Not a mans problem, a lot of things the ex does can be outsourced cheaply

pocohantas:


You wish.

You never start to wail. At the right time you would lay on a railway track and end it all.

and what wil i be doing at the rail track sell okirika cloth grade 2 abi grade A bra at yaba track .. even if i end up selling okirika bra i can never have your size lailai , go away

chidiokay:



and what wil i be doing at the rail track sell okirika cloth grade 2 abi grade A bra at yaba track .. even if i end up selling okirika bra i can never have your size lailai , go away

You can never have the things I desire. Not even the free ones, let alone what money can buy.✌️

Afodot0022:
Well I don't know you and you are entitled to your comment, am sure if you went through half of what I went through in my marriage, you would have exited earlier than I did, it's not all marriages you fight for cos some are just destined to crash-land. If you are in a situation where you gave your all for a marriage, work hard to cater for your family and go extra mile to be sure everyone is comfortable and what you get from your wife is for her to be having an affair with another man, even if you fight for such marriage and continue as a man, you can never have peace in that marriage again, even the bible gave infidelity as a ground for divorce and mind you, I never said am finding it difficult to move on, even if the feeling was like that at the beginning of the separation, it's not the same again now, I have healed and moved on since, I brought this discussion up cos I believe so many divorced men are going through same and I think if you are in such scenario, you will definitely understand better

You fall my hand for replying that character. I assume you're not a regular here.

pocohantas:


You can never have the things I desire. Not even the free ones, let alone what money can buy.✌️

Ofcus there is no relationship between light and darkness, even if bulbs are sold for free a winch won't desire one

A clear definition of a FRUSTRATED EVENING NEWSPAPER!!! You think you can win the gender war. Na Loneliness go kill you Las Las!!!

A good topic:

Me and my ex separated after 10years that produced a boy and a girl

She refused to move with me to my new house I built.

Although I carried along during the project and on D-Day she refused to followed me and my new wife.

After 2-weeks I was thinking of how to get the custody of the children when she traveled to another state and left the kids alone unattended.

A neighbour in my old house called to informed me how devastated the kids are and I should matter of urgency come and take the kids to my place.

I sent a nephew because I just returned from journey tired and exhausted.

They kids arrived so happy and full of appreciate on their faces.

Before she came back she already knew the kids are with me because she called the following day that I got my kids.

I wrote letter to the school authority that on no account should anybody pick my kids except the school bus or me.

She arrived and went to the school and demanded to see them, the school authority called me and I asked them to allowed her access the kids.

The following day she went again and demanded to see them, the school authority called me again and I told them to asked her not to distract the kids as they are writing exam. She rant and abused the school authority.

A week later she came to my house with the intention to have the kids which led to commotions and involved police.

At the police station I told the authority to warn her to stay clear my premise because next time she do so, I may not take it easy with her.

The police asked to stop intrude people property without prior notice that will amount to disturbance of public peace and if she want the kids, let her go to court.

She arranged with 2 of her friends to visit my house while I was in office and my wife called that she has 2 friends of my ex in our home they came to spy.

I used my laptop to type letter ot complain to police, state CID and NSCDC that if anything should happen to my family they should be hold responsible.

Their hubbies have to begged me to withdraw the letter as it's very implicating which I did with the help of elders.

Today, we are living fine with the kids and my wife, although she do call the boy sometimes whixhti do tell the boy not to tell her anything about our home.

Finally, I should have been paying UP KEEPING by now it not the way God do it's way as I got the kids miraculously.

I don't have grduge with her but she was wrongly advise by friends.

To be paying upkeep is not easy because if you meet bad woman, she would make like miserable for you, by always bad looking you whenever you visit the kids.

Camberlo:
A good topic:

Me and my ex separated after 10years that produced a boy and a girl

She refused to move with me to my new house I built.

Although I carried along during the project and on D-Day she refused to followed me and my new wife.

After 2-weeks I was thinking of how to get the custody of the children when she traveled to another state and left the kids alone unattended.

A neighbour in my old house called to informed me how devastated the kids are and I should matter of urgency come and take the kids to my place.

I sent a nephew because I just returned from journey tired and exhausted.

They kids arrived so happy and full of appreciate on their faces.

Before she came back she already knew the kids are with me because she called the following day that I got my kids.

I wrote letter to the school authority that on no account should anybody pick my kids except the school bus or me.

She arrived and went to the school and demanded to see them, the school authority called me and I asked them to allowed her access the kids.

The following day she went again and demanded to see them, the school authority called me again and I told them to asked her not to distract the kids as they are writing exam. She rant and abused the school authority.

A week later she came to my house with the intention to have the kids which led to commotions and involved police.

At the police station I told the authority to warn her to stay clear my premise because next time she do so, I may not take it easy with her.

The police asked to stop intrude people property without prior notice that will amount to disturbance of public peace and if she want the kids, let her go to court.

She arranged with 2 of her friends to visit my house while I was in office and my wife called that she has 2 friends of my ex in our home they came to spy.

I used my laptop to type letter ot complain to police, state CID and NSCDC that if anything should happen to my family they should be hold responsible.

Their hubbies have to begged me to withdraw the letter as it's very implicating which I did with the help of elders.

Today, we are living fine with the kids and my wife, although she do call the boy sometimes whixhti do tell the boy not to tell her anything about our home.

Finally, I should have been paying UP KEEPING by now it not the way God do it's way as I got the kids miraculously.

I don't have grduge with her but she was wrongly advise by friends.

To be paying upkeep is not easy because if you meet bad woman, she would make like miserable for you, by always bad looking you whenever you visit the kids.

So, she actually refused to follow you to your new house because you married a second wife or is there any other problem?

Secondly, I like how it played out as she made a mistake and you capitalized. Quick thinking. Then the school help you alot, have you been very present in the school , attending programmes etc?

Birds of a feather

maureensylvia:


Nice one Poco❤️

Afodot0022:
You can say that to a naive and novice man, being with a toxic and contentious woman will even end your life earlier than been single

U get time responding to that one.

Na weytin *OP* suppose do be this

Why u go allow her carry ur kids comot in the first place,u dey jonz?

Na u be papa,unless na u leave dem comot sha!

Camberlo:
A good topic:

Me and my ex separated after 10years that produced a boy and a girl

She refused to move with me to my new house I built.

Although I carried along during the project and on D-Day she refused to followed me and my new wife.

After 2-weeks I was thinking of how to get the custody of the children when she traveled to another state and left the kids alone unattended.

A neighbour in my old house called to informed me how devastated the kids are and I should matter of urgency come and take the kids to my place.

I sent a nephew because I just returned from journey tired and exhausted.

They kids arrived so happy and full of appreciate on their faces.

Before she came back she already knew the kids are with me because she called the following day that I got my kids.

I wrote letter to the school authority that on no account should anybody pick my kids except the school bus or me.

She arrived and went to the school and demanded to see them, the school authority called me and I asked them to allowed her access the kids.

The following day she went again and demanded to see them, the school authority called me again and I told them to asked her not to distract the kids as they are writing exam. She rant and abused the school authority.

A week later she came to my house with the intention to have the kids which led to commotions and involved police.

At the police station I told the authority to warn her to stay clear my premise because next time she do so, I may not take it easy with her.

The police asked to stop intrude people property without prior notice that will amount to disturbance of public peace and if she want the kids, let her go to court.

She arranged with 2 of her friends to visit my house while I was in office and my wife called that she has 2 friends of my ex in our home they came to spy.

I used my laptop to type letter ot complain to police, state CID and NSCDC that if anything should happen to my family they should be hold responsible.

Their hubbies have to begged me to withdraw the letter as it's very implicating which I did with the help of elders.

Today, we are living fine with the kids and my wife, although she do call the boy sometimes whixhti do tell the boy not to tell her anything about our home.

Finally, I should have been paying UP KEEPING by now it not the way God do it's way as I got the kids miraculously.

I don't have grduge with her but she was wrongly advise by friends.

To be paying upkeep is not easy because if you meet bad woman, she would make like miserable for you, by always bad looking you whenever you visit the kids.

pocohantas:
When we tell you to fight for your marriages, you won't listen. A man that is not ready to endure has no business getting married. Go learn from your fathers how to endure. That is why marriages of old lasted.

Common sense truly isn't common. Did you fucking read what he wrote?

chidiokay:




Bro don't need to be there or a divorcee to know how i will feel about my flesh & blood in any situation, "ko se le rii afin dan eru ba oloro nii " no scenerio is new under the sun.

What as the innocent kids got to do with the nonsense divorce, as far as these case is concern i am even disappointed the man thought of abandoning his children .. the mere thought naa fvckup
Whatever issues he has with the wife is
his fvcking problem leave the kids out of it, he chose a wife and he chose their mother .. Real Men take responsibilities.

When dey say shine your eye before marriage you na go dey form Man on mY Own & oversabi, if you feel your ex wife is not raising your kids properly, step in or make solid provisions

What if she said the kids are not yours repeatedly before she left. The man should still be running after the kids. My brother men or real men always give time it's chance to work. What will be will be. No man will intentionally want to abandon his kids. Circumstances varies. Please answer thus question please. If the woman said with her mouth that the kids are not his, what should he do? Please do not say the man should go and do a DNA, for me let her take care of the kids time will prevail. Ur opinion is highly needed

EreluRoz:
Caring for your kids has nothing to do with your ex wife, it is your responsibility afterall those kids didn't ask you to bring them to the world by force. Couples should learn to leave the kids out of their mess and failure.

But spciety ask for them to remain with their mom right. he who has custody should foot the bills simple.. Ode as if you forced the woman to get pregnant.

pocohantas:
Your ex-wife is taking care of the kids while you are busy trying to disvirgin your new girlfriend, yet you are still pained?

Why are the kids with her 247?
Did she stop you from coparenting?

If women can cook, submit and stay with cheating husbands for the sake of their kids. I don't see why this lesser scenario is hard for men to do. For a gender that doesn't benefit from marriage, this is an ideal arrangement if you ask me.

Focus on the kids.

ask your brothers to stay with their cheating wives when they eventually get married. wanabe feminist my ass.

pocohantas:
When we tell you to fight for your marriages, you won't listen. A man that is not ready to endure has no business getting married. Go learn from your fathers how to endure. That is why marriages of old lasted.

Also tell your brothers to fight for their marriage when your sister inlaw cheats.

pocohantas:


1) No marriage is perfect. She cannot be like that forever. She would definitely get tired and retire with you. Even this your new babe, shebi she is talking to other men on phone and borderline stingy. Have you left her? The next woman might be worse, so where are you men running to?

2) The logical and unemotional thing to do is to take care of the kids. Last time I checked, men are logical and unemotional, so it shouldn't be hard separating your emotions from this whole situation.

3) You are not being stopped from cooparenting. If she leaves the kids with you, you would still be pained that she is living her life while you are nurturing the kids. None would be easy for you. Pick one side and run with it for the sake of the kids.

4) There are only two things involved, you give money or you don't give. Either way, the kids would be fine. In fact, she might even be waiting for you to default, so that she can have something to use against you.

If I were you, I would keep giving with evidence. I don't mind to create a folder for it on Google Drive. Call them when you can and have them come over. They would grow to know how they want to handle the triangle.

Better still... Go to court so that official terms and conditions will be met.

pocohantas:
When we tell you to fight for your marriages, you won't listen. A man that is not ready to endure has no business getting married. Go learn from your fathers how to endure. That is why marriages of old lasted.

Lol
Kid with delulu

PrinceofSarcasm:


Why do you always come off like this most times? Why? What is the matter actually?
For your information no man who was breastfed by his mother will take back a cheating woman, so if she likes she can compare how men cheat to all day it won't change anything

She's a broken and damaged frustrated soul.
That waste product even lack father's love and good upbringing.
I pity any foolìsh man associating with her.

Poço MUMU

nobody:

She's a broken and damaged frustrated soul.
That waste product even lack father's love and good upbringing.
I pity any foolìsh man associating with her.

Poço MUMU

Pocohantas is this true?

Divorce is not easy and the loyal and committed one suffer most. Just move on and forget the cheating wife. I'm passing through the same thing now. No reasonable man will forgive a cheating wife. Move on and take care of yourself and kids. I understand you on issues of finance. You will take care of your new wife and children but try to do your best for your kids.

Westerhoffe:
Please, choose right by allowing GOD choose the right partner for you.

That way, you'll have no reason for divorce.

Pls, if I can get you right, is it every divorce that doesn't have the say of God in them? And is it every marriages that last till old age that got choosing by God?


Religion will end us all in Africa, most especially Nigeria...

Attimes my thoughts could be like in as much the kids are staying with her, I am on the loosing side and my effort providing for the kids outside my jurisdiction might look like a wasted efforts being that the kids are with her 247 and she can easily still the glory by making the kids believe she is the one doing the provision.

The bolded is very correct. By the way, if it was the woman that cheated how come you didn't get custody?
Don't count on those children. No be every pikin dey get sense these days

Marry another woman, have your own child that will grow up under your roof. Women are very manipulative. There is no guarantee that those two children will acknowledge you when they grow up

EreluRoz:
Caring for your kids has nothing to do with your ex wife, it is your responsibility afterall those kids didn't ask you to bring them to the world by force. Couples should learn to leave the kids out of their mess and failure.

You just commented trash..
A big trash. Without reason, you decided to talk trash.

truthhurts2:


Pls, if I can get you right, is it every divorce that doesn't have the say of God in them? And is it every marriages that last till old age that got choosing by God?


Religion will end us all in Africa, most especially Nigeria...

God can choose for you and you will use your own have to spoil it. When it comes to marriage nothing is guaranteed. People change...even those that are like angels.

It takes sacrifice and common sense, accountability and perseverance. We tend to want to overburden God when he has given us freewill to choose and determine our destiny

Afodot0022:
Yes you are right and made a valid point, but it's easily said than done until you found yourself in such scenario, even if you begin being there for the kids after divorce or separation, in the long run, you might start defaulting because we are human and it's more complicated when you move on as a man and have another family to care, your new family will be your focus cos they are with you and around you and might not give you the chance to care for your outside kids and be responsible for them

Don't mind him..
That's how their type will be ditching out trashy advice but when it becomes reality on them, they become frustrated and helpless.

Hmmmm

10thTenthMan:
TRUST IS A MINDSET YOU NECESSARILY HAVE TO DEVELOP FOR YOUR OWN PEACE OF MIND!

I just deleted the ....
But that's the truth about my marriage.

chidiokay:



Ofcus there is no relationship between light and darkness, even if bulbs are sold for free a winch won't desire one

I am committed to ensuring you remain in perpetual pains. When you are less busy, please sneak into my diary and remain pained.

Keep wailing my dear.

royalfly:


What if she said the kids are not yours repeatedly before she left. The man should still be running after the kids. My brother men or real men always give time it's chance to work. What will be will be. No man will intentionally want to abandon his kids. Circumstances varies. Please answer thus question please. If the woman said with her mouth that the kids are not his, what should he do? Please do not say the man should go and do a DNA, for me let her take care of the kids time will prevail. Ur opinion is highly needed

Any mature Man that have lived with a woman be it 1yrs won"t see a big deal here;

Firstly, women are talkers and emotional being at that, when they are angry there is nothing they can not say, in the heat of arguememt a woman can say "I hate you" whereas she loves you like kilode

Now if a woman says the children are not mine repeatedly, under what situation did she make that ourburst, was there a fight ? is she pained n trying to hurt me back ? Did she just come back from church and made that confession? a Man must think deeply before he acts that is why we are the logical being

If she says the children aint mine, i will start by taking a deep look into those children appearance & traits for any resemblance,
are they my carbon copy ? if i don't feel convinced enough then DNA cannot be ruled out, know your fate once and for all,

However it will be very foolish of a man to just take a woman's word at face value without proper verification, No responsible Man we think the way you are reasoning sef

So becos she says they are not your children, Ope o ! you cease that opportunity to evade your responsibility as a father, go out to chop the life of your head then 20yrs after you come back to claim the children when they succeed abi
I can't teach a grown man how to treat a woman But for children i fit break nd open the man coconut head to implant sense, haba !

Iamzik:
Attimes my thoughts could be like in as much the kids are staying with her, I am on the loosing side and my effort providing for the kids outside my jurisdiction might look like a wasted efforts being that the kids are with her 247 and she can easily still the glory by making the kids believe she is the one doing the provision.

The bolded is very correct. By the way, if it was the woman that cheated how come you didn't get custody?
Don't count on those children. No be every pikin dey get sense these days

Marry another woman, have your own child that will grow up under your roof. Women are very manipulative. There is no guarantee that those two children will acknowledge you when they grow up

wisdom

pocohantas:


I am committed to ensuring you remain in perpetual pains. When you are less busy, please sneak into my diary and remain pained.

Keep wailing my dear.

As a shy type i won't say the feeling is mutual but you definitely know i'm not a fan of if dem slap your left cheek turn the right one ... i go commot cloth, break bottle, chase your mama reach benin ore express road ...

boya ko nii snore-free night

chidiokay:




As a shy type i won't say the feeling is mutual but you definitely know i'm not a fan of if dem slap your left cheek turn the right one ... i go commot cloth, break bottle, chase your mama reach benin ore express road ...

boya ko nii snore-free night

As e dey sweet me, e dey pain them. Na your mama you go chase with bottle. Feel free to stab her with it. My own mama dey her husband house and she didn't raise any hoodlum. We don't have to deal with anything like you in my family.