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Remember: every girl is single for the right man.

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Every woman may be single for the right man. But the problem is: not every woman may recognize the right man when he comes along, which accounts for the records of the many women who mistake the wrong men for the right ones & vice versa. So, how does a woman unmistakably recognize the right man? As a rule of nature, two personalities who keep getting drawn together like opposing magnets cannot be wrong, as such personalities become incapable of inhabiting the same geographical areas without effortlessly drawing together. This is one way to ascertain not just the right man but the right woman as well. Another is that, between such man & woman, there's going to be duly earned mutual vulnerability & respect. Take note: "duly earned."

On the other hand, how does a woman not mistake the wrong man for the right man? Especially wolves in sheep's clothing who look like sweet loveable men? Not to mention in religious settings where moralizers mask themselves with cloaks of religion to peddle lies while making a show of purity to hide nefarious desires? First off, as it has to do with vulnerability & respect, while the right man will do what it takes to earn a woman's vulnerability & respect, the wrong man is very likely to not. Since vulnerability & respect are factors bound to play out in conventionally correct intimate couplings & are to be earned, a woman ought to always ask herself: "he wants my vulnerability, but has he earned it? He wants my respect too, but has he earned it?"

Also, the wrong men come with loads of baggage packed in their loins & are usually just itching to unload it, mostly only looking out for good times & never the prospects of wedding bells in the event of it. These, coupled with the rule of nature stated above, are very likely to do it for women when it comes to aiding their recognition of the right men while eluding the wrong men who go about seeking women to devour. Then again, there's another side to it. Certain women seem to be looking for some kinds of men...particular kinds of men, & not many men fit into that category. Quite lamentably, the men who come along & fit into that category—come off to those women as the right men but are mostly the wrong men.

There's an account of these manner of women, who, having sought particular kinds of men, crossed paths with the right men yet wouldn't recognize them as right men because they weren't the particular kinds of men they sought. Eventually uncovering those men to have been the right men after letting them slip through their fingers while having warmed up to the wrong men who matched their standards, they thus decried themselves:

"we know desire when we see it—& yet, this time, it slipped by completely. We were going for devious smiles that suddenly lit up their faces each time they read our minds, when all we really wanted was skin, just skin. It never occurred to us that what had totally panicked us when they touched us was exactly what startles virgins on being touched for the first time by the person they desire. Nerves are stirred in them that they never knew existed. That produces far more disturbing pleasures than they are used to on their own. Our longing for this opened us up to their seducing games."

Regretting getting ripped off by the wrong men while having let good men pass them by...& frustratingly facing the impossibility of turning back the hands of time to set things right, they thus further decried themselves: "how do we go back to sleep no longer virgins? There's no coming back from that. What had been in our heads for so long had gotten out in the real world, no longer afloat in our forever land of ambiguities." So, truly, every woman might be single for the right man. But it beholds on such women to not just be single & available for the right men but to see to it that they make that availability count by rightly equipping themselves to recognize & grab the right men when they come along. As we all know, "not all that glitters is gold."

Kkkk

Nothing is new under the sun. What happened to Chioma or Garuba one thousand years ago, will happen to Amaka and Femi in the next one thousand years, just in different variations and personal tweaks.

The template for recognizing and finding the right partner abounds, just that, many for their lack of personal development, lack the foresight to spot them.

Many have missed their Mr. Right or Mrs right for reasons such as personal vice, being defective for marriage, wanting a wedding, not a marriage, damage from past experiences, lack of self-leadership, irresponsible, cannot sacrifice or forgive, to name a few.

Marriage is not just finding the right person, it is being the right person. Pick a pen and write down everything you want from a partner, then be that person. Do you want him/her to be honest? be that.

To be educated, handsome, slim, doesn't lie, doesn't manipulate, sacrificial, a giver, cares for you, emotional intelligence, etc? Be that person.

Lots of people, go into marriage with what I call ''a hegemonic mindset''. A kind of subordinate relationship built on hierarchy, where they are rotten to the core, but completely blind to it, but are super sensitive to the fault of others.

it is about what you can do for them, not what they can do for you. People with such a mindset won't sell. If pigs could talk, you would notice that every single one of the pigs would consider itself a spec. It's the same for low-quality people.

They cannot be conscious of their deficiency but can see it in others, and even hate it when they are worse. Good people can see the rot in rotten people, hence they avoid them.

Personal delusions and name tags such as seeing yourself as a spec, blunt, unconventional, unapologetic, unagreeable, a queen, etc aren't good qualities, but self-aggrandizement, a branch in the tree of the narcissism spectrum.

Humans by nature are attracted to value. And if people aren't coming to you for marriage when you are ready, it might be difficult to do but self-reflect on your actions.

I don't even have a girlfriend, Love na scam.

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pansophist:
Nothing is new under the sun. What happened to Chioma or Garuba one thousand years ago, will happen to Amaka and Femi in the next one thousand years, just in different variations and personal tweaks.

The template for recognizing and finding the right partner abounds, just that, many for their lack of personal development, lack the foresight to spot them.

Many have missed their Mr. Right or Mrs right for reasons such as personal vice, being defective for marriage, wanting a wedding, not a marriage, damage from past experiences, lack of self-leadership, irresponsible, cannot sacrifice or forgive, to name a few.

Marriage is not just finding the right person, it is being the right person. Pick a pen and write down everything you want from a partner, then be that person. Do you want him/her to be honest? be that.

To be educated, handsome, slim, doesn't lie, doesn't manipulate, sacrificial, a giver, cares for you, emotional intelligence, etc? Be that person.

Lots of people, go into marriage with what I call ''a hegemonic mindset''. A kind of subordinate relationship built on hierarchy, where they are rotten to the core, but completely blind to it, but are super sensitive to the fault of others.

it is about what you can do for them, not what they can do for you. People with such a mindset won't sell. If pigs could talk, you would notice that every single one of the pigs would consider itself a spec. It's the same for low-quality people.

They cannot be conscious of their deficiency but can see it in others, and even hate it when they are worse. Good people can see the rot in rotten people, hence they avoid them.

Personal delusions and name tags such as seeing yourself as a spec, blunt, unconventional, unapologetic, unagreeable, a queen, etc aren't good qualities, but self-aggrandizement, a branch in the tree of the narcissism spectrum.

Humans by nature are attracted to value. And if people aren't coming to you for marriage when you are ready, it might be difficult to do but self-reflect on your actions.

100% spot on! Brings to mind something similar I'd put up; titled: "Be A Version Of Who You Wish To Marry." It says:

It is more important to desire to be a good spouse than to desire to marry a good spouse. If you only desire to marry a good spouse without making effort to be a good spouse yourself, you might end up meeting a good spouse who doesn’t consider you good enough for him or her. So, as you seek a worthy spouse for yourself, also be a worthy spouse.

Nobody wishes to marry a loser who has nothing to offer. But rather than being so mindful not to marry a ‘loser who has nothing to offer’, be more concerned about not being a ‘loser who has nothing to offer’. Likeminded people will always attract each other, & whatever you give out will always return to you. Be a version of who you wish to marry!

Gone are the days when people married beauty & fine looks. Everyone now wants peace & will only marry someone who can afford them that peace. But rather than being so concerned about marrying someone who can afford you peace, work hard to be a carrier of that peace & you’ll attract a peace carrier. Be a version of who you wish to marry!

If you want someone to accept you as you are, don’t be picky. You can’t desire a tall, fine god or goddess & expect them to take you as you are. They have standards too. If they meet your standards, meet theirs too. If you aren’t ready to meet anyone’s standards, don’t expect anyone to meet your standards. Be a version of who you wish to marry!

If you desire people with good habits, cultivate good habits yourself. If you want a faithful spouse, be faithful. If you don’t want to marry a cheat, don’t be a cheat. If you want the truth, be truthful. If you wouldn’t like to be deceived into marrying someone you wouldn’t ordinarily marry, don’t try to deceive anyone into marrying you.

Quit playing mind games. It is an unattractive trait. It is why relationships fail. Many want to be players, to be in control, to eat their cakes & have it back, to play the other for a fool. If you play someone for a fool, get ready to be played for a fool, cuz that thing they say about Karma is a legit saying. Just be a version of who you wish to marry!

Proserpina:
Men are the prize
Men are gold
Men are jewel
Men love unconditionally
Men are the ones who pick who to marry
Men do not benefit from marriage
Men are the gift to mankind

But who discuss marriage more? Men
Who writes epistles on marriage? Men
Who spend their time trying to convince themselves and others that they matter most? Men

Who creates topics and threads on marriage, finding the right partner or being a marriage material? Men.
Who gaslight others into believing they are the air of life? Men.

Lol

In every competition, race or even football the cup(prize) sits pretty waiting to be fought for and won but it's quite the opposite for the Human prize (Men) . Na them dey dance and run around to be noticed and maybe won

Y'all will be alright

You have something against men?

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jezuzboi:

100% spot on! Brings to mind something similar I'd put up; titled: "Be A Version Of Who You Wish To Marry." It says:

It is more important to desire to be a good spouse than to desire to marry a good spouse. If you only desire to marry a good spouse without making effort to be a good spouse yourself, you might end up meeting a good spouse who doesn’t consider you good enough for him or her. So, as you seek a worthy spouse for yourself, also be a worthy spouse.

Nobody wishes to marry a loser who has nothing to offer. But rather than being so mindful not to marry a ‘loser who has nothing to offer’, be more concerned about not being a ‘loser who has nothing to offer’. Likeminded people will always attract each other, & whatever you give out will always return to you. Be a version of who you wish to marry!

Gone are the days when people married beauty & fine looks. Everyone now wants peace & will only marry someone who can afford them that peace. But rather than being so concerned about marrying someone who can afford you peace, work hard to be a carrier of that peace & you’ll attract a peace carrier. Be a version of who you wish to marry!

If you want someone to accept you as you are, don’t be picky. You can’t desire a tall, fine god or goddess & expect them to take you as you are. They have standards too. If they meet your standards, meet theirs too. If you aren’t ready to meet anyone’s standards, don’t expect anyone to meet your standards. Be a version of who you wish to marry!

If you desire people with good habits, cultivate good habits yourself. If you want a faithful spouse, be faithful. If you don’t want to marry a cheat, don’t be a cheat. If you want the truth, be truthful. If you wouldn’t like to be deceived into marrying someone you wouldn’t ordinarily marry, don’t try to deceive anyone into marrying you.

Quit playing mind games. It is an unattractive trait. It is why relationships fail. Many want to be players, to be in control, to eat their cakes & have it back, to play the other for a fool. If you play someone for a fool, get ready to be played for a fool, cuz that thing they say about Karma is a legit saying. Just be a version of who you wish to marry!

Sorry for the girl who thinks being fine and having a badass curve is enough value. Yea, it's a good value if you want to be a fork material, but wife material? hell no.

It's like a handsome boy seeing himself as husband material. Most women will overlook them if they lack qualities like being a provider, leadership, protector, etc.

Also, beautiful women aint scarce, but rich men are. Being beautiful is not a catch, because beauty is everywhere. Also, the barrier to being called a beautiful girl is achievable by almost all women.

Pick your average girl, wear her a wig, buy her komkom shoes, put on make-up and sexy dresses, then take her pics through doctored angles, and further edit it via an app, then viola, you got a beautiful girl.

If she is fat, then maybe in the next three to six months if she is into a weight loss program, she will be slim and also attractive. The barrier to being a fine/classy chick is very low. Every woman can achieve it.

But it is not the same for men. A man can't just magically make himself wealthy instantly, in fact even in decades, men are still hustling, and the little they get is being sucked away by responsibilities.

Women are born. Men are made. To be a man is not a day job.

Also, a rich high-status man has lots of options, and that beauty will not be the only criteria he is looking for. Peace is one, respect is another, and a genuinely good woman whom he can be himself with.

And for value a person brings to the table, it has always been primarily immaterial value for women, but material and immaterial value for men. The best thing anyone can bring to the table is their character.

But thank you for your comment, I like it. It shows that you see the world in the right way. Because the more you can give, the more you can get and even demand from others.

The problem is that the average person be like "I just want to be myself".

They don't bother about self-improvement. They don't deliberate on how to build character and a worthy personality. They just want a savior to take them and love them for who they are. Meanwhile, when you stir them, and look beyond their surface, they are absolute trash.

Ditto for the average woman. They know that men should be a protector, a provider, a leader, and a savior. But ask them what a woman should be. Then, you'll experience graveyard silence or them trying to make a point like a toddler learning how to talk.

The sexual market like every other market is a gaming center. If you don't know how to play you will lose. If you don't play smart you'll lose. If you leave others to help you play you'll be cheated.

Men want sex without commitment.
Women want commitment without submission.

On this ground, you see many different players trying to get their fill.

However, ...

The game may lead to:

Men having sex due to commitment (chore/boring sex).

Women get commitment due to submission.

Marriage doesn't even stop old players from playing. Lol.

Sex has been codified to be sacred. I have no problem with that. But women should understand that they are not doing men a favor when they both agree to consensual sex. Both loved it and had their libido satisfied.

Therefore, a woman who views sex as sacred must be vigilant not to offer her body to a man who won't be her husband. She must scrutinize every man or suitor that comes her way to not be a leftover of sexual dinner.

Ditto for the man. He must not give a woman commitment when she doesn't love him or have a genuine desire for him. Because in the end, it all ends in heartbreak and premium tears.

In the sexual marketplace, you must be vigilant. You are not a victim as you claim to be.

Thanks.

jezuzboi:

100% spot on! Brings to mind something similar I'd put up; titled: "Be A Version Of Who You Wish To Marry." It says:

It is more important to desire to be a good spouse than to desire to marry a good spouse. If you only desire to marry a good spouse without making an effort to be a good spouse yourself, you might end up meeting a good spouse who doesn’t consider you good enough for him or her. So, as you seek a worthy spouse for yourself, also be a worthy spouse.

Nobody wishes to marry a loser who has nothing to offer. But rather than being so mindful not to marry a ‘loser who has nothing to offer’, be more concerned about not being a ‘loser who has nothing to offer’. Likeminded people will always attract each other, & whatever you give out will always return to you. Be a version of who you wish to marry!

Gone are the days when people married beauty & fine looks. Everyone now wants peace & will only marry someone who can afford them that peace. But rather than being so concerned about marrying someone who can afford you peace, work hard to be a carrier of that peace & you’ll attract a peace carrier. Be a version of who you wish to marry!

If you want someone to accept you as you are, don’t be picky. You can’t desire a tall, fine god or goddess & expect them to take you as you are. They have standards too. If they meet your standards, meet theirs too. If you aren’t ready to meet anyone’s standards, don’t expect anyone to meet your standards. Be a version of who you wish to marry!

If you desire people with good habits, cultivate good habits yourself. If you want a faithful spouse, be faithful. If you don’t want to marry a cheat, don’t be a cheat. If you want the truth, be truthful. If you wouldn’t like to be deceived into marrying someone you wouldn’t ordinarily marry, don’t try to deceive anyone into marrying you.

Quit playing mind games. It is an unattractive trait. It is why relationships fail. Many want to be players, to be in control, to eat their cakes & have it back, to play the other for a fool. If you play someone for a fool, get ready to be played for a fool, cuz that thing they say about Karma is a legit saying. Just be a version of who you wish to marry!

Sincerely appreciate this post. You've done very well.

Being a person of value gives you the ability to screen people you are going to interact with from time to time. To know your enemy you must know yourself. Because both you and your enemy are humans, and humans have the capacity for any behavior, whether for constructive or destructive purposes.

If you want valuable people, be a person of value and provide value. That's an easy way to ensure your sanity and save your time and energy because you are dealing with the right people.

However, your post is only suitable for ideal people in an ideal world.

Your post didn't take into consideration that humans can change depending on whatever factors they are predisposed to in the future.

"If you don't want a cheating partner, don't cheat...".

That's a fallacy.

Because we've read, heard, and must have come across faithful partners who were jilted by their lovers. We've heard of secret children, paternity fraud, etc.

Just because you are good doesn't mean that other people will be good to you. Christ Jesus was still shamed, beaten, persecuted, and crucified despite his most holy nature.

Even among the 12 he selected, there was a doubter (Thomas), liar (Peter), and saboteur (Judas Iscariot).

However, we knew how Christ was able to handle these 3 because he is a human and the 3 were also humans.

Your good partner may turn bad tomorrow. Your loving partner can become hateful tomorrow. People change. Anything can happen.

Will you accuse victims of armed robbery, kidnapping, murder, or r@pe of them being the antagonist or villain before and now reaping what they sowed? If you say yes, then, what about children who suffer the same fate?

What I'm trying to point out here is that a good person can be a victim of negative circumstances in life. Being good doesn't make you an exception.

What's important is that you are aware of the changing behavior of humans, the randomness of life, and everything that lies between. And being prepared and ready to tackle any problem when it arises.

And if Karma is true the world would have been a better place. However, every day we see the wicked live a fruitful life and their victims are left in a predicament.

There's nothing like karma acting on its own. Only a good and fair justice system can maintain law and order and ensure peace and equity.

Thanks.

pansophist:


Sorry for the girl who thinks being fine and having a badass curve is enough value. Yea, it's a good value if you want to be a fork material, but wife material? hell no.

It's like a handsome boy seeing himself as husband material. Most women will overlook them if they lack qualities like being a provider, leadership, protector, etc.

Also, beautiful women aint scarce, but rich men are. Being beautiful is not a catch, because beauty is everywhere. Also, the barrier to being called a beautiful girl is achievable by almost all women.

Pick your average girl, wear her a wig, buy her komkom shoes, put on make-up and sexy dresses, then take her pics through doctored angles, and further edit it via an app, then viola, you got a beautiful girl.

If she is fat, then maybe in the next three to six months if she is into a weight loss program, she will be slim and also attractive. The barrier to being a fine/classy chick is very low. Every woman can achieve it.

But it is not the same for men. A man can't just magically make himself wealthy instantly, in fact even in decades, men are still hustling, and the little they get is being sucked away by responsibilities.

Women are born. Men are made. To be a man is not a day job.

Also, a rich high-status man has lots of options, and that beauty will not be the only criteria he is looking for. Peace is one, respect is another, and a genuinely good woman whom he can be himself with.

And for value a person brings to the table, it has always been primarily immaterial value for women, but material and immaterial value for men. The best thing anyone can bring to the table is their character.

But thank you for your comment, I like it. It shows that you see the world in the right way. Because the more you can give, the more you can get and even demand from others.

POINTS TO BE NOTED [PARAPHRASED]

Beautiful women ain't scarce. But rich men are. [Hence], being beautiful is not a catch...because beauty is everywhere. Also, the barrier to being called a beautiful woman is achievable by almost all women. But it is not the same for men [who aren't yet rich]. A man [who isn't yet rich] can't just magically make himself wealthy instantly. In decades, men [would] still be hustling, and the little they get [would still be getting] sucked away by responsibilities, [which may not include feeding the vanities of bad ass women with great curves. With his very limited resources, a man can still manage to find his way around romanticism.

But it's not all bed of roses with a rich man, as a rich man, besides throwing money around to get some curvy bad ass women on his bed for pleasure purposes], has lots of options [when it comes to women], and "beauty" [isn't likely to be the only criteria he'll look out for]. Peace is one, respect is another, and then a genuinely good woman with whom he can be himself. [Summarily, when it comes recognizing the right man [or woman], look out for what they bring to the table]. The best thing anyone can bring to the table is character.

YOU ALL SHADES OF NAILED IT!!

CaveAdullam:


Sincerely appreciate this post. You've done very well.

Being a person of value gives you the ability to screen people you are going to interact with from time to time. To know your enemy you must know yourself. Because both you and your enemy are humans, and humans have the capacity for any behavior, whether for constructive or destructive purposes.

If you want valuable people, be a person of value and provide value. That's an easy way to ensure your sanity and save your time and energy because you are dealing with the right people.

However, your post is only suitable for ideal people in an ideal world.

Your post didn't take into consideration that humans can change depending on whatever factors they are predisposed to in the future.

"If you don't want a cheating partner, don't cheat...".

That's a fallacy.

Because we've read, heard, and must have come across faithful partners who were jilted by their lovers. We've heard of secret children, paternity fraud, etc.

Just because you are good doesn't mean that other people will be good to you. Christ Jesus was still shamed, beaten, persecuted, and crucified despite his most holy nature.

Even among the 12 he selected, there was a doubter (Thomas), liar (Peter), and saboteur (Judas Iscariot).

However, we knew how Christ was able to handle these 3 because he is a human and the 3 were also humans.

Your good partner may turn bad tomorrow. Your loving partner can become hateful tomorrow. People change. Anything can happen.

Will you accuse victims of armed robbery, kidnapping, murder, or r@pe of them being the antagonist or villain before and now reaping what they sowed? If you say yes, then, what about children who suffer the same fate?

What I'm trying to point out here is that a good person can be a victim of negative circumstances in life. Being good doesn't make you an exception.

What's important is that you are aware of the changing behavior of humans, the randomness of life, and everything that lies between. And being prepared and ready to tackle any problem when it arises.

And if Karma is true the world would have been a better place. However, every day we see the wicked live a fruitful life and their victims are left in a predicament.

There's nothing like karma acting on its own. Only a good and fair justice system can maintain law and order and ensure peace and equity.

Thanks.

LET ME ADDRESS WHAT YOU'VE REFERED TO—AS FALACY

Bad things happen to good people, no doubts. That's why victims of robbery, kidnapping, murder, or r@pe...plus children who suffer such fates—are referred to—as "victims of circumstance." It all happened unplanned, not wished for, & there was absolutely nothing they could have done about it. Hence, their case is somewhat out of context as regards the point you're trying to make in line with the topic of discussion. Of those who shamed, beat, persecuted, & crucified Jesus despite his most holy nature, it is said that: "had they known better, they would not have crucified the Lord of glory." More so, it is known that—the sole reason for the shaming, persecution, & crucifixion of Jesus was "jealousy & hate." Those who loved him rather opted to be disciples.

But those who got jealous & hated him—were traitors. Would you regard Judas Iscariot as having been any less than a traitor? Yet a secular author who would more likely be expected to be associated with treason (or emotional treason, so to say), put forward that: "faithful lovers ought to choose the harshest pains of love rather than by their demands cause their partners embarrassment or take pleasure in spurning their modesty; as those who think only of the outcome of their own pleasure while ignoring the welfare of their partner—should be called traitors rather than lovers."

The book wherein that principle is attested, is one that, on face value, would be expected to only treat matters that bother on seduction. Yet the cursor is pointed to what should ensue between those who deem themselves "faithful" to their lovers, & that involves, firstly, choosing the harshest pains of love rather than cause their partners embarrassment. In order words, a partner who, having seemingly been faithful in the relationship, only to turn out unfaithful eventually, thus causing their partner embarrassment, was never really faithful because, how can one be faithful yet jilt a lover he or she claims to be faithful to? You talked about paternity fraud. Isn't that a case of an unfaithful partner spurning the other partner's modesty, having only thought of the outcome of their own pleasure while ignoring the welfare of their partner? How is it fallacious to insist that such doesn't play out in unions that are supposed to be between faithful lovers?

A good & loving partner today who becomes a bad & hateful partner tomorrow was never truly a good & loving partner...otherwise, why, in the event of marriage, would spouses be required to avow for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness & in health, to love & to cherish, till death does them part according to God's holy law? Doesn't that accord with the stance of the secular author referenced above that "faithful lovers ought to choose the harshest pains of love rather than by their demands cause their partners embarrassment or take pleasure in spurning their modesty; as those who think only of the outcome of their own pleasure while ignoring the welfare of their partner—should be called traitors rather than lovers?" I don't know about Thomas. But Peter's love for Jesus endured despite his denial of Jesus at some point. Even Thomas, though having doubted the reemergence of Jesus on the scene, still believed & worshiped him upon clearing his doubt.

Judas, on the other hand, got what he deserved, having proven beyond every reasonable doubt to be an unfaithful lover...unlike Thomas & Peter whose humanity momentarily caught up with them. It is not out of place for faithful lovers to miss the mark every now & then, being only but human. But the qualifier, "faithful," becomes completely ruled out when supposed faithful lovers toe paths that make them to become identifiable with jilting, incessant cheating, secret children, paternity fraud, & so on. Of course, others may not be good to a person because the person is good.

But being good can sure exempt good persons from negative situations & circumstances, & there are many testaments to that. Hence, I wouldn't say that my post is only suitable for ideal people in ideal worlds because ideal people in ideal worlds weren't all born as ideal people nor were they all born into ideal worlds. They worked their way into becoming ideal people suitable for ideal worlds. My post, I'd say, is more or less geared towards aiding the picturing of ideal worlds while tendering a blueprint that'd make for inhabiting that ideal world successfully. Whatever the future brings, ideal people in ideal worlds are likely to make ideals out of it. As for Karma, think of it biblically & it, beyond what connotations are conventionally held of it, will extend to texts that ascertain that "people reap what they sow." Then there are sayings like: "garbage in, garbage out, what goes around—comes around, & what's good for the goose is good for the gander."

It may seem like wicked people live fruitful lives while their victims are left in predicament. But a reference to events that ensued in bible days will clear your doubts about the "legitness" of Karma. Jesus, talking about unrighteous persons sure to meet unfavorable judgment for being wolves in sheep's clothing, had said of them that, they, never taking heed to themselves, made covenants with godless persons & got ensnared by their godlessness, thus opening up their souls to devilish alien frequencies that engendered their cheating & robbing of neighbors, undue withholding of the wages of hired workers, injustice in judgment, partiality to the poor, & dishonor of the mighty. Of such persons, it is further made known that they influence of those alien frequencies see men among them lying carnally with betrothed women who are unfree for such endeavor. Then the bad news tends to be that they suffer no scourging as consequence of those evils. So they take it even further by turning to mediums & familiar spirits, prostituting themselves with them & becoming very eligible to have God's face set against them to a point of being cut off from God's people.

Yet they parade freely amongst God's elects in view of the world's people who've duly noted them for what they are. And the fact that the Christian Faith frowns at jungle justice because it isn't aimed at breeding fear but faith—gets insubordinate trustees & wicked persons (wolves in sheep's clothing) seemingly committing all sorts of havoc & getting away with them. Be that as it may, there are always consequences...like in the case of such persons in bible times who took their brothers' wives & uncovered their brothers' unclothedness, thereby incurring curses of childlessness. Meanwhile, the likes of Rehab of Jericho, having been such a good person as to house Israeli spies who were enemies because she revered the God of those spies, got exempted from ruin that ridded Jericho of all inhabitants who dwelt therein. So, averring that being a good person doesn't exempt one from calamities because "anything can happen," I'd say, is the actual fallacy. Goodness pays.

Like you rightly said, if one wants valuable people, one ought to be a person of value while providing value as well, as, that's an easy way to ensure one's sanity & save one's time/energy because one, in such cases, would be dealing with the right people. I deeply appreciate your comment. For one, it spurred me into digging up factual valuable detail. Like, look what you made me come up with! Thanks!

CaveAdullam:
The problem is that the average person be like "I just want to be myself".

They don't bother about self-improvement. They don't deliberate on how to build character and a worthy personality. They just want a savior to take them and love them for who they are. Meanwhile, when you stir them, and look beyond their surface, they are absolute trash.

Ditto for the average woman. They know that men should be a protector, a provider, a leader, and a savior. But ask them what a woman should be. Then, you'll experience graveyard silence or them trying to make a point like a toddler learning how to talk.

The sexual market like every other market is a gaming center. If you don't know how to play you will lose. If you don't play smart you'll lose. If you leave others to help you play you'll be cheated.

Men want sex without commitment.
Women want commitment without submission.

On this ground, you see many different players trying to get their fill.

However, ...

The game may lead to:

Men having sex due to commitment (chore/boring sex).

Women get commitment due to submission.

Marriage doesn't even stop old players from playing. Lol.

Sex has been codified to be sacred. I have no problem with that. But women should understand that they are not doing men a favor when they both agree to consensual sex. Both loved it and had their libido satisfied.

Therefore, a woman who views sex as sacred must be vigilant not to offer her body to a man who won't be her husband. She must scrutinize every man or suitor that comes her way to not be a leftover of sexual dinner.

Ditto for the man. He must not give a woman commitment when she doesn't love him or have a genuine desire for him. Because in the end, it all ends in heartbreak and premium tears.

In the sexual marketplace, you must be vigilant. You are not a victim as you claim to be.

Thanks.

You all shades of nailed it!