Iamzik:


Learn to read with open mind. I refuse to be judged by a dullard who imposes his/her own biases on others. You need to look in the mirror

You are the actual terrible awful subhuman if you think there's anything wrong with my comment

The awful subhuman is the psychopath giving justifications for domestic violence and barbaric acts. Only a psychopath will even try to bash in the head of a live chicken, not to talk of a fellow human. No difference between you and the jihadists that will always give justification for religious killings. This is the same way we have psychopaths justifying the brutal murder of Deborah Samuel.

aswani:


The others might not but I wil respond.

These kind of horrible issues will happen, with the innocent children suffering, unless a proper discussion is allowed to be held and both sides of the story is examined as to how things got to that stage.

A man that has three children with his wife, who has no criminal record, has been married for a while, suddenly turns evil bashing her head over and over again with a skateboard and we are supposed to just accept he is epitome of evil and move on.

Thank God there are psychologists in their prison system over there who are properly trained and will want to know how he got to that stage as from his profile, they will know this clearly isn't their typical prison person.

Every single thing I typed about what could have pushed that man to do what he did has happened to people in real life that I know. There are even other needlessly provocative things that push both men (and women too) to the edge with the other party spreading their hands and saying "wetin I do?", stating them is not misogyny, it is fact and people like you should stop burying your heads in the sand over it.

Are some men evil, yes. Should women steer well clear, yes. Should women see signs and quickly remove themselves, yes. Should women repeatedly provoke a man till he snaps, No.

Your insults mean nothing to me by the way. Regardless, the person that is "wrong" in all of this is the one that wants to suppress a discussion on this issue just to continue to perpetuate the myth of complete female victimhood in every single domestic violence issue and allow more women to be killed or injured and more men to go to jail (and vice versa) instead of ensuring women learn when things are getting out of hand and either remove themselves or stop the descent into extreme violence like we have seen in this and many more instances.

Irrespective of what happened, you believe that bashing her head in is the answer and is justified?
Well the man will likely be convicted and will waste away in prison.

Fearyourcreator:

Any woman out there trying to break her husband by disrespecting him or maltreating him cus they are over thinking woman the power make the man kill am ... I hate selfish people with passion, respect your husband and let the man love his wife ... If any woman try that thing with me for abroad aswear to God I won't kill her straight, I will cut one of her breast design her face with blade and remove one of her eye ... I will take death by anything but she herself will be half dead...

Start taking tutorials on how to live happily in prison while wasting away too.

Zyrac:


Why is he not as angry to his fellow guy friends?
Face the truth 90% of domestic abuse originates from a sturbon or disloyal wife the remaining 10% are from drunken husbands. Men normally are chill na women de provoke us and we will still be to blamed

And you believe that the answer to the said provocation by the wife is to bash her head in?
Only a psychopath will do that to his/her dog, not to talk of somebody you professed to love. No be by force to be in a marriage.

Kirchoffs:
@ibechris has a very strong penchant of making stupid comments so i ain't surprised

This one has been following me like a zombie all this while...shame on u. Very pained personality.

I was talking to married men not low lifers like u who is not even married...u wey life still dey knock around like gamblers.

U sounded like a defeated man. Pls,don't kill yourself because I am sure u already finished.

Satazaa:
c'mon guys, you the op and y'all that liked this horrific comment absolutely lacks human conscience and compassion, oh y'all mean that a man who smashed the skull of his once upon a time soulmate and heartrob a good man? and probably over unsubstantiated accusation of infidelity? listen guys, my immediate junior sister never had female friends and used to hang around boys a lot and we all thought she was rotten only for her current husband to confirm her virginity when he married her, Where has all our humanity gone for Gods sake, to the dogs ? her people are currently mourning her death and her kids are now left without parents for life and y'all liking such vile and senseless comments, and y'all will still go to hoses of worships? to the dead may your soul rest in peace, ameen thuma ameen.

Na hypocrites and psychopaths full Nigeria now. The same group of people that will wear good clothes tomorrow morning to worship the merciful God at a church and the other sets that'll go to mosques for jumat on Fridays are here providing justification not for bashing in the head of a cockroach, but that of a fellow human.

ibechris:



This one has been following me like a zombie all this while...shame on u. Very pained personality.

See u that have no shame talking.

U sounded like a defeated man. Pls,don't kill yourself because I am sure u already finished.
,

I just burst laff for here while reading your comments. U go just open mouth waa and spew out any thrash way dey your head. Omor I pity your wife oh, that woman dey go through alot. You 4 don use enough beatings finish her life since you kukuma dey naija

Dybala11:

Irrespective of what happened, you believe that bashing her head in is the answer and is justified?
Well the man will likely be convicted and will waste away in prison.

At no point have I justified it. I have tried to point out how things could have gotten to that stage and what path it took.

I have also tried to ensure other people can see where they might be on that journey and immediately take steps to remove themselves from it or wind things backwards.

The woman that initially responded to me on here with insults did not do anything aside that. She is still alive and well while a woman is dead and other women are quite frankly close to their own death as she hasn't provided anything to help them in their situation

Left to her more of these incidents will happen while she comes on Nairaland to use them as fuel to post abuse and insults at Nigerian men. That is pure wickedness on her part in my opinion and she will be judged by whichever God she worships.

The man will be convicted as he has pled guilty, he will also waste away in prison. Of more importance, three children have had their lives destroyed, how about both parents behave in a manner that ensures that didn't happen?

Mariangeles:


What difference would that have made?
A violent person is a violent person, no matter where they are.

So, you mean if he had stayed back, he wouldn't have committed the crime, or he would've gotten away with it? Which one?

Western countries laws might have contributed to this outcome, don't feign ignorance.

hopexter:


Yeah it always comes around to you, isn’t that how you get killed. Take your frustration to your family house and stay off my comment.., Prostitute!!

Lmao 🤣🤣
See how you are pouring all your life depression on a total stranger on a faceless forum .., Omo

Woman don do you strong things in that your miserable life.. and nah woman go finally kpai you..ask samson
Kwa kwa kwa kwa🤣🤣🤣
Kpele dear...

Lovit:


Are you married? even if you are thank God you married a good one

Some women are bullies, they can turn you to houseboy if you are weak and allow everything to slide

Not allowing yourself to get bullied or turned into a houseboy has nothing to do with cold blooded murder. Even jihadists wey dey behead people do provide justification for their barbaric acts e.g the case of Deborah Samuel.

CHoccolaTE:


I keep saying it that 80% of Nigerian men are just beasts and animals in human flesh, I don't even care how extreme that description sounds because that's the absolute truth.

When did infidelity or lack of respect become a justifiable reason for committing this type of murder? Mind you NOWHERE in this story was it mentioned that the woman that was killed was unfaithful or disrespectful to her husband. People have even come online to say the man has always being violent to her even before relocation but you see these animals calling themselves Nigerian men? The will either ignore reality or twist the truth until they can come up with any reason to blame women in any scenario.
If a woman is raped, they blame her.
If a woman suffers domestic violence they blame her
If a woman is killed (the worst) they will still blame her.
Cannot accept responsibility or accountability for anything but want to claim to be superior and more logical. These people irritate me to no end.

Very soulless evil beings.

There's no absolute in that your first statement, there are lots of terrible beings from both gender. Sha dey pray make you no jam agbako all in the name of friends or partner.

texazzpete:



If you feel your wife is disrespectful to you, the law courts everywhere accept divorce petitions. Move on and marry someone else who you feel will treat you better.


How is someone who is gainfully employed being ‘treated as a houseboy’? Is it when you’re at work, doing your 9-5?

99% of the time when someone argues with this ‘houseboy’ line, the man is a layabout doing nothing while the woman is hardworking.

If you’re not the breadwinner in the house, you’re the partner with way more free time and you’re overseas where getting a maid or nanny is prohibitively expensive…the common sense thing is to pick up as much of the house chores as possible.

If your wife works 12 hour shifts as a Nurse or care worker and you’re not working at all, why will you not take care of some stuff at home if you’re not a clown?

The answer to the question you asked is simple, the wife is seen as maid by many. That's the mindset and the norm in Nigeria. In as much as it's good for a woman to be homely, marriage is supposed to be a partnership in which each partner provide support for one another.

Klass99:


From other social media accounts of the story someone said her 3 kids were in Naija with the husband and he threatened that she would never see them again, if she didn't include him in the travel/relocation plans.

The threat of not seeing her kids again was hanging over head like any good/responsible mother she gave into the threat for the sake of her kids. The narrator said she was also a nurse in Naija and she single handedly sponsored herself to UK before all of this drama.

I have been appalled by the comments of many male users here who have condemned and blamed the dead woman without knowing the full story. Even when presented with the facts on this thread one guy persisted in his foolishness.

There's a deep seated hate and darkness in most men on this forum that I can't wrap my head around, they are usually gleeful and malicious at the tragedy of others even without knowing them personally. I saw that hate and darkness in the wake of Herbert Wigwe's passing from the comments some of them made.

May God help their souls because this is irrational insanity.

Don't be deceived though, some of them are cowards in reality. They only get to live out their fantasy on faceless forums like Nairaland.

aswani:


Not sure of the need to insult before making your point but nothing new there I suppose.

Things went from a bloody lip which is bad enough to repeated hammering on the head with a skateboard and we are supposed to just accept the man decided to do that solely being evil without investigating how things got to that stage to avoid it happening to others.

Being investigated multiple times in the UK or US for domestic violence, without a subsequent court restraint at some point, suggests they repeatedly had arguments and she called the police who temporarily removed him from the premises to allow things to cool down before he came back again to the family home with her blessing I might add, rinse and repeat.

The man, despite his so called violent history was released on bail, would they release a typically violent offender on bail or keep him in custody?

You want us to believe the man just beats the wife up when he feels like it, whilst he shouldn't put his hands on a woman, the woman has a responsibility to her children at least, to know when to back off during heated arguments (as does he) in order to avoid stories that touch.

Unlike you, there are people on here that have had cause to intercede in relationships, found out the true cause of friction rather than taking things on face value, giving advise as to whether the marriages can be salvaged or not and more importantly, put forward a solution that ensures things don't degenerate to a situation where children have lost one or more parents.

You're a big joke. Put all the blames on the woman as usual, na person like you dey talk about push abi na pull earlier on.

hopexter:


Wouldn’t that be better than taking advantage of the law by putting the man through emotional trauma and abuse, disrespect, exploitation and blackmail?

May you and your family members not become a victim of this crime you're providing excuses for, trying so hard to justify murder. May God help us like this.

aswani:


At no point have I justified it. I have tried to point out how things could have gotten to that stage and what path it took.

I have also tried to ensure other people can see where they might be on that journey and immediately take steps to remove themselves from it or wind things backwards.

The woman that initially responded to me on here with insults did not do anything aside that. She is still alive and well while a woman is dead and other women are quite frankly close to their own death as she hasn't provided anything to help them in their situation

Left to her more of these incidents will happen while she comes on Nairaland to use them as fuel to post abuse and insults at Nigerian men. That is pure wickedness on her part in my opinion and she will be judged by whichever God she worships.

The man will be convicted as he has pled guilty, he will also waste away in prison. Of more importance, three children have had their lives destroyed, how about both parents behave in a manner that ensures that didn't happen?

You ought to have started with this your last statement to push your opinion on the issue across properly. I can't help but feel for the kids, their life have been scarred forever.

1Sharon:


What are you on about? Are you the only ones that can be disrespected, exploited and blackmailed?

According to him, disrespect is a crime punishable by death. Animals in human clothing.

7lives:


What about a cheating man, or men don't cheat?.

There are lots of married men out there who are cheats. Bring up this fact and many guys condemning the evil act of paternity fraud here on Nairaland will provide justification for it, the same way we've seen some guys providing justification for the murderer who's the subject of discussion.

hopexter:


I don’t know what you are on about. No! Not at all, not everyone can withstand some shit, which is why you just kill them just like the man did

Are you joking? 🙄

shaybebaby:

Shebi they are natural leaders nah. Why is the leader the one stacking shelves at Tesco?

They say she's a nurse, and he's a civil engineer. How come she could get a job working in her professional field but he couldn't?

Leader my @ss. They ( Nigerian men) are good for leading women to early graves.

You're tackling the wrong issue, those in the healthcare sector have more opportunities in the West compared to civil engineers, and putting the man been a new migrant into factor is another limitation. Whether or not the man was able to get a job in his field, he's a terrible human being. Bashing the head of a fellow human in with a skateboard. Jehovah.

Dybala11:

And that's why the man deserves to rot in jail.
But what about the kids that are you to be deprived of their biological parents?

Kids will love their lives ... The woman no dey think that one before she start dey do Rubbish bah... Make all of them do Rubbish together na

Fearyourcreator:

Kids will love their lives ... The woman no dey think that one before she start dey do Rubbish bah... Make all of them do Rubbish together na

What rubbish did the woman do?
It's like you're privy to something about the couple not known to the public. People that know the couple actually testified to the fact that the man has been known to physically abuse the woman even while they're in Nigeria. You must be a very weak man for you to see domestic abuse and murder as the only way out of a deteriorating relationship. The said man will waste away in a prison and his children will be brought up by strangers.

Dybala11:

You're a big joke. Put all the blames on the woman as usual, na person like you dey talk about push abi na pull earlier on.

Where have I put all the blame on the woman? I suggest instead of reading whay I have said with a biased mind, see where I have apportioned blame.

Even that means nothing if both male and female do not learn how to de-escalate issues.

Unless both parties accept responsibilities for the part they played, no one will learn and more will be going to jail, more will be dying and more children will be damaged. Who benefits from that?

Double0h7:


If you understand basic psychology then you wouldn’t be making these arguments. You are approaching these kinds of situations with the assumption that these are two healthy people who are having a misunderstanding.

In these cases it’s always a predictor and their victim. Going by the evidence ( and not our assumptions) of this case the husband is the predator and the wife is the victim.

Victims are often raised by predators themselves and are conditioned by their environment to seek out predators. While predators are skilled in seeking out victims.

People with healthy relationships with themselves and others can detect a predator and distance themselves from predators, but those who have unhealthy relationships with themselves and others are drawn to predators because that’s all they have ever known.

Then like in this case, the victim becomes aware of their circumstances and tries to break free from the predator but the predator won’t allow them because a predator’s biggest fear is losing control so they often resort to violence to maintain their dominance.

This is just psychology 101 but it shows that sadly victims and predators are made for each other. Your arguments only make sense when we’re talking about two healthy individuals.

You sound like someone with a healthy knowledge of psychology and I take your point. A lot can learn from your non-abusive approach and patient counter to my post.

Unfortunately what you don't seem to realise is we are all potentially unhealthy beings, because you have not been pushed to your limit does not mean you are better than those that have.

The percentage of people that are natural sub-human is very little and even some of them have been turned to that state by events along the way but I am not discussing those.

I will give you a true life example, a relationship broke down abroad between two healthy 20 somethings living in a shared house. No violence, no cheating, just two healthy people admittedly not matured enough to be together after the initial flames of passion died down.

Female decides to bring a man to the house, have sex with him and deliberately make a loud noise to the hearing of her ex who loses his mind and starts beating the door down ready to do the devil's bidding. A fellow house dweller calls a few of the man's close relatives who arrive just in time before the police and drag him away.

Fast forward 15years and the male is long term married with children and presumably leading a healthy life with no more marriage turbulence than the rest of humanity.

If his relatives hadn't rescued him, without a shadow of a doubt, he would be in jail, the woman would be in a bad place and some posters on Nairaland would be labelling him a predator and the woman a victim.

Life isn't black and white, the shades of grey are plentiful.

Dybala11:

What rubbish did the woman do?
It's like you're privy to something about the couple not known to the public. People that know the couple actually testified to the fact that the man has been known to physically abuse the woman even while they're in Nigeria. You must be a very weak man for you to see domestic abuse and murder as the only way out of a deteriorating relationship. The said man will waste away in a prison and his children will be brought up by strangers.

See mouth ... You dey there bah... If woman do anyhow she collects serious beating...

Dikegodspower:
Nigerian women always turn lord and maltreat their husband emotionally and otherwise when ever they found themselves in the west.
Rip to her, but I think she will learn how to be humble and respectful in her next world

This is so wrong. You just assumed it was her fault without knowing their history. There's a history of abuse already and you still blame the woman. Anyway, I always pray for peace and a sensible partner cos God forbid any man lays his hands on me. He will get the beating of his life on God

palel:
From Japa to grave,
From Japa to prison.

I dey always like all these kind news

Speechless

Dybala11:

The awful subhuman is the psychopath giving justifications for domestic violence and barbaric acts. Only a psychopath will even try to bash in the head of a live chicken, not to talk of a fellow human. No difference between you and the jihadists that will always give justification for religious killings. This is the same way we have psychopaths justifying the brutal murder of Deborah Samuel.

You are very stupid for coming to type rubbish without reading my first comment. Get the fuvk out of my mention you bloody illiterate

Dybala11:

That shows you lack control over your emotions then. Emotional intelligence is key in many situations.

Mr control with masters in emotional intelligence I hail you. Many of you educated illiterates don't respond to what people type. You always respond based to what you assume in your head.

I'm responsible for what I type. You are responsible for what you understand

Iamzik:


Mr control with masters in emotional intelligence I hail you. Many of you educated illiterates don't respond to what people type. You always respond based to what you assume in your head.

I'm responsible for what I type. You are responsible for what you understand

You have put it perfectly, forgive me if you see me borrowing the words especially from your second paragraph as it is apt.

It's annoying bring asked to defend what you didn't type. English is not such a difficult language.