Hello.

I'm 35 and right now I'm a little bit lost on choosing a potential life partner.. I went through a slight delay career-wise, but God came through and things picked up within the past 1 year. I met a lady also during this time and we've been dating. We both love each other with the mindset of getting married soon.. I was looking forward to tell my mom who I hadn't seen in almost a year about her.

The twist now is my aunt (a very close confidant) whom I told before anyone is trying to pitch me to another lady abroad. (I don't know how she looks or who she is as I write)...

My mum is also tilting in that direction and urging me to consider the other lady abroad, based on my aunt's positive recommendation.

My family absolutely mean well for me. Right now I'm a bit lost on the whole situation as my main goal for the new year is to get married and relocate abroad.

I'm concerned if I'll be able to get on well with this 'other' lady in question or should I just insist on settling with the current person I'm seeing.. this is the real dilemma.

You just want to take advantage of that other lady abroad, it's giving leech vibes

Imotman:
Hello.

I'm 35 and right now I'm a little bit lost on choosing a potential life partner.. I went through a slight delay career-wise, but God came through and things picked up within the past 1 year. I met a lady also during this time and we've been dating. We both love each other with the mindset of getting married soon.. I was looking forward to tell my mom who I hadn't seen in almost a year about her.

The twist now is my aunt (a very close confidant) whom I told before anyone is trying to pitch me to another lady abroad. (I don't know how she looks or who she is as I write)...

My mum is also tilting in that direction and urging me to consider the other lady abroad, based on my aunt's positive recommendation.

My family absolutely mean well for me. Right now I'm a bit lost on the whole situation as my main goal for the new year is to get married and relocate abroad.

I'm concerned if I'll be able to get on well with this 'other' lady in question or should I just insist on settling with the current person I'm seeing.. this is the real dilemma.

now , let’s reverse the case. If this lady whom you claim to love has a suitor from abroad, and she was considering it, how will you feel.

So it's your mum and aunt that'll come be living with you when the succeed in making you marry someone you don't know or love just because she's based abroad ba? Weldone

If you like break your current girlfriend heart and see how karma will deal with you.

let your aunt give her to her own son

Is anything wrong with the girl you are dating? Is it ur aunt and mum that will teach u how to live ur life? If u know it is ur parent dat will be controlling ur life, pls dont marry dat girl because she wont enjoy marrying a man that is still a mama's toy. She deserves a better man dat will not be tied to his aunt and mom's apron.

For your aunt and mom even recommending a so called abroad lady to you shows how little they still think of you.
You're a man who should know what he wants!

How old are you, no offense?

Wise up. Both are indirectly securing their future finances through you by going for the abroad lady.

EreluRoz:
You just want to take advantage of that other lady abroad, it's giving leech vibes

Because a guy is involved you now realize that marrying someone for material benefits is giving leech vibe? If op was a lady, you would have called it hypergamy and justified it.

Op, please listen to your auntie and mom and go for the abroad-based lady. Never settle for less op! Guys need to wake up and start playing the game of hypergamy with the female gender! Who no like better thing

EreluRoz:
You just want to take advantage of that other lady abroad, it's giving leech vibes

Truth.com

Imotman:
Hello.

I'm 35 and right now I'm a little bit lost on choosing a potential life partner.. I went through a slight delay career-wise, but God came through and things picked up within the past 1 year. I met a lady also during this time and we've been dating. We both love each other with the mindset of getting married soon.. I was looking forward to tell my mom who I hadn't seen in almost a year about her.

The twist now is my aunt (a very close confidant) whom I told before anyone is trying to pitch me to another lady abroad. (I don't know how she looks or who she is as I write)...

My mum is also tilting in that direction and urging me to consider the other lady abroad, based on my aunt's positive recommendation.

My family absolutely mean well for me. Right now I'm a bit lost on the whole situation as my main goal for the new year is to get married and relocate abroad.

I'm concerned if I'll be able to get on well with this 'other' lady in question or should I just insist on settling with the current person I'm seeing.. this is the real dilemma.

So, it's general public that will choose the best lady for u at 35?
Little wonder why MARRIAGES not lasting in recent time, couple hardly married for love again but personal benefits that would come out of it.

Meanwhile, I think you guys saying it's ladies that normally married for financial security and other gains, when Naija guys turn to woman's ATM?

You already have a lady you're dating in Nigeria and you've been dating for a year. Why not stick with her or how is it fair that you want to leave her for no tangible reason other than you wanting to go abroad? Unless there're issues between you, continue with her and marry her. However, the fact that you're considering leaving her for the other person shows you don't love her and shows you shouldn't be thinking about marriage because your decision-making skills are sub par for a man of 35, so methinks she should dump you herself. I would also caution the lady abroad because based on the above reasons, you've ojukokoro and will have cheating tendencies, hence she too shouldn't give you the time of day. You're not marriage material.

EreluRoz:
You just want to take advantage of that other lady abroad, it's giving leech vibes

I agree with you. The man is not serious

Can't you decide yourself after marriage now, they'll start tormenting her.
Some men sef

See them.
"You have a lady here in Nigeria why don't u go for her"


Op!!!
Do you like a better life?
Move for the one abroad.
Your generations unborn will thank you
You self no deh forbid hypergamy

The devil you know is better than an unknown angel.

Your fellow perfect man.

Avoid marriage to a 9ja girl at all cost, their only mission is to steal, kill and destroy. They are only good for use and dump.

I bet you, if she finds someone better than you, she will dump you without looking back.

9ja girls are useless. All of them!

If you love your current gf, why should the lady from abroad cause a dilemma?

Don't marry and save yourself the trouble



Go your own way bro

Imotman:
Hello.

I'm 35 and right now I'm a little bit lost on choosing a potential life partner.. I went through a slight delay career-wise, but God came through and things picked up within the past 1 year. I met a lady also during this time and we've been dating. We both love each other with the mindset of getting married soon.. I was looking forward to tell my mom who I hadn't seen in almost a year about her.

The twist now is my aunt (a very close confidant) whom I told before anyone is trying to pitch me to another lady abroad. (I don't know how she looks or who she is as I write)...

My mum is also tilting in that direction and urging me to consider the other lady abroad, based on my aunt's positive recommendation.

My family absolutely mean well for me. Right now I'm a bit lost on the whole situation as my main goal for the new year is to get married and relocate abroad.

I'm concerned if I'll be able to get on well with this 'other' lady in question or should I just insist on settling with the current person I'm seeing.. this is the real dilemma.

Since your matter don dey family table laidis wetin we go talk.
No matter what your girlfriend does it won't be appreciated by them and they can easily pojnt it out for you since you have been telling them everything about her. Abroad girl will always be their candidate of choice.

Na Lady Abroad you go marry Las las, that I have seen. If you do not dissociate yourself from them first, you have no choice here.

Congratulations on your new foreign babe 😚
Maybe big Aunty don dey collect money from lady abroad, Na you be the product 😊 at least she needs to compensate her for all her goodness.
When woman say someone is good to them it means they are benefitting from the person.
Sha remember to invite me come your wedding

Wotoporiously speak

You're not ready for marriage and you don't have a mind your own, now I can see why your mom and aunty are choosing for you, after this who knows what they're going to choose next.

You better sit down as man, search yourself and come up with a solution for your delima before you go enter bus wey dey go yabaleft

Mehn use your head Ooo

Make dem no use emotional blackmail spoil your show for marriage Ooo, go for whom you are in Love

A bird at hand is better than a bird in the air....

don't do that my bro

Abeg please make up your mind... You can marry the one you are dating, growing together and you both leave the country together and not falling for

Poverty alleviation japaing through some unknown chick who is somewhere who you dont know... Let your aunt look for a single man to hook her up with since she wants to be a match maker...

My prayer is just that your mum doesn't start to react to your gf as seeing her as a stumbling block to travelling abroad... Just calm her down and let her know you will travel...

Imagine.
na two women dey pick wife for you!
You are still a foolish little boy.

Imotman:
Hello.

I'm 35 and right now I'm a little bit lost on choosing a potential life partner.. I went through a slight delay career-wise, but God came through and things picked up within the past 1 year. I met a lady also during this time and we've been dating. We both love each other with the mindset of getting married soon.. I was looking forward to tell my mom who I hadn't seen in almost a year about her.

The twist now is my aunt (a very close confidant) whom I told before anyone is trying to pitch me to another lady abroad. (I don't know how she looks or who she is as I write)...

My mum is also tilting in that direction and urging me to consider the other lady abroad, based on my aunt's positive recommendation.

My family absolutely mean well for me. Right now I'm a bit lost on the whole situation as my main goal for the new year is to get married and relocate abroad.

I'm concerned if I'll be able to get on well with this 'other' lady in question or should I just insist on settling with the current person I'm seeing.. this is the real dilemma.

if you get heart follow your heart, but if you no get follow them.

It’s not like you told them you were single or searching. Why are they suggesting that you leave your girlfriend? You need to stand on business like a man, it’s women they choose partners for.

You can as well get to know the other lady so that at least you have options. That’s what women will do. Shop around and pick the best.

Wait for the abroad lady to visit Nigeria then you can bang her to know the condition of her toto.

Choose the lady that has the tighter toto out of the two of them