I am Nigerian-American and I wanted to get an honest opinion of how Nigerians who were born and bred in Nigeria views us (Naija-Americans) especially in the dating pool. Just to give a brief bio, my father is Nigerian and my mom was African-American (may God continue to keep her soul in perfect peace) I am a female and recently began to embrace my heritage and culture about 4years ago. I also don't know my father's language fully but I do know a few greetings (I know that doesn't count) . I have come to the conclusion that I do not want to settle down with an African-American guy due to the fact that I would like my future kids to have a solid foundation and roots on where they come from. I have visited Nigeria before and I feel as though I could settle down there once I retire. I have also dated a Nigerian and had a great experience and that is why I am wondering how we fit in especially those of us who were not brought up in Nigeria and were not taught the culture, language, customs, and heritage. Any suggestions and opinions would be greatly appreciated!!

Thanks!

@Siena, thanks! But do you have any thoughts or opinions you would like to share with me?

tadelara:

I am Nigerian-American and I wanted to get an honest opinion of how Nigerians who were born and bred in Nigeria views us (Naija-Americans) especially in the dating pool.  Just to give a brief bio, my father is Nigerian and my mom was African-American (may God continue to keep her soul in perfect peace) I am a female and recently began to embrace my heritage and culture about 4years ago. I also don't know my father's language fully but I do know a few greetings (I know that doesn't count) . I have come to the conclusion that I do not want to settle down with an African-American guy due to the fact that I would like my future kids to have a solid foundation and roots on where they come from. I have visited Nigeria before and I feel as though I could settle down there once I retire. I have also dated a Nigerian and had a great experience and that is why I am wondering how we fit in especially those of us who were not brought up in Nigeria and were not taught the culture, language, customs, and heritage. Any suggestions and opinions would be greatly appreciated!!

Thanks!

Well I am Nigerian & both my parents are Nigerian, but I wasn't born and raised in Nigeria but in America(basically I am a American born Nigerian), However my parents raised me and my siblings in the culture(and have been to Nigeria many times). All I can say from my experience, Nigerians born and breed in Nigeria have no problems with people like you, especially since you are trying to connect with your roots, culture and be Part of the community. I feel it is good you are considering to settle down in Nigeria when you retire, I have the same feelings to.

@anonymous6 Thank you I feel very relieved to know that!! Thanks for your input!

tadelara:

@anonymous6 Thank you I feel very relieved to know that!! Thanks for your input!

you welcome

yea like anonymous said Folks in Nigeria would embrace you with open arms. People back home are loving and open minded when someone is interested in the culture. Of course like in a any society you would find haters and annoying folks but such is life

Any man that asks you to send him money on NL, while you're embracing your culture, dont do it.

tadelara:

I am Nigerian-American and I wanted to get an honest opinion of how Nigerians who were born and bred in Nigeria views us (Naija-Americans) especially in the dating pool. Just to give a brief bio, my father is Nigerian and my mom was African-American (may God continue to keep her soul in perfect peace) I am a female and recently began to embrace my heritage and culture about 4years ago. I also don't know my father's language fully but I do know a few greetings (I know that doesn't count) . I have come to the conclusion that I do not want to settle down with an African-American guy due to the fact that I would like my future kids to have a solid foundation and roots on where they come from. I have visited Nigeria before and I feel as though I could settle down there once I retire. I have also dated a Nigerian and had a great experience and that is why I am wondering how we fit in especially those of us who were not brought up in Nigeria and were not taught the culture, language, customs, and heritage. Any suggestions and opinions would be greatly appreciated!!

Thanks!

My name is 190

I would like 2 know u better

@25omega Thank you for the advice!!

@Ileke-Idi I am able to identify scammers. But thanks for being concerned enough to give me a heads up! Well appreciated!!

Hey Tadelara!

You seem quite interested in learning your father's culture and I applaud you for this. It's a good thing when people try to connect with their ancestral roots and when such ocurrs, full support should be provided. Hopefully, more people will be able to think the way you do, regarding their cultural background. I wish you good luck on your journey.

PS If I may ask, what specific culture do you want to learn (as in your father's ethnicity) since there really isn't anything like "Nigerian culture" since Nigeria is so diverse.

@Odumchi Thanks for your words of encouragement. I do apologize for not disclosing the tribe that my father is from within my post. My father is from the Yoruba tribe, and the state he is from is Ondo.

tadelara:

@Odumchi Thanks for your words of encouragement. I do apologize for not disclosing the tribe that my father is from within my post. My father is from the Yoruba tribe, and the state he is from is Ondo.

wow I'm from the Yoruba tribe to

@anonymous6 , cool!!

tadelara:

@Odumchi Thanks for your words of encouragement. I do apologize for not disclosing the tribe that my father is from within my post. My father is from the Yoruba tribe, and the state he is from is Ondo.

Ah, Ondo. Yoruba culture, like other Nigerian cultures, is very deep and rich. You'll have more than enough to learn and I'm sure you'll find this culture section very useful.

odumchi:

Ah, Ondo. Yoruba culture, like other Nigerian cultures, is very deep and rich. You'll have more than enough to learn and I'm sure you'll find this culture section very useful.

What do you know about Ondo?

@Poster
Very rich culture. I was Omo Ondo for some yrs before Ekiti was separated from Ondo state.

Poster, I am suspecting, your writing construction is suspicious

190_@:

My name is 190

I would like 2 know u better

everything has to be a joke. you sef

tadelara:

I am Nigerian-American and I wanted to get an honest opinion of how Nigerians who were born and bred in Nigeria views us (Naija-Americans) especially in the dating pool. Just to give a brief bio, my father is Nigerian and my mom was African-American (may God continue to keep her soul in perfect peace) I am a female and recently began to embrace my heritage and culture about 4years ago. I also don't know my father's language fully but I do know a few greetings (I know that doesn't count) . I have come to the conclusion that I do not want to settle down with an African-American guy due to the fact that I would like my future kids to have a solid foundation and roots on where they come from. I have visited Nigeria before and I feel as though I could settle down there once I retire. I have also dated a Nigerian and had a great experience and that is why I am wondering how we fit in especially those of us who were not brought up in Nigeria and were not taught the culture, language, customs, and heritage. Any suggestions and opinions would be greatly appreciated!!

Thanks!

is there such a thing as a nigerian american? i dont think there is.

just as there is no such thing as a nigerian british person.

but to be honest you sound nigerian.

The country as a class based system and you will be viewed from the class you belong ,Upper class,middle class ,lower class .The different classes will view you differently.

Skii:

Poster, I am suspecting, your writing construction is suspicious

cap28:

is there such a thing as a nigerian american? i dont think there is.

just as there is no such thing as a nigerian british person.

but to be honest you sound nigerian.

Thank God, its not only me

@cap28, For your information, there's Nigerian-American. If you hold a US citizenship and your from other country, your classified as Yourcountry-American. Don't bring UK ideology here. We run a different system here in the States.

You have taken a good step. Nigerians are peace loving people with a big heart to reach out to brothers and sisters in diaspora. First, join the association of your ethic group in America, they are all over the States. You will begin to have a feel of what your people look like and they will help you a lot to get rooted in Nigerian Culture. Once you identify with them, other things will follow. I live in Canada and my brother is married to a Canadian, she now feels more at home with the Igbo community, she wears the traditional wears when there is function to attend, go for general meetings, her children move freely with other Igbo Children and they understand the language though they gamble it, but with time they will be fluent. My suggestion may be looked into.

Most important is how you view yourself.

Op,

To answer your question apropriately Some vital questions would need to be answered.

Whats your age range and maybe a picture of you might do.

It also depend on which state in America you live in. You might even run across  full blooded Nigerians  there

Go to google, search for a Redeemed Church near you. It would expose you to the culture better

You would find Nigerians in abundance in  your locality.

I am really happy with all of the responses from my post. Thanks @kizito96, I will look into it. That would be a perfect start for me. Thanks so much to you all for your suggestions !!

cap28:

is there such a thing as a nigerian american?  i dont think there is.

just as there is no such thing as a nigerian british person.

but to be honest you sound nigerian.

Skii:

Thank God, its not only me

Lol. Yeah, First off she does sound Nigerian. Second, I'd have to agree with Cap28, "Nigerian-American" is a tag I've seen used (USUALLY/SOMETIMES) by the press (when they want to differentiate Nigeria-born Americans from their America-born Nigerian counterparts) AND by Nigerians, BORN IN NIGERIA, horribly desperate to be regarded as Americans. Usually, you just say "I'm Nigerian", "I'm Irish", "I'm Japanese"---Whatever--- even though you were born out here.

So, yeah, anyway sha this story just get as e be.

@dare2think, that is very true! I just wanted to know if I would truly be accepted, that is all.

@OP
in nigeria
we dont expect our women to have 'equal rights' with us.
We are the CEO
no co-founder thing.
Only on that establishment can we trully serve, love and kill for u.
So if you you are carrying that US women rights thing in your brain, all your relationships will fail or end in a yahoo+ (you know how we do')
also note that muslims and traditionalist have polygamous tendencies.
Depends on what you want.
welcome to NIGERIA.
at least for one thing, learn pidgeon english its so easy.
I've seen french ladies speaking it.
Also when you are here blend in, dont form anything.(we know US as much as you do).
Our legal and policing systems are a confused duo. So when you get your car bashed get ready for royal rumble there and then at the middle of the road!
Traffic will patiently wait.
Your neighbours want to know how you are doing.
They care.
So dont wake up and hit the roads upfront, its arrogant.
Raise your voice and greet the neighbours you see.
In yoruba land you may be required to genuflect for a seniour person.
In housa land, you may have to sit on the floor while the boss enjoys the throne.
In igbo land . . . We dont fuckingg give a hoot who the hell rules.
Just that people wont help if you dont greet first.