there is this guy at my new place of work that is showing genuine hatred and jealousy towards me, just because i am new at the place and the owner shows clearly that he likes me, that guy is always against me and trying to pick fight with me, i have an anger issues and now its activating.
i am just indecisive because im always trying to avoid fights because of my anger issues, but this guy is pushing me to the extreme, physically he is bigger than me but honestly i dont feel a bit of fear of him, i just dont wanna land myself in trouble because if i fight him it won't end well.
i dont wanna be on nairaland front page for murder. fellow nairalanders if u are in my situation what would you do? my mind is telling me to leave that place and look for another work but i fear sapa too much, and if i stay there must be fight and its gonna be bloody.
i need matured advice.

i think i will just engage in the fight and stab the mothrfvcker multiple times

the worst that will happen is going to prison

Nice one bro. It is a good thing to acknowledge you have anger issues.

You indeed have seen a possibility of murder, loss of job and or possibly jail time so why do you still want to fight the dude? You don't need that in your life.

Report him to your boss.

The only fight you need in your life is to fight that anger and become a pure soul. You are the strong man here.

May God be with you.

one day you will learn to fight with your brain and not your fist. you are already falling into the trap.

abba190:
i think i will just engage in the fight and stab the mothrfvcker multiple times

You have lost already. You have been played & it is Your weakness that sold you out.

Better go and look for a job as a tout or a bouncer so you can apply your skills there. Office games don't need such brash skills, only brains and facts.

superCleanworks:


You have lost already. You have been played & it is Your weakness that sold you out.

i dont understand u?

superCleanworks:
one day you will learn to fight with your brain and not your fist. you are already falling into the trap.

im fighting with my brain thats why i still dont engage in physical fight with him

abba190:
i dont understand u?

of course you don't. I am 100% sure you don't.

good luck.

superCleanworks:


You have lost already. You have been played & it is Your weakness that sold you out.

Better go and look for a job as a tout or a bouncer so you can apply your skills there. Office games don't need such brash skills, only brains and facts.

who told u its office job? its inside a production factory

yomi007k:
Nice one bro. It is a good thing to acknowledge you have anger issues.

You indeed have seen a possibility of murder, loss of job and or possibly jail time so why do you still want to fight the dude? You don't need that in your life.

Report him to your boss.

The only fight you need in your life is to fight that anger and become a pure soul. You are the strong man here.

May God be with you.

thank you man

Listen to me my son let me help you,
You see everything he's doing you i want you to copy and paste it to him and start doing it to him and when your boss asks what's going on i want you to lie and frame him up.
Listen, if you noticed any mistake he did use it to mock him to his face.
When you are passing by whine him and laugh at him.
When he approaches you to tease you, abuse him back tell him "your mouth dey smell, crase dey your head" o ti ya were"
But please and please don't be the first to hit him.
You need to bully him with your words, its called verbal abuse. If you truly do this to him he will quiet and respect himself.
If you have cctv camera You can even make him to get angry and hit you then you run and go meet your boss
and report him, if he denies they will replay the cctv and sack him or punish him.
For now start bullying him verbally!

superCleanworks:
one day you will learn to fight with your brain and not your fist. you are already falling into the trap.

It would not kill you if you expatiate or explain in details what the op should do rather than speaking in parables.

Don't let him control your actions or reactions

Can you avoid him?

illicit:
Don't let him control your actions or reactions

Can you avoid him?

i always avoid and ignore him but he does things to provoke me

abba190:
i always avoid and ignore him but he does things to provoke me

I have been in ur shoes

The best thing is still to ignore

The worst thing is when he tries to turn people against u, like making a team against u

Get closer to someone

Just don't fight... Yet

illicit:


I have been in ur shoes

The best thing is still to ignore

The worst thing is when he tries to turn people against u, like making a team against u

Get closer to someone

Just don't fight... Yet

he is doing that, but im lucky the other guys dont like him due to his attitude

abba190:
he is doing that, but im lucky the other guys dont like him due to his attitude

Ok

So you are cool
Everybody knows him and don't like him

So you don't have anything to worry about

He will get bored soon enough

You see that the others didn't fight or murder him... yet

illicit:


Ok

So you are cool
Everybody knows him and don't like him

So you don't have anything to worry about

He will get bored soon enough

You see that the others didn't fight or murder him... yet

he hated me the most among others. thanks for ur advice i will keep ignoring him

abba190:
the worst that will happen is going to prison

U be the first to say why can't he control his anger

illicit:
Don't let him control your actions or reactions

Can you avoid him?

That's even worst, he would so prey on you.

abba190:
the worst that will happen is going to prison

The worst wouldn't be just prison,but the treatment u will received in prison before u will eventually die.

That place na hell,those sentenced to death or life imprisonment are treated like animals,intimacy gadgets and men for all sorts of gay things and name it.

Rather leave that job and keep ur honour.

Stay there
Fight for ur survival
No matter how Una go physical no carry weapon

Paedoph!le scammer Victor Omerigwe aka HellVictorinho6 aka abba190 aka TrustNone aka EbenezerTriumph aka keet13 aka MrsAminaBello and 40 other moniker


You are the one that will soon be wiped out! The p00r widow you scammed will be your last. I assure you.

Choose one or more of these strategies to handle this workplace conflict:
Avoidance...you can avoid the guy and do your thingy
Competition...you can compete with him on all fronts...fire for fire
Accommodating...you can choose to accommodate his excesses and just move on
Compromising...you can talk to him man to man and agree to a ceasefire by making concessions on both sides
Collaborating...you can collaborate

Whatever you do, do not commit a crime that'll land you behind bars because you will be the bigger loser

abba190:
physically he is bigger than me.
i dont wanna be on nairaland front page for murder.

Or u don't want to be on naira land as a deceased