

A lot of baseless suspicion. Expected more concrete evidence.

Clearly she has a thing for him, but are you putting yourself out to be better than the guy? Have you let yourself go because she's your wife and you've been suspecting her while living your Nigerian dream? Are you as adventurous as the guy? Perhaps you should spice up your relationship with her. Fight for your marriage instead of sitting on the sidelines throwing suspicions and watching it crumble.

Start praying.

ogashman:
Op abeg finish listening to the recording and update ur post before I can give my advice

Post is too fearful and full of suspicion. How can he accuse her when he's not heard it all.

icold:
Did you run DNA test on those kids?

Because every woman is dumb enough to bring home another man's children as proof that she's cheating? How many men bring home the children they father with other women into their marriages?

BRATISLAVA:


Post is too fearful and full of suspicion. How can he accuse her when he's not heard it all.

I tire boss

LilMissFavvy:
What are you lacking that makes your wife get entangled with other men? She is working and earning money, so this is not about her golddigging. You must do something about your personality and general appearance.


There are people who had poor upbringing and they are used to talking dirty. You should not conclude that your wife is unfaithful, till you catch her red handed. The way she is flirting with the guy is totally wrong, and it's only a matter of time before she falls into temptation. When she comes back, tell her you want her to end her friendship with the guy. Don't let her know you heard the discussion in the car. Tell her you feel jealous that she went out with the guy .

see talk like mess

Nemesis0147:
see talk like mess

Very smelly I tell you