I have been going out with this guy for a year from the 3rd month he was ready for us to go to the altar I was scared and insisted to wait till we meet in person and know if the chemistry wasn’t just on phone we met and that very night he revealed to me he’s married to his bm because her family insist he must do the needful before his child can carry his name and swears that they have nothing in common outside the child he has proposed I love him he has every quality I desire in a man . I am scared of entering a polygamous situation. Info his baby mama is from anambra is this info about the whole tribe true

Babe, are you "thinking"?

You wanna be a second wife?

Why do i smell a scam?

Biko leave us alone ooo.. you are dating a man for more than 1 year and you didnt get any basic information and know him better during all these while.

Biko the heat in Nigeria is too much; we no need more wahala again

Strangepardise:
I have been going out with this guy for a year from the 3rd month he was ready for us to go to the altar I was scared and insisted to wait till we meet in person and know if the chemistry wasn’t just on phone we met and that very night he revealed to me he’s married to his bm because her family insist he must do the needful before his child can carry his name and swears that they have nothing in common outside the child he has proposed I love him he has every quality I desire in a man . I am scared of entering a polygamous situation. Info his baby mama is from anambra is this info about the whole tribe true

Strangepardise:
I have been going out with this guy for a year from the 3rd month he was ready for us to go to the altar I was scared and insisted to wait till we meet in person and know if the chemistry wasn’t just on phone we met and that very night he revealed to me he’s married to his bm because her family insist he must do the needful before his child can carry his name and swears that they have nothing in common outside the child he has proposed I love him he has every quality I desire in a man . I am scared of entering a polygamous situation. Info his baby mama is from anambra is this info about the whole tribe true

Your problem is not about the poison you want to drink foolishly, but it's the TRIBE of the Baby Mama that is your major concern?


You don't need advice.

U ar an adult,u sud be able to decide for ursef... No amount of advice here,u knw wats on ur mind..... Goodluck

Strangepardise:
I have been going out with this guy for a year from the 3rd month he was ready for us to go to the altar I was scared and insisted to wait till we meet in person and know if the chemistry wasn’t just on phone we met and that very night he revealed to me he’s married to his bm because her family insist he must do the needful before his child can carry his name and swears that they have nothing in common outside the child he has proposed I love him he has every quality I desire in a man . I am scared of entering a polygamous situation. Info his baby mama is from anambra is this info about the whole tribe true

I understand you but refuse to be UNDERSTANDING with you.

You made mistake of sleeping with him.... you made mistake of HOLDING ON TO HIM even after knowing he is married.

Since you ignored the red flag, pls go ahead....

you think if you LOOSE HIM you won't find another, NOT KNOWING THAT BEING WITH HIM IS THE REASON YOU CAN'T FIND SOMEONE ELSE.


Getting married is SO EASY now but MANY OF YOU ARE NOT READY TO PUT YOURSELF INTO THE RIGHT FRAME FOR MARRIAGE.

There are many marriage counselors who matchmake and make matches according to your prospects and will guide and counsel until and after the wedding... SIS, YOU ARE NOT READY... sexual experience has blocked your brain, money or gifts has ruined your mind.


MARRIAGE IS NOT LOTTO, don't gamble DESTINY CHOICES as if it is PROMO or CHARITY.

blackpanthar:


I understand you but refuse to be UNDERSTANDING with you.

You made mistake of sleeping with him.... you made mistake of HOLDING ON TO HIM even after knowing he is married.

Since you ignored the red flag, pls go ahead....

you think if you LOOSE HIM you won't find another, NOT KNOWING THAT BEING WITH HIM IS THE REASON YOU CAN'T FIND SOMEONE ELSE.


Getting married is SO EASY now but MANY OF YOU ARE NOT READY TO PUT YOURSELF INTO THE RIGHT FRAME FOR MARRIAGE.

There are many marriage counselors who matchmake and make matches according to your prospects and will guide and counsel until and after the wedding... SIS, YOU ARE NOT READY... sexual experience has blocked your brain, money or gifts has ruined your mind.


MARRIAGE IS NOT LOTTO, don't gamble DESTINY CHOICES as if it is PROMO or CHARITY.

Sexual experiences that’s a big no cause this is been a long distance relationship and the fact there’s so much drama in his life made me celibate this past year in terms of gifts and the money he hasn’t done as much as my ex. All my life I have avoided single fathers because I detest being caught in the drama of being with a married man. With his daughter being 17 and separated from her for 16 years of his life I thought I was safe and had to nitpick is every action before I could get the truth from him. Most men have always claimed I am too smart for my own good because I have always been to sensitive to certain issues now I m at a crossed road his home in Nigeria doesn’t have a single sign of being married from his social media all i can see is post and comments from his exes which makes me believe it’s a marriage of convenience . I have my doubts too Do such marriages exist ? My friend from the same state say it might true as children outside wedlock carry their maternal surname and eventually their mothers husband name. Out side this drama he’s perfect I don’t want to lose out on a good thing because I m paranoid at the same time I m being rational .
Will it be rational for me to meet up with the BM to get the full story ?

Ogiame:


Your problem is not about the poison you want to drink foolishly, but it's the TRIBE of the Baby Mama that is your major concern?


You don't need advice.

You mean going out with a single father was a foolish step ? I have no concern with her tribe whatsoever the only reason I mentioned it was the fact I was told in the culture children outside wedlock belongs to the maternal family and to whoever the woman gets married to. I was only hoping to be enlightened about the culture

Strangepardise:
I love him he has every quality I desire in a man .

Simply put, you are carried away with his money....