I got a job after 3 years of searching and the salary is higher than my husband's salary in fact it comes with an official car. Although my husband doesn't have a car yet. After telling him about the offer, he told me that I should reject the job because he won't allow his wife to get richer than him.

What should I do?

First it was iyaebe..

U sef don start ur own

labake1:
I got a job after 3 years of searching and the salary is higher than my husband's salary in fact it comes with an official car. Although my husband doesn't have a car yet. After telling him about the offer, he told me that I should reject the job because he won't allow his wife to get richer than him.

What should I do?

labake1:
I got a job after 3 years of searching and the salary is higher than my husband's salary in fact it comes with an official car. Although my husband doesn't have a car yet. After telling him about the offer, he told me that I should reject the job because he won't allow his wife to get richer than him.

What should I do?

So u sayin u angry becuzz yor husband ride bicycle & u own car....corrrrect??....dint he goto school?
but Why did u marrrrry a ilitarate man??(no oofencsece)

You need to sit your husband to understand the fact you earn more than he does still doesn’t affect him as the head of the house and it acts as an addition to the family. You earn more+ his salary it’s a benefit or else you have prior plans for this new job.


Zzzzzzz

Hope your hubby is not a nairalander?

labake1:
I got a job after 3 years of searching and the salary is higher than my husband's salary in fact it comes with an official car. Although my husband doesn't have a car yet. After telling him about the offer, he told me that I should reject the job because he won't allow his wife to get richer than him.

What should I do?

Something that posted on twitter (X) days ago.

labake1:
I got a job after 3 years of searching and the salary is higher than my husband's salary in fact it comes with an official car. Although my husband doesn't have a car yet. After telling him about the offer, he told me that I should reject the job because he won't allow his wife to get richer than him.

What should I do?

Report him to bokoharam.

labake1:
I got a job after 3 years of searching and the salary is higher than my husband's salary in fact it comes with an official car. Although my husband doesn't have a car yet. After telling him about the offer, he told me that I should reject the job because he won't allow his wife to get richer than him.

What should I do?

Abeg catch cruise dey go jare.
It's a free world.

Iya linus

All these ones no know say she dey troll? Who dash am husband?

jamesversion:


Something that posted on twitter (X) days ago.

Everyone can have a similar problem

Wawelexy:
Hope your hubby is not a nairalander?

No, he is not

TheFinesseKid:
All these ones no know say she dey troll? Who dash am husband?

Ki lo mean

labake1:



Ki lo mean

you are trolling

labake1:
I got a job after 3 years of searching and the salary is higher than my husband's salary in fact it comes with an official car. Although my husband doesn't have a car yet. After telling him about the offer, he told me that I should reject the job because he won't allow his wife to get richer than him.

What should I do?

if you indeed had a husband like that, i would suggest you divorce that low self esteem man asap

Very foolish girl with her cock and bull story

Carry the responsibilities at home small till I the husband get job. Men need to be pampered also.

That Man is stupid. He might even get connected through his wife. The wife should be more available, tolerant and submissive. Be more careful.

Hey Labake1, first off, congratulations on landing the job! After such a long search, e must feel like a big win. Now, concerning wetin your husband talk, e dey important to approach this matter with plenty understanding and also stand firm for your own rights and career aspirations.

E be like say your husband dey feel threatened by the prospect of you earning more than him, which might be stirring up some insecurity or societal pressures about roles within marriage. However, it’s key to remember say marriage na partnership, and success for one partner na success for the other.

One approach could be to have a deep, honest conversation with your husband about how this job opportunity is not just about the money or the car, but also about your personal growth, your contribution to the family, and the fulfillment of your career goals. Emphasize how this could benefit the entire family in the long run.

You fit also explore why he feels the way he does. Sometimes, these feelings stem from deep-seated beliefs or societal expectations about gender roles. Understanding where he's coming from can help you address his concerns more directly.

Encourage a mindset of teamwork within your marriage. Make am clear say you value his input and support, but also highlight how your professional growth and financial contributions could bring positive changes to your family’s life.

It might help to set joint goals for your family’s future that this job could help achieve, be it owning a home, saving for children's education, or investing in a business. Showing how your job aligns with these shared goals can help shift the perspective from competition to cooperation.

If e dey possible, consider seeking the counsel of a neutral third party, like a marriage counselor, who fit help mediate the conversation and provide professional advice on navigating this kind of challenge.

Lastly, remember say your career and personal growth are just as important. It’s essential to find a balance between your relationship and your individual aspirations. A supportive partner should want to see you succeed, just as you would want for them.

ForensikOrder:

Hey Labake1, first off, congratulations on landing the job! After such a long search, e must feel like a big win. Now, concerning wetin your husband talk, e dey important to approach this matter with plenty understanding and also stand firm for your own rights and career aspirations.

E be like say your husband dey feel threatened by the prospect of you earning more than him, which might be stirring up some insecurity or societal pressures about roles within marriage. However, it’s key to remember say marriage na partnership, and success for one partner na success for the other.

One approach could be to have a deep, honest conversation with your husband about how this job opportunity is not just about the money or the car, but also about your personal growth, your contribution to the family, and the fulfillment of your career goals. Emphasize how this could benefit the entire family in the long run.

You fit also explore why he feels the way he does. Sometimes, these feelings stem from deep-seated beliefs or societal expectations about gender roles. Understanding where he's coming from can help you address his concerns more directly.

Encourage a mindset of teamwork within your marriage. Make am clear say you value his input and support, but also highlight how your professional growth and financial contributions could bring positive changes to your family’s life.

It might help to set joint goals for your family’s future that this job could help achieve, be it owning a home, saving for children's education, or investing in a business. Showing how your job aligns with these shared goals can help shift the perspective from competition to cooperation.

If e dey possible, consider seeking the counsel of a neutral third party, like a marriage counselor, who fit help mediate the conversation and provide professional advice on navigating this kind of challenge.

Lastly, remember say your career and personal growth are just as important. It’s essential to find a balance between your relationship and your individual aspirations. A supportive partner should want to see you succeed, just as you would want for them.

Thank you for the advice

labake1:



Thank you for the advice

So funny.

You got no job and you want to do a giveaway of #100k to guys.

You looking for a Val and you got a husband who doesn't like your job.

I'm laughing in Spanish..


You are the real meaning of "Taking men for a ride" but it seems you are not smart at doing it.

ksbusari:
Carry the responsibilities at home small till I the husband get job. Men need to be pampered also.

That Man is stupid. He might even get connected through his wife. The wife should be more available, tolerant and submissive. Be more careful.

you can never get a tolerant and submissive wife who earns more than her husband, not in Nigeria.

labake1:
I got a job after 3 years of searching and the salary is higher than my husband's salary in fact it comes with an official car. Although my husband doesn't have a car yet. After telling him about the offer, he told me that I should reject the job because he won't allow his wife to get richer than him.

What should I do?

You don marry a mumu husband no offense.

A husband who lacks logical thinking.

Oya reject the job na and become a full time housewife with benefits to make oga happy.

labake1:
I got a job after 3 years of searching and the salary is higher than my husband's salary in fact it comes with an official car. Although my husband doesn't have a car yet. After telling him about the offer, he told me that I should reject the job because he won't allow his wife to get richer than him.

What should I do?

Your husband is a useless man?

Why don't you people on this forum channel your sense of imagination into something productive. Develop your fiction skills and write a novel. Stop wasting away on a faceless forum.

Sapasenator:


You don marry a mumu husband no offense.

A husband who lacks logical thinking.

Oya reject the job na and become a full time housewife with benefits to make oga happy.

I will rather divorce him

TrennixGLOBAL:


So funny.

You got no job and you want to do a giveaway of #100k to guys.

You looking for a Val and you got a husband who doesn't like your job.

I'm laughing in Spanish..


You are the real meaning of "Taking men for a ride" but it seems you are not smart at doing it.

Na you come smart, shift stalker

ibechris:



Your husband is a useless man?

I can see it

labake1:



I will rather divorce him

Was close to a top tier staff of a firm i worked with some years back. She was well respected, official car, high earnings and she had extremely good managerial skills. Her house was like 2 streets away from my apartment so i got to know her on a very personal level. Didn't know the jobless dude someone slapped in my presence at a restaurant in the hood was her husband. Was shocked when i found out.
They had a son, dude studied a course that couldn't get him a job after school, all those petro chemical shi. For 4 years, she bore the brunt of the responsibilities, even school fees and house rent. She handled all without complaining and the guy got too relaxed.

Whether you like or not, by association and elevation, certain things wouldn't make sense to you again. Her school sweetheart started looking like a liability to her. Today they are no more together. And it's a wise decision she made. If you elevate and your partner doesn't, run ooo. Especially for women.

labake1:



I will rather divorce him

I personally know of a lady, the family was very poor and the lady applied for and won the US visa lottery. The husband refused and said he cannot be a dependent under the lady and stopped her from processing the lottery.
He said he had to be the one to win the lottery and not the wife.

The mumu wife listened to her mumu horseband and today, they are still suffering in generationional poverty.

You career is more important than family, religion, husband, wife, children.

Listen to me, as a woman, your career should be your religion, it will determine how the rest of your life will play out except if your husband is super rich.

Your career will determine your happiness in life or otherwise and anything that threatens your career should be dealt with mercilessly devoid of emotions.

Sapasenator:


I personally know of a lady, the family was very poor and the lady applied for and won the US visa lottery. The husband refused and said he cannot be a dependent under the lady and stopped her from processing the lottery.
He said he had to be the one to win the lottery and not the wife.

The mumu wife listened to her mumu horseband and today, they are still suffering in generationional poverty.

You career is more important than family, religion, husband, wife, children.

Listen to me, as a woman, your career should be your religion, it will determine how the rest of your life will play out except if your husband is super rich.

Your career will determine your happiness in life or otherwise and anything that threatens your career should be dealt with mercilessly devoid of emotions.

Thank you