Hi Everyone, goodday! my name is Ava, not real name, I created this account to seek sincere advice from you, please kindly read below.
I'm a part of a church community that I've been attending for some years.
Lately, I've started to feel very unwelcomed and ostracized there and it's really starting to take a toll on my mental health.
The reason I'm feeling ostracized is because of an incident that happened a few weeks ago. I had a disagreement with one of the other members of the church, and it got heated.Since then, the other members have been treating me differently and making me feel like an outcast.
Another reason why they treat me this way is because I'm very vocal about my beliefs and opinion on certain religious issues, I don't attend all their weekly and what not services and they see me as a rebellious and unrepentant church goer....
My husband wants me to continue attending the church because of his position and network there, but I'm not sure that's the best thing for me.I'm worried that if I try to talk to him about this he'll be upset and worried, infact he'll insist I keep going, but the truth is my mental health is consistently been given a huge blow each time I attend the church.

I'm really conflicted about what to do next. On the one hand, I know that my husband cares about me and wants what's best for me. On the other hand, I feel like continuing to attend this church is causing me a lot of distress and making me unhappy.
Can anyone offer any advice or support?

You seem to be a very proud person

MidasTouch15:
You seem to be a very proud person

But I don't feel I am .

Avareal:


But I don't feel I am .

That's what a proud person will say

Avareal:
Hi Everyone, goodday! my name is Ava, not real name, I created this account to seek sincere advice from you, please kindly read below.
I'm a part of a church community that I've been attending for some years.
Lately, I've started to feel very unwelcomed and ostracized there and it's really starting to take a toll on my mental health.
The reason I'm feeling ostracized is because of an incident that happened a few weeks ago. I had a disagreement with one of the other members of the church, and it got heated.Since then, the other members have been treating me differently and making me feel like an outcast.
Another reason why they treat me this way is because I'm very vocal about my beliefs and opinion on certain religious issues, I don't attend all their weekly and what not services and they see me as a rebellious and unrepentant church goer....
My husband wants me to continue attending the church because of his position and network there, but I'm not sure that's the best thing for me.I'm worried that if I try to talk to him about this he'll be upset and worried, infact he'll insist I keep going, but the truth is my mental health is consistently been given a huge blow each time I attend the church.

I'm really conflicted about what to do next. On the one hand, I know that my husband cares about me and wants what's best for me. On the other hand, I feel like continuing to attend this church is causing me a lot of distress and making me unhappy.
Can anyone offer any advice or support?

Good day Mrs Ava,

You are very OK to feel the way you feel.
You need to know you are a MARRIED WOMAN and you gave away over 60% of your rights, opinions and freedom when you got married.

A wife is MADE FOR HER HUSBAND, that is what the bible teaches.... meaning NO MATTER HOW YOU FEEL, YOU PLEASE YOUR HUSBAND

As extreme as this may feel, it is proven too many times in scriptures.

Now, you also need to know that FEELINGS ARE NOT FACTORS for the real world decisions. We go to work daily when we feel like we should be in bed more.


Also, if you want to LEAVE THE CHURCH, it is cool, obtain WISDOM to discuss with your HUSBAND, he is your head and needs to understand your strong reasons. If your reasons are NOT STRONG, then suck it and remain there.

You can NOT RUN from maturity...... YOUR POST APPEARS TO ME LIKE YOU HATE CONFRONTATIONS AND CORRECTION, you feel JUDGED when corrected or confronted.... AND YOU THINK ITS NORMAL, NOT KNOWING IT IS VERY UNHEALTHY TO BE THAT WAY.

No one GROWS without CORRECTION and CONFRONTATION, so anyone who avoids it, hates it, simply is not MATURE.

Being RESPONSIBLE is simply a fine mix between CONFRONTATION, CORRECTION AND DISCIPLINE. So kindly reconsider and judge yourself.

What if a simple calm scriptural conversation with the persons who trigger your mental health would help you heal?

Anyway, no matter your spiritual views, THE BIBLE has the answer and the more you know GOD AND HIS WORD, your position on issues will CHANGE, you can't be rigid and expect to be OKAY.... you need to be FLEXIBLE TO GROW.

Diplomacy matters, in PROVERBS 31, it speaks of how a WIFE'S BEHAVIOUR AFFECTS HER HUSBANDS REPUTATION....... pls AVA read it and understand.

You should have a SPIRITUAL AUTHORITY, an older woman who can sit you down and discuss your issues with you without you feeling attacked...

you may just be viewing the issues with a wrong lens and short sightedly.

It's well with you sis