It's been 3 months already since I ended my relationship of almost 4 years.

Prior to the break up, I was planning to marry her this December or latest next year.

Somehow, I couldn't take her over entitlement issues anymore, had always tolerated this but suddenly my guns were out and I ended my good relationship with a girl I loved so much.

Now this is the problem I am facing now, been looking to get into another relationship because I can't stop thinking about my Ex.

She called a couple of times but finally moved on with another guy. Obviously a very lucky guy I must be honest.

My problem is that, I keep looking to see if a potential girl have the same characteristics as my ex. I loved my ex so so much.

This looking and looking has really affected my decisions of proposing to one.

I am even thinking of doing fasting and prayer before choosing my next, because my next will probably be proposed to for marriage. I also don't have time for an extended relationship again.

My advice to guys, no matter what the plan is, remain just friends with a girl you love and don't do an extended years relationship. Whether you are redpill, you will so much miss her like I am missing mine when it is over.

I am even on therapy now to forget this girl. Is like a juju on me.

You will be fine. Burn all bridges. Go out more and make new friends. The spark will return. If you don't free her from your mind you will suffer it.

Na guys wey dey apply this redpill ideology into their real lives I blame...

Well op, you've learned your lesson,and so did I,and many others.....But the truth is that,I think it's high time you moved on with your life completely...And stop expecting your next banny to have similar attributes and qualities that your ex had..... Anyhow she take come, just accept her like that so long say she dey give you love and most importantly peace of mind ✌️.....

Zee0007:
You will be fine. Burn all bridges. Go out more and make new friends. The spark will return. If you don't free her from your mind you will suffer it.

If I can pay to totally forget she exists, I will do so. Is causing me lots of emotional issues.

Move on. U think of her because the break up is stil fresh. There are over a billion women in this world! Finding one that suits ur bliv shouldnt be a problem. Time will certainly heal u.
get busy for now. And delete evry trace of her around u. U can hit the Gym or play soccer at ur spare time.
Shalom!

James4358:
Move on. U think of her because the break up is stil fresh. There are over a billion women in this world! Finding one that suits ur bliv shouldnt be a problem. Time will certainly heal u.
get busy for now. And delete evry trace of her around u. U can hit the Gym or play soccer at ur spare time.
Shalom!

I will try and do more sports. And it goes as far as changing my present city if possible. Everything reminds me of her despite having deleted everything about her in 2 days after our breakup. Even burnt the stuffs she got for me a few weeks back.

I won't even lie, coming here to write this is to get myself distracted. Relationship is so ugly when it is no more!

Auxtan:

If I can pay to totally forget she exists, I will do so. Is causing me lots of emotional issues.

Get busy and watch how it will go off naturally. It's still fresh with you that why.

If you truly love her very well, you won't leave her. It's infatuation that is still playing tricks with you.

Sonnobax15:

Na guys wey dey apply this redpill ideology into your real lives I blame...

Well op, you've learned your lesson,and so did I,and many others.....But the truth is that,I think it's high time you moved on with your life completely...And stop expecting your next banny to have similar attributes and qualities that your ex had..... Anyhow she take come, just accept her like that so long say she dey give you love and most importantly peace of mind ✌️.....

Redpill only works for players. If you genuinely want to love or have seen someone you can actually marry, all redpills nonsense doesn't work. Guys loving is very real.

What if the problem is actually you?

chatinent:
What if the problem is actually you?

I wasn't perfect but the problem is most definitely not me.

She had a flaw she blatantly said is her right.

A couple of times we had issues about it, she still insists I should be provisional to her like I am her father.

Well, I have had my fair share of providing for her not until I asked myself some serious futuristic questions.

Providing for her wasn't a problem as I am quite comfortable but I asked myself some reality check questions that made me call a quit to our relationship.

It doesn't mean I have totally moved on. I want to asap tho.

Bro if you put yourself first before any other thing in life then it will be very easy for you to move on after a break up, but if you put your partner first then you will languish in pains after it's over while she pops champagne.

Bintabisiriyu2:
Bro if you put yourself first before any other thing in life then it will be very easy for you to move on after a break up, but if you put your partner first then you will languish in pains after it's over while she pops champagne.

Time to man up.
Thanks bro

Auxtan:

If I can pay to totally forget she exists, I will do so. Is causing me lots of emotional issues.

I will give you something privately that will help you pm me

Bintabisiriyu2:

I will give you something privately that will help you pm me

Share it here

Auxtan:
Share it here

The reason why I asked for privately is to know if you are serious, fogerit

Sadly No advice will work for you... You just have to accept it's gone, forgive yourself, learn to love yourself, get busy and fix yourself again and get closer to God and he won't fail you... Ask God to give you what's yours and if truly she's yours God will bring you both back but if she's not for you another will eventually come...

Happy healing .

signs of an inexperienced man, whining over a lost spanner... I would never quite understand the reason why a man would be whining like a pvssy this way... these modern men are fvcking weak!!

the girl you're probably giving yourself sleepless nights over is probably riding another dick right now, that's even if she hasn't been riding it while in the relationship with you... you said you saw red flags in her and you called it quit, so why whining like she is the one with your soul? na people like you women dey show shege later for marriage simply because "you couldn't live your life without her and chose to ignore the glaring red flags" and y'll disturb the internet later with "hide my identity, I caught my wife cheating.." you're fvcking weak man!! get yourself over and face the most important things in your life! stop whining like an unfed infant!! these women don't care about your fvcking feelings!

you're probably pained because you invested your life in the relationship as most simps does and I don't blame you, the illusion of love had you in chains and blocked your capacity for logical thinking... now your eyes are opened, but I don't think they are quite opened yet, because you sound like someone who centers his world around the woman he's dating... I pity you bro because if you don't delete that mindset, you'll cry!!

and I don't usually understand why people are quick to bring redpill when something like this happens... redpill doesn't say you shouldn't love or respect the woman you are in relationship with, it states that you shouldn't let emotions blind your eyes, worship women, or revolve your life around a woman so as to satisfy her... it tells you not to ignore red flags, use common sense and tread carefully when you're in relationship with them... it also teaches you to expect nothing and expect everything... it makes you stay on alert... I would never see a logical reason why a man would be crying over a pvssy when he has the power to marry or date as many as he wants... the day you discover the power you hold as a man is the day you get free from the shackles of the opposite sex, for now, keep living in your delusion and keep crying over spilled milk...

Auxtan:
It's been 3 months already since I ended my relationship of almost 4 years.

Prior to the break up, I was planning to marry her this December or latest next year.

Somehow, I couldn't take her over entitlement issues anymore, had always tolerated this but suddenly my guns were out and I ended my good relationship with a girl I loved so much.

Now this is the problem I am facing now, been looking to get into another relationship because I can't stop thinking about my Ex.

She called a couple of times but finally moved on with another guy. Obviously a very lucky guy I must be honest.

My problem is that, I keep looking to see if a potential girl have the same characteristics as my ex. I loved my ex so so much.

This looking and looking has really affected my decisions of proposing to one.

I am even thinking of doing fasting and prayer before choosing my next, because my next will probably be proposed to for marriage. I also don't have time for an extended relationship again.

My advice to guys, no matter what the plan is, remain just friends with a girl you love and don't do an extended years relationship. Whether you are redpill, you will so much miss her like I am missing mine when it is over.

I am even on therapy now to forget this girl. Is like a juju on me.

Na konji dey worry you. Once you find a girl you can be ****ing, all these missing her go disappear.

It's time to pop champagne for the big relief.

Relationship/marriage have enslaved some people .

Chevrolet076:


Na konji dey worry you. Once you find a girl you can be ****ing, all these missing her go disappear.

I sha know that I can get sex anytime I want it. That is why I am sure is not about sex.

Auxtan:
I won't even lie, coming here to write this is to get myself distracted. Relationship is so ugly when it is no more!

What do u want actually? U said she is entitled isn't It? So breaking-up with her should've been a decision u thought over and over and over again before u had to take, isn't it?

So why the regrets here? Listen, a broken relationship will always be better than a broken marriage. How did u even know she's now into a new relationship? Obviously, you're stalking her (Either in reality or social media). She should be the one doing that, while u, the man, focuses on building and improving yourself. The worst thing that can happen to you as a man is for a lady u broke-up with to still meet u In that position she left u! (Take it from me as a lady)

If you don't move-on now, it is just a matter of little time before you get to start f**ling yourself around her, texting, calling and telling her how “Life hasn't remained the same for u since u two broke up” and would it make her feel pity for u? NO! It will only make her feel that it was the best decision she made by leaving u.. bye

Auxtan:

If I can pay to totally forget she exists, I will do so. Is causing me lots of emotional issues.

Eternal Sunshine of the spotless mind...

Why are you still looking for the same
Characteristics that you left?

Auxtan:
It's been 3 months already since I ended my relationship of almost 4 years.

Prior to the break up, I was planning to marry her this December or latest next year.

How do you guys date a woman for 4 years?

What if the problem is actually you?

SenecaTheYonger:
Why are you still looking for the same
Characteristics that you left?

Without the entitlement tendencies

IamDora:


What do u want actually? U said she is entitled isn't It? So breaking-up with her should've been a decision u thought over and over and over again before u had to take, isn't it?

So why the regrets here? Listen, a broken relationship will always be better than a broken marriage. How did u even know she's now into a new relationship? Obviously, you're stalking her (Either in reality or social media). She should be the one doing that, while u, the man, focuses on building and improving yourself. The worst thing that can happen to you as a man is for a lady u broke-up with to still meet u In that position she left u! (Take it from me as a lady)

If you don't move-on now, it is just a matter of little time before you get to start f**ling yourself around her, texting, calling and telling her how “Life hasn't remained the same for u since u two broke up” and would it make her feel pity for u? NO! It will only make her feel that it was the best decision she made by leaving u.. bye

You've spoken so well.

After I broke up with her, she kept calling to ask how I was doing, but the last time we spoke she told me about how she's in a new relationship now and will be moving on.

But trust, J am a guy that work very hard always and I know is just the fact I dated her for many years that is dealing with me.

We did a lot, I mean a lot together. We built very crazy memories. So I guess that is what's causing me issues.

She had her very good sides but her entitlement side is one I feel for futuristic reasons might become a problem as I have tolerated it a lot, which was the only reason I ended it.

You ended a relationship citing red flags 3 months ago and you are already looking for another one using your ex as a parameter.

I think you do t know what you want, so why don't you chanell that energy into working out, playing ball, or going on outdoor activities developing your body And mind, don't rush into relationship

The reason you can't move on is because you have given this relationship so much, you have sacrificed a lot and it's had to see such investment go to waste, this is basically what red pill frowns at, as a man your lady has to have equal or more stake in that relationship, and prepare your mind for eventualities and I eventualities... Anything can happen any fucking time, be ready for it

Take your time to heal and give yourself that needed rest, care, and self love first, if na sex you want you know how to get it except you don't have games

Lastly, this is why it's always good to have a spare tyre as a man

Sometimes when u dae relationship with Barney, dae knack aside, side chick and stuff to always keep your brain at alert, because when e cast e go too bad, because your world seem to be revolving around her, try dae package once once.

Reminderz:
signs of an inexperienced man, whining over a lost spanner... I would never quite understand the reason why a man would be whining like a pvssy this way... these modern men are fvcking weak!!

the girl you're probably giving yourself sleepless nights over is probably riding another dick right now, that's even if she hasn't been riding it while in the relationship with you... you said you saw red flags in her and you called it quit, so why whining like she is the one with your soul? na people like you women dey show shege later for marriage simply because "you couldn't live your life without her and chose to ignore the glaring red flags" and y'll disturb the internet later with "hide my identity, I caught my wife cheating.." you're fvcking weak man!! get yourself over and face the most important things in your life! stop whining like an unfed infant!! these women don't care about your fvcking feelings!

you're probably pained because you invested your life in the relationship as most simps does and I don't blame you, the illusion of love had you in chains and blocked your capacity for logical thinking... now your eyes are opened, but I don't think they are quite opened yet, because you sound like someone who centers his world around the woman he's dating... I pity you bro because if you don't delete that mindset, you'll cry!!

and I don't usually understand why people are quick to bring redpill when something like this happens... redpill doesn't say you shouldn't love or respect the woman you are in relationship with, it states that you shouldn't let emotions blind your eyes, worship women, or revolve your life around a woman so as to satisfy her... it tells you not to ignore red flags, use common sense and tread carefully when you're in relationship with them... it also teaches you to expect nothing and expect everything... it makes you stay on alert... I would never see a logical reason why a man would be crying over a pvssy when he has the power to marry or date as many as he wants... the day you discover the power you hold as a man is the day you get free from the shackles of the opposite sex, for now, keep living in your delusion and keep crying over spilled milk...

God bless you for this bro

I just dey laugh the guy. He go soon understand 😂

Nonsense. We're u not the one that ended the relationship? If u loved her so much, why then did u end it? Advice wey u nog for give yourself, u come here dey give people. Dey there dey find girl wey go be like wetin u break up with.. later u go come here with complains of how she sef carry entitlement mentality dey Waka. Yeye guy.

Auxtan:
It's been 3 months already since I ended my relationship of almost 4 years.

Prior to the break up, I was planning to marry her this December or latest next year.

Somehow, I couldn't take her over entitlement issues anymore, had always tolerated this but suddenly my guns were out and I ended my good relationship with a girl I loved so much.

Now this is the problem I am facing now, been looking to get into another relationship because I can't stop thinking about my Ex.

She called a couple of times but finally moved on with another guy. Obviously a very lucky guy I must be honest.

My problem is that, I keep looking to see if a potential girl have the same characteristics as my ex. I loved my ex so so much.

This looking and looking has really affected my decisions of proposing to one.

I am even thinking of doing fasting and prayer before choosing my next, because my next will probably be proposed to for marriage. I also don't have time for an extended relationship again.

My advice to guys, no matter what the plan is, remain just friends with a girl you love and don't do an extended years relationship. Whether you are redpill, you will so much miss her like I am missing mine when it is over.

I am even on therapy now to forget this girl. Is like a juju on me.