I have been going through my mom's phone for a while now and things I see on it are too bad. She has been having sexchats with 3 different men, I am most certain she has met and had sex with one of them.

Background to the story....

My dad has never been the very responsible type, a chronic womanizer and he was always hurting her because she loved him to the extreme. There had been cases where she was even arrested by the police from one of his side chicks who he sponsored through school till she graduated, also a time he brought another one home who engaged in fight with my mom and nothing was done by my dad. There are so many cases like that whom i may not be able to say much on to avoid long story.

As I write this now, he has been out of the house for the past one month living with a girl of about 24. I called him severally to know his motive and he said he can't just explain it but mom has not wrong him in a way because she is a good wife who knows how to take care of her man.

My mom is very beautiful and looks younger than a woman in her fifties so it is not unexpected that other men would hit on her.

I took time to imagine walking in her shoes and I understand she is really hurt, she has asked to leave his house several, I've been the one calming her down and advising her not to leave at her age. She is independent and has a good job, and according to her there is no sexual relationship between them again.

Now I know she is flirting with these men due to loneliness and several heartbreak but then, it is disgusting to me that my mom is involved in that even to the point of sending nudes, I saw all these and I am just confused on how to handle this matter.

Should I confront her or just keep mute

Hezzyluv:
"This is super..... story"

Absuchat:
Drop your mom's number ASAP
She needs counseling

Rubyjade:
From DM

frozen70:


If you feel hurt about your mom life style outside marriage,
Jow do you feel about the disgraceful act of irresponsible life style of your dad, who has lost his glory as a father and a husband

Well I think you should just leave your mom alone pls, she has been through heart breaks from your dad and her joy is now outside, she is fighting for her life and happiness

I will not advice you to confront her since you are not able to challenge your dad to come back home and keep her warm

Once a woman cant get the love she craved for in her marriage especialy from her husband, then don't blame her for seeking for such else where because you don't know the options she has before taking such decisions

Loneliness kills fast

You should be more worried about your dad's life style because I bet you, at old age your dad will get his rewards from your mum and trust women she will pay him bitterly, by then all those small small girls and women he is going about with, have already been done with him

Since your mom is working and an independent woman, am sure you know by now that money is not your mom's problems. But affection, thats what she is looking for.
She has blood running in her life.

You want her to sink into depression in her marriage while your dad is enjoying life outside marriage

Think twice and leave her alone

Just learn from their mistakes and be a more responsible and committed husband and father so that your wife will remain loyal and faithful to you

Rubyjade:
■ My mom is very beautiful and looks younger than a woman in her fifties so it is not unexpected that other men would hit on her. I took time to imagine walking in her shoes and I understand she is really hurt, she has asked to leave his house several, I've been the one calming her down and advising her not to leave at her age. She is independent and has a good job, and according to her there is no sexual relationship between them again. Now I know she is flirting with these men due to loneliness and several heartbreak but then, it is disgusting to me that my mom is involved in that even to the point of sending nudes, I saw all these and I am just confused on how to handle this matter. Should I confront her or just keep mute

hakeemhakeem:
My friend betrayed me,I will betray him too makes both of them a betrayal, your mom had joined your father as fornicator.tell her to divorce him and get herself a manfriend or boyfriend which is more better and honored to afford a gathering of family members on her head by that she would be able to raise her head to talk about the actrocity committed by your father

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! Betrayal is typically the end of a relationship, the severing of bonds. You can't betray someone who first betrayed you.

OP's father ended the marriage relationship by his hand. The woman hanging around does not mean they are still a unit. OP said he is the reason she stays. The man could have equally divorced her before choosing to betray her but he didn't so why put the onus on her to do so?

Hezzyluv:
"This is super..... story"

jamesversion:
Give me your mum's number.

frozen70:


If you feel hurt about your mom life style outside marriage,
Jow do you feel about the disgraceful act of irresponsible life style of your dad, who has lost his glory as a father and a husband

Well I think you should just leave your mom alone pls, she has been through heart breaks from your dad and her joy is now outside, she is fighting for her life and happiness

I will not advice you to confront her since you are not able to challenge your dad to come back home and keep her warm

Once a woman cant get the love she craved for in her marriage especialy from her husband, then don't blame her for seeking for such else where because you don't know the options she has before taking such decisions

Loneliness kills fast

You should be more worried about your dad's life style because I bet you, at old age your dad will get his rewards from your mum and trust women she will pay him bitterly, by then all those small small girls and women he is going about with, have already been done with him

Since your mom is working and an independent woman, am sure you know by now that money is not your mom's problems. But affection, thats what she is looking for.
She has blood running in her life.

You want her to sink into depression in her marriage while your dad is enjoying life outside marriage

Think twice and leave her alone

Just learn from their mistakes and be a more responsible and committed husband and father so that your wife will remain loyal and faithful to you

hakeemhakeem:
My friend betrayed me,I will betray him too makes both of them a betrayal, your mom had joined your father as fornicator.tell her to divorce him and get herself a manfriend or boyfriend which is more better and honored to afford a gathering of family members on her head by that she would be able to raise her head to talk about the actrocity committed by your father