I am happily married to my husband for 19 yrs nw. God blessed my marriage with five children, 3 boys and 2 girls.
I am a civil servant and my husband is a driver in a company.
On the 26th of December 2022, my husband called me and told me that there is something that is bothering him which he wants to discuss with me, I sat down and gave him audience.
He said that there is a lady he dated before he got married to me,that he impregnated the lady but because he was not yet ready for marriage then, he did not accept the lady and the pregnancy, later the parents of the lady came and pleaded with him to marry their daughter that they will sponsor their traditional marriage and wedding, because of their position as knight and lady in catholic that they didn't want shame neither will they support abortion but he refused completely and the parents left with their daughter that was the last time he saw the lady.
He also added that he got all these information from the lady's cousin he met in an occasion on 24th of December that the cousin gave him the lady's phone number.
He said that he really needs my support in this issue that he wants to go and apologise to the lady and the parents to bring back his son, he said that he did not know if they laid curse on him for what he did to their daughter,he went further saying that it might be because of what he did that made life so miserable for him, but of a truth things aren't going well for him ever since we got married, from one problem to another.
I asked him about the lady he said that the lady is married with two kids, a boy and a girl but she's now a divorcee,that she stays alone with her children.
Now this is my response to him, I told him that his blood will never hang outside,that despite the fact that the boy will now be his first son and not my own son that it doesn't matter, that I'll give him all the support he will ever need from me.
I advice him to communicate more with the mother of the child to guide him on how and what he needs to do, since they are from Imo state.
I told him that I will welcome the child with all my heart and that will make all my children to be six in numbers,he was very happy and gave me a hug.
On the 28th of December my husband called me again and said that there is something he wants to discuss with me but it is very difficult for him to say, I told him to go on,he said that he wants to marry the mother of that his son, that he wants to correct all the mistakes he has made in his life, to see if this will change for him,I told him to give me time to think over it.
The nxt day being 29th he raised the issue again, now with reasons saying that he took blood oath with the lady when they were dating that was 20 years ago ,that they promise to marry each other, that the lady has never been happy since he left her even in her marriage that he wants to make her happy.
It was a like a drama to me. Why so sudden I asked my husband.
On 3rd of January 2023 he raised the issue again and was very serious this time saying that he rather lose his life if he will not marry that lady.
I invited his only sister to come and speak to him,he told her that he has made up his mind that nothing is going to stop him.
On the 4th he called me again telling me that the lady is pregnant that the lady came down from Lagos to visit him by first week of December,that he hide it from me the he has being communicating with the lady,that I mustn't know everything,that he doesn't want to have another child outside meaning that he must marry the lady.
Yesterday he went and told his people that he wants to get married everybody turned him down that they are not in support.
It was like a war zone in my home yesterday
Now this is my response to him my Darling husband I have heard all that u have said, I have thought over it,I choose to be alive and train my children, concerning what u are pleading for, life is all about choice,you have ur life to live, pls go ahead and do ur wish but count me and my children off from whatever u have decided to do.
He said no, rather he send the lady's phone number to me and said that I should call the lady to interrogate her,that she's a good person that I will never regret having her in my home as a co-wife.
Plz advise me on what to do my husband is pressuring me to
give him my support to marry another wife and this issue is weighing me down day by day.
I can sence alot of lies from what my husband is saying.
Should I call the lady.
Pls your advice is highly needed.
Thanks


My own 2cents is, don't allow that woman in. If he truly loved her he should have taken the offer made by the girls parents then and married her but he didn't.. now he wants to go back to his vomit.

This one is a case of pure long throat. He doesn't want to avert any curse. He just wants to eat her again.

Madam no gree for any of them this year.

Which position?